 I am blessed to wake up and hear the voices of my directors and producers. They are very efficient and very wonderful to hear. Guys, thanks. Thanks for making us what we are. Thank you for being so amazing. Thank you for inspiring us. We owe you a show, literally. So this is why in the morning we run from 7 to 10 in the morning. It is amazing to go to the STV, Channel 376. And yeah, my name is Valentine or at Color Me Val. You can find us on Facebook at Y254. Or at Y254 channel. Hashtag is Y in the morning. It is a Queen's Wednesday. So in our Nisha, we have Girl's Talk, which means to go to the motion. But if you go to the motion, you will be able to walk in our medist. Alright? So today, the topic is can a woman stick to one man? Previously, on Man Crush Monday, we had the tables turned. And apparently, just go check us out on YouTube at Y254 channel, okay? So now, today, today, today is about girls, alright? The Queen's out there. But also, King, if you have an opinion, please don't be shy. Alright? One more time. Y254 on Facebook at Y254 channel. Hashtag is Y in the morning. Thank you for being here. Thank you. Yeah, how are you? You guys look amazing. What's your name, sir? Thank you. My name is Kikemoy Juma. Wow. I'm a student. My name is Kizungu. I'm so African. I come from the way I do my stuffs. So, really? Wow. So, what's like a short reference to you or to your name? Oh, my name is in a short reference. Like Kip. People call me Kip. People call me Kip. I'm an Emperor. I like the Emperor. I like the Emperor. I like the Emperor. You look nice. Alright, so tell us what you do. I'm a student at the University of Nairobi doing mass communication. And also, I'm a fashionista. And a CEO at Ribbon Empire. Okay. Do you go to class like this? Yeah, I choose what to wear. What's your name? Hey! Wow. Okay. Alright. Hi Queen. How are you? Hi. How are you? I'm fine. Thank you. I'm representing the girls. So, my name is Kezi Akatemi. And I'm a student also at the University of Nairobi doing journalism. Yes. Welcome. You're not also a fashionista? No, I'm not a fashionista but you see I'm not doing so bad. I can see. I can see. What's your name? Okay, hi. Hi. My name is Leonida Johan. I'm also a student at Daystar University. Where? I'm studying Accounts. When your cool kid up a cup of saapa. Alright, welcome to the show. Thank you. Do you have social media handles? No. Really? That's so special. Do you guys have social media handles? Yes. What's yours? Facebook, Kezia Nduku and on Instagram, Nduku Kezia. And you are? Keep coming with Juma and Ibra keeps Ribbon. So, sir, who you compare to, it's a bit too much. Why? She's exclusive. I don't want to watch TV. Do you think, honestly, that a woman can have one man? According to me personally, I'm a specialist. I don't have a single partner. Why? One. You know ladies are very expensive. So, it's like three guys are to go. There's no deal to make up. You know ladies are very expensive. Just say something. What's your final decision? So, first of all, I'd like to say that you have to be on the lookout for the story. Yes. And second, you have to be on the lookout for the story. Yes. So, at first, you have to be on the lookout for the real. So, you have to have advice. No, no, no, no, no, no. I'm not agreeing. You're not? That's what I'm saying. I'm not trying to be a man. I'm not trying to be a man. You're not a man. I'm not trying to be a man. I'm saying all that, you see. So, you'll have to be a man. And you will have to hang out with this person. Because of this reason. There's so much of us, there's so much love, we can give it to many. We have many. You can give me real stories. Like 3 of them, and they don't know each other. And then most of all, I'm talking about experience. Oh my gosh! What did they do? Oh my, what can I do? What happened? For me, I was there When I saw Malooks She wants to be associated with you Because she's doing this to me All over the social media platforms I posted You understand? In real sense, I'm just there to As if I'm the one who posted Because I'm the one who's hanging out That's her there But she's just there She wants to be associated with you There's no communication So you understand There must be something wrong somewhere I know Please Talk to me Do you agree or disagree? No, I completely disagree First of all, I think a woman can be with one guy As long as this guy understands you We have needs You were saying that A woman would have one for hair Another one for outings If I get a man who's doing all that Who's doing my makeup Who's doing my hair Who's doing my outings Who's doing everything I need Then why would I go outside And get another person for what? But what are the statistics really Aunty of the people who can afford you Currently In fact, if you want to do it Even if you want to do it Please come and join us on Facebook Just tell me You look a certain type of way And no one should huddle Against any of you So if you want to play this game Raise your hand Exactly You're supposed to know What does this person want Before you come approach me Be my friend first Know what I want from a guy If it's a relationship Know what I really want From a relationship And then if you can Up your game to that level Then yes we can But if you're not Don't just go there Because you'll not be enough I'll be left that way Friendship is a bit tricky She said that Friends are friends It's the 21st century Come on Okay girls Nowadays don't do