 Coming to you live from my hotel room and I'd like to share this topic with you tonight About what hurts the narcissist the most Now you may be able to think of quite a few things That hurt the narcissist But it really all comes back to one thing There is one main thing that hurts the narcissist and it is something that hurts them a lot and I'm just going to get straight into it What hurts the narcissist the most is rejection When you reject the proposals and ideas when you stop complying with their demands and When you stop responding to their text messages When you stop answering their phone calls Nothing hurts the narcissist more than that because They feel rejected they feel worthless and insignificant They feel like they don't matter to you they feel unimportant a Relevant and that is the last thing they want to feel As we know Narcissists want attention. They want admiration and validation They want to feel like they matter to someone They want to feel special and important. They want to feel like they have power over you So when you reject the narcissist you are taking all of that away from them You're making them feel the opposite of how they want to feel Because they want to feel like they work there were something They want to feel wanted So when you reject them It hurts them a lot It causes a narcissistic injury and they will get very angry and then You never know what they will do But it's likely that they will try to hurt you in some way because they feel like you are attacking them when you reject a Narcissist they take it as an attack on their character. And of course rejection is not nice None of us want to be rejected We don't like how that feels But for a narcissist it is a hundred times worse They are a hundred times more sensitive to rejection than a normal person. It's like a life or death situation for them For us we might feel a bit hurt in the moment We might feel unwanted But then we're gonna pick ourselves back up. We're gonna remember that It's not the end of the world It doesn't mean we're not worth anything Just because one person doesn't want to talk to us Narcissists don't have that mentality. It's almost like they have a defeatist mentality when you reject them It's like you're the only person in the world Like it's just you and them and nobody else exists That's how it feels when you reject them like the world has just fallen on top of them like the ceiling has just collapsed That's how it feels for a narcissist when you reject them. And of course They are going to try to fight back They're going to want to punish you they're going to want revenge They're not just going to leave you alone and let you move on Things are going to get a lot worse when you reject them They will come after you They will enforce their flying monkeys and start a smear campaign against you They will stalk and harass you but in some situations They may just come back to love bomb you they may try to pull you back into the relationship But that's only if they feel like you're still susceptible to their manipulation If they still think that you might validate the illusions of their false self If they still think they have a chance then they may just love bomb you if you have made it very clear to them And they really know that you want nothing to do with them and they know why Then you have to be very careful Because they will want to punish you they will want revenge They're not just going to let you go so easily So this is where The power is in the person who doesn't reveal their intentions to the narcissist You have to leave like a thief in the night Without telling them your plans without telling them the reason why you're leaving So that they don't feel rejected. They don't feel unwanted They just don't know what happened You just disappeared all of a sudden and they lost Contact with you. They can't trace you That's really the best way to get away from a narcissist When they don't know what has happened because if they know that You don't want them. You've rejected them And there's all of these things that you don't like about them Then as I've said, they're gonna feel rejected They're gonna feel hurt and they're going to lash out at you and in these situations They can be very unpredictable. You never know what they might do And this is why I'm telling you because I want you to Plan ahead You need to be two steps ahead of them You need to anticipate what they're going to do because that's how you're going to protect yourself Learn from someone Who has already been through it more than once someone who Knows how narcissists might react When they know that you don't want them because I've been through it myself. I know what it's like And it ain't fun When they know that you know You don't want to go down that road You want to avoid that at all costs so Leave without telling them What is going on in your mind? Don't even confront them Don't make a scene Just leave quietly because then You won't become a target then you can just slip away under their radar and It could save you a lot of time a lot of energy a lot of money If you do it that way and then I may not feel nice for you You may feel like you're acting dishonestly and in some ways you are If that's what you have to do to protect yourself To protect your health to protect your finances then So be it That's what you have to do because your health That should come before anything if you have to lie to someone to protect your health and that's what you have to do Remember you are dealing with a narcissist You're dealing with someone who is not being honest with you So you have to play the game the same way otherwise they're gonna have an advantage over you You have to level the playing field somehow Remember you're not doing it to gain An unfair advantage over them You're just doing it to protect yourself You're not doing it to cheat them or to get anything out of them That's what they do and that's why they act dishonestly We have to act dishonestly to protect ourselves There's a big difference Because we're dealing someone who cannot be trusted Someone who will take advantage of our honesty Because that's all they're going to do they're going to Misuse our good character Which they are not deserving of that's why They will mistreat us So don't give them something that they do not deserve They will only mystery yet. 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