 In as much as it is good to show love and care to everyone around you, bear it at the back of your mind that not everyone will accept the care you give. When helping someone becomes a burden to your mental, emotional, social life and otherwise, quit. You cannot help everyone. In this video, I will share with you 5 types of people who you cannot help. 1. Those that leave in self-deception Living in self-deception is the worst kind of situation a person can ever be in. People who are stuck in the web of self-deception live in constant denial of who they are. And the fact that they need help. The sad thing is that denial is the first step to outright deception in which a person concords an alternative, false reality that continually feeds their mind and emotions the things they want to hear about themselves. When you confront people like this, they become upset and blame you for not understanding them or for wrongfully accusing them of something. According to writer Anja Light, if a person is stuck in a place of denial to their suffering or their addictions or stuckness, then there is a strong possibility that what you say won't make a bit of difference. Denial is an incredibly strong force and if your worldview differs too much from theirs, then it may not be your place to plant any seeds of wisdom. It may be your place to step back from trying to speak at all. 2. Those that are mentally lazy Trying to help an intellectually lazy person is quite tiring. This is because even when you tell him or her what to do, you still need to explain in detail how to carry out the task. These individuals always attempt to avoid deep thinking. A person may find it interesting to have others do all the thinking. However, the more he or she engages in mental lousiness, the worse his or her thinking abilities become. Like any muscle, if you don't use your mental muscle, it gets weaker. And when the muscles become fragile, the person who has been doing all the thinking becomes more burdened. Another downside of attempting to help a mentally lazy person is that since they do not seek to consider things, they will never correct you even when you make mistakes. This means that a blind man can actually lead a mentally lazy person with accurate eyesight into a ditch and also fall in with them. American actress Marion Seldis once said, Unfortunately, there are mental invalid of every aid who exist in other people's terms. It's lazy for persons to let others make up their minds for them. People have to overcome that. If a person does not make up his or her mind to overcome mental laziness, you cannot help them. Guess what? Mentally lazy people are often too lazy to even make up their minds. 3. Those with rigid mindsets When a mixture of cement and water is left to set, it becomes so hard that the only way to separate it is to break it in pieces. When it's broken, it becomes useless. People with rigid mindsets are like a congealed mixture of cement and water. Their minds are firm and there is no alternate solution that they will accept because they have a conclusive mentality that the present position they are in is their only solution. It is impossible to help people with rigid mindsets because their minds are solidified and will never accept any new suggestions. They have specific beliefs and ideas and they are so comfortable with those beliefs and they don't want to change them even when they know that they are faulty. According to Vanda Skaraveli, a rigid mind is very sure but often wrong. The flexible mind is generally unsure but often right. The most significant disadvantage about attempting to help a person with a rigid mindset has to be that the rigidity won't let them even accept that they need help. 4. Those who never admit their fault Have you attempted fixing the mess caused by someone who still blames you for the mess? It's similar to the Christian story about the fall of man. As the story goes, the creator asked the man, what have you done? But the man responded, it is the woman who you gave me that made me eat the fruit. From the man's response, it is clear that he was certainly blaming the creator for his fault. People who never take responsibility for the mistakes that make are one of the hardest to help. Most times, these people know that they are at fault but to feel good about themselves, they recriminate the action. No matter how conspicuous their errors are, they never take responsibility. Instead, they look for other people and situations to blame and fault others for any mess they manage to admit. Come to think of it, how do you help someone overcome a challenge when they feel like the problem is not theirs? The first step to self-improvement is to remove all excuses for ignorance and mistake. Thus, those that continually blame other people for their failures will never go to the next level no matter how much you try unless of course, they decide to start taking responsibility for their deeds. 5. Pessimistic individuals People who are pessimistic never see anything good in people or situations. They always see negativity. If they step into a place they have never been to before, the first thing they see are the bad things. They will never see how bright the day is but are always the first to spot the darkness. When they meet people, for the first time, they look out for everything wrong with those people. And as a result, they are always on warpaths with people and are continually having unhealthy relationships. They try to cover up their negativism with the excuse that they are realistic. They say that they don't want to get disappointed at situations so they will instead be the first to notice and point the bad. However, there is a difference between being realistic and just being a negative person. In as much as a realist prepares for the worst, he also expects the best. For then, the pessimistic individual always hopes for the worst. If their predicted evil happens, they are so quick to say, I told you so. And if the circumstance takes a different turn, they will still foresee negativity. Most times, we want to help others so much that we lose ourselves in the process. Some people with these traits mentioned above sincerely accept and yield to your help when you render it. Still, be sure to know when to withdraw your helping hand.