that They don't have any influence If you want to do it You can do it with your hair You can do it with your hair You know what I mean You can do it with your hair Ask me Last couple of times You're all about texting I love you Good night So that will drive her To get someone else When will I be able to say I love you I'll be able to say I love you Mommy tell me what you want Okay what I can say In a relationship There must be a perseverance Whereby Yes I know I need make up I need to eat I need new clothes I need to look like Other chicks hot But If the guy that I'm having Isn't that capable I have to understand Whereby I can also support him And he can also support me Whereby we all levelize it It's not about We're not getting married No no no It's not about getting married Why is he building up You have to hang up baby Okay I'm not going to go to jail In fact It's arguable that Dating Your dating period That's the time you're supposed To be spoiled Yes I know I need all the things in life Were overall they make up But something It's okay It's okay But also have another one to help When you draw a term You can see that I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like I'm like Fine I'm like I'm like I'm like For a right I'm like I'm like I'm like That's it Assistant, assistant producer, assistant producer, director, assistant director. So, I don't know what to say, but I don't know what to say about the child. Assume it's Anna. You see, the way she's saying it is that when you make up, when you have food, when you're hungry, I'm not your parent in the first place. Do you understand? Wow. Bonshada Mekla. No, no, no. It's okay. You're not my parent. I'm not doing each other's favor. Yes, you're dating. In that process, you're dating. No, no, no. This stuff and help and material stuff should come as a way of appreciation. You understand? I feel like I need to take my girl somewhere. What's on him? You understand? I feel like my girl at a car. What's on him? It should not be like, I want this. That's how it is. You know, you start being paranoid, you know, around people like, No, I've seen you've made money. I need this. I need to do this at this date. We are only in a relationship. Yes, yes, we are in a relationship. But it's not a must, I tell you, I need money to buy makeup. You need to think. Wow. You need to think. Ongodja, Ongodja, Ongodja. Wait, the topic is getting heavy. And that's how I like it. We like to loosen up things a bit before we get to the crux of the matter. Now, we've prepared a couple of slides for you and we want to use that as a guideline. And first and foremost, we are going to describe who a loyal girl is or who a ride or die is. I have come to an agreement. A loyal girl is one that can hold you down. She doesn't talk to other guys. Ha, ha, ha, lol. Only wants you is honest and doesn't lead you on. One more time, a loyal girl is one that can hold you down. She doesn't talk to other guys. Only wants you is honest and does not lead you on. And then second, we have a ride or die. So originally, this phrase was, Ongodja, my bike, because these guys who have bikes and everything, so it's either you ride with us or you die. But now, it's, you will ride any problems, through any problems, problems, Lord. That's including incarceration. I'm a being broke. So you go through that or you die trying. So that's what I ride. I don't know what I ride. So generally, this is what we're working with. That's a level of loyalty that is demanded of females. Alright, so guys, why do women cheat? Why do you think women cheat? We have like seven reasons, but let me hear it for you first. Why do you think women cheat? Okay, honestly. Okay, actually, also men do cheat. It's not only the women who cheat. It's not your number one, but we also cheat. It's not the women who cheat. It's the women who cheat. Okay. For example, I need makeup. Then I've told him several times, and it's something that he needs to think, that my lady wants this and this. But he's delaying. And I'm moving with some other chicks. I'm seeing how they are. And he was the one who promised that he will take care of me. He will pamper me. Then if he can't manage my demands, then why should they continue staying with him? You outsource. Yes. Okay. What I can say is that, first of all, if it's very rare for a woman to cheat, but if she does, probably it will be without potential. It will be like the next person who she's gonna... So it's not like guys cheat with just anyone. You go meet someone, you cheat, and you go back like nothing ever happened. But for a woman to cheat, it's just someone she has not for a while, not just someone she has met. So it has to be. Maybe it's something that has gone on for so long that has been bothering her. And you're probably not doing anything. So she's probably trying to move on. To move on to like... Maybe it's hard to just let go. So she probably goes on with somebody else. But it's actually not cheating. She's in another relationship most probably. That's what it is. That is a happy two relationships. No, moving from one to another. Boyfriend. Wow. They are co-boyfriends. They are interlapping before my judgment. I feel like confessing things, but now I might find myself in a little bit of trouble so let me just hold it in. Why do you think women cheat before we get to the sides? According to me, and then I'm from first experience, at times women are so demanding. They are too demanding. They want