 Hi She was living I'm back. Okay, so we're gonna get into it again today We're gonna start talking up. We're gonna start talking about it again. You guys, okay? Because I have too many people coming to me confused a lot of them are guys They still don't get it. They still don't get it They're having lots of problems in their relationship and they're not putting it together. Okay? They think the problem is something that they just can't figure out. They think that You know, why is she acting like this? Why is she still texting other guys? Why is she still doing this? Why is she still doing that? How come she doesn't? Okay Women like successful men point blank. We like powerful men. We like men who have accomplished something in life We have men who can Do things for us. We like men who have their stuff together. Okay? If you don't have any of that going for yourself, you're gonna have women troubles. That's just it. Okay? unless You go for women with low self-esteem who will accept you just as you are at your current state and Just want a relationship with you But usually guys do not want those types of women and they want the type of women who want the men Who have something going on for themselves? Okay? So let's talk about it and a lot of guys are in my comments talking about well Why should we pay for stuff and do stuff for y'all when y'all have equal rights and equal pay? Well, let me ask y'all a question if I have a friend and she's rich and her husband's rich and she Says hey, let's meet out for lunch Am I supposed to expect her to pay? Because she has more money than me or she makes as much money as me or Just because she has money am I expected to just hand her over my bill and say hey, you're rich You can pay, you know, no some work like that. Okay? Now let's pretend she was a man who asked me out. Let's say he's super rich But I also have a good career and a good job You do you think he's gonna ask me to pay or ask a woman to pay when he has it The only kind of men who are going to ask women to pay are the broke men who cannot afford To date they shouldn't even be on the date. Okay? Now a lot of people are gonna ask me well, why Can't they split the bill with the big deal about they're just getting to know each other This is the dumb dumbness that comes through on certain people when they ask this question because you're a date is an interview Do you have the financial stability? To take care of a woman a Wife a child if I like you enough to see you again and again and again and again and again and finally marry it Do you have that? Okay, I need to I need to know because if you're pinching pennies if you're you know Stingy that's how our marriage is gonna be and the number one cause for divorce is money So no, I can't I can't date you. Okay, and most women won't you know The next thing, you know a guy a guy in the comments I don't know they would say well Y'all need to take care of yourselves and worry about yourselves and stop trying to leech off of men First of all women don't leech off men men leech off women emotionally They you know you you need sex from us you need this you need that okay We lose more by dealing with men than men lose by dealing with women. Okay, so We like to be compensated for our time and our efforts and our presence So I might call it entitlement, but a smart person will call it an energy exchange. Okay, I Can't I'm not doing I'm not doing anything for anyone that I'm not getting anything in return for okay, nothing and That's just me. I'm just not that type of person and Then people will say well what happened to love these women are all just materialistic now Well, I've seen a couple Who are homeless together and they were in love, but they were homeless together now? I'm not trying to bash the homeless people, but I can't be in love with someone who can't Love themselves enough to get financially stable, okay? I can't love you if you can't love yourself and those people who you know who strive to achieve things in life and You know makes something out of themselves really love themselves if you don't love yourself and You don't strive for success in some type of way in some area Then why are you here? You know and a lot of guys are gonna say well You just don't do anything. You're lazy. You sit at home and your husband works I'm sitting up here making a video. Okay, I took time put on this makeup do this hair I got a little below the video edit it put it out read y'all's troll comments Try to answer back if I feel like it So I do work this is my job YouTube is my job I get paid through YouTube, okay? I have four YouTube channels not just this one Okay, plus I do other stuff online on the side that makes way more money than my YouTube channels, okay? I don't even have to get dressed if I don't want to Not from the waist up down anyway because this is all y'all see so Yeah, and all that money is my money. Okay, that's my money. That's my spending money. That's my shopping money That's whatever I want to do. That's my kids college money They're already you know on a trust, but that doesn't have anything to do with it That's my money and I get to do whatever I want