 Ladies and gentlemen Tony Gaskins here, hopefully you can hear me, okay Want to pop in? Just got back in off the road a little bit So I um, I owe the bless tribe a Q&A You know for those of you In the bless tribe appreciate you and the bless business tribe too as well Although that's something a little separate The wrench by your names those are moderators the ones with wrench those moderators or those individuals who they have a little more Control over here, they could put people in time out and they could delete messages in the chat and things of that nature so shout out to the moderators appreciate the moderators helping me out and And Ain't gonna be long tonight probably our maybe I don't have I'm looking at my son and studying so He get done studying that let me know I got to get off cuz that mean he going to bed But I ain't no sense of me Getting off here as long as he up studying So as you know with the bless tribe You'll see under my videos a little button if you're not in the bless tribe But you watching the lives a little button that says join and then we have the bless tribe And we do these Q&A's for the bless tribe and then the bless business tribe That's where I'm giving a lot of six and seven figure business tips and ideas for those who are Entrepreneurs or want to become entrepreneurs and kind of doing both That's what we have that at my email is support Support at Tony gas and calm if you asking me Let me see God says he's not big on calling much says prefer texting and seeing in person Says don't get mad if he goes silent went on the phone when we do talk or FaceTime But not as much as I Prefer thoughts That means he's not ready for a relationship and that'll put you on a lot of pain with dealing with a guy like that You just it'll have you frustrated. You'll be angry So if a man is still you know child liking his mind to where he doesn't know how to express itself He don't know how to court a woman. It really means he doesn't deserve a woman and he doesn't deserve a relationship You know, he got to learn that that's the area he has to grow in and if he's unwilling to grow in that area He just wants to a woman to you know, just put up with his nothingness Then you got to leave him where he's standing that and let somebody else deal with him Make sure you put the hashtag Q in front of your question so I can identify the question and Try to keep just questions in the chat so I could see the questions. I know y'all saying, you know Good evening and all that right now, but I Get that right there Left my boyfriend since he was inconsistent during the second chance He didn't call for days not opening up to me several right move to leave Yeah, you did the right thing. You did the right thing Boyfriend and girlfriend that those aren't situations that you're supposed to leave a lot of time We fight for a girlfriend a boyfriend when that's just a trial period That's the time where you can be quick to leave you can you know shut it down quick because you just You're getting to know somebody, you know, it's marriage where you really want to Turn every stone before you leave, you know No seminars in Tampa or any city I don't do live seminars right now. Yes, you know what we got going on in the world So if you go to Tony gas and Academy dot com I'm doing zoom seminars. So all the seminars are they virtual right now. So we're doing the different age groups and The single mom's dating talking about just what to look out for Ways to move when you're a single mom and you getting out here on the dating scene. That's a next Monday night So y'all can start up for the zoom seminars on Tony Gaskins Academy comm if you missed the last ones for the different age groups Hi, Tony a 17 year old booked a teenager coaching session with me Is it okay to coach her if the parent didn't book the session? God bless you haven't sent. I'm pretty sure The parent booked the session or gave the money for the session if you If you want you could send an email, you know to the person and say hey the I will have to Speak to your parent, you know First before doing the session so you could do that to you know get consent But it's not like you given a tattoo or something. So it's not like, you know, you know, you long as you're not doing nothing crazy it's not like you know, you give an a tattoo or something like that so and 17, you know, even in with relationships age of consent and 16 They they they not even putting people in jail. I just seen the young lady honey boo boo 16 years old post her 20 year old boyfriend. I'm like, how is that legal? But with coaching is virtual. You're not in person. It's by phone. So you can if you feel like hey Let me talk to your mom first then, you know, you could do that and set that up but You know, that's the reason of my mentor That life that's the reason why I want to do it virtual so that it decreases, you know physical interaction Coming on the people physically and you have your space and you know, can't be touching or getting touch You know, all that right there. That's why I feel like the space is going and coaching to virtual Diane God bless your toxic men usually likes to leave the door open. He put me on hold never cut me off I blocked him completely wondering how Would he be feeling? Well, Diane, that's the first that's the mistake that you making is sitting and wondering how he was how he's feeling and then also pain to ask a question about him is cementing that thought in your mind and so you going about this thing the wrong way What you should be doing is asking questions about you reading books taking courses Watching the videos and not sitting and pondering about him Because that kind of nullifies your decision if you sit and give him rent-free space in your mind. So I don't want to you know, reinforce that and Go ahead and move on, you know, don't don't worry about how he feeling and what he doing and all of that move on because you can't can't really make sense of Toxic people, you know, that's like trying to wrap your head around Something that you didn't create Wendy God bless you. Can I do a course teaching people how to find their specific calorie macro needs? Does it