 Now let me see if this chat working all right. Hey, thank y'all so much. I think I got this thing set up now Okay, watching the video I want to pop in do my Q&A's now, you know on Saturdays. I try to do two Q&A's I want to do one last night, but my body said no like um Arkelo song My body was telling me no So I said no, let me just wait till the day Slep in the day. You got a little rest So I want to pop in and do a Q&A. Congratulations to all the new coaches There's a few of y'all took the life coach certification and now joining my mentor dot life God bless you Now if you have a question if you missed a live put um hashtag Q in front of your question and Y'all try not to um, you write on time bole, we just started We're only been on here two minutes And on the chat y'all, you know leave all the extra stuff out of chat Just so it don't fill up. So if you're not asking a question, just don't put nothing in the chat Because when y'all put all that in the chat it everything disappears and people be Sending a little blessing, but it goes into the chat and I don't see it. So y'all try to Hold off on the just random messages and emojis and stuff like that I'm pretty black. We got it. We're gonna leave that where it's at. So you can start posting that in now Our lady D. God bless you God bless you. God bless and thank you for all you do. God bless you Um, okay. Glad you watched the book On the average, how long does it take to finish the mentoring course? um You could do it in a day if you if you dedicate a Saturday to it and you get up and you go through Uh the videos and in between the videos is quizzes There's a workbook and textbook, but that's the bonus You know, like you could read the textbook if you want to but i'm sharing all that stuff in the video So you really don't have to read the textbook, but you can and then the workbook. That's just a bonus That's really for another Form of the class. It's not really for the online version. So A lot of people finish it in a day going through it. It's not that complicated because Certification is not required. So it's really just teaching you about the business how to build your brand and things of that nature So it's not like going to college, you know one second Hey, Tony, did you see my email? I sent you I wanted to bless a member of the blessed tribe with your new book No, I didn't see it but um Maybe if you just find somebody or somebody could write you personally We're not really doing that on my end anymore just because it's too much You know logistics on our side because then we got to go get the book We got to go mail the book So time by time, you know, we do that and that's me or my wife because of this situation Everybody in their house Do you think it's a bad idea for women to give a man an ultimatum to get married seems force No, and another thing when somebody asks a question, you know, y'all try not to answer the question um Just let me answer the question because you know people begin upset about that. So y'all hold y'all answers and um Let me answer the question to the person who asked him No, a woman should not give a man an ultimatum to get married to be honest with you It's like if you got to give a man an ultimatum to marry you then that's not your husband um that's not your husband because A man knows who he wants. He knows his wife So if you got to make him marry you then you shouldn't be with him So understand that and um That will kind of ruin things he may marry you but he's gonna have resentment and you're gonna pay for it Rossi god bless you. Blessing to you and the first lady enjoyed the video yesterday. Thank god bless you Joanna bless you. Bless you. Blessings tony this guy is really nice good manners, but after three months of dating He became impatient and sarcastic He wanted to sleep with me. Please advise See that's the thing what you gotta Um, look at what you're saying Joanna when you say this guy is really nice Uh, hold on one second Have a commercial break real quick. I forgot to pray for I got on you know So I need to go talk to the lord You got to look at what you're saying now when you say he's really nice and good manners But after three months of dating he became impatient and sarcastic. He wanted sex. Please advise So that shows you who he really is. He's not a nice guy with good manners. He's actually a guy who Showed you his representative and he was playing games with you. So that's something totally different uh, kia God bless you Hey, now if y'all see me answering a question hold your question Be so it don't get too far and when somebody posts a question Try not to post anything else in the chat um I see a lot of people when they come in until the moderators when people come in and keep saying hello, hello Just retract it so to remove it And when y'all come in you don't have to type hello and all of that because it's just running the chat up And then I can't see the questions We know you're here. We glad you're here. God bless you Kia 45 year old single guy never been married Said he wants to get married ace out. We were just talking for one month What is that about? Is that a red flag 45 year old guy? Single guy never been married said he wants to get married ace out um That is a red flag because even a man who's ready is not really going to be ready inside of 12 months Uh, so that is a red flag. So a lot of times it's a man Either he getting ready to pass on or he getting ready to he he want to make his ex that he that he left Or she left him. He want to make her mad A lot of time. That's what that is Uh, cardio God bless you. How do you feel about worldly dating coaches versus godly dating coaches? I have been listening to worldly dating coaches to get a wife or girlfriend Well, if if you if you godly then you shouldn't be listening to worldly dating coaches because they're not going to get you godly advice So if gods they don't fornicate and the worldly coaches say hey, go sleep round You know go do what you want to do then you getting bad advice, you know you you wouldn't ask somebody who Don't know how to do what you trying to do how to do it, you know So you got to think about that because your input going to determine your output But the thing about worldly dating coaches is that It's going to be The information going to be easier to digest because when you're doing things the right way, it's harder It requires more sacrifice Boo Baker. God bless you. Haven't heard from my ex in two weeks after an argument He called yesterday. I told him to stay gone doesn't take two weeks to calm down. Why is he mad that I said stay gone Well, he mad because he thought he had you, you know, he thought he had you he thought he he knew You know, he thought he knew who you was and that he had your number and he could do what you want to do And so that's why he mad, but you're right two weeks. It don't take that long now And you can't take no two week break just because you had an argument. That's not a relationship So when you have an argument in relationship, y'all sit down and y'all talk that thing out and you work it out You you get on the same page what he did. That's totally unacceptable But now at the same time If you really want to be with him, you should just check him and say listen You can't ever in your life again Take a two week break because we had a disagreement like that's very immature And that's not a relationship and I will not be here for that When you say stay gone Now you got to stay gone because if you say stay gone and now you take him back now He lose all respect for you because because you the one who cried wolf Jacqueline god bless you these videos are blessings to me been healing nicely. Thank you, tony I'm on the last chapter of a woman's influence good read. Hey god bless you Jacqueline. Let me see if I miss. I'm up here Real quick Okay, I think I got it tiny Jordan. God bless you tiny bless you Now y'all hold on now a Let me see. I'm trying to cut off a soul tie last week and struggling a bit. I keep I'm keeping myself busy as usual, but still feel sad any suggestions. What else I can do to stay focused Um Veronica, it just was a week ago, you know, so you got to realize a soul tie Some soul tie take a lifetime, you know, so you're talking about one week. So it's still so early You're doing what you got to do, you know, you got to keep you here You know, this is a part of healing from a soul tie. So when you get off here Go back to reading your book when you finish reading your book lock in on your favorite show on netflix Uh go on a bike ride go walking, you know start writing your book start planning your company What's the name of your company who you're going to serve? What's your logo look like? What colors is it? You see what I mean? So it's so much that you could be doing. All right, you got your for-profit company What about your non-profit company because you're going to make good money in your for-profit company But you need a charitable thing that you need to be able to give back what that looked like What's the name of you see what I mean? A lot of times we think we don't have work to do When it's always something that we could be building upon Um lady, what does it mean if he hasn't had a serious relationship after you? It's been a year Well, it's still early, you know, it's still early and and uh You really don't know if he hasn't had a serious relationship because that's between him and her She might think they full fledged all in and they might be full fledged all in and you don't know that So, you know, what does it mean? The real question is what does it mean that you still worried about him and it's been a year That you still checking for him and it's been a year. What does that mean? See, that's that's the real question. See you weren't about the wrong thing. And so you got to realize You got to ask you got to ask a different question like why am I checking for him? Why am I worried about him? What am I doing with my life that I'm still looking backwards? And it's been a whole year Hey in the chat only put a question if you don't have a question, don't type anything, please Because it's thing going Disappearing on me. If you don't have a question, don't type anything, please What type of video should I make? Regarding the dating and relationships niche What are