 Hey guys, Maryleigh Johnson here with Sasha Day Game for the 21 Convention and you just gave your 2014 speech. So you mix a lot of comedy in with your teaching. How does comedy help in relationships, both in actual relationships and in just approaching women? Good question. I'd say the first part would be in relation to approaching girls. My talk was basically about how to eradicate social fear and approach anxiety. The dreaded, you see a girl in your freeze oven, you're like, oh my gosh, she's gonna slap me in the face and everyone's gonna laugh at me. So my approach is simply to desensitize people to what other people think of them and just shut down that little voice in your head that's like, you know, talk, talk to her. So I use comedy for that. I just have people go into socially awkward situations where they're being judged and to get through those situations, you know, to just get through it, just be okay with it and not give two poops. So in that way, comedy is a big part of doing those silly fun things, just stop caring what people think. So that's question one. And then the other part is if you're, you know, talking to a girl or in a relationship, I'd say too much comedy is definitely a bad thing because then you come off as like the clown, the entertainer, and that was me for a long time. But a little bit, certainly just for a girl to realize that you have a sense of humor, you're a fun person is really important because she realizes that you can actually sort of take life with a kind of grain of salt with a bit of a, you know, you can laugh about things because if you're a super serious dude and everything like you just can't laugh about stuff, she's not going to be, want to be around you when shit really hits the fan because especially if you're looking for a long-term partner, you need someone who can deal with stuff. What if he loses his job? What if she does? What if, you know, what if somebody's sick? What if, you know, whatever comes up in life, you need to, you know, to be able to have a sense of humor. It's just really important to know that the guy's not going to freak out and break down. And it's great to laugh. Girls love to laugh, but I think men just confuse that with like, you know, being a frickin' hilarious clown to try and get the girl as opposed to just, you know, being fun and playful during the relationship, which is obviously everybody wants that. So you have a kind of a big personality and was it always that way or did you have to kind of hone that? That's an interesting question, too. I think when I was younger, I definitely wasn't an extrovert because, again, I had, you know, I had no father figure and I was kind of a nerdy kid and, you know, kids made fun of me, but I was funny and I knew I was funny, but I just wasn't letting it out. And at some point, when I just started to accept myself more in this whole, you know, this whole community, you know, it was really a huge part of that. I just started to stop caring what people were thinking, and I just started putting me first. And I just started thinking, you know what, I'm having a good time, so I'm going to do what I want to do. I want to talk to that girl. Well, I want to do that. I don't care if she rejects me. I don't care if people don't want me to do it. And so in doing what I do best, which is running around and talking to people and having fun, I really came into who I was and just accepted myself and, you know, everything that comes with going out there and being a social person. So it was really a slow, it was a slow journey. It took a long time to really get to that point where I'm just like, yeah, I'm kind of a dick. I'm funny. Some people like me. Some people don't. But just getting to that point of accepting, you know, accepting who you are and just being cool with it, that's really powerful and it took a long time. But I think that's the journey everybody has to go through, right? It doesn't mean you have to be hilarious. But whatever it is that you want to be, whether it be, you know, a great computer programmer or an acrobat or a more socially free person or, you know, whatever, anything that you want to strive to be, you can be. But it's just like you just need to know what that is and you need to sort of work towards it. And for me, it was just a process of, you know, going on stage and telling a lot of jokes and calling up to a lot of girls and doing my thing. So you and James Marshall are good friends and you have radically different personalities, at least on the surface. Does that correlate to how you guys interact? How do two separate people that are very strong in their personalities and their beliefs, how do they come together? Is that going to work in a relationship? Works amazingly well, actually. I think we get along better than anybody. We've been friends for years and we never really had a huge fight or anything. So yeah, I mean, they say opposite to track and I think that works in, you know, same-sex friendships as well as relationships, right? Because I bring something to the table, which is totally different than what he knows and is used to. And then he's brought stuff to the table that are totally alien to me and we've learned so much from each other and complimented each other and actually taken the best characteristics of each other and taken them on board. So I've, you know what I'm saying? And I always joke about this, but, you know, he's become more and more crazy and outgoing and he'll do silly stuff and people will be like, you're doing silly stuff. You're James Marshall. You're Mr. Stoic serious seducer, dude. And then I'll actually sometimes be really fucking calm and present and just come to girls and just be like, what's up? And just calm right down. People are like, dude, what happened? You used to be running around all the time and now I'm just like, what's up? So I think it's great and I think the more people that are different from you that you can associate with and be friends with and have relationships with, that's awesome because you can experience so much and learn so much and, you know, who you are is always changing. That's one thing I've learned in life. I always think I'm this guy. No, I'm improved. No, I'm this Sasha. No, I'm this Sasha. The truth is, you know, it's like that fine line of being exactly who you are, but then being open to changing and becoming a better you all the time and all the time. And I think James has been a huge part of that journey for me. Yeah, he just, he really has. And I think the same thing goes for a lot of the other speakers and, yeah, and even your little hubby. That's it. In your speech, you talked about embracing the awkward. Why? Why do I want to embrace the awkward? Because awkwardness essentially just means, you know, it's what other people are thinking about you, right? You're worried about awkwardness. You're worried about what other people are thinking about you, other people judging you. And that is, I think, in my opinion, the number one thing that will stop you from doing and getting what you want out of life is just stopping yourself because, ooh, my parents or that other girl or, you know, some girl I'm going to talk to or whoever is going to judge you and think badly of you. And you just have to get past that and think, I don't care. I just don't care what people think. I want to make me happy. The truth is, you are the only person who can ever make you. You happy. So the only person you should be listening to in terms of what you should be doing or thinking is yourself. And I think most people just get totally caught up in just, like, trying to live by society's rules and living by, you know, their parents or other, and the worst part being just strangers. People they've never even met just, you know, are judging them and they're like, yeah, I have to make these people happy. And I think that's just setting yourself up for a life of toil and suffering is living other people's standards. So, yeah, that's just, that's the quickest way to get social freedom and happiness. Just don't care what other people think. Just get rid of it. That's a great idea. It's great to embrace that and see other guys embracing that. So if I want to hear more of your rants and learn more from you, do I go to the Natural Lifestyles? No. That's James Marshall's company. How can you say that? I created that guy. All his style you learned from me. All his besties. No. So, yeah, just go to, you can go to SashaDayGame.com. And also, I've got an event called the 21 Convention. It's really great. Oh, no, wait. The Direct Dating Summit. It's a great event too. And we focus on being an authentic man and going for what you want. So you can also check out some of that at thedirectdatingsummit.com. Fantastic. This has been Maryleigh Johnson with Sasha Day Game at the 21 Convention 2014. And look at those assets. What?