 Let's see the hell the gentleman get this set up. Thank my microphone is on. Popped in a couple minutes early. I might be a couple minutes early. Don't know how long I'll be tonight cause I haven't ate dinner yet. And my wife bringing me something home to eat. So I might be getting on out of here soon tonight. As you know, we still going through a whole lot in the world. And, but I just want to pop in and do a little Q and A cause I've been getting a lot of emails and messages about it. So wanting to pop in and do a Q and A for the blessed tribe just on whatever may be on your heart. And I'm not sure how long I'll be on here tonight but I thank you for joining me. Make sure you put the hashtag Q in front of your question. And I try to catch it if I can. What to do if child's father tells you he doesn't respect you. You don't do anything. You know, keep doing what you're doing. You can't ever let what somebody else says about you change the way you see yourself. Have you thought about making a my mentor like platform for speakers? Maybe those of us who have completed your speakers course if not, do you recommend one? Yes, have thought about that. We working on that. And you know, the only thing we're speaking is it's much harder to get speaking engagements than it is to get coaching clients. So with the speaking one, it's a little tough because if you charge, a lot of people might be spending but not getting booked. And then if it's free, then you've got a whole bunch of riff raff on there. So that one will have to be kind of hands-on, selected. But shout out to my moderators who made it on here tonight. Thank you. They kind of helped me keep the chat clear. So don't take offense when you see extra commentary being removed from the chat. They kind of helped me so I could just see the questions. Cause I wanna try to answer as many questions as I can. I've had a friend for almost two years. He's been there emotionally. And at the beginning, we didn't want a relationship. We both can't let each other go so we can move on. Well, you can't let him go. Now, if he come around and he bump into his wife, he gonna drop you like a bad habit. And you're gonna be very upset. You're gonna be really hurt. When you see how hard you hit that ground, he gonna drop you like a bad habit. You hear me? Follow not the sky like that because you can't let him go. Men built different. If he wanted something with you and it's been two years, y'all wouldn't just be friends. Trust me when I tell you. So you might wanna start work easing your heart, easing your heart back right now. You know, working on some separation and really understanding what's going on because he mess around and meet somebody. You gonna get caught off guard. What do you think about when we want to wait till marriage? How do we know that the man will be faithful until then? You don't know that he will be faithful until then, but what you have to look at is just everything else and his character. And what I always tell y'all is that the more love is a moral act. Faithfulness is a moral act. So it takes morals. So the less morals a person has, the more likely they are to be unfaithful. And so however you define morals and values, when you look at this person, the more they curse, the more they dream, the more they gamble, the more they're into the nasty movies, the lower their morals and values are, the more likely they are to be unfaithful. So if you say you're waiting until marriage and this man is reading his Bible, he's praying, he's not into the nasty movies, he don't even curse really, and he living like that, now the chances of him being faithful are much greater than a man doing the opposite. So that's what you just have to be, you gotta look at the things that he's not even saying. Natasha, God bless you. Now thank you for that blessing means a lot. I know it's a tough time. So to get a blessing like that, I really thank you. I've been enjoying Mrs. Wright and a woman's influence. Thanks for this wealth of knowledge. Hey, thank you for reading the books and investing in yourself like that. Tony, what's up King? Should you write a book on your niche or your life story first? If they intertwine, then a book is kind of both. A lot of times a book is your story, but it's teaching lessons from your story. And because a lot of times your life story is what determines the lane you go into as a coach and a speaker and a coach. So, I mean, an author. So you can break down your story, but in every part of your story, there's a lesson, there's a moral of the story from that part. So that's how you section out your chapters. And you can combine it because to be honest with you, a book is really hard to write when you're just doing one or the other. If you're just giving advice, it's not gonna go very far. If you're just telling stories, it may not go very far in the sense of how many pages you can complete. So you kind of combine the two. Yeah, I see I'm gonna miss a lot of questions here. So I'm gonna try to just grab the question that's right there at the screen when I finish and then