the best platforms to use as far as social media platforms? Devante if you want to do videos um instagram tv and Facebook just posting the video from your phone and youtube of course those are going to be your top three for that dating and relationship Instagram tv they trying to build it still so they're going to push you the algorithm going to be there. It's going to be strong They're going to push you Um, youtube is going to push you if you post daily or you know, three three to five times a week youtube going to push you And facebook that's still you know viral network too Tony, what does it mean when a guy asks you to sign a prenup on the very first conversation? And you haven't even met yet um He just don't know what he's doing. Jessica martinez. God bless you. Just God bless part in her life He just don't know what he's doing He don't know how to date. He just you know, he's socially awkward. He just a little You know a little slow in the dating world and just don't know how to talk to a woman approach a woman They don't really mean a whole lot though to be honest with you. He just don't have a clue what he's doing Is it okay to date just to gain the experience and not to find love? Well, it's kind of like this. Is it okay to play fire play with fire? If I don't want to get burned, you know what I mean? So it's like If you dating stuff come with dating like there's nothing casual about dating when you date you form Soul ties emotional or physical or spiritual. So there's repercussions to dating So if you're going to date you got to date intentional You got to be ready for a real relationship for a soul tie And you got to be desiring marriage if you don't desire that then don't date because Things going to come with it. You could be talking to somebody talking about you getting experience, but that's Ted Bundy nephew So here you will talking Ted Bundy nephew And you think you just getting experience and he got totally different plans for you. You see what I mean? So when you step into that day world, don't don't step out there playing around you got to really be dating intentionally I'll meet you. God bless you just showing honor. God bless God bless How to identify when God is calling you towards a purpose. I have a hard time identifying my gifts um Purpose is not about a gift. So purpose is about service. So Serving like what you see um share h doing she she put and put the hashtag before the queue And thank you for that sheriff for putting that in there. You ain't got to put it You ain't got to put it enough. Uh, no more share. I think they But you see what share doing she's saying look, I'm gonna come on here and this live going People live being touched being changed I'm not giving advice, but let me serve. You see what I mean that could be purpose That could be purpose. So You got to think about that like purpose start with where can you serve? You could go to the soup kitchen You know, you go down to the soup kitchen and do that And you could go To the local foundation and in that your gift may be serving Baby, that is blocked all of a sudden. He sent me money thoughts. Well, that's your baby. That's carolina So take the money, you know and don't worry about it Take the money don't worry about it and um a count it all joy wealth of the wicked stored up for the righteous How do I break a soul tie from my husband who abandoned me? and my children for the third time in five years You're gonna need coaching you're gonna need coaching with that one because this your husband um, what you say Third time in five years. You're a mother You're gonna need coaching, but you're doing the same thing. Um, the soul ties course is ontonic gassesacademy.com I reduced it from 50 dollars to five dollars because this is the perfect time for people to be breaking soul ties so I just wanted to make it you know dirt cheap but The work is gonna look the same. No matter how deep your relationship is the work is gonna look the same It just may take longer. So you reading you getting new knowledge You're doing coaching you working on yourself. You're building your dream. You're building your vision You know, you're doing all the work the work going to be the same Chanel god bless you. God bless you What types of things cause a man to become aggressive can soul ties and sex cause a man to become Praise aggressive or even you're using all the words. You're not allowed to use on here. I mean my goodness You need to be in a therapy session Chanel. Come on now. You can all leave the topics on here Yeah, it's just what a man has gone through. You know, it's what a man has gone through Chanel It really ain't about you. It really ain't about, you know, what you doing That's in that man. So if a man is emotionally intelligent, if a man is healthy whole hill confident You could be back crazy and that ain't gonna make him get out of character. He's just gonna say, okay All right. See you later. Ain't going by his business. So that's what you got to realize on that It's just what he them been through and I tell people all the time some men have been raised so cold They don't know how to be warm like some men begin punched in their chest since they were six months old And that's what you got to realize. So when he come into a relationship He don't even know how to function and be gentle because he begin punked and bullied his whole life Even sometimes by his daddy Tiffany God bless you appreciate you Tony your genuineness and honesty your sincere love for helping people God bless you and sure we ate God bless. I sure appreciate you um Lorenzo You mentioned legal zoom and llc.com. I'm wondering if one is even slightly better than the other or if the quality and service is the same I go with legal zoom. They cost more go with legal zoom.com. They bigger they more well known llc.com popped up You know, they really ain't got The budget to do the marketing that legal zoom can do I use legal zoom for my first company that I formed in 2008 So, um, they've been around since then so They do what they supposed to do Ventus eagle Hey in the chat only put questions in there, you know, I told the moderators to remove the other Messages so the waving hands the hate emojis so that I could get to the questions So I could really help the people who got a question all the extra y'all leave that out of there Don't don't put nothing in the chat unless you got a question. Okay Ventus eagle my date six months. God bless you, benta Was like an inappropriate pics on ig. I unfollowed him And he asked me why my date six months I told him why and told him if he does it again, I'll block him. He did then I blocked them I just sent him your video about a man in his social media. He didn't like it Benta, you know, you really playing a game all wrong. You playing a game all wrong. So it's like if there's a man that you date Then you blocking him on social media For being nasty like an inappropriate pics means nothing You need to block him in real life So see you you blocking him on social media That's just games. You just you see what I'm saying and then he continues to do it. He does not respect you So Six months you've been dating them It's the end of it now It's time to move on with your life because social media does matter And every man knows that you should not be liking another woman pictures if you got a girlfriend or you dating this woman You should not be liking other woman pictures because that's sending a message to that woman Diane god bless you just wanted to bless you mr. Gats for your time and your world of blessing part in her life or part in her life tilde God bless you now the coach's mentor Now make sure you join us not till the on my mentor dot life So you start coaching some of some some of our clients too. Now god bless you till the part in her life, lord From one coach to another i've been so blessed by a woman's influence. Your labor is not in vain God continue to bless tony his family and jeez in the a i receive that I receive that Let me see Um the penis what what are your now y'all got to forgive them the way I say the penis Let's just talk about this somebody that's doing this now when I say the penis I ain't talking about But y'all know my accent throw it off now the penis What are your thoughts on changing your number to avoid contact with the ex? That's a perfect thing to do That's a perfect thing to do Especially if it's not a number that you had since eighth grade Do everybody named mama got it the way you have to notify a thousand people that you change your number But that's a perfect thing to do Linda we didn't speak for a week, but he ended up calling me and telling me And sending me pics that he moved out of his ex's place and working To better himself with everything he is serious with everything else is he serious about us? He might not necessarily be serious about y'all, but he's serious about working on himself And you really don't know if he actually moved out or not. So You know if y'all ain't talk go on about your pity Hi Tony, I purchased two of your books. Thank you. Have you written a book strictly speaking on understanding men? Understanding men That book had to be longer the bible That's what these videos is to be honest with you because I can't write that much in the world So that's every day what I'm doing is hour long videos make that your book because I can't write no book on that because That book would be so long. You hear me? They wouldn't even be able to print that book but um I have not I have not that that's a that's a good idea though. I try to see what I can do How do I kindly show my husband that his grown boy behavior is no longer acceptable? Mimi god bless you God bless you not what you're gonna have to do Mimi is read a woman's influence Read a woman's influence in here. You're gonna read about The 72 hour rule and you're gonna read about another chapter that says just say no But It's gonna take some tact, you know, you're gonna have to be tactful with this because this your husband But the the key is not reinforcing the behavior. So what this means is You may have to Pull back you may have to be in the house But be silent. You may have to remove your energy. Let him know that you're not entertaining him So if he's being a grown boy, but you still cooking for him, you still cleaning