 Anybody that tells you violence against your own spouse is justifiable in Islam is not only a liar But he's absolutely Disparaging the messenger of Allah who was sent as a mercy to all the world and certainly a mercy to women So to say that this means that you can beat your wife That you can be violent in your own home a place where she should feel safer than any other place How could that have anything to do with Ma Arsal Naka in the rahmat to the alameen? We only sent you as a mercy to all the world How can that have anything to do with a man about whom his companion said? Lany other than Yadrib Rasululah Imra'atan Wala ghulaman Wala Wala dhanqat the messenger of Allah never struck a woman a child or a servant ever Salallahu alayhi s-salam wa laqad kana lakum firasulillahi uswatu n-hassana and you have in the messenger of Allah the best example Is it okay for a Muslim to be abusive? Is anybody gonna say yes? If someone said to you is it okay for a father to beat his daughter Is it okay for a husband to beat his wife is it okay for a person who is in a situation of authority to take advantage of that? Authority and exert some undue hardship or unrest upon somebody who is relying upon them because they're in that Authoritative position to be someone who is the epitome of trustworthiness and integrity, but now they have violated that right Would we say ever Islamically that that's okay? No, we wouldn't and one of the quickest quickest means to destroy a home is the god of anger and the second Impatience Is the other than the shaitan kama qada salallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sahbihi as-salam that rushing things is from shaitan and many of the Ulema of suruk they said that when you rush a lot It's a sign of a disease of the heart because the heart wants to control things wants to have power Wants to be able to shape things quickly told so much that it's actually more holy or you're a better Muslim if you stay but in fact it has a Detrimental effect on your e-man and there are she you who have told me that most of the children Most of the youth who end up leaving Islam Came from abusive households Most of the children who ended up leaving Islam came from abusive households and what happens is they see this abuse They grow up in it and they start to hate everything associated with that life and that includes Islam So what they start to do is they connect Islam to the abuse they connect Islam and the culture to the abuse itself And they start to just hate it all and actually people you know these people will actually leave Islam Or at the very least will hate Islam because they associate Islam with that abuse of lifestyle and with that that that very You know ugly attitude and that ugly behavior that they had experienced and again About us out another maximum of the law that everybody agreed on one of the five max harm will be removed The woman is being beaten in her house that will be changed You know tell her sister go back and be beaten again, and that's what some of the imams tell people They will they actually tell her that's that's you'll be close to Allah Again never never you know she has a right You know to be protected The community and you know that's what in the Maliki law when they talk about that You know they also point out that like you know in certain countries like the Sudan You touch your wife, and you'll be you'll be lucky to live another week You know because her family will come down on you. You don't touch women. You don't beat women Why would it be okay for someone to have their rights violated in that capacity and now they also just have to be silent about it They can't talk to anyone. They can't speak to anyone. They can't interact with anyone They live the rest of their lives the only people that they're talking to about it is themselves That's not gonna put anyone in a good place. This is something that is well Documented in our Dean that even backbiting at this point, you know some people say well I don't want to ruin that person's reputation. You shouldn't care about that person didn't care enough about you To not harm you and abuse you you should not care about their reputation and in those moments In fact the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam taught us that when you when you're averting harm from another person It's not backbiting as Faltima bin Qais and Bukhari and Muslim. Oh the Allah ta'ala on her She asked the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam She said that I received the proposal from Muawiyah not Muawiyah bin Abu Sufyan another Muawiyah and from Abu l-Jahm and Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said about Abu l-Jahm He says that Abu l-Jahm doesn't put his stick down right meaning what he's an abuser So Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was talking ill of that companion, but that was to avert a greater harm So don't feel guilty and don't think that you're doing anything un-Islamic when you report an abuser This is a major problem in our community. We need to think deeply and mu'minoon Baaduhumu al-mu'minoon wa al-mu'minat baaduhumu awliya'u baad The believing men and women protect one another Protect one another. That's what we liar is you protect each other