I'll scroll up if I can. So y'all try to kind of time when I'm done talking. What is your opinion about dating coworkers? I hear you on not searching. So I took myself off dating sites, but a lot of men approached me at work. It's a personal choice. It's a risk. It's a gamble, you know. So you have to look at it like, you gotta ask yourself, if the relationship doesn't work out, will you be devastated to the point that you don't wanna go to work? If you feel like you can date somebody, break up with them, if it doesn't work out and still go to work every day and be okay, then it may be worth a shot. And you may have to do enough deductive reasoning before picking the person you're gonna give a chance to because you can't be known as loose Buddhist Sally on the job, you're in debt with every coworker and then people assuming you lying down with every coworker, that's not gonna be a good look. So be mindful of that now. Guy says no real man will be okay with his girlfriend roommateing with two guys and if he is, he gets no P or he is cheating thoughts. He's a hundred percent right. He's a hundred percent right. And I, you know, he worded it a little strong, he worded it a little strong, but he is not lying to you. It is as no real man in the world. And it's not even about the woman, it's just men know men. So a man listening, if you go, if you roommateing with two guys, your man, he'd rather have you move on in with him. Even he standing his mama extra in guest room or his room he grew up in, he'll have, he'll rather you move on in with him than to have two guys roommates. Now, unless them two guys like guys, now that might be a little different situation, but other than that new, it's gonna, you're gonna be hard pressed for a man to be all right with that. Yeah, he might be out there now, but. Ashley Beverly, God bless you. Is it unreasonable to not date any man with kids at all? Period. I have none myself. No, it's not unreasonable. It's not unreasonable, is it? It's a lot of men without kids. You know, a lot of the guys that I'm thinking about right now on top of my head don't have kids. So, you know, now, yeah, a lot of them in their 20s, late 20s or early 30s, so it'll depend on your age now, but it shrinks the dating pool, but your standards are your standards. How do you bring up making time without seeming needy to be to a very busy guy? Well, you can just mention it, you know, in normal conversation. You can just mention it. It's not like you need to get a permission slip. It's not like you need clearance from the government. You know, don't try to, don't make it deep. Deeper than it has to be. Just in the middle, in the conversation, when he calls you, oh, great to hear from you. Oh, okay, yeah, how everything going? How everything going? Y'all just talking and talking and things. Get a little slow. And you just say, you know, I've been meaning to talk to you, you know. I really feel like we need to spend more time. You know, if we're gonna be building, I feel like we need to make a real effort to spend more time just like that. Just feel it out and just slip it right on in there. And he probably gonna have a problem with it regardless. So you still got to get it off your chest. When a man knows that the woman is his wife and he will change for her, does he know instantly or does it happen over time when he's ready? He knows early. It don't take a man that long to know because it's not that much that he's looking for. You know, so once he's talking to you, he feels your energy. A man could feel if you're easy to deal with, meaning if you're bitter and you're broken and you like to debate and argue and you know, you arguing about little stuff, you know, is a stale yellow light, what you're supposed to drive through or you're supposed to come to a stop because it's about to turn red. You know, you arguing about little stuff, then he's gonna know that it's gonna be climbing up the rough side of the mountain if he marries you. He sees that you cool, you chill, you know, you intelligent in your conversation, you got a good spirit. Then he sees how you live your life. So it doesn't really take a man long to know if you are wife material. It may, especially if he's talking to you every day. I knew in my first real conversation with my wife, meaning we sat down to talk and we ended up talking six hours. I knew when I got up that she could be my wife, not that she would be my wife, but that she could be my wife, that she was wife ready. So a man knows. See, Pneasie, God bless you. Hi, Tony. I did charity work with this guy and I am attracted to him. This was the first time I met him. We've been talking and texting. He hasn't asked me out, should I continue? Well, I'm guessing you live somewhere that, you know, everything is open back up. He may be a little nervous about being coughed on, you know, and not sure who are you still coming in contact with, but he could just be taking his time to get to know you, you know. Now, if y'all been talking more than a month on texting, talking in your city where you are is open up. Now that's something to worry about. But if it's been a week or two, you know, that's understandable. But now once you get into like, past a month and things opening up and he hasn't asked you out, then that lets you know that he's entertaining multiple women or he's already in something like pretty real. Gina, God bless you. Now, is it normal for men aged 35 to 40 to be certain they don't want kids? Is this a red flag? A man that, oh, he know what he want. 35 years, it's different if the man was 15 saying, I don't think I want children when I get older. 