for him You still sleeping with him. You still keep keying with him, you know, then he doesn't get the picture But when you walking around and he realized that you unhappy because you silent And then when y'all talk about it, he inquires was then what's wrong with you and you say This is the issue and you know this and if this is not corrected I'm not gonna be here when you let him know that guess what he gonna get his life together So women feel valid for feeling like they were the one who built the man up for his next relationship um I mean here's the thing here's the thing. It's like ariana You could feel that way, but what you want for you know what I mean? It's kind of like you got to ask yourself. Do I want a cookie? You know, you got to do I want a cookie? It's really not that you built him up for the next woman It's just he was on his journey and you was a part of his journey so he he was not going to be your husband regardless because When his when he intersected with you if he was intended to be your husband He would have grew in in your season in the season that you were in his life. So when he takes and He moves forward to the next woman. That's just his journey because like The exes I was with right before my wife ain't do nothing for me ain't build me nothing You know reinforce all my negative behavior all my grown boy behavior. So it's like if you was there and He was cheating on you cursing you out doing whatever And you stayed with him for a year two years three years If you was there for that then guess what? You reinforced that so you didn't actually build them up You reinforced the negative behavior. So then when y'all broke up now he gets with the next woman If he gets with the next woman she put her foot down She actually building them up because she put her foot down You see what I mean and so you can't really focus on that instead You got to say what can I learn from this? So my next relationship when I get with this man Instead of being a rider die because ain't nobody died for you But jesus christ instead of being a rider die Let me stand my ground hold him accountable and make sure I got my standards in place So that this man in this season of his life He grows to be the man that he needs to be for me. You see what I mean versus looking backwards And and that's where it gets a little complicated. Natasha. God bless you Natasha poor out in her life Danielle Bless you poor out in her life Bless the afternoon tony. What are your thoughts on women who date younger men cougars? I don't think you have a video on this Um, no, I don't have no video on that I really don't understand women, you know, I answer questions about men. I really don't I and and to be honest with you. I saw a cougar last night on the show. I was watching what that show was Uh on Netflix. Me and my wife was watching Netflix and chill Selling sunset selling sunset. We were watching the reality the people who sell houses in california And they had a lady on there that was 38 and she was a man that's 25 I could look at that man and tell he on bit more like her than a can of paint She planned herself like a deck of cars and she thinks she didn't got her something She think that jezebel spirit and got him what she needed to be And he planned her that man don't want her that man want that green car because he's from another country with an accent Strong accent. He want that citizenship or he want some money or some plugs to be plugged in in the city This man 25 tall muscular look like what they be grabbing for the model this lady 38 you know Not all that And she thinking she got her love some some Listen them cool. I don't even want to call them cool. That's that's y'all term Okay, the lady who dated the men that's young enough to be their son They plan themselves because for that young man, he's not attracted to her. That's just a notch in his belt He won't hurt for her stability. He won't hurt for where she live at what cost she drive her credit So he could play on her her loneliness her desperation He could play on her use her to get in position Marry her then if they want to get a divorce, he'd get 50% He then came up and just gave three to five years of his life Which he was going to waste in the club anyways, so that's how that right there break down Uh, jenna god bless her high tony. How do I stop feeling angry when a man keeps on lying? Keeps on lying on me Just to make himself look like a decent human being Well, you you got to do you You know, you got to do you Don't worry about what he lying about because Everybody could see with their own eyes. So somebody could be lying on you But if you out and you serving in the community, you know, you caring yourself, right? You dressing right talking right walking right people gonna say well, this is what he said about her But when I bumped into her I didn't get that at all like she was a totally different person like Like I don't really don't know what he's talking about you see what I mean You can't be but if you believe in his lies and you giving him that power Now when people meet you you thinking that oh you think what he said about me is true So you looking mean and nasty your energy nasty because you think they already judging you When they could not be judging you because they know him they know he a liar They know he petty. They know he's full of drama. You see what I mean? So that's what you got the word by Hey, when people pop in and say hey, y'all can let them say that hey that that one time If they keep on putting hey You know then remove it so I could keep the chat clear But if they pop in and say hey, they just not catching in they just not coming in So they ain't heard what I said earlier about keeping the chat clear For those of you who just popping in and keep the chat clear don't post nothing in the chat unless it's a question And uh, so I could so I could get to those questions in there Jessica god bless you none. There is a man That is husband material He is what you call looks challenge. Should I give him a chance? There is this other guy that Went m.i.a for five days and message on facebook came back saying that he left his phone in a uber Now that's a good line. Hey, that's a good line. I do know a guy who did leave his phone in the uber So hey, that's a good line. I don't know if it takes five days to get it back But that's a good line. Well, that's what up. Hey That's what up bad if he lied if he made that up that's what else smooth up but I will tell you now See when it comes to a person that you consider looks challenge now that now that's the word are you But I don't consider him looks challenge. You consider him looks challenge because beauty's in the eye to behold So that's you judging him I can't I can't tell you see what i'm saying. That's just the word i've given it so that we don't have to call them a little ugly but If he make your stomach turn When you talking to him if you feel a little throw up in your throat Then that means you can't be in the relationship If your stomach does not turn and you don't feel a little throw up when you looking at him Then you could work through it because when you fall in love You're gonna fall for him more. You're gonna be there with him more You know so he can't grow on you now if looking at him turn your stomach then That's not fair to you. So you and see what you got to realize. This is the other thing that a lot of time we don't think about. Okay is This man who could be looks challenge He could be showing you his representative because he know that he don't often get to sit down and talk to a woman who Look like you Or on your level So he could be treating the woman that want him. He could be treating her like trash But then because you look better than him. He treating you like a treasure But really he don't have character and he's not a good person So you doing him a favor by swallowing Your preference or or your pride and being with him when you're not attracted to him You could be doing a no-good man a favor So that's where if you're gonna Deal with him. You got to make sure that he truly a man of character and integrity Uh cocoa god bless you your video grown girl verse grown women made me realize that I have some growing up to do I still need to get my emotions in check and get over that issues. Hey god bless you cocoa god bless you for You know just that realization and just You know sitting with the word and seeing what you can get from it, you know instead of being defensive and want to argue And uh speaking to that, you know, I responded to one lady I don't always respond to people on there just because everybody got their opinion and I just don't have the time But one thing I noticed is that a lot of women cannot Understand when I'm talking about a man with character who may make 40,000 dollars and A lot of women cannot understand that that amount of money don't mean anything And women always want to say well, what if I made six figures? It's like, okay, so what? The 19 hit you could be making zero figures. You see what I'm saying? So it's like money is just Energy like it's it's here today gone tomorrow You know what I mean like Warren Buffett had to report losing 50 million 50 billion in the stock market Now, of course, you're gonna get it back. It's profits still up there, but It's like money. It don't mean nothing It's it's here and there You making six figures, but your job can fire you your customers your clients can find a new person that they own So what matters is character and integrity and no matter how many times I try to express that A lot of women just cannot wrap their mind around that because Y'all so focused on money and what a man could do for you monetarily And then get in that situation with a man who can do for you monetarily and because you didn't help him build That money he treat you like trash in after a year Um Catherine god bless you god bless you tony. Do you have any advice for people dealing with a toxic family during the quarantine? Um, I'm guessing y'all live together. I go in the room go in the room Go in the room You see what I'm saying go in the room get your distance be busy. Tell them you studying for a test and you can't be bothered You're not going to be coming out the room See love god bless you see law. I saw you put a question in