your time. And all your time. Not just a bit of it. They want everything. They just want to share everything. And then there's something about appreciating people around you. You know I'm not surrounded by men all the time. I have girls. You understand? I'm not all the time that I'm dating them. I'm dating them all the time. There's nothing bad. You can't flirt. How do you think you can flirt? You're flirting in the sense of appreciating each other. But as I said, you're rock. You're looking good today. Actually because you're looking good today. You understand? So when a girl finds that she's paranoid. She has an issue. You understand? So I demand your time. I demand your cash. And like the way I receive my makeup, when I'm still in my makeup, I'm going to marry you. You understand? I'd rather date an African girl. You're so natural. Okay. I miss you too. Oh my God! I don't believe it's true. The makeup thing. It's the one providing that makeup. It doesn't mean that you don't have money. There's a time you don't have money and there's a time you don't have money. When I make up with food, I don't have money. Exactly. I'm also underage. You're not going to use it. I'm not going to use it. I'm not going to use it. But you'll have to update. You understand? Yes. So when I'm going to update, I'll stand by. I'm not going to be a girl. You understand? I'm a girl, you have to understand me. So by the time I get to wear that makeup, that means it's there of us. No, it's not. I'm going to marry you. So I'm going to make her stand away. So I'm going to marry you. January, I'm going to go there. Feb is going to be Valentine's Day. He's going to be married to him. So he's going to be Valentine's Day. If he gets married, he'll have date with me. So now, she has date with who? Mar undercover. Mar undercover. Mar undercover. That's a good one. I can't好了. No, I'm going to tell you about it. I'm going to tell you. What I know is that Mar is going to go to love me. Mar undercover. Mar undercover. Mar undercover. But after that, I'll marry her. Mar undercover. So I'm going to marry her. Mar undercover. Mar undercover. I'll have to appreciate you but I want to go to that extent I don't want to impress you and yet we are not we are not settled we are not we are not tied to the house illegally oh my gosh I'll sacrifice everything I like no like this lady to already be engaged we've engaged each other so what you're trying to say I can't say for that girl what you're trying to say is that dating should be just not so nice but then you're going to be nice when you marry me that's what you're saying when you understand me and you understand my capabilities we're able to move on and that's what I'm going to be able to understand I have to support you now we've heard what he thinks he thinks it's because we are bit demanding she thinks it's because we are moving on it is a we are graduating from the previous in fact Muambe or to Senaga X it's just internship we're given contract they just go with the load so now we are going to work through or walk through these lines number one why women cheat they feel unappreciated neglected or ignored seeking an external situation that validates them so you have Bay so here you're a CEO you're a student you're a fashionista that is a lot of things to be so you're a busy man now you want also Bay to be there and wait for you to finish being a fashionista a student and a CEO but we get lonely I want someone to talk to I want someone to help me withstand the January heat or February heat so I will outsource and then you will come back but I'm not sure how do you feel about this as much as I'm a student and a CEO of course that doesn't mean that I'm going to confine myself I have a partner I know I have a partner I won't play her so I'll try my best that's for a fact so I'll try my best to make sure I'm part of everything that I'm talking about and I appreciate her but I'm not going to demand you're not going to command me around and I'm not going to assume that you're going to kill me so I'll edit it so I'll show you I'll text you communication must be there this communication most of the ladies want to cheat there's no proper communication in any relationship there must be a communication to you guys to move on so I'll make sure to communicate so I can be a fashionista and I'll be a fashionista so I can be a fashionista because you have a model on your hand to make sure I'm a to make a statement that I'm booked already so that is one of many, many ladies you're going to be a pender you're going to be smiling too much and being paranoid you girls are too many talk to me the girls are too many but you have already chosen the one whom you're comfortable with you have to understand me like Ibrahim Shindwa but before we engaged we had already understood me and I understood whenever we can levelize whenever there is, you give me as a boy child enough of a boy child support what happens when I'm a boy we can talk about it see what I'm talking about always good to be putting food on the table the past time I'm agreeing with him about communication communication is very important if you communicate to me that this time around it's like this because it's not all the time somebody is always having money so if you don't have money or you're having some challenges you can talk to me I'm your partner so I have the right to know you're going through this and this not just wake up one day you're just quiet I'm going