 Liam stares at his phone, wondering how to respond. He feels nervous every time he gets a message from his crush, Emma. What if the conversation goes to Dale and she loses interest? If this happens, he might never get a chance to have a relationship with her. When you worry about what to say to your crush, it can fuel anxiety and negatively affect your mood. As a mental health channel, we want to help you overcome this problem so that you can feel more at ease. Keep watching to learn three things you can text your crush to keep them interested. These tips aren't going to be like the advice you might have seen in other videos. We're going to teach you proven psychological techniques and explain why they work. 1. Reciprocal Self Disclosure Think about the last time you had a deep conversation with someone where you learned about them and shared more about yourself. How did you feel afterwards? Did you become closer and more comfortable with them? This process of revealing your intimate thoughts and feelings and getting someone else to do the same is called reciprocal self disclosure. A study published in Personality and Social Psychology bulletin showed that people felt closer to each other when they discussed 36 questions that encouraged reciprocal self disclosure. Try asking these questions when you're texting your crush to keep the conversation going and get them intrigued. What are you the most grateful for in your life? If you could change anything about how you were raised, what would it be? What is your favorite memory? What does a perfect day look like for you? What does friendship mean to you? 2. Ben Franklin Effect Have you ever noticed that after helping someone you feel satisfied with yourself and tend to like them more? When we do a favor for someone, we tend to have more positive feelings towards them. This phenomenon is called the Ben Franklin Effect, as you might have guessed, it originated from a quote by Benjamin Franklin, he that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged. A study published in Human Relations proved that the Ben Franklin Effect was real. Researchers tended to like researchers more when the researcher personally asked them for a favor. So the next time you're texting your crush, try asking them for a small favor. An easy way to do this is to text them, can I get your advice or opinion on something? Even if you don't end up taking their advice, they may become more interested after feeling like they helped you. Or if you want to make plans to hang out over text, try asking if they can help you with a task or errand that you can both do together. 3. Similar Attraction Theory Have you ever heard the phrase opposites attract? Well, there's evidence to suggest that this theory might not always be true. The similar attraction theory states that we're more attracted to people who are similar to us rather than different. Several studies have shown that people are the most attracted to those who have similar views, especially when it comes to important topics. Of course, you don't want to be fake or lie to your crush to make yourself seem more like them. But the next time you're texting them, try bringing more attention to things that you share in common throughout the conversation. For example, if they share an opinion that you agree with instead of simply saying, I agree, say why you agree and elaborate on your thoughts. You can also send them videos or songs you like that they would also enjoy. This allows them to focus on your similarities and may make them even more interested in you than they were before. We hope these tips help you next time you're texting your crush. Remember that if your crush is the right person for you, just being yourself will be enough to keep them interested. These techniques shouldn't be used to lie or manipulate your crush into liking you. Rather, they're fun ways to feel closer to them and help you to get to know each other better. Are you going to try these techniques yourself? What's your go-to conversation starter when you're texting your crush? Let us know in the comments below. If you want to learn more about psychology-based relationship tips, don't forget to hit the like button and subscribe. We're grateful to have you in this community and we truly appreciate your support. Have a great day!