the chat God bless you poor thing you like put it put your question back in the chat I was answering another one one of the vip that was up here But I did see you I saw your name with a question. So post that a question again that you had see law God bless you in our life Um jasmine god bless you now I broke up with my ex last month because of his drinking. I blocked him but he keeps calling On max numbers to see how i'm doing does he want me back? He said he is scared to fail if he gets help um Yeah, he wants you back. Yeah, he wants you back, but does he deserve you? Yeah, he wants you back he wants you because He need that You know that crutch he needs you to be there, you know for his highs and lows He needs you to be there and he's scared if he's going to fail if he gets help that means he doesn't want to change Because when you want to change you're not you don't fear failure Because you know that it's a choice that you can choose every day So you don't fear failure when you take control of your life you fear failure when you kind of I maybe I want to change maybe I don't maybe I like this feeling Maybe this feeling wash away my pain take away my sorrows and you go into that mindset But when you say I am changing i'm deciding today and i'm gonna decide every single day that i'm changing You have complete control over your life You know your your brain ain't gonna grab your hand and drag you to the stole to go get that That alcohol you making a choice in your mind to say I got to go get this to get this monkey off my back You know to get this feeling off of me And that's what's going on um Victoria any Suggestions for a single mom life coaches who are trying to balance coaching clients and raising children during this quarantine, um That's a tough one now because I coach some clients who they're single moms and they have to go talk You know to their child during the session Yeah, that's really hard. So what I would say is Put your children on a schedule on a routine So depending on their age if they older then they should know better 13 14 day in the room 6 7 you got to create a routine and this is a part about coaching yourself So like my sons up until a certain age every single day they had a nap at like 2 p.m So from like 2 p.m to 4 p.m That was their schedule every single day they taken a nap And so if you a coach now, you know, you can coach 2 to 3 and 3 to 4 And if something happens that you didn't plan for your client will be understanding with that Then bedtime 8 p.m. So now you can call coach 8 to 9 or not in 9 to 10 You should have mean if they wake up at a certain time 8 a.m. You can coach 7 to 8 So you put your child on a schedule and you build this schedule in so they know the difference between morning and night Nap time break time. What have you game time or tv time abc mouse? You know, they love that do abc mouse And then you coach around that there and if you got any friends or family then You can help you can have somebody help you, you know See love. I'm a minister and travel at times. When should I mention in dating? Has resulted before in guys being Uncomfortable acting like I will be judging them. That's good. You know, that's a first day conversation. See love That's a first day conversation that you administer That's a first day conversation if a guy get uncomfortable about that and he's looking like you're gonna be judging him What that means is that means that He got a spirit in him and your spirit Is tweaking that spirit, you know, it's spiking his spirit He like oh and he starts to feel it And so when you mention that and I noticed that too because energy attract or repel so When I go around certain people Because my energy is pure because I live a life of integrity a person who doesn't live a life of integrity They're kind of going to squirm around me. I remember I met a celebrity one time and and he shut my hand and we was doing some work And um for a project and he said man, I'm around all of these major Celebrities and I'm never nervous. He's like but I meet you and I'm like nervous. I'm kind of shaking and Come to find out a few years later He was putting hands on his woman And so when he met me and knew that I'm a relationship coach that's living right doing right and treating my woman right It made him feel guilty Because he's not treating women right and that came out later that he was putting hands on her and that's why my spirit spiked here So you got to be very mindful You know, you got to be very mindful um Hey only put questions in the comments because I was trying to find the questions in here and if you ask the question Wait and let some other people ask a question if I already answered one of your questions You know be fair to some of the other people Let me answer some questions from somebody who haven't answered the question so that this is not like a one-on-one session Um, good afternoon Tony. I'm 28 and being told that I look like I'm barely out of high school And feel like people don't take me seriously because of it. How do I change that? Well, you might do look like that. So sometimes it's kind of like it's no different than You know, I used to have six gold teeth You see I'm saying So if I got six gold teeth and I'm on here if you're gonna take me seriously You know, I used to have a big change, you know, big dope boy change Six gold teeth long gold teeth. I used to have dreads. You see what I mean? So it's kind of like if you looking like you fresh out of high school put your red lip on Go to a hairstylist and say hey, what hairstyle will help me look more mature like make the changes Don't just walk around mad saying man People don't take me serious because I look 18 Go do what you got to do to look your age Put your red lip on Learn a new style of dress. It might you might have to dress a different way Put your blazer on put your six inch heels on put your put your jeans on You see what I mean? Put your watch on put your bracelet on put your little um What you call this necklace on but not a necklace like a um You know, you got that you got to grown it up a little bit get your brooch put your brooch on your on on your uh Blazer if you don't like a red lip put that dark purple on that it's all be when you know Get you something that's gonna give you a little uh But still the wind still the wind a little girl hairstyle, you know You got to make you got to make changes and this is the thing it's nothing wrong with change All change is good if it's not compromising your self worth and your self respect So a lot of time people say well, I don't want to change because I'm then that's changing who I am I know it ain't changing who who you are. It's adjusting your packaging. It's changing your packaging. It ain't changing you I'm still the same person the same guy who has six gold teeth I still got the same heart the same energy. I just changed my packaging Alexandria called god bless you good afternoon There's two parts first happy belated birthday tg Hey god bless you y'all ain't got to say all that you know all them You know formalities and stuff when y'all come in here, you know what I mean trying to be former like your grandma raised Y'all could just give me the question. You know what i'm saying? I'm on here to serve y'all y'all be trying to be nice to them and stuff A big thank you to the queen and you for a woman's influence just receive my copy Going to finish after homework Truly the leverage assistance and blessing we need a god bless you Alexandria You will raise right you come here This is how like your grandma raised you god bless you Chocolate coated like god bless you partner like god bless your ministry It's a part of my daily listening regiment and keeps me pressing towards the mark for the prize of the high caller Hey god bless you chocolate coated. You know see God is sending people like that right there Uh just to remind you what you're doing lady wrote me yesterday talking about I'm posting too many videos and losing value Can you guess what happened to her? blocked My fingers my thumb still red blocked another lady posted since when did tony go from Uh being informational to being misogynistic. It's like I don't know what that word is I know what the word is But I know i'm the furthest thing from it because ain't no misogynist gonna be on here giving all the game away That's what she got blocked You hear me So you have detractors coming to try to derail what the lord doing and what happened I go to the block ministry and then the lord send folks like y'all to say tony. Hey, just blessing me Keep doing what you're doing and that's why you know keep doing it Do you think it's best to find my wife now? Here go davante with his second question for his one-on-one session Okay, do you think it's best to find my wife before diving into my purpose and passion Your videos about your wife really make me want to find her I can't wait to buy the book. Um me personally. I think you should find your wife, but see here's the thing If you're not in your you know passions Your purpose and your passion your wife might not want you So you could be operating in your purpose and your passion and find your wife And your purpose and your passion might just be coaching might be speaking. I can't remember what you said that you do But and you could find your wife simultaneously so You know Me I wasn't doing nothing when I found my wife. I was in school. So I was young so it's different But um I told myself I can't be successful unless I meet my wife first because I didn't want to build success I knew that me being in fornication will block my blessings So I want to be married and I want to be in right standing with God So that I could have if I wanted to be in you know, sleep with a woman I'm doing it in a covenant and it's not blocking my blessings and hindering my focus So that I could be intimate with my woman who is my wife Be focused and then have her as a teammate while I'm on my grind Have her as the other side of the brain because see men speak think with one side of the brain A woman think with both sides of the brain So a woman in your life bring a whole another perspective to what you're doing She helped you see things more clearly So you could be a faster and you could be more effective and efficient when you got a woman in your life