with it. Why because My husband can pay basically pay for everything else. I don't need he doesn't need my help What would he look like coming to me asking me for some money, right? Like a can of borrow when he makes way more so it doesn't matter I think it's only those guys who are stuck and can't move up or worried about you know Never being anything in life and so they have to watch their money. They can't Be like certain men who can splurge and spend money on dating and and you know impress women and stuff like that They can't do that. They can't afford to do it. Okay, so, you know, what would you do? Of course, if I was that type of man, I would be upset, too And I would talk about women too because I couldn't have what I wanted. Okay But Gentle men will always pay the tab If they don't have a lot of money and they're still a gentleman, they will save up until they can actually Take someone out and show them a good time even if they're poor and the sad thing is that They would appreciate it more because they know you don't have a lot of money and that makes them feel even more Special okay, so if a guy who you know is not super rich or don't have a lot of money Saves up to take you out and you know splurge on you and show you a good time. This is the kind of person That will sacrifice for you. Do you know what I mean? So this is a this is a type of person who will put you first and put your needs first rather than Know it's all about me. You make money. You need to pay You know, I'm not doing that You know, I have to pay bills. I have to pay my rent. You make money. Why can't you pay? Like a little kid. That's that would be like dating your younger brother, okay? So If a man is not dating to impress you Then he's not trying to marry you Okay, if a man is not dating you to impress you He is not trying to marry you so don't even waste your time if he's trying to take you to coffee to McDonald's Through the drive-thru asking you to pay the bill He's not your husband. Okay No So ladies don't fall for it Don't fall for it. Don't offer to pay trying to look like you all that because they're gonna take you up on it And then you gonna be paying for everything all the time. Don't do it act broke My money goes to savings and student loans make something up. I don't care but you don't need to be paying because When you're dating the man is courting you The man is courting the woman if you ask a man out If you ask a man out then yes woman you pay because now you have taken the lead role The masculine role to asking the person out and now you have to pay Okay, so if a man asks you out They pay no matter what okay and make that Known before you even go out You're paying okay And you can do it in a joking way and see you know if they act like if they get serious on the phone Oh, like okay, I'll be I'll meet you there. So Thanks for treating me to dinner And when he takes back You gonna pay half or uh We're going Dutch or uh, or if you don't say nothing at all and he looks at you when the check comes So thanks. This is what y'all do lace. Thank you so much for treating me to dinner. This was so nice They're not gonna say oh, no You got to pay half because you're sitting there batting your eyes looking at them in their eyes Saying it loud so everybody can hear and when if he turns you down They're gonna be listening and watching and he's not gonna be able to do that. So that's how you get it. Okay Thank you so much for treating me I just enjoyed this dinner so much the waiter was so nice you're gonna have to give him a good tip Okay, because then he might ask you to leave the tip. So just throw that in there too. Yeah, um, I Remember when before I got married and I was dating I was going out with this one guy and It look it literally looked like it hurt him to spend money like every time the bill came or Drink bill came or whatever. It just looked painful. It was like taking his money out of his wallet like You know slow like it was hurting him. So what by watching that? I knew I couldn't date him. I was like It made me sick to my stomach because I knew he was reaching into his rent money and that was last time I saw him because I didn't want him to be homeless. So I left never caught him back I was like thanks. Thanks, but you're too uncomfortable spending money and it's just gross to me because I Don't have anything to give you a return For a couple of months and so I can't deplete your bank account Yeah, ladies, if you're trying to date a guy and he's like broke leave him alone go find somebody else because You're doing him more of a favor by leaving him alone He won't have to spend money on you He can save his money Get his priorities together get his money together pay his rent and stuff like that If you're gonna go for a guy with money make sure they have money and they have lots of money And they don't miss it and it's not a big deal to pay on a date and it's not a big deal to splurge and go shop it in Whatever make sure it's not a big deal because if you're dating a guy and it is a big deal That's gonna put pressure on the relationship, you know, it's gonna make you start feeling bad for him And then wanting