to have questions and I'm going to have my answers and probably one of the questions I'll have is I'm not that important to you like I don't deserve to know anything that goes around you so you just decide to keep quiet and you assume that you should just fill in the gaps so if you communicate then I can understand but if you don't communicate then let me direct this question to you so for example boy child he is a health care person so I'm going to have a child so if you have a child I'll tell you that I'm a mother and I'm a child and I'm a child and I'm a child and I'm a child and I'm a child and I'm a child what is it that you want? ok just the way she has said that he doesn't need to wake up just in the morning he's just a mother too but I'm going to have a child let us not lie but I'm a child and I know how my attitude is and I don't feature anything so he has to be open and I'm going to tell my lady that I'm a child and I'm part of that situation I'm going to tell her that I'm a child and I'm going to tell her from yesterday that I'm a child it's not like I'm a child there is a bomb here don't try me there are many women but you see she is saying that I'm a parent I'm a victim just in case I'm a victim just in case we have plans I'm just a size help is on my neck I need to pay this and this but sir you have to pay to show me that you have a vacation I have to show you that you have a vacation and this thing has come up so you don't have to worry because if I'm not going to pay we are both in trouble we are in a relationship we are also in trouble how we perceive how to say this very maturely quite us so when a big girl and a big boy really care about each other they come together in a special dance lol so this is different for guys and girls when girls say they want closeness to be close to you to be intimate they want to plan for their future what do you think we should do together when we are together we are both in trouble so if we feel that you don't have that level of intimacy to give me I will outsource is this something that you agree with talk to me it's true I would love to do that why do you think men have a problem giving intimacy for real many of them that's their attitude because I may not know what is going inside his mind what he is thinking that's true now I can't get inside his mind so if he can't talk to me and I am being naive I want to be able to know I am also an angel to know everything and if she keeps asking I will also get bored it depends when we come to matters of intimacy it depends on how you understand things you understand you need to treat a man you need to pump up this man so that you can make sure whatever you are giving you will have full dose I am not talking about full dose this was about the girl child how has it become about her they are always like that wait a minute wait a minute how have you switched that script as a boy child I have a lot of things as a visionary person there are a couple of things I want to achieve we also have things that you want to achieve thank you there are things there are goals I have to achieve you have a dream personally you will only get that dominant lady sitting there talking about intimacy all those things of course they have to come to make a change this is the first century thanks for moving we need to achieve our goals as a person before marriage we have a goal after we are married so we need to think intimacy will come of course I love you imagine all that hype that was around Valentine's Day now we are saying that women like that occasionally it should not just be one out of 12 months that hype for Valentine's Day let me take you out let me buy you something Valentine's day I don't know really what happened and we had your report that you had reported it was 16 years it's not like that that's the kind of it that's the kind of special attention I'm talking about is that too much to ask women want attention and as a man please feel free to speak out they are weak no no no women become the head and tail first of all it's about them this relationship is not mine it's his it's a relationship just the way you are saying for you intimacy you should get full dose I also need that time with you for me it's different maybe for you it's just that one and it's a good one but for me it might be I want us to talk just have a little time together but for you it's just about you guys just make it it's all about you which is so wrong everything revolves around you guys by the time I understand the type of lady I'm dating I'm good to go I feel there must be that communication but if you're not supporting me you remember this is a two way traffic there's nothing I'm doing for myself I left one thing that should be in your mind it's not that everything you want and fulfill that's okay and we understand who is going to do it if you don't know that's why we are tossing okay wait sorry I interrupted hi Val I can stick to one man only and if only he is a real man what is a real man baby you are 360 degrees satisfying it happens that no one knows who is the man baby who hurt you if I don't know I'll be fresh then I'm ready to share her with a spongebob and please let her eat that's a real guy and who is Kevo Kevo and Briah come to the conference so maybe tell them we'll educate them a little comment conference of course there are a lot of things one how to teach a lady then why are you fighting us here you see comment called friends here we are taught