Men don't realize that when you're doing stuff by yourself You hustling backwards because your mind is not fully optimized to see the full picture So you're going to see it one way and it's going to be tunnel vision and you're going to block your blessings But when you get your woman, she's going to see what you can't see and she could point stuff out and she could You know, let you know by certain people and then certain moves you can bounce it off of her She becomes your board. She becomes your manager your your assistant your CEO she all that in one And then on top of that she your lover. So she keeps you balanced physically okay And then also spiritually Hey, only put questions in the chat. Kia Reminding y'all only put questions in the chat because we're filling up the chat And I can't get to the questions And remember to put the hashtag q in front of your question. Ms v god bless you pour out in her life Just send a blessing for you and the family. Thank you tony for all you do and without compromise. Hey god bless you God's chosen one bless you pour out in her life. Lord bless her now Allison Whitworth bless her lord. Hey tony. I just wanted to let you know I have purchased your book a woman's influence through books a million I can't wait to begin reading. Thank you for everything you do Hey, bless you Allison bless you And and see she got she said I purchased your book through books a million One of the questions that always confused me that I get and maybe y'all understand this But I don't want you to answer in the chat is how do I get your book? And I'm like, uh, where do you get books from? Uh This your first book, uh, you don't know where they sell books at What how do you get my book and we ain't selling these out to trump You know, I'm saying amazon.com bars and noble books a million wal-mart target honorable That question always confused me Can you possibly think of doing a mini movie series? On youtube about your topics to grasp a visual on the importance of waiting on god and the woman's influence and importance of not fornicating. Yep I am and um, think about that. That's in the works, but we in this hill situation right now So we can't move on it right now, but um, that take a lot of you know, it take money. Okay, take money And so I got to You know get the finances where it need to be and I really don't Like the dual crowd funding and asking people I never believed in like the go fund me type stuff, you know And the kickstarter type stuff. I don't like asking for handouts. If somebody bless me with something I'm happy and I receive it But I don't you don't see me posting asking for a donation or asking to raise money. I just don't I just don't like that because I for me especially when it's something That is like a dream or like a hobby or you know, so I got to get my money right the way I put my own money up You know what I mean? So That take that take money what you're asking Do you think that it's possible that marriage is not in the cards for some people? True love is like winning the lotto. What do you think cjl cjl just came here See, this is the thing It's a quote that says if you think you can you can if you think you can't you can't That's what I feel about love and marriage If you have that mindset then you have a pessimistic glasses half empty mindset So guess what that's going to show up in your energy So it could be disparity between how many men and how many women there are But the women that's going to get the men are the women who believe marriage is for them Because when you believe that it's for you your energy is going to be pure and attractive and it's going to be pleasant So you're going to go from that 90 to the top 10 percent and you're going to be Who the men are attracted to but if you keep telling yourself that marriage just might not be in the cars for me Marriage just might not be in the cars for me. It just might not be the thing You know, I don't I don't know then guess what? Your that mindset is going to make your shoulder slump It's going to make your your brow furrow You're going to be Ruled you're going to be condescending when a man comes to approach you you're going to look at them funny You're going to you're going to give them attitude because of what you've been telling yourself So It's out there if you want it But if you don't believe it, then you won't receive it Um deanna ray god bless you now. Why does spouse feel awkward around me? We're separated but have to see each other because of the kids he left. I've accepted it. He seems irritable also It's a soul type Whenever I say it's soul type strangling That's what I mean. I mean that soul type that emotional tide that y'all have if he doesn't know how To address it see you on here doing the work So you get your answer But then you also get the answer that I give to everybody else question With every answer you add knowledge with that knowledge you add confidence that turns into power So you have gotten over it because of the work that you're doing He's sitting in his mess and he like a pig wallowing in the mud So when he comes around you, he don't know how to you know How to maneuver because he hasn't done the work because he don't know about coaching He don't know about getting on live and for the q&a with a relationship coach. So he's struggling See love god bless you. Thanks for the answer It's just hard sometimes getting rejected for my purpose and I can't lie and say it doesn't hurt a little bit too Well, that's the thing see love you got to shift your mindset and you got you cannot see it and you being a minister You need to hear this and you need to understand that it is not Rejection that's god's protection and that's what you got to realize that's god's redirection. That's god's, you know misdirection of that man Moving him out your life. So you can't take it personal It's kind of like any space that you can fit in it means that that's that that's space can't hold you It means that that space is not on your energy any person that don't want to be in your life That means that their energy is not where your energy is so you can't see that as rejection That's protection and you got to shift your your mindset. You got to shift your mindset to realize Also, he's not leaving you or rejecting you for your purpose He leaving because he was gonna leave anyways He leaving because he realized that he can't be with you Like he can't be the man that you need that you deserve So he realizes that so that's what you got to understand It ain't about you JMD god bless you god bless you pull out in the life Chelsea god bless you Pull out in a life a man email me from a meet-up group I'm focused on my three B's and christ right now three B's brain brain body Body and money need work right now divorce three years One son five years old Not into dating online Should I go give him a chance? um You know, we always work in progress Your body may never be exactly where you want to be Your money may never be exactly where you want it to be You know, it can get up there, but you know Your son five so he can talk So if the man thumb him in the head, he could come to you and say mom Yeah, that man your friend thumped me in my head when you went to the bathroom So now your son could talk So it's okay for you at this point to start dating now So you could date this man, but you can move slowly So y'all talk on the phone every day If you got a sitter or a family member who don't have the 19 They could watch your son You could go on a little date after the 19 some of y'all opening up You know for the governors that ain't got no sense They're going ahead and starting opening up so y'all could step outside And you know go on a little date and you got a sitter and you could do this And three months, you'll know if he worth it three month mark if he ain't worth it move on about your life You see what I'm saying? So you don't have to sit idle While you working on yourself you could be working on yourself and Meet some people at the same time Lady god bless you working on my online business It is a requirement to register the business or is it a requirement to register the business through my state first? Um, it will be smart. It's not a requirement You you could be a business like you could make money and it go to your name But then you're gonna have to pay crazy taxes if you get if you get a um, you know Surgeon income to your name you got to pay taxes on that Whereas when you get a business you could have your s-court And you could work with your cpa with a local cpa for you know They ain't gonna really hit you across the head because they know you're a new business So they're gonna they might at the most be 200 a month for a brand new business or there'll be less Or you could just do a consultation and get the knowledge that you need with with your cpa But I definitely recommend registering your business because in most states it's going to be 150 dollars or less I think in florida Is 125 right now my first business I did With 35 dollars because you know, I've been out here on this hill thing, but now I think it's 125 Liz see god bless you. What would you recommend for a single woman? No kids woman of faith in the 30s Since dating sites are a no in current 19 situation. Thank you. Isaiah 13 I don't know what Isaiah 13 say, but I know it says something good now Uh, I recommend for you single woman. No kids woman of faith In this time in this 19 You got to see this like your wilderness experience. You got to see this like your valley experience So what you got to do is you got to sit down and you got to spend time with lord when you wake up And you let the bible play on the audio app on the bible app Or if you'd rather read you read a chapter two chapters at the most Get that in your spirit sit on it then you sit in you sit in silence five 10 15 30 minutes if you need to get the message see the vision and start building you Whatever woman who was single ought to be doing is giving her business her brand or whatever it is Giving it legs Give it legs so that when you meet the man When you meet the man now You in a place to where your stuff already up and going it's already up and moving so now You able to have a relationship because you don't put in so much work. It's kind of like You know having an infant you