18, 25, man 35, 40, what come out of his mouth, best to believe it. And it's only a red flag if you don't want, you know, I mean, if you want children, it's only a red flag. But, you know, some men just don't want the headache because some men thinking about money, how am I gonna provide, how am I gonna give of me? Some men will raise so cold, they don't know how to be warm. And some men equate their net worth with their self-worth. So if he is already scarcity minded and it's hard enough just taking care of himself, he's gonna be thinking about, well, how can I provide for children? And if a man tells you that he doesn't want children and you want children, then you need to run. Because the thing that men, the mistake that a lot of men will make is they'll do the act that it takes to have children. But if he said he doesn't want children and you end up getting pregnant, now he gonna be thumping your children in the head. He's going to be letting your children roll off the changing table. Yeah, from three, four feet in the air, he gonna be letting the baby roll off the changing table. He is going to be thumping the child up until the age of two, two and a half till the baby could fully talk and say, daddy thumped me in the head. And the little Boston bruise that you see, it's gonna come from him, but he's gonna make it look like the baby just bumped into the wall. And so what you have to understand is 35 to 40, when a man tell you something, this goes across the board. When a man says, I don't want to be married. If you want to be married, take off running. Gotta go. When a man says, I don't want to have children. If you want to have children, gotta go. When a man says, I don't believe in God, I'm gonna hate this. And you believe in God, gotta go. The problem with a lot of women is a lot of women try to change a man and try to say, oh, that's how he feel right now. Wait, I put this thing on him. Put this here on him, he gonna change his mind. NG, God bless you, now. How can I deal with a man that compares you to his mother and his exes? You're not gonna be able to deal with him. You're not gonna be able to deal with him. That relationship over before it even started. That man right there, you're gonna need stock in excedrin' to deal with that man. You're gonna have to get a job at the excedrin' factory so that you can still peel the deal with that man. That man gonna be such a headache for you and your life. Anytime a man go to comparing you to his mama and his exes, listen, you got to run as fast as you can run. I wouldn't even give him another phone call, you hear me? Cause that right there, he all the way lost. Trust me, trust me when I tell you not. Trust me when I tell you. I'm gonna tell you that now. Sanctuary, God bless you now. God bless you for getting them books. Do men view women with less children as more ideal when looking for a wife? Or is that a personal preference? Will Mr. Wright be okay with being a stepfather? Well, Mr. Wright for you will be okay with being a stepfather. Mr. Wright for you. Now, typically the thing with a man, typically what this is is it depends on the woman. It depends on how he views a woman. Like if that man think that woman is fine and that she look fine like wine and look so good he Muslim and he'll eat swine. If that man feel like that about that woman, she can have a football team of kids and he finna be the best step daddy. Hey, little Bobby, how you doing, Bobby? Woo, yeah, let's go. He's gonna be the absolute best. Now, if he thinks you average, if you don't look like his wife, then that's when the amount of children you have come into play. Because men are visual creatures. It's a sexual attraction before it's emotional or anything else. So that's why you'll see some women who got four, five children. But she looked like to that man, she looked like what he wanted, like his dream woman, whatever that might be, freckles, tall, short, you know, slim, voluptuous, petite, whatever that may be for him. He finna be, he gonna treat them children just like they came from him. BNLM, God bless you now. I have been waiting on your return so that I can sow into you. I want you to know that you never have to apologize to us for your absence. We appreciate you and definitely understand. I'm always praying for the gas. Hey, God bless you now. God bless my heart, God bless you. Apple signs, bless you. Thank you for sharing knowledge, many blessings to you. Hey, I really appreciate that. Now that showed enough of blessing now. Now it sounded like my wife