to pay, you know, it's gonna make him feel like the child or like You know, you're gonna start feeling sympathy for him And if you're dating someone that's not what you're supposed to be feeling You're not supposed to be feeling sympathy for him You're not supposed to be looking at him like a child You're supposed to be looking up to him admiring him how masculine and sexy and you know stuff He is not how needy he is okay and not what he can't do for you He's supposed to be impressing you if he's not impressing you y'all aren't dating all he's doing Is seeing you a few times for y'all have sex. Okay, that's it. That's all y'all are doing. So ladies if you I'm telling you Never pay on a date if you pay on a date you messed it up unless it's his birthday Or something or you're celebrating Like a Promotion that he had in anyway, man who get promotions usually celebrate and pay because now they have the money So unless it's like a special occasion and you're just trying to treat him never pay on a date ladies Most like relationship gurus Will tell you that never pay on a date. You will devalue yourself You will devalue yourself. Okay, man. I don't care what you think this I don't care what y'all think I'm sorry. You can't afford to pay for dinner. You don't need to be dating. Okay to the real man They are already know you got to pay it's automatic But the real man they already know that's just before they even open their mouth to ask you anything They look at you up and down. Look at your clothes. Look at your hair. Look at your nails. They say, okay, this is this woman. I like She likes classy things. I know if I ask her out, I'm gonna have to come correct I'm not I can't ask her to go Dutch because she's gonna look at me crazy I cannot you know take her to this cheap restaurant because she'll never call me again So if I want to deal with this type of woman, I have to come correct Okay, most men will not approach you if they cannot afford to date you Now some stupid men will and they will waste your time Try to use you and leave you upset and mad at yourself. Okay, so Never pay for a date unless you Want to learn a Valuable lesson in life. Okay ladies Just take it for me and I know some of y'all women are gonna come up and say well I pay for stuff for my man Then he pays for this and he pays for that and then I pay for this and that I pay for that You know, that's fine. You know, I'm not bashing anyone who Has someone and they have a working payment plan. I don't care That's that's that's how y'all's marriage is gonna be. Okay, and if that's fine with you, that's fine but if you can Feel good about that in the relationship and that continues and you're fine with it then great but to me, I Think it feels very comfortable Not to have to go like, you know tit for tat it should just be You know Like that, you know, I just I don't know I just I Don't feel like I should have to buy him something for him to buy me something For me to buy him something me to pay for this and him pay for that. It's kind of like, you know This is a an adult relationship not a teenage relationship. You know what I mean? Sorry y'all like that cut off. Okay, so Basically Ladies, I know some of you are gonna say well, I have a lot of kids and it's hard to date and find a decent guy and I don't look this way and you know the way guys think women should look and I don't have that Opportunity to you know date someone it's always gonna pay and treat me nice because I don't feel like I'm all that and I just have to Take what I get that's a bad attitude to have. Okay, no matter what a woman looks like Or how many kids she has there's always somebody out there that is willing to pay for her dinner. Okay? I'm sorry, but there is a Lot of times women will go for someone out of their league as well If you don't if you you know if you know you're not the best-looking thing on the block Don't try to date the best-looking thing on the block. Okay, go for someone who looks Almost the same as you are worse. Okay, and I'm just being real if you look better than the guy you're dating chances Are he's gonna pay for your meal. Okay? If you look better than the guy you're dating chances are he's gonna accept your children. Okay, you have to Use your brain in this one. Okay, this is common sense. If you date somebody that looks good. It can get better than you He doesn't have to accept all the stuff that comes with with you. You know what I mean? Now just because he doesn't look a certain way or whatever it does not mean he's not successful. Okay, so You have to keep that into consideration And a lot of men, you know, that's how they date they will they will not date a woman who they cannot Afford to date, you know that they might try and learn a valuable life lesson But then the next go around there. They're gonna tone it down a little bit and say, okay I'm I want a serious relationship. So I know I can't base this on looks anymore. I have to look for this this and that and you know That type of woman is going to expect a little less than another type of woman would you know what I mean? So he's gonna have a better fit and the woman is gonna have a better