got to get that infant to a certain place to where He or she can walk, you know And they could start to and when they can walk and they can talk Life start to get easier and easier and easier the older your son or daughter get But when they real little You get as a baby you get up every two hours every two hours to feed That's how it is with your dreams and your business when it's real small And you just not starting out it take a lot of time So this is the time why you single with no children to be doing that so that way when your man come and The kid's coming Then stuff already up and running I want to learn how to give people real second chances But after they hurt me, I don't look at them the same any advice on how to overcome this um You can forgive a person and forget a person so it's kind of like You know if if you know a person is a serial killer, okay, and they took your cousin You could forgive that person to release your heart But that don't mean you got to go hang out with them forgiveness don't mean being in the presence of somebody So it's okay if a person crossed you so bad to the point that you know They really didn't send you a real real message. It's okay to forgive them and to remove them from your life That's all right. Like don't feel like forgiveness means that's what god is for you see what I mean That's what god is for that you have to be there You know with He is there for him. So you got to think about that What to do when you're already pregnant by a grown boy How to move forward business relationship only um Yes, uh, I got a video on how to co-parent I believe that's the name of it. So type in how to co-parent tony gaskins It's a whole hour. I don't want to cheat you on that one because that one that one right there is deep You know, and if that video don't do it, you need to sign up for a session We got co-parenting coaches on my mentor dot life but co-parenting and marriage You know those those deep those real deep, you know questions Like this one right here. I have been married for 12 years But four years ago my husband cheated on me. I found it in myself to forgive him But now after four years I have a new lover in my life He makes me happy. What do I do? Okay So you marry with a new lover Okay Okay, all right So lord and brought everybody out. Oh lord and brought y'all over here Now y'all know this is christian channel. Okay, we save over in sanctified now So now from my belief system you you in adultery you in sin But just in a world system you plan with fire Because if you're gonna have you a lover then you need to give a divorce paper So you need to give a divorce paper if you're gonna move on with your life Because you can't have one foot in and one foot out because you plan yourself Because what you don't realize is that The person that you call your lover if he knows about your husband, he don't take you serious anyways Because a man don't see a woman a man does not see a woman Who is cheating on her husband as a classy woman? A man sees you as a no good woman So he may make you happy, but he's there to use you He's using you to get you on your bike. You see what I'm saying And um miss v We uh Don't add no comments. All right. No comments in the chat Like the people said I posted it the post for the For the blessed tribe I didn't delete it for the new member So they don't have to see that but y'all see what the people said now They don't want nobody answering on their questions and all of that adding on to their questions So y'all just put questions in the chat questions in the chat Do I need to say this in espanol? ha cuando la suce Let's chat a okay only put questions in the chat So what you got to realize is the man who dealing with you? Is he does not see you As a good woman So he's there. He's gonna make you happy He's gonna make you happy but It's for his benefit and when he tired Then guess what? He gonna play you. Boom. He gonna play you. He got you Just like that. So that's what you got to realize And then with your husband if your husband found out about this new lover Now you playing with your life So that's why you got to do things as the bible say decent and in order Get your divorce heal your heart Then move on with your life Miss g god bless you. Thank you for your work tony truly god sent I believe the holy spirit led me to your videos and it has changed my life. Hey god bless you That's what i'm here for that's what i'm trying to do help any kind of way I can If you have a question put hashtag q In front of the question Tony when you said it can take a man a year. Wow on a past hour I got 24 more minutes I told my wife I said i'm gonna just try to do the do an hour today on this first life She said man, you can't talk just for an hour And sure enough I look up and we in past hour Hey, hold your question. I hold your question right quick. I see I see something right here Tony when you said it can take a man a year to know if you're his wife If there are deal breakers If there are deal breakers were you saying deal breakers on behalf of the man or on behalf of the woman You can take a man a year to know if you're his wife If there are deal breakers Um, doesn't really know what you're saying but what I'm but what i'm saying is Is even if it's deal breakers meaning that Even if the woman if you got insecurities if you got some childhood issues If you got some stuff like that that may be a deal breaker Even if y'all talked about how many bodies you got to your name and he don't like that number that he heard That could be a deal breaker I said even if it's deal breakers It will not take him more than a year to know if he wants to marry you So and that's on either side his side or your side Just period like a man will know by the 12 month mark If you're his wife and the reason being If y'all actively dating now if y'all talk one month, then y'all ain't talk And y'all talk once a month for the next 11 months. That's different. But if y'all actively dating you in a relationship y'all talk every day then you know You'll see that Leticia casinha asked a question at the beginning of the hour And she reposted it I look for LaCenia um And now it's easy over there latif for you to see the questions because you know, you read all the questions I'm over here answering the question. So You got to post it when you post your question You got a when I'm when I'm talking if you post your question I'm not gonna see it because other people still posting it So when you hear me stop talking, that's when you post your question and then I could see it but I can't answer the question and read the question. So I don't see LaCenia nowhere So she might be stuck on your chat. Your chat might have stopped but on my chat. I'm right here queen experience My kid's father does not support or call our two children He sends a text saying tell the kids that I love them. They will understand it better Coming from you. What do I do with this information? um Don't tell him nothing, you know, if he don't want to be there then He dead you see the mean so don't don't Be don't tell him nothing for him Because he a grown man. He could be mad enough to tell him himself You tell him listen, you're a grown man be mad enough to tell them yourself It's wrong for me to tell them Something that you can't tell them That's like a guy sending his friend up to holla at you a my friend want to talk to you And then you look at him like how old are we? Like we 30 some years old why why your friend can't walk up to me? Is something wrong with his legs? No, he got two legs so I don't want to talk to the Man that can't that got to tell his friend to come talk to me the same thing with that right there A man shouldn't be telling the woman to tell his own kids That he loved him because if you can't talk to your kid, then you don't love him So stop lying. So When he's not there, what what what a woman has to do is you got to be everything But one thing that we make the mistake is we think that we 50 50 No, when you lay down to have a kid you 100 percent they want 100 percent your children So if something happened to your partner, whether they leave or whether they pass on and they go meet the lord Then you are 100 percent. So you be 100 percent mama and then They're not even going to be focused on him and they'll deal with that as they get older and they're able to deal with it Miss china doll. How does a man see women who are okay with sharing him your thoughts? Um, like trash, how does a man see women who are okay with sharing him? Your thought like trash He see he see you like trash and what I mean by that is he see you as expendable He sees you as nothing He sees you as worthless He sees you as if you will share him with another woman That means that he can cut you with no remorse when he want to drop both of y'all for two more women A man cannot respect a woman Who don't respect herself enough to know that she's enough for a man So if she don't know she's enough He's not going to tell her she's enough. It's just like when you go on your job You go on your job and you got credibility And and you and you are worthy and you worth 60k a year if you come in there and you don't know you worth 60k and you will take 30k your job not going to say When that's why the job asks you how much do you expect to be paid? That's why they put that on the resume What is your desire because they want to see if you know your worth So when you put 30k because you just trying to squeak in the door They're not going to say well actually we got your resume and we see that you would like 30k You're actually worth 60k. So what we're going to do is we're going to pay you 60k They're going to say we see that you would like 30k, but would you be okay with 25k? You see what I'm saying? That's the same way it happened in relationships when you go to a man And you work for a whole man, but you so broken from everything you've gone through then You say I'm okay. You know, I understand every man gonna cheat. I understand men gonna have other women I'm all right as long as you tell me about it when you say that then he gonna say Oh, yeah, you're right. You know every man No man could be with one woman like even that relationship coach you listen to online He got other women I don't heard about it through the grapevine But of course he