 If you're someone who struggles with anxiety, there's a very valuable lesson to be learned from the whole graveyard girl and Starbucks situation. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you are new to my channel, my channel is all about helping you out with your mental health. And sometimes what I like to do is take different things from YouTube or TV shows or movies and things like that and talk about mental health so I can help you out a little bit better. So if that's something that you're into, make sure you subscribe, ring the little notification bell if you want to be the first to get notified whenever I post content on YouTube, all right? But anyways, for those of you who aren't in the know, let me do a quick little recap about what's going on with Graveyard Girl, her real name's Bunny and Starbucks. So basically she uploaded a video and there was a lot of stuff she was posting online about how mad she was at Starbucks. So she made this video explaining and I'm not going to say the whole thing like I don't want to get into the drama aspect of it, but basically she was getting free refills from Starbucks for years, right? She was friends with the baristas and all sorts of stuff. And they said that the policy had changed. See, Bunny was going through the drive through at Starbucks and she would come back like four times a day and get free refills. They said, hey, policy's changed. You want to get those free refills? You got to come inside or you got to pay for them. So Bunny goes on this huge rant and talks about how she isn't going to go to Starbucks anymore and she can't go inside because she has anxiety and I get that, okay? So that's kind of where we are right now. The internet blew up. There's a bunch of other videos out there talking about the situation. Bunny has since taken that video down, all right? So basically, I want to start out with this. I first found out about graveyard girl like my girlfriend knew about her, but I didn't. Like, I'm kind of new to YouTube still and I found out about her through Shane Dawson series and talking to her and she struggles with anxiety and other mental health issues and she's trying to like reignite her channel. And to be completely honest, I think she made a misstep with this video. Shane encouraged her to make more videos of getting vulnerable and talking about, you know, her life and things like not just, you know, her unboxings and like trying out different products and stuff. Like, and I think she made a misstep. You know, she was like, oh, this is a good topic. This is something that really happened to me. And she didn't quite get the reception that she was expecting. So anyways, I found out about this situation because YouTube just recommends a billion videos. And there was a bunch of like, I just kept getting videos like graveyard girl on Starbucks. I'm like, what happened with graveyard girl on Starbucks? So I watched a few videos just to kind of see what was going on. And so the first thing I want to say is, is this really interesting to me? How many of these videos commenting on this situation? Like how many people made these videos? And they said, I get it. I struggle with anxiety too. Anxiety and depression. She suffers from bad anxiety. I suffer from anxiety. So I understand that she put this down to being like an anxiety thing. Somebody with anxiety, I totally get that the change of routine or something like that can really like mess with your mental state and like give you anxiety even worse. We all relate to your anxiety. I don't know one person that does not have anxiety, social awkwardness or anything like that. Like, I'm not saying anything either way, but I just want you the audience to think about that for a second. Like, is it coincidental that everybody making a commentary on this, not everybody, but a lot of people making a commentary on it. They say, I get it. I struggle with anxiety too. Like I, the channel trailer right now currently for my channel is you're not mentally ill and I talk about how people are perpetuating the stigma and kind of deluding the whole mental health thing by people just throwing around words all willy nilly. Like, I'm anxious too, or I'm depressed too. Because like when you're saying that and you haven't been diagnosed or you don't really have it, it's really minimizing other people with legitimate disorders. So like, again, I'm not saying the people who made their commentary videos haven't been diagnosed with anxiety, but it's just something I want you to think about like statistically more people are suffering from anxiety than ever before. So it's very well possible that all these commentators do have anxiety. So it's possible, but I just wanted to point that out because it's also possible that, you know, people are just saying this, you know what I mean? They're like, well, I get nervous too sometimes. So I have anxiety. Like it's, it's different. Okay, I've made a ton of videos about how anxiety is much different when you have a clinical disorder than it is for just like normal nervousness and worries and things like that, which is something that everybody gets. So I just want to start out and point that out a little bit. So anyways, here's my take on it. And here's the lesson I want all of you to learn from this. Okay. So a lot of people pointed this out, you know, some of the videos that I just referenced, they pointed this out like, you know, here's the thing. I had to realize like I got diagnosed with a generalized anxiety disorder. Okay. I've had a lot of social anxiety issues, just all sorts of anxious, everything, right? And something I had to accept and realize a long, long, long time ago is that the world is not going to change just for me. Okay. This is one of the reasons why I suggest that all of you, you know, practice meditation and keep a journal and write a gratitude list, because our brains default into a selfish, self-centered place. We think me, me, me, me, this is affecting me. Everybody else needs to change because of me, right? And that's where I take issue. And this is something that I hope Bunny learns. Like