 So I've been thinking a lot lately, have you ever felt that you failed at something or a deal failed through because you either shared some information that you were not supposed to share too early or you shared too many details with people you were not supposed to share it with and that's why it was jinxed or the truth is you can't even really be sure who to or who not to share things with and how much is really too much and I've been told by several people that I tend to keep a lot to myself and I'm hard to read because I don't share my thoughts with anyone so most of the things that I end up doing end up coming off as impulsive or too sudden like where did this one to come from you know and the real truth is I think a lot and sometimes if you know of a thing that things I'm about to do because I almost always want to be able to justify why I do them. Hi my name is Kwame and I'm a documentary filmmaker and voice over artist based in Accra and you're welcome to my channel it's okay and this channel is my attempt to make sense of life and a human experience in general and I am happy that you are here. Now I don't know if this is deep-rooted in some form of superstition or I should go with the scientific psychological explanation behind this phenomenon where your intentions are not able to be accomplished because you shared some things with people. There is an explanation which psychologists refer to as their intention behavior gap which is the space between knowing you have a task to accomplish and actually doing it. So we announce these plans to people we only seek the validation about the task and this feeling tends to mimic some form of accomplishment in our minds when reality is we have not done anything. Now the feeling that others know that we're up to something in our lives and pat us on our backs or root for us for example makes us feel like we've done something when we actually haven't done anything. Now that is the scientific explanation but from where I'm sitting and thinking back on my experiences I'm just gonna go with the negative energy and self sabotage through overthinking. I know a lot of people know this feeling especially in our part of the world where the best way to safeguard your success or something is to keep it to yourself because well nipayapad. So hear me out on this one. There are many many instances or examples where jinxing of events or activities happen because we shared too much too soon or perhaps with the wrong people who may pass judgmental comments and fill us with more doubts than we need to even begin with. So people like that won't offer support or better alternatives they just kill your fire and there are those people who say yeah it's okay it's cool but you know secretly they hope that you feel so that they can remind you that you suck at whatever you try to do. Now it's the reason why many people may no longer behave or believe in New Year's resolutions for example where we tend to broadcast these humongous ambitions while lacking the actual mental fortitude to go through with them or not knowing the amount of work and unforeseen circumstances that may be awaiting us. So if you know yourself just don't lie to yourself. Yes I mean the essence of maybe wanting to share the thing or do the said thing is to become a better person but advertising and or broadcasting it to people who you want to maybe use as your unofficial accountability officers may not actually really care about what you want to do or even remember it until you fail and they remind you of the noise you make without seeing actions through so you don't need to tell people. Typical example is how I get ahead of myself knowing it's difficult for me to stick to something without losing interest and wanting to move to the next thing and I've been putting off getting back in shape for the longest time and my excuse was that I was busy with the 95 and I didn't have the time the right clothes and all the excuses in the world so I did buy them however when I finally decided to quit and manage my own time and activities as a freelancer I still wasn't doing it and the truth is maybe I didn't really wanted that badly if I did honestly I would. So one month into this quarantine I mean it became important that we took care of our bodies better especially knowing that underlying conditions can decrease your chance of beating an infection due to a poor immune system and after about a week of consistency with some exercising I started broadcasting activities to people who had been trying to motivate me to get back in shape saying that look I'll be back in six months just give me six months you guys will see let's just say that it's been three months and not much has changed because I keep falling out and restarting so maybe next time what I'm gonna do is just keep to myself hold myself accountable and do it for me to prove to me and only me that I can and I will as far as I've come to learn from another youtuber on the same topic of conversation there are about four kinds of people those who talk the talk and don't walk the walk those who talk the talk and walk the walk those who don't talk the talk and don't walk the walk and those who don't talk the talk and actually walk the walk and a place you want to be is group four don't talk just walk it quietly and do your own thing but that's just one part of this jinxing your progress theory the other one or the one I just mentioned right now it's about your personal resolutions and ambitions and they all lie within your control and then there's the transactional type that has mostly to do with work and contracts and collaborations and whatnot and sometimes there's a hint of a job or a gig that might be happening but it's not fully confirmed yet and you know I get it you're excited you want to share it with people and perhaps also feel like you're up to something or you're picking moves so this is to seek validation in my opinion actually it's nobody's business unless it's directly affecting them like the new job is in a different region locally or maybe in a different country then you may have to prepare them mentally as they deserve to know otherwise keep quiet and do your business that's all I'm trying to say lock it in leave it to discovery later on the other person this may not work with may be your spouse because well you have to you have the moral obligation to share however there may be even things that require non-disclosure and you can't still share with your spouse for me I'd gone through all these kinds of moments for so long that I started to believe that it might be tied to some form of superstition and which is why I refer to it as negative energy in the beginning and I actually believed it based on this theory I decided to hold back a lot when it came to probable gigs and transactions till they were signed and done and like fully aware that I can have it and this one happened with one big thing that happened in my life with my first ever job already internship in 2012 the actual beginning of my journey till now so in September 2012 after job hunting for what seemed like eons without success I mean I decided to give something I'd be holding back for a long time a try and it was more of a decision based on survival than that of passion at that point and that was to go into radio and do radio school so I applied I got in I started this eight week course and every time I left home to go to class I knew this was it I mean this I had to get this done or I'm done I was hungry for success part of the school's offer also was to help you get internship placement after the course and that was with some radio stations they had affiliations with so after about three weeks of completing the course that message came and I've been selected as one of the six people to submit my audition CD and interview for an internship slot at a radio station and it was so exciting but I decided to keep quiet until something came of it so every day I'll dress up and leave home with the excuse of you know going to pick some moves which wasn't very very suspicious because my brother and I had been looking for work and whatnot so it was more like something we had to do so for one week I went to this radio station first the interview then the aptitude test then second interviews then recording tests and all of that till I was finally selected officially that is the evening I came home and I told my mom who was overwhelmed with emotion so it was our win I would say because she was one person who pushed this agenda through and through but even her adding told her about the interviews and I just did it for me I learned from the answer to keep a lot of my ambitions and things I wanted to work on to myself if I failed I learned better ways to do it and if I did succeed the success will show up now I don't really know the real psychology behind this I can't really explain all those sciences have tried to do it or explain it but all I've come to learn is if you want something do it for you you're more likely to follow through when no one is watching and the pressure is only on you to prove what you're capable of it isn't always a case though if I should say I mean sometimes telling people um can increase your chances of success when those people end up pointing you to better ways of getting there by connecting you to a neighbors or maybe they themselves helping you so it's it's a tricky thing and all I'm saying is look have your own ideas do something about it when you run into a wall then you may share this and try and get help if you really want something the universe conspires to help you see through maybe it's a position maybe it's not but hey work quietly don't stop and make sure you have fun while you're at it now if you like this video don't forget to give it a thumbs up and subscribe to my channel of course I almost forgot that one it really helps so yeah I'll catch you again another time on this channel adios