 Laroka says how soon can a man say I love you and mean it? Well, so there's kind of these two different kind of phases of like love kind of feels that guys have one is kind of like this instant thing right which is not actually love it's more of like a biological response that a guy has but for a guy it feels like love it feels it feels like love because you are just obsessed and you are just lust filled and you're thinking about what kind of babies you're going to be having with this girl right and you think about what their names are going to be and you're thinking about hooking up with each other and having her meet your parents and all that kind of stuff and from a guy's standpoint this can happen pretty immediately right and what ends up happening is there's this secondary love that comes in and it's it's hard to kind of put a time frame on it but it's something that has to build and grow and it's something that's based on emotional connection and so if you don't have that there then it's not like real long-term love but it's one of the things that I talk about right and it's it's that fire it's that flame that has to be built and so when you first meet him he you know if he's like totally got that biological drive thing going on where he's just like oh my god I'm going love with her right and he's like telling you he loves you and he's going to fly around the world and he wants to meet his parents and you know he's ready to meet your parents and you know he's telling you that he loves you and he wants to put a ring on your finger and all that kind of stuff that's not love that's a biological drive so it like it's hard to say how much time but it's probably not going to happen in the first month you know like you gotta you know unless you guys are just at each other's hip all the time and spending lots of time together and connecting on deep emotional ways and you're allowing that kind of love to build but it's it's kind of it's difficult to see right it's difficult to kind of like see the differences I did a live stream a little bit ago a couple weeks ago it's called like I called something like a certain number of things that a guy will do only if he's really in love with you should go check out that video and watch that and just pay attention to the signs about whether a guy actually really loves you and you know kind of look at that kind of stuff and maybe I'll do a live stream here on what the differences are between kind of that primal drive lust kind of thing and actual deep love because it's it's a pretty important topic I think to a lot of women that are here