to be independent you see when there are these ladies when they enter your life they want to take over they want even to control your friends that cannot happen it cannot happen I should be in charge but then that doesn't mean that I'm going to suppress your feelings it's an open relationship it's a democracy for us to move on it's a democracy you tell me Beb this is not right we do it with that thing but if I know there are some benefits I'll try to convince you I don't know I don't understand ok men's conference continues clearly alright the next slide why women cheat at Y-5 on Facebook Y-2-5 on Twitter they are overwhelmed by the needs of others what is the situation ok as a female first of all your woman and then your daughter then it depends if your sister if your cousin if your niece if your boss if your intern if your whatever but at some point there are levels that you can't you can't you can't you can't you can't I'm not in the kitchen do you feel that all these things that the world demands of us it was not far enough to outsource actually yes it could be true because like most of the things especially now when you get to marriage the woman is actually supposed to do like almost everything you take care of the man you take care of your home you take care of the children it all revolves around you and remember both of you are working probably in fact Melkuja home at the same time you left probably when earlier than him before the the sun was rising but he's hungry and he wants food yes and other things too service and he expects to come home find the kids are okay the home is clean and you should be in a good mood and you should be not yes and that's when he comes home and puts himself on the sofa with the phone online wow you need to help your woman and you've moved in with him there are some of things that you're supposed to do to your guy according to the African setup modernity in an African setup a woman is supposed to do a couple of things it's not that we're subjecting you to some things that was now in our nation there are things you supposed to do as a woman because if you're not going to do that we will do that for you let's say for instance took on a medical home and this maid is not that bad but of course I'm not looking at her there are a couple of things to me just before you finish we're talking about how women are treated differently by how they dress because of their body type so maybe a skirt fitting a qr the class size will look different than what she's claimed so already you've stopped thinking about who you moved in with you're looking at the one who is helping you see as my woman as a lady I'm going to join update there are a couple of like you're supposed to cook for me or rather to cook for us you understand this is still dating yeah that is the kind of movie so there are things you're supposed to do for me like oh we can cook together what if you're a chef now yeah that is even better I cook for you if I'm a chef you have to help me is it a movie so that means this lady knows much about me what do you mean she knows a lot of you what are you saying really hold it hold it that same logic at your personables that's that's a bit too intimate for us but she's not hanging so no the thing is you need to be close to your man you need to be close to your man if you're not close attention so that there's that bond like in once I fail your bond demands I'll have to address the issue guys we see why we're outsourcing now we're already talking about the boy child and she has to make sure she's there she's supportive we've created the bond so okay guys it's getting hard in here so before we go to next side we have a couple of questions hi Val that guy you have there sounds good but looks like I can't trust him at the high Val, can you ladies also stop sticking to one man let me tell me what you think about this so and that is the nature of it is also the centuries in it and that is the nature that we are looking at do you envision a world where we can have one in fact there's a culture I don't know if it's India one of those places in the world that a woman marries more than one husband like there are two men in the house that one is called brothers it's happening in Kenya already my friend their future is with us yes yes they live together the second husband likes the woman because she's hey that's the reason there's a story I read about twins in South Africa that that married the same woman yeah All right, they are lonely apparently women are lonely and seek a connection to fill the void I'm Did they go out of the country? Yeah, did they all go to Russia? No, they're just watching game for a few hours and come back But we're here saying we are lonely for the first time I I actually disagree with the female because I think The problem is Women when they get into a relationship They make the the world just about them and their man They don't have a life outside that they forget about the female friends If this guy's goes to watch football in whatever you also have your own friends You can go for a massage or you can go for a gossip, you know with your girlfriend So you wouldn't feel lonely But the problem is that you only one like your life revolves that man So if this man is not there now, you're feeling lonely You should also have a you should also have your own life Yeah, have friends who are female that you can hang out with this and you've insisted on that female part What advice