I know the struggle of anxiety. And I'm not just saying that I've been diagnosed. I take anti-anxiety medications, non-narcotic anti-anxiety medications. And like I understand that, but until I accepted the fact, the fact that people, places and situations are not going to change because of this, I wasn't going to get anywhere because it's fighting against the current. You're just constantly setting these unrealistic expectations is what it is. You're setting this unrealistic expectation that everybody is going to not only know that you have this mental illness, but they're also going to cater to it. That is extremely unrealistic. And once I let go of that idea, I started getting better. I started realizing what I could do in my life to manage my anxiety without just blindly walking into situations thinking that everybody was going to change just because I have anxiety. Like I would get really, really anxious going to grocery stores or going to any other stores or going to the mall or public places. I would get really anxious in crowded spaces, right? So it would be like me saying like, okay, well, since I have anxiety, nobody should go to these stores or malls or anything like that, because I have anxiety and everything's about me. Like do you kind of see how that sounds? So this is a call to action for you. Like you have to work on these things. You have to figure out your own workarounds. When you acknowledge and accept your symptoms of mental illness and you start creating workarounds, your symptoms start to decrease and your life gets a whole lot easier. So I want to reference a story that happened a few months ago, where there was this thing that blew up online because of an Eminem concert, okay? So Eminem was doing a show. I forgot which show it was or where it was or whatever. But in one of the sets, he had like gunshots, like as a sound effect go off. And I think fire went off too. And people were tweeting out about how insensitive it was because of, you know, different mass tragedies going on in the country, especially at that time. There was a lot of stuff in schools and things like that. Like, and they were saying how insensitive it was. And, you know, I think one tweet went viral from some celebrity who said they were at the show and they said they have PTSD and there needs to be a warning and da da da da da. And this is the kind of stuff I'm talking about. Like, I'm actually like, even though I'm a mental health advocate and I want to increase awareness and decrease the stigma, like I agree with Eminem. Like Eminem came out and like they said, like, we're not changing anything. We've been doing this same sound effect for years. We're not changing anything. And I'm like, good, because our mental health is our responsibility to take care of, you know what I mean? Like we have to acknowledge like when, like, especially if you struggle with PTSD and loud noises and things like that, like you have to be more mindful about what you're doing, where you're going, is there a possibility of this? And that way, if you're preparing yourself when you go into it, you either A, you don't go or you're prepared for it. And hopefully you develop coping skills to deal with it. So you're not sheltered inside of your house all the time. Like, for example, even though I had a lot of social anxiety and didn't like crowded spaces, like I love going to concerts. I love going to shows. So I had to figure out ways to deal with that. But at the end of the day, this is a good thing because it also makes you really, really resilient to these situations. And it helps to decrease your symptoms. Like, I can go anywhere I want to now. And my anxiety is minimal because I have become more resilient to those situations. And this is the last thing I'm going to say. And this is something I'm going to continue to say whenever I see a YouTuber discuss their mental health issues. And again, I don't know bunny. I don't know graveyard girl. I don't know if she's seeing a therapist. But like, if you watch the Shane Dawson series, like graveyard girl is balling, like she has money out of control, right? Like, girl, make sure you're getting help. Because that's the other thing. Like, when we're talking about the selfishness and self-centeredness, right? Like, we expect the entire world to change and bend around our mental illness. Yet when we have the resources to go get help, we're not getting any help. So we want everybody to do what we think they should do. But we're not doing the thing that can possibly improve our quality of life and mental health. So I like I said, I don't know if she's seeing a therapist. But if not girl, go see a therapist, go see a doctor, like start working through this stuff. Okay. And I'm going to make some videos eventually, because like, as I continue to grow, I know I'm going to get backlash when I keep telling people to go get help. So I'm going to make some videos about that because I understand how how scary it is, how how hard it is, how some people don't like asking for help. I get that. But we need to make a change if we want to improve. And if you need help or you need to work with a therapist, I have a better help link down below. It's online affordable therapy. If you can afford it, check it out. All licensed professionals, my girlfriend loves it. She struggles with anxiety, and she's been making massive improvements since working with a therapist on better health. So check it out if you would like to. All right. But anyways, let me know your thoughts down below about do you think the world should bend to your needs if you struggle with anxiety? Let me know down in the comments. All right. But that's all I got for you today. So if you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. And if you're new here, I'm always making videos to help you out with your mental health. Make sure you click the subscribe button and a huge, huge, huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon and trying to help me spread a message of hope to anybody struggling with mental illness. All right. 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