 So the power you have is to hold off that power within you to hold off Falling into the sexual piece to determine if he's a legit guy ladies It takes about a hundred hours of face-to-face time just to build the first layer of trust in a relationship The first layer of trust now I'm not saying you have to wait a hundred hours to have sex But I'm saying most guys disappear in a very short period of time and by the way today's dating is so Predicated on spending a little time here a little time there and a lot of time on your telephone a lot of it's spent on text Messaging and telephone calls and very little face-to-face time and trust is built through social activities Hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends traveling together teamwork building skills both in your personal and professional life That is where deep intimacy is built