would you like to give ladies? Okay, just like I couldn't win any friends Anyway, it's too easy to take care of or to just cut to take care of you You'll you'll even end up killing yourself if you just eat lonely like that. It's true. It's so you need to have friends Yeah, if the if your man has gone out to watch football or whatever You go Maya and watch you can even have a little party in the house. Call your guy We'll see invite cable Girl friends, I'm assuming all the guys have gone to watch football. So If whatever time he comes and a party buddy sitting in the area, he can join us You are Introducing let me tell you something was done at the something that It's not even there You're there telling someone how your relationship is so great. Yeah. He does this for me In fact, use it to learn. That's true. Why? Oh I want to meet him and see if it's legit. I need to check him out because I'm your girl Okay, meet me Inside somewhere Well, all right next slide guys, we are running off time. I think we're having way too much fun. Okay, the next slide is um We expect too much and this is what we started with the king or among us started with this We expect too much and they don't get it if they don't get it. They seek attention elsewhere So if I'm asking him for it doesn't really have to be monetary things at any buy a kia too Hosting by a new L. No if I want To hang out with you on sundays, but sunday is your one day And I feel that I really want to be with someone on sunday and that after too much a shift Your sunday took a free. Are you so you look for someone when I fit? It's not usually looking see that the difference between men and women You guys look out look for someone to outsource you go hand Number one Number two You know one thing with men if your girl may be a corner issues or something Of course men to corner besties They are our friends no strings attached Understand so come on. She will always consult I'm a come on. It'll be due to one on one It'll be due to meet an hour bestie at least sort of bad but at best because we are dating fellow women So let me tell you how they work it out some few things in a relationship For me, I'm very concerned Like how do you work out this Because I'm not a lady so see live with some things that you don't go so let's see mother bestie at an elec But something do comes in your mind A bad thought that that friend that man friend that one There is something between that is love. Yes, that is love And there's no love without jealousy. I need to admire my woman. I want to be jealous. You understand I did that time but come on issue Is the right time to approach a friend? And then ask because you're not a man So you don't know I might be facing some issues now And that's the point that's your goals up to support me, but you see most girls I'm I think the problem would be if you get an issue and you keep it to yourself And you don't tell me then you expect me to feel in the gap And you assume that I'm going just to to say that We have a talent of jumping into conclusion Okay You You know one thing to come out with ladies Some of them see what There's lack of creativity Lack of creativity in a letter issue No, you can't tell me that you are lonely that you're doing that It simply means you lack creativity If you are lonely get something to do And you must be you have to find something you have to be busy. I'd like yes Wow, they're telling me time is almost over So, I'm sorry. So we'll run through the last couple of sides So another reason why women cheat it it could be a response to an earlier trauma experienced Okay, and maybe the last time it could be yes already it could be a response to an earlier trauma And they are not satisfied at home I don't think it makes sense One woman please You know do something in the house So me like as a man of today we don't do They get online we do online When I come to that house, there's no what's happening. There's no nothing I just give you Uh-huh Okay Trust you And I say We can do this Okay, we're having our closing remarks now, so your your last thoughts as you my thoughts Women try to up your game. I love Piaz. He's a boy child to my app game. Cabisac. We are very we are good bunny In that game to know how to change my friends to give you everything give you our time Now you're not going to force us. You're not going to command us. Hey, hey Negotiate in in short All right, your short remarks Short remarks and women is the if this guy is not up to your level that channel Don't you don't have to cheat you can always just start over again get someone somebody who who fits your level That's what I can say Okay, all I can say is not what it's not what you learn that can make that can be able to Enable you to pass but what you can be able to remember say this guy isn't suitable for you There's no need to hurt him. Just tell him pen you mean if he's here is enough Just Love yourself when you first love yourself, it's very easy to express love Elsewhere and Wait, that is the penny for my thoughts. I don't know. I don't know how that works when it's in reverse My name is valentine art color without thank you for staying with us on queens wednesday We have had a blast. We also have a repeat from 2 to 4 pm So please if you kind of missed some of it, you can do that Or you could catch it on youtube at white 54 channel again on facebook We are at white 254 and on twitter at white 54 channel. So i'll see you and i'll see you Five four imagine