back now, so the night gonna be a little shorter than normal because I got a little headache on me because I ain't ate in a few hours. So the night I'm only gonna have about 10 more minutes on here tonight. So I apologize for this being short, but I want to pop in. I'm gonna try to make it on here tomorrow night too, unless they do something else to us that just steal my heart. I almost have a heart to get on here today. They still out here doing the wrong. Boy, I say, boy, they ever trying to break me down. My questions was about your choice of shirts. Are they deliberate? If so, how? Choice of shirts. I don't know what you mean. I don't know if you talking to me about a shirt. If you talking about like these shirts, then I think that'll be almost self-explanatory, but before I got these little shirts made, this was just a random idea. I just wore black T-shirts. And the reason why, because I didn't want the video to be about me because I come on here with all the swagoo. You'll be looking at my designer more so than listening to the message. So I used to just wear black T-shirts, but now I got me some little cheap T-shirts with my companies on there. And so I just wear these. It's like my uniform, like going to work. And so I got a stack of 10 or 20 of these right here. Then a self-love you. I got 10 or 20 at old. And then caveats and nuances. I got 10 or 20 at old. So they just my work uniform. Small 1989, God bless you. And so this also, now my mentor, this is somewhere where everybody on here need to go. Everybody on here need to be on my mentor.life because you need a coach. You need somebody you could talk to. So you need to go hire you a coach. If you are a coach or a mentor, then you need to go sign up to be a coach. If you haven't taken the life coach certification, then you need to visit TonyGaxonAcademy.com and get certified. And eventually you're gonna get booked. It might not get booked right away, but eventually gonna get booked. Miss true music, God bless you now. A guy blocked me for a misunderstanding. It's been four months and now he unblocked me and apologized. I accepted his apology, but not sure what to do. Don't do anything. Don't do, you accepted his apology. He apologized, you accepted his apologies. It's all over. It's all over. You know, just keep going. Cause when he block you, that's a nail in the coffin. Like just keep on going about your business cause men don't even block like that. That's something really that women should do to men when you break up with a man. When a man block you, that's another level of petty because that's not even really in a man energy like that. Where the one that he was talking to. Now me, I had up the board of the block ministry on here, but I just decided the other day to stop blocking people. I just gonna delete messages. You know, when they, when they talking crazy and instead of blocking them, but cause I've been realizing that people being on bought a course, but they, but they was a hater and they bought the course and was a hater. And then they'll say something crazy in the comment and I'll block them. Then they go filing all these refund claims after they took the course. I said, Lord, I got to stop blocking people. I'm just let the haters be and let them wonder where they messy, disappeared to TT Nova God bless her. How can I get my boyfriend to have a better relationship with our 10 year old autistic son? He doesn't call or treat him right. He holds on to old grudges and never thanks me or says happy mother's day. You're not gonna be able to change that. You weren't about the wrong thing. I think what you got to focus on is just how can you be a better mother to your 10 year old son? You can't, you can't bog your mind down with wondering how you're gonna change this grown man that you're not even with because some of y'all in red, the book of women's influence. You only have influence in a man's life when he's with you, when that's your man. So don't worry about that. We have autistic caretaker coaches on my mentor.life. I feel like that'll be a great resource to just talk and just vent and talk about that co-parenting situation with one of the mentors who work with mothers of autistic children. And that'll help you a lot just venting because you will solve your own problems. But worrying about and losing sleep on how you gonna change him, it's not gonna work. The number one thing you could do is get distance from him and take that power. Don't call him, don't ask him for anything, don't expect anything from him. Step your game up, do what you got to do, put him on child support if you need to and just talk to that check that come in the mail and don't worry about him. And when you take that power back and stop making him feel important and stop trying to plead with him and beg him and all of that, that's the only thing that's gonna wake him up a little bit if it's possible. Sarah E. God bless you. Hey, y'all got five more minutes on here tonight. Got my old headache. Boyfriend didn't like my old male church friend to keep reaching out. I blocked him at my