 Hello, I'm Tiffany Barsotti of healandthrive.com and I'm a spiritual and medical counselor where I look for the psycho-spiritual emotional root causes of things that may be going on. Something that I teach a lot to my clients is something that we call the drama triangle. Now I learned about this in school, but I didn't learn many solutions about it and I'm going to give you some of those and give you some clues as well. The drama triangle has on it the victim, the rescuer, and the persecutor. The victim, the rescuer, and the persecutor. So each of these sort of have their own place within this triangle and they are all trying to stay on top of things. Oftentimes we can see this drama triangle, it's a very seductive loop and we can see this as the control game, how we want to control ourselves in any situation, which is a good thing for the most part, but if we're over controlling we may become perfectionistic and that's not always self-love. And if we're trying to control other people that usually doesn't work out so well. So it's also the blame game. So the control game and the blame game are part of this drama triangle. The goal is to get off of this triangle, but sometimes we've got some work to do before we actually are freed to be able to get to the surrender triangle, which we'll talk about in a minute. The victim is literally where it's feeling stuck. It's feeling like it's either victimizing itself or it constantly needs to feel as a need of rescue. The rescuer feels like it is the victim's job. So they both keep each other nicely employed. We would like both of them to be free. The persecutor, when we make ourselves a way around because if we're on one of these corners, we're on all of them. The persecutor is gets pissed off or is the one that is constantly operating out of anger or maybe even being a bit bullying. The bottom line under all of them is manipulation. Why? Out of safety. That's usually why we feel the need to manipulate, control or blame. Because there is some kind of judgment there as being held deep inside the psyche and ultimately we need to find freedom for that part. So understanding by asking questions of yourself how to get off this drama triangle is extremely freeing. So I invite you to take a look at this for yourself and where you may be operating from the drama triangle and look for ways to get off. I'm here to help you with that. The way to get off of it is to go on to what I was given as an answer, the surrender triangle. You want to work your way to letting go. You want to work your way to faith and trust. Whether you believe in a higher power or the creator, it really doesn't matter. We can all find faith and trust. There's plenty of evidence in our lives where things have worked out, where apparently we felt that it would never work out. And we have seen that things always usually end up working out just fine without our involvement. That's the faith and trust piece. And in order to be, you have to have those two in place, the being able to let go, letting things just fall off of you and not feel that you need to stay victimizing to yourself or stay in past patterns, truly being able to let yourself off the hook and others in order to get to faith and trust. When you have faith and trust, then you can find surrender, which is the ultimate gift of self-love. That's the road, that's the journey, and I'm here to help you take it. So if you're interested in this and more, I'm here for you. Please book a free 15-minute consult, and we can talk about this or anything else on your mind. Thank you.