ain't gonna say that because that's his business But that ain't realistic like And and be honest with you just having one other woman. That's not even realistic Like you a man really have to have three or four women. That's what he's gonna tell you When you show him that you okay with sharing him That's what he's gonna tell you So does he respect you? Absolutely not. Does he love you? Absolutely not Can he be in love with you? Absolutely not. He see you as Like this he'll piece of paper I can't I can't borrow that up because I'm a car note See this he'll piece of paper. That's what he see you ask And when he's done with you, he's gonna do you just like that? That's what you got to realize Crystal God bless you separating from husband Seems like he doesn't want to help with the rent unless I want to take him back or be intimate advice Um crystal Pay your own rent Pay your own rent It's like you came in this world alone. You're going out alone Don't depend on your hug If you separating from him and he wants you to get on your back to get some money show him You don't need your money. Get your game up. Okay work more hours Pick up another you could take the life coach certification Get on my mentor dot life be making you an extra four five hundred dollars a month right there on my mentor dot Life coaching other women helping other women. You see what I mean? Don't ever depend on another human being and that's the thing that we get wrong That we think just because we got in a relationship or just because we slept with somebody or just because we got They child that now we become 50 percent of a person. No, you still a whole person You 100 percent responsible for your life So then people say well over that's letting him off the hook It ain't got nothing to do with him because he got the answer for that He gonna have to look god in the eye. He got the answer to the seeds. He's on he got to deal with that harvest So you can't worry about that. You got to take care of you So get your game up. You ain't you out of work right now. Get on the unemployment. They're giving out six hundred dollars a week Seven hundred dollars a week Tonya Birkin god bless you. Should I apply for an LLC first or an EIN? Uh to go into this auto paint shop mechanic shop with my brother He got his certification in prison and will be getting out soon. Tonya, you need a coaching session I know that's your brother. I know you love him, but running a business is totally different I don't know if I hop in no business with somebody hopping right from behind them bars You hit me running the business, especially a brick and mortar business, especially a auto paint Shop and mechanic shop So you need you need a coaching session Tonya because what are you in prison for? How you know he rehabilitated? What does he know about business? That's a tiff kit that they give out in prison. We don't know if that's The same thing you get out of crackerjack box. You see what I mean? So and Tonya that costs a lot of money. I know you love him now. I got a sister. I love him I opened a restaurant for my family that restaurant lasted one year One year the money was gone. They couldn't tell me where the money went I came in there. They had to made all this money I still had to pay the taxes out of my pocket after they had them been making money every day They had every excuse in the world What the food cost this and this cost this and this cost this you got to be careful about doing business with family If they ain't never ran no brick and mortar business and don't know nothing about no business And the question that you asked let me know as well that you need a coaching session because Should I apply for a LLC first or an eion? That let me know You're gonna need a consultant in this process Because you can't get an eion unless you got a LLC So the LLC you get that first and then you get your employee identification number From the IRS Which is basically your tax ID. So you get a LLC, but then that eion. That's your tax ID So you're gonna need a consultant and I help you with that It's other business coaches as well on my mentor dot life that could walk you through this process But listen to me Listen to me You'll be better off letting your brother get out And take his certificate and work for for mike's auto body Larry's auto body The the shop that's been there for 30 years let him work there Learn how they run the business climb the ranks in a couple years become the manager supervisor Learn how it's done then ask mike for his blessing to go open his own shop with his sister That'd be more wisdom Cassinia tonic When did you know that sharing this knowledge is your mission? How do you handle frenemies? Latte thank you for um sending that blessing to ask Cassinia question I don't know if Cassinia your your cousin Or why you felt so pressed to ask that question for her but god bless you for um Sending that blessing and ask that question for her I know she is blessed. I am Cassinia forgive me. I ain't see your question. You see i'm seeing questions, but I ain't see your question um I started this when I was 22 And to be honest with you, I was sharing it just because I had played the game So deep on so many levels and I'm I could express myself I could express what I did and why I did it and I knew in talking to other guys that they couldn't explain Why they did what they did to the women that they heard they couldn't explain it And they wouldn't come to terms with it and they wouldn't see it for what it was, you know And so that's what you have to to realize somebody say in michigan y'all need an EIN before the LLC So see that's another thing that different states is different, you know in florida You will apply for our LLC on our state business site And then they send us a link to go to the IRS site to get the EIN So that's why if you're going to open business you need to have a Business coach in your state or that know your state laws And um, I forgot to other half of that question that you posted for casinia How to deal with frenemies? Oh When did you know? Okay glam rocks sent casinia question to a y'all got to realize on the q&a Y'all spending y'all money the answer question The ask a question that is not no make or break question Not casinia not gonna Pass away for not getting that answer casinia understand that there's a q&a with a thousand people on it So don't y'all get so self righteous to feel like oh, let me go spend money to ask this question This question has nothing to do with her life being on the line with her being in a toxic relationship And so y'all got to understand Don't get self righteous in this hill chat like they understand It's a million people asking questions. I do two q&a's on saturdays So I come back later tonight if casinia and get her question asked she can ask it later tonight It's it's it's a hundred other people and get they question asked you know what I'm saying So it's like y'all just put the hashtag q in front of your question and then put it up there If I miss it, I'm gonna go through the chat, but y'all got to have to understand in that I'm one person reading a hundred questions. So if I miss a question That's just what it is because I'm trying to read everybody question, but this question right here It's a woman that's getting abused right now and y'all ain't grabbed that question this question right here This this this started the do or die question So how to how to handle frenemies you see what I'm saying if you if you know your friend as an enemy Then the problem is not with your friend with your friend. I mean the problem is with you So once you find out that a friend as an enemy You get gone you move on about your life You you don't handle frenemies. You don't keep somebody in your circle That you that could stab you in your bag You don't keep that somebody say It was a paid question the paid questions that I missed what I do is I go back to the chat and I scroll through To find all of the colors That I missed so I had not Missed her question because I still go back through to scroll through the question on y'all's side Y'all see all the questions stuck right there So understand that and y'all just take a chill pill Cousin cousin ain't got to go to the hospital if I miss her question Veronica see I'll be your translator Tony. God bless you solo pregunto and y'all see what Veronica said Alexandria God bless you now. Hey the Lord and show bless you now because this is checking time up here friend a word Okay Married three years Four little eyes watch What's happening to her? Still married just had jr. She pays a lot good four months fifth drinks four months fifth drinks plus Abuse cycle. She said when dating previously was of you Married her knowing he does it No married her now he does it afraid will get the call What to do? I'm guessing maybe you talk about the call like to go meet the Lord Yeah, Alexandria, you might have to sponsor your friend for a coaching session But I'll tell you this right here when you're dealing with a man who is toxic like that You know he abusive like that and he drinks The longer you stay the worse it gets for him What I mean by this is It's kind of like a a coil being wind up when you wind in a coil When you wind in this coil this spring the longer you wind it when you let it go the more it's gonna But see if you just wind for a little bit and you let it go the bounce back not going to be that strong So that's what you have to realize by a relationship when you in a relationship If it's three years and you leave Now he hasn't had the time to work up enough animosity and resentment and anger So when you leave he's still kind of he's flustered But see if you stay there and he gets to realize your every movement Your every up and your every down Everything about you. He gets to read you. He gets to study. He gets to learn So now if he's really really toxic to that place to where he could study How he can do something to you and get away with it The longer you stay there the more time you give him to plot and plan So that when he want to get off Get that tension off of him From his inner demons He can do it and get away with it or think he could get away with it or he had a courage to do it Because he done played with it for so long. So that's why I say recognize crazy early As soon