fit a Lot of times when we look and see out of our eyes and see people attractive rich have money Feel like that they're gonna make the perfect wife Our husband We're kidding ourselves We have to look at reality, you know This might not be the most beautiful woman in the world But she'll love you and she's not gonna demand you by her Gucci purses, but she might ask you to pay, you know the mortgage Now this man over here He might not be like the sexiest man in the world But he's gonna pay for your dinner and he's gonna treat you nice And he's not going to do this and that to you make you worry all the time because you know he can do better okay, so Stay within reason people when y'all are trying to date There are these certain people who just are delusional Very delusional and are trying to date way out of their league and when they get shot down They just hate everybody after that I hate all women because the one I wanted to shut me down or I hate all men because the man I dated docked me out Yeah, because you picked the wrong one and you didn't use your brain and you didn't use logic To choose your partner a lot of people base a relationship on emotion Which is temporary and you know a physical attraction Which will get old after why because you see the same person every day So I would base it on logic if anything because if you base a relationship on logic, okay? What what can this person do for me? What can I do for them that will be an even exchange? But I can get exactly what I want and they can get exactly what they want. This is logic This is using your brain now someone who makes decisions about a relationship with emotion It's like oh, he's you know and in their eyes. Oh, he's so cute. He makes me feel so good. I love him I don't know what I'll do without him. I'll do anything for him I'll even pay for everything out. He can borrow my car, you know And then you'll you'll have a man who sees this beautiful gorgeous woman and He's like, oh my god, I'll do anything for her. She's so gorgeous I just want to date her and blah blah and then when when they get their hearts broken Then they hate they they're mad at themselves really they're not really mad at women or men in general They take it out on them, but really they're just mad at themselves for being so stupid and picking this type of person, okay? Unless there's an even exchange and both parties are happy and they understand the relationship Then that's that's good. You know if they don't then it's bad You know when I got into my marriage and my relationship, it was understood It was like, okay, you know, you're gonna pay all these bills, right? I'm not gonna work. You know that, right? Agree agree. Bam. You know, it wasn't a trick. It wasn't an illusion I was straight up and I always encourage women to be honest You know, you can use a little trickery here and there but when it comes down to it When you know to the person you're spending your life with or you're gonna seriously date You need to tell them your expectations so that you don't waste time and then once you tell someone your expectations And they agree or disagree Then that frees you up. It also makes them think, you know Maybe I do need to improve myself so that I can have a decent relationship with someone like her because her demands are You know, this this and that and I can't meet them. Therefore, I shouldn't be dating a girl like this So I have to either down, you know Down a notch. I have to go down a notch or I have to get myself up You know, so it's a life-changing thing to date certain type of people And if you're not learning these life lessons, you're doomed to repeat them over and over and over and over and when you see their next girlfriend or their next boyfriend and How they're getting treated versus how you are getting treated. You're gonna be upset. Okay, you're gonna be mad and You're not gonna want to see them happy You're not gonna want to see them together and you're gonna be upset that you let this person take advantage of you While you're watching him give her everything that he never would give you or vice versa You're watching her Look at this man and respect this man and treat this man like a God Like she would never do to you. You know what I mean? So you got to understand people Dating is a game If you use logic in a game you win If you play a game full of emotions, you're gonna mess up. You're gonna fail You're good, you know, I know y'all guys out there playing video games If you play with logic and you know all the codes and the you know All the information on how to play the game right and do that you're gonna win if you're playing with no logic No information and just playing, you know On emotion how you feel and what you think you should do next with Chances are you gonna lose? Okay, so you need to prepare think logically When you enter into a relationship It is not about emotion that is natural Physical attraction between man and woman is natural. Okay, that's natural. That's that's automatic. That's already there. Okay Logic now and thinking Seems to lack in Relationship, so I'm gonna leave it at that and I'll see y'all in the next one. Bye