 The narcissist does not want to see you happy. This is a difficult pill for a lot of you to swallow. It's a difficult thing for you to accept. And a lot of you can't comprehend it. You don't understand how this could be possible because you're thinking of it from your own perspective, from how you see things, from how you feel people. And you can't ever imagine wanting to see someone down, wanting to see someone sad and depressed. You can't imagine that. Maybe someone did something you don't like. And for a moment, it may have upset you, may have made you mad. And maybe in that moment, you wanted to get revenge. You wanted to do something to them in return for what they did to you. But after some time, those emotions faded away. And so did that desire for revenge. And that's normal. What's not normal is when people are angry or upset for long periods of time. But that's just how it is with these narcissists. And these emotions are what make them want to affect you emotionally. Now they don't want you to be happy. And yeah, that's not true. Just look at everything they've done to you. What are they trying to achieve by doing those things? Are they trying to help you? That's what they might say. But do things ever improve as a result of their actions? Everything they do makes things worse in your life. Whatever it is that you want, whatever it is that will make you happy, that is what they're going to withhold from you. They might future fake and promise you it in the future, but you're never going to get it. And you may not know it, but they will do whatever it takes to stop you from getting that. Whatever it is that will make you happy, that is what they will withhold from you. But that is how you should know that they already know what they need to do. They already know how to make you happy. Narcissists are not completely stupid. They know what you like, they know what you want, and they will deliberately not give that to you. They will withhold it from you because they don't want you to be happy. They look at it like, why should I do this when it's going to make you feel good? But I'm still going to be miserable. So why should I do that for you? Just because it's what you want. Why should I do what you want? That's how they see it. But that's how you should know that they know what you want. And if that hasn't already been confirmed to you, from them withholding it from you, from them never giving that to you, if that isn't enough to confirm that they don't want you to be happy, just look at what happens at the end of the relationship. What do they do? They go and give it to someone else, or they tell you that they've given it to someone else. Whatever it is that you want, whatever it is in your individual situation, then suddenly you find that this is what they're giving to the next person. How is that possible? How could they never deliver that to you? But then they could just so easily share it with someone else. As soon as you break up, as soon as the relationship is over, and that is how you should know, they knew what would make you happy the entire time. The problem is they just never wanted you to be happy. Everything they do is self-serving. They only care about themselves, and that is why they hurt you. That is why they don't want you to be happy, because it regulates their emotions. So that is why they're going to withhold it from you. They're not going to give you whatever it is that you want, but they do know what you want. They know that you just want a normal relationship. You look around at everyone else and you think, they can do it. They can be normal. They can have a normal relationship where they can talk to each other, where they understand each other. They can have a normal family. They've got normal parents who talk to them, who try to help them. They've got normal children, and then you look at the narcissist in your life and you think, why can't you do that? Why can't you be like that? Why is it so difficult for you? But of course that's the thing, it's not difficult for them. They just don't want you to have it. They know that you are a normal person, and therefore they don't want you to have anything normal. They always have to go against the grain. They always have to do the opposite of whatever is usual or expected, but deep down they know that they are not normal. They know that what they're doing is not normal. That's why they're always checking in to see your reaction, to see how it's affecting you, to see the effects of their abnormal behaviour. So of course when things go wrong, they already know they're the cause of it. Even while they try to shift the blame onto you, these people already know that they are the problem. They already know that because everything they're doing is conscious and intentional. They already know exactly what they're doing. They know that they're wrong. They know that they're the problem. But it's all a game. It's all about trying to make you think that they don't know, to make you think that it's something wrong with you, because that's just another hack of them trying to take away your happiness. If there's one thing they don't want, it's for you to be happy. That is the last thing that they want to see. And that is why maybe some of you have experienced it already, but when you do finally move on, after they discarded you, after they left you, or maybe you left them, and then you move on and you start to find your happiness again, maybe you meet someone new, someone who treats you right. What do they do? They come back. They hoover you. They have to show their face again, because they already know that it's going to irritate you. They know it's going to get under your skin. They do it on purpose because they see that you are getting out with a pit that they created for you. You're starting to become happy again, and they can't stand it. So they want to take your happiness away from you. That's the game. That's what it's about. They just can't stand to see you happy, because they're not happy. When people are happy, they want to see other people happy too. And I don't know about you, but even when I've been feeling down on my life, I still want to see other people happy, because then it tells me that maybe that could happen for me too. And that's normal. When you look at people and you think, I just wish that they would get it together. I just wish that things would get better for them, that they would do what they need to do, and get what they want to get. That is how you should see it, even with a narcissist. You should look at it like, I wish they would get better. I wish things would change for them. I wish they would just become a good person and live in a sensible way, but they're never going to think the same about you, because these types of people, they don't value goodness. They don't care about the right thing. They have no morals or values. So although it may be right, it's good for you to be happy, for you to move on. They're not going to let you have that. They are the opposite of right. They're the opposite of anything good. That's like the definition of a narcissist, someone who is opposed to anything good. So of course, you being happy, that is a good thing. So of course they're going to be opposed to that. They're not going to want you to be happy. And they're going to withhold anything that does make you happy. They're going to keep it away from you. They're going to lie to you. They're going to future fake. But it's never going to actualize. You're never going to get it. It's never going to manifest in the future. Not as long as you're around them, because they will do whatever it takes to destroy it. A deep, dark video today. But I covered this topic before. And I wanted to give a more updated version on it. But you can check out the original as well. Just type in the search bar above. Narc survivor. The narcissist does not want to see you happy. And then you will find the original video here with Nala. Yeah, they do want to see you happy. They don't want you to have anything that you want in life. And they'll actually make you feel bad. They'll make you feel shame for wanting it. Maybe you just want to go on holiday. Maybe you'd like to go to Spain or France. They'll make you feel like that's bad. That's wrong. You're selfish for wanting that. You should want what they want. Even though something may be right, something may be good. They'll always make you think that something is wrong with it. They'll make you think that it's bad. But the funny thing is, once you've dealt with someone like this, after a few months, maybe one year, two years, you're going to look at the effects, the consequences of being with them. You're going to look at your life and think, No, now this is bad. This is wrong. My life was so much better before. And yet, they will flip it on you and make you think that it's all your fault. And now you have to deal with it. But it's their karma as well, because they never take accountability for anything. So how is anything going to change in their life? If they're constantly blaming everyone, things are never going to get better for them. Things just get worse and worse. But for us, we can function in normal environments. We want good things. We can make that happen too. We can have it for real, because we're really about it. They're not. The only thing they're about is themselves. Whatever you're about, eventually that's all you're going to get. If you're only about yourself, that's great. You can have yourself and nothing else. But if you're about more than that, love, loyalty, commitment, happy, healthy relationships, then you can have that. You may not get it for the first time, but eventually it will come together. But you have to be about it. Whatever you're about, that's what you're going to get. And everything that they're about, they get it in the end. It comes back to them. If all you're ever doing is thinking about yourself, thinking about your interests and needs, at the expense of everyone else, eventually that's all you're going to get. But they're never going to realize that. They're never going to look at themselves and see that they're the cause of it. They're just going to blame you. Play the victim and act like it's your fault. Okay, that's it for today. I will have a new video tomorrow or for some people that might be today. Within the next 12 hours, there will be a brand new video. 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