 There's only a few days left for you to join my breakthrough six-week online course, the Martial Meditation Method. For the last 15 years I've been personally studying meditation and for the last 10 years I've been teaching guys in my live courses a system of meditation that allows you to dissolve your approach anxiety, your social anxiety to get out of your head into the present moment into your body and I'm really excited to finally announce that this is available to the general public, not just the guys that come on my very expensive live workshops. So if you want to find out all about the Martial Meditation Method and join me and a select group of men on this six-week journey of self-discovery, relaxation, balance and inner peace, click the link below or in the description and I'll see you on the first day of the course. Do you want to be the greatest lover that the women that you've been with has ever experienced in all her life? Of course you do. In this video I'm going to be expanding on the applications of meditation in terms of sex and sexuality. Now most men when they're thinking about improving themselves as a lover which is it's really awesome that guys are doing that at all in previous generations lots of men and lots of men around the world don't give a shit about whether they're a great lover or not they just want to get their rocks off. I do because I know that you're a highly elevated and evolved man because you're doing this course. Obviously you want to extend your own personal internal practice and be able to share that with your lovers to become a much more intuitive and skilled lover. And I think most men think that when they're looking at improving themselves in terms of their sexual skills that this is all about techniques. It's all about understanding special ways to massage the G-spot or twiddle the clitoris. There's this system called One Touch which is like some strange new pseudo-scientific sexual system where you have to rub the clitoris at this certain point just past one o'clock 500 times this way and 300 times this way and it's supposed to be some special technique. I mean perhaps it is and I think these kinds of technical understandings miss the point of what it means to be a great lover. Now I'm not saying that there are not technical aspects to being awesome in bed. There absolutely are. You need to have a fundamental understanding of female anatomy of generally where the clitoris is and how to apply pressure to it of things such as G-spot massage of erogenous zones of angles and when you're having sex positions, dirty talk all these things that are technical in their nature and this is not the subject of this video that's something for a whole other product which I'll certainly be releasing in the future something I've been working on for a long time actually but more important than having perfect sexual technique is understanding how to use your meditation your awareness, your presence in the bedroom or in the alleyway or wherever it is that you choose to be with your lovers because a man can be technically amazingly proficient he can know all the right moves but the problem is, firstly, is that women are not robots they're not all identical physiologically they don't all respond to the same stimulus and the same woman doesn't respond to the same stimulus depending on her mood, she'll change depending on her mood, depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle, depending on how aroused she is depending on the dynamic that she has with any given man so even if you know some special techniques that's not going to work if you try to apply it identically to every single woman and if you've got a special move that you know works all the time with all the ladies then I'm here to burst your bubble the truth is that most of the women you've been with have been faking it because if you're doing the same thing to every girl and they're all making the right noises it doesn't mean you're awesome it means that she perceives that you've got a sexual ego she perceives that you've got a lot of pride around your ability and your skills and you're doing your thing and she's like okay, he thinks he knows exactly what he's doing but he doesn't know my body he doesn't know my moods, my desires and therefore I don't want to upset his ego and so I'll pretend that I like it that can be kind of a shocking thing for many men to realize but if you want to be a great lover you need to put aside your ego you need to put aside your pride and you need to learn to use the presence and awareness that you've been learning throughout this course and then to apply it with a partner so what that means is firstly, set aside the idea that you need to be technically perfect and certainly that you need to have a bank of skills that you've learnt or that you have your toolkit and that's what you're going to apply to every woman understand that the truth and a spectacular lover is his ability to be present, responsive and in the moment with his lover because great sex happens moment by moment it doesn't happen when you're planning and that's something that I know I used to be guilty of and many men are guilty of is that when they get in the bedroom they have a set routine of things that they do or that they want to go through so I'm going to go down on the girl for a few minutes and then I'm going to do missionary and then I'm going to get a blowjob and it's all moving towards them coming and ejaculating at the end so what that means is if you're planning if you're trying to move through a sequence then where are you? Are you in the present moment? Of course not you're in your head you're thinking about the future you're projecting towards the future and as a result the woman perceives and feels that you're not with her women tend to be a lot more emotional and kind of dispersed in their sexuality men are often very centric on their cocks so we're focused in on our penises and on ejaculating for a woman to have great sex it's not so much about even if she does have an orgasm of course that's nice if she has one or more but a woman is going to perceive a really amazing sexual experience to be something that is full body that is immersive that is like a trance which is where she gets out of her own head gets into her body into an altered state of consciousness and that's something that great sex is great sex is a trance that you're sharing together it's an abnormal state of consciousness it's where both of you lose sense of time lose actually sense of your own personal ego and identity really amazing sex is when two people blend where the division between where you start and she starts blurs where you feel almost like your one organism this is the male and female essence entangling and going through this amazing kind of cosmic dance that's what awesome sex is a woman is going to walk away from a sexual experience with a guy that's like technically got her off he did the right things and he found what buttons to push on her and made her come she's going to feel satisfied by that but only as satisfied as she would with a vibrator really as opposed to a man that's there fully with her engaging with her in real time present with her with his eye contact with his touch responsive communicating even if she didn't have an orgasm coming out of that sexual experience she feels electric alive she feels sexy she feels like a goddess and that's the kind of experience that girls come back to over and over again