as you recognize it and you know it's toxic and you know if this is Repeated it could be deadly. You got to be gone You got to be gone How can a woman get out of a toxic relationship? But he's taking care of the children and she's working And he's her only help at this time Well, you got to decide what that word means when you say toxic, you know If it's just if it gets on your nerves If it gets on your nerves if if you feeling, you know Overly sensitive the way it makes you cry, but you know, it got a lot to do with how you processing what's happening And you not having a release Then you may need to take some of your income to get therapy or get your usual insurance to get therapy so that you have a release Now if it's really toxic to where you know, it's serious serious serious Then you can't worry about that a little bit of help you get on google It's foundations that'll replace his help It's foundations in your city that will help you leave that situation And they got grants that they could help you pay whatever bills you need paid Then you also got child support that he could be put on that. He got to pay a price um Mishitra God bless you. God bless you. Nicky rolling. God bless you now. I'm part of their lives lord God bless you Tony. Thank you for all you do. I've been consistently watching all your videos even the old ones Since the ending of 2019 and it helps me getting closer to the lord and finding so much peace in my life. Thank you Hey, god bless you. Thank you Now y'all hold on right quick. Let me see uh Scroll through here and see if I see any colors in here And thank glen rocks and leti for asking casinia question Um crystal. I got crystal question I got that question. Now this uh, Nishitra. You sent another blessing. Hey, I don't know if you meant to do that twice now or if your your phone glitch God bless you now. I'm part of their life. Miss g Miss g bless you bless you I saw miss g Hey, I appreciate y'all trying to keep the chat clean Thank you to the moderators who tried to keep the chat clean um Had some complaints come in with the chat because you know, we live in this blog culture We live in this blog culture and when when you follow blogs on instagram That posts All this stuff sometimes it just becomes second nature To just come in and clap back and you know make light of stuff and you know Just say a little stuff and you send it from a you know a fun place or a loving place you're not trying to be serious, but The thing is is you never know where a person is at So a person could be on here on their last leg Sabrina. God bless you. Okay. I I'm on an 18, but you really got at me. God bless you Sabrina See that was in the chat. So that's why I tell y'all some of these messages somebody sent a blessing It only shows up in the chat Y'all could see the chat because y'all reading it But when I got a question that top of the screen blow it up it's blow it up on my screen So I can't see nothing that's happening in the chat So we're on two different sides of it. So y'all got to understand sometimes just that human error um the sheetra now I want somebody to install your phone. God bless you now Allison I saw Allison message And so what happens is you know The person who wrote in Or the people who wrote in they could have been being sensitive, but it's kind of like this They got the right to be sensitive Now me i'm always going to answer my question blunt, but this is the thing You got to have report with a person So when I answer my questions blunt The person who asked me the question They watched my videos an hour a day. So they know my style When they ask a question If one of y'all answer the question in the chat, they don't know you So you are stranger to them and so your message your answer could be the same just like mine But because they have not watched you for 10 15 20 hours It comes off as abrasive and offensive And so that's why people was writing in you know about the chat room and this the thing I don't ever want to run the shade room. That's too messy. That's too toxic And so for me, this is about helping people grow And that's why I say Well, it's a lot of people on here and i'm just one person. You see what I mean? So I got to try to read all these messages and you two really need to work on it to where It's a chat section on one half of the screen And it's a question section and if somebody hit question It goes into a hole to the other side of the screen so that I could clearly separate Y'all just chatting and somebody asking a real question But see for this I can't separate between y'all chatting and putting the emojis and things of that nature and a real question Evac God bless you. Uh, hey, I got to go. I'm gonna pass them in. I'm gonna grab these last two questions I got to go. I lord willing. I'll be back tonight. I say that but it's not a promise But if I if I could be back tonight to do round number two for the people who I miss your question It typically be round It's typically at 7 p.m. Eastern or 9 p.m. Eastern depend on You know my family situation what we doing date night or dinner Evac I only have male friends never really had female friends. What can I do? It's just the way it's always been for me. I'm very ladylike and like men only adjust And like men only adjust f y Um, yeah, you're gonna have to kind of distance yourself a little bit You're gonna have to have to distance yourself. You got to ask yourself why you don't like women I get it. You know, my wife, she still got women friends But she she was telling me she really don't do women like that because women so You know catty and jealous and a drama and all this So, you know, I get it but you got you're gonna have to you you're gonna have to adjust because When you have a lot of male friends, that's feeding your that energy so Their energy is taking up that natural oil that's on you That attracts a man that's that natural scent On you that attracts a man they energy soaking that up So that when you go out into the public, you don't have you have taken energy instead of single and ready energy Because you've got so many male friends in your life when you get that distance and say, hey We're gonna have to pull back a little bit like your male friends. Anyways, they waiting to put you on your bike anyways I know you don't believe that but that's all that is because a man ain't gonna be talking to no woman every day If he don't want something Unless he like men's and he just not into you So understand that they're Men who are friends is typically a man in waiting in the wings for you to get desperate enough for you to be vulnerable enough For him to pounce. So those friends you could put them on like conversation. Happy birthday. Merry Christmas. Happy Easter How'd the child doing tell you baby? Happy birthday. Happy birthday to you send the video and that's just that But if you're sitting on the phone with a man and you talking and you telling your dreams your hopes your fears your worries You're doing the most you blocking all your husband energy And and he's soaking that up and so you falling in love with him But don't even want to admit it and he's falling for you But can't be with you because he already in a relationship or you not all the way his type or vice versa But y'all still blocking y'all blessings Um shanty's Charles. God bless you and I got a video on that I got a video on that God bless you shanty pour out in her life La tondra. God bless you. No pour out in her life Tony after the 14 days should I remain silent if he doesn't try to reach me again? Yes, you should You should I am 21 baby daddy is 39 am I wrong to leave him even though we have a child No, you're not wrong to leave you never wrong to leave Never wrong to leave when you got reason to leave And that's you and your baby daddy That he your baby daddy and he your daddy he 18 years older than you he old enough to be your daddy If you have a soul time and you think about the person all the time Is it possible they are thinking about you as well the same way Can you be the only one with an emotional soul time? It is very possible It's very possible Uh-oh Got 20 I got 20 left It's very possible That they're thinking about you most likely they are Two months since ending the seven-year toxic relationship live together Five years, I'm happy with my decisions But I'm having a hard time learning how to be alone It hits more at night Trying not to become depressed. I'm 27 Well, it's only been two months Seven years a seven year toxic relationship could take 14 years to heal from if you're not doing real work So and it's gonna hit more at night because that's when the music stopped playing everything quiet at night That's when your mind go to racing So what you may need to do is start listening to affirmations at night or the soundscapes the music with the affirmations Or you can listen to a teaching video that you have heard before You've already heard it two or three times so that it's not really stimulating your brain is background noise But you could do that But hey, I got to go. God bless y'all. Congratulations to the new coaches. Um, who took the life coach certification The coupon code is still available. It just The value is different just a little bit, but the value is different, but I just heard the um My junk hauler just pulled up. I heard it horn outside. So I got the help You know, get this junk hauled off Hey, god bless y'all Let me grab this last question from from bruce. I feel like I saw her name. This is my last question right here. Okay How should I stay positive after telling a lover? I no longer want a relationship with him anymore So I don't fall back on my back You stay positive by doing what you're doing. You hear you feed your mind You get an accountability partner, whether that's somebody that's a friend or family member who's going to do it for free Or whether you have to go get a professional that's that you can talk to weekly Until you get your footing and you get your strength But you stay positive by putting positivity in your mind If you listen to sad r&b songs If you listen, you watching sappy rom-coms romantic comedies on netflix You you putting the wrong information into your mind and it's gonna make you want to go back Hey, god bless y'all. We'll talk soon Hey, thank you all for for the thanks