boyfriend's suggestion. He was a good friend to me. Was I wrong to block? You didn't have to block him, but you could have talked to him and said, hey, you know, I have a boyfriend and he doesn't feel comfortable with you reaching out. Or you could have talked to your boyfriend and say, listen, he's just a friend. It's platonic. Do you wanna meet him? Can you, will you meet him at least so you could feel his energy? And then that man might've said, yeah, I'll meet him. If you care that much, I'll meet him. Now, if he said, nah, I ain't gonna meet that man. Nah, I ain't gonna meet him. And so now you see how you gave your friend your butt to kiss. That's why I try to tell everybody, when you dealing with these friends with benefits or just the friend situation, don't get too caught up on that friend stuff. Cause when somebody meets somebody they wanna be with, they're gonna get you, get you, they behind the kiss. Now you gonna block this man and you know, you could have, if you really care about that, about him that much, you could have told the boyfriend, well, I want you to meet him. So you could feel his vibe and see that this is completely platonic. It's exception to the rules. I don't believe in having male friends for a woman. I don't believe in a man having woman friends. But some of y'all believe in that. I don't believe in that. But if you believe that strongly about it, then they need to meet so that everybody know everybody. She, look, God bless you. Thank you. The first time I met you was at a mega fest conference. You have been blessing me ever since. Hey, God bless you. Now that's probably where you heard of me at the mega fest. You probably ain't know about me before then. So I'm glad the Lord crossed our paths. I only went to one mega fest and that was the one I spoke at. So I don't know if you was in my message or we just bumped into each other, but God bless you. I lean, bless you now. Hey, tone A. Okay, have a good evening. God bless you now. God bless you. What does it mean when a man says he likes to date women who can help him or make him better? Is there something more to what he's saying? He probably didn't listen to somebody video like one of my videos. And now he verbalizing that, but he doing too much. Keyshawn, God bless you now. He doing too much, telling you that. Cause I mean, what's understood don't need to be explained. Everybody wants somebody that's gonna push them. You know, that's gonna encourage them. But with the way he saying it, it sound like he is kind of alluding to, he want a woman that's gonna invest in his hair brain schemes. And he want a woman that's gonna let him live off her while he chase his closet wrap career in the closet, turn your closet into the booth and then put your clothes on the back of your couch. And now he in your closet wrapping and then don't wanna go to work. That's kind of, it's like, brother, can you further explain what you mean by help? I'm a little foggy. If I was you, that's, you know, just back to what we were talking about the other day when you said that you kind of want a woman that will help you. Like, okay, you explain that to me just a little further. I'm a little, you know, I just, little clarity. You know, just kind of dance around it like that right there, but get it on off your chest. So he could, so he could explain that. And then when he do that, let him talk. Just let him talk. And he gonna say, well, well, it's kind of like, I wanna be a rapper, but it's like a woman like, go to work, go to work, go to work. But it's like, you can't be the best in the world. How am I gonna replace Jay-Z if I'm working over here for Billy Bob, 60 hours a week. So I want a woman that's gonna support me in my dream. Then once you hear that, oh, okay, okay, that makes sense. Hey, I totally get it. Then by the week later, you know, I was thinking, this is not really gonna work out because I don't wanna waste your time. I'm just not in the place. And then you just go ahead and just let them down easy. But you got to do it fast because men who say stuff like that, ain't all the way down. Hey y'all, God bless you. My wife bought me some food home. I don't wanna let my food get too cold. I just heard it get here about five, 10 minutes ago and I got my little headache on me. I'm gonna try to come back on tomorrow. Lord willing, cannot make a promise, but God bless you. Thank you so much for your love and support. I posted a video earlier today, just kind of talking, just a little random topic. So if you miss that, you can catch it to the aspiring life coaches, those of you who wanna do what I do, you see what I'm doing and you like, man, this old country bunking. I hear coaching celebrities and working with corporations. I could do that. Well, my life coach training this month is 30% off. So make sure that if you wanna become a coach and you feel like you got what it takes, you got the heart to serve. The link might be in the description of this video. I'm not positive, but the site is TonyGasminacademy.com. TonyGasminacademy.com. God bless y'all and we'll talk soon.