 I suppose like, do you have anything, any aspects that you think autistic people show that might make us a lot more prone to gaslighting? This is my processing stim. I think one of the main parts is obviously we're very vulnerable when we do misread situations and we do shut down, but also I think it's partly how we process information. I think autistic people process information in like a fact first manner. So everything is processed as a fact first. And then if we've got the capability, we then can process like the emotional, the emotions and the memory and the logic that sort of ties in with that fact. So it's for things like this, just as so it makes a bit more sense. Like if someone wants to say, oh, it's raining cats and dogs. Like my I will process that as fact and be looking out the window for the cats and dogs because I haven't yet processed the logic and the emotional memories to be like, yeah, no, that's not possible. Well, not anymore now that we don't have thatched roofs or whatever. But but I do think we do process things in a fact first manner. So the problem with that is that with these relationships, everyone around us is always right. Everyone else is the correct person. Everyone else is the model. We're always taught to be invalidated and to be ashamed of who we are and that we should change no matter what. And part of it is also the justice seeking. We want to change and be good because that's part of our brain. Like everything has to be processed fact first as a justice sort of way. And this does mean that. Anyone who wants to take advantage of us more or less can because we're processing their their behavior and their mistreatment of us as a fact. This is something that should happen. Like this is OK and I deserve it. But also I'm just seeking to make it a reality. And because we get shut down at the fact processing stage, we don't always process the next bit with the emotions, the logic and the memories of past experiences that could otherwise teach us that this fact isn't right. Yeah, I don't know if that makes sense. It's kind of how I sense how I process it in my brain. No, it's I think like the way that I think about it's a bit bit kind of different. Like I kind of I take on board what people say to me directly. And I don't always compare that to the way that they're saying the thing or the context of the situation. And if I'm in a relationship where I trust another person and I feel strongly towards another person, you know, it's it's more likely that I'll take on board. What what people tell me then then I won't. There's been lots of situations as well from, you know, that happened to a lot of autistic people in terms of like bullying or, you know, difficult situations at school and not not and having a lots of memories of not really understanding social situations and saying the right thing or or doing the right thing with within friendships and relationships and school life. And I think sometimes that combination of us really focusing on the direct language, it allows us to be manipulated a bit more easily. Yeah. And at the same time, like, we're less likely to take what we think and what we feel is as seriously because of the like the past bias, the past kind of experiences that we've had. We've been taught to invalidate every feeling or thought that we've ever had, because we've always been told they're wrong anyway. So why would we believe our own thoughts that are like, Hey, this isn't right. What you said was what I was trying to say. I think I think there's there's also the aspects of Alexifamir as well that can make and can complicate things because like, if you say something and you you believe that it's right, like if someone sort of disregards that and and either intentionally or an intentionally gaslights you into thinking that it isn't. You know, you don't necessarily have like the immediate emotional response of being able to like put a boundary in place and say, like, no, don't tell me what I thought, like, I know what I thought. You don't necessarily have that. And it's it's more of a thing where you kind of just go along with it. And then you kind of think about it in a week or a few days. And you're like, hmm, you know, I didn't feel too good about that situation. I felt like they weren't really listening to me. And then you go back and like flips over. Yeah. Sorry. Hey, YouTube, I hope you have enjoyed this podcast clip so far. And if you have, why not check out the full episode, which you can find on my YouTube channel or on other streaming services like Google, Apple, Spotify. You can find it pretty much anywhere you want to. If you have enjoyed this, make sure to like, subscribe, drop a comment down below. Even if it's something simple like sending me a heart or an emoji, it really, really does help me with the algorithm. All of my links to my socials, like my daily Instagram blog posts are down in the description. But other than that, I hope you enjoy the rest of this clip. It's totally true, though, isn't it? It's no, I forgot what I was going to say. Sorry, I'm sorry about that. It's, yeah, so when you come back and when you try to approach something that happened before, that kind of seem to be something that both parties agreed on, people don't tend to respond very well to that. So, you know, sometimes when you come back after a couple of days, a few weeks and say, actually, hey, this wasn't right. And, you know, you tried to put that boundary in place after the fact. It's not always the easiest thing to do. And it's that background processing, because it takes such a long time sometimes. Yeah. And I feel that's what I was sort of talking about earlier, that mind wandering stimulation, like music therapy and art therapy and sort of daydreaming. It sort of helps us with those background processes. It's not always just problems that we're solving in like real time, but it can be the experiences that we had with relationships where we sort of or social situations where we know something was quite right. But we don't have a quite process what it is and what boundaries to set, if any. And it does, it takes a long time because there's always such there's like a chronic overwhelm when you're you are autistic. It's complicated. And then it's not to mention like the mental health difficulties that we can have around anxiety, like anxiety makes you question yourself anyway. So it's when you're so anxious and when you're feeling down about yourself, you might be like depressed or something. Someone comes up to you and says that, hey, this isn't actually the reality of things. You're more likely to go like, yeah, actually, my head's all over the place. I actually don't know I can I'm so just regulated. Like, you know, so it kind of I think that's another aspect that can make us feel a bit more or be a bit more vulnerable to that thing. It's so true because I'm always the first to be like, oh, no, I'm 100% in the rub. Even if I probably wasn't and didn't have anything to do with me, I always assume that I'm the person who did the wrong thing and said the wrong thing. And I will always be the one who agonise over it and try and work out why. And it will just stay with me for months, years, eternity. She's always processing it. And that is partly why it makes me very vulnerable to this sort of like the main crimes and the unintentional gaslighting because I can't always tell. Well, that's that's an interesting part because I know that that make crime is something that a lot of autistic people might experience.