need to be a time limit in order to? Charge Well, Wendy first you want to make sure that you're certified in that area and because when you're dealing with people body It's a lot of liability there because you know, sometimes we learn stuff for ourselves but when you when you talking about the body and Macro needs and all of that if if I'm understanding what you're talking about it sound like nutrition and If that's the case then you want to oh, yeah, it's calorie macro needs You want to be very careful with that because with courses a lot of people don't understand what you're saying They don't understand what you're talking about like even when my course is the customer service is always a zoo And so people was like hey You know, I can't do this. I don't understand that and my stuff is really simple So when you get into that somebody could just misunderstand what you're saying and they could be calorie deficient and pass out and then their family say hey Well, they took this course by this person right here Well, we finna sue cuz you know passed out at night a in a comatose state trying to follow this You know online course about so you got to be very careful with that type of stuff when it's dealing with health and things like that Sometimes, you know, it may be another course. That's more general You know that that can Kind of move you a little closer to where it's an open tight course to where it's more general and people can get it for free Get on your mailing list and then can book you for one-on-one sessions to where you can assess them personally if you Certified diet Titian or nutritionist or whatever it will be Keelya J. God bless you. God bless you Um Miss my super chat Let's see if I could find that Okay, I see that I'm going through a divorce and he's making it super hard. I'm trying to keep cool head for the kids But it's so hard any tips Well In a situation like that you kind of that's not really when it's dealing with marriage and Divorce and things of that nature You really need to invest in coaching because you got to be able to talk through that, you know, this right here type of Q&A Me not knowing your mental makeup me not knowing what he's put you through what you're going through Just general cool down techniques like counting backwards from 10 or going on the walk or you know picturing your kids Whatever that may not work for you You know, so whenever You are dealing with a marriage issue This really more so for dating issues the clear-cut marriage issues are like when you've just been cheated on Over and over again or going through this net and it's like, okay You need to leave but other things in marriage you really want to do your due diligence and Investing yourself in the form of a coaching session So that you can really talk through it and really be heard and it's all about you And it's several questions being asked and you can create a plan, you know Action plan that you can act on, you know, I have to be careful when I'm advising on marriage and divorce because that's God's union and and It's not it's not always very clear-cut, you know Know this flower God bless you baby daddy doesn't help with anything But once our son holidays and birthdays I allow it, but feel this unfair. I do all the hard work He has it easy what to do. Well, you got to stop doing what you feel is unfair, you know birthdays and holidays You know, those are those are days that we remember. We don't really remember the other 360 days, you know, we remember Christmas. We remember birthday Mother's day father's day, you know, we remember those things. So if he wants a child on father's day, okay Great birthday if y'all want to do half and half for the day or you do a party and he comes over Christmas especially if he's not helping and he's not helping he's not doing any of the heavy lifting He's not helping financially then he can't just get the glory days And so in situations like that, you got to create a win-win situation And if he's unwilling to do that, then that's when you got to put your foot down go to court Let the judge hash it out and you know a lot of time we won't do that Make sure you put a hashtag cue in front of your question now if you do one of these blessing questions where you Send in a financial blessing. You don't have to put a hashtag on that because it come up in that little colorful bubble What do you think about a woman? Initiating contact with a guy on a dating app. How do you test and see if he is a guy that can take initiative to? Well, I see you knew here God bless you. Thank you for being here I'm not the one that y'all hold on right quick got something in my throat For one You you knew here So I don't believe in dating apps. You should not be on dating apps dating apps is like being a gazelle And it's like a dating app for a woman is like a gazelle walking into a lion's den a Gazelle is the lunch of a lion So I don't condone dating apps. They're not made well enough. They don't have enough, you know safe Zones in them. They're not built the right way for relationships. It's a smorgasbord. It's a buffet for women who don't know what they're doing in a in a dating relationship and It's men who are sharks smelling blood in the water and so for one Never get on a dating app unless it's your last option in the world and then to never initiate contact with a man Because the man is the one who has to get on one knee and Ask for a woman's hand in marriage. So if he can't Pursue you if he can't contact you then he's not your husband and If he don't see you then he's not your husband but don't don't listen to the three women who Contacted a man and then it turns out it worked out because that's not that's an exception to the rule And do I tell X I can't handle his On and off combo or just block and move on We are on better terms now, but he's told me he's talking to someone new recent You got to block them and move on got a block. I'm gonna move on Key word is X and you keep dealing with the X. You got to move on with your life. Stop dealing with X X's To launder God bless your single four years healed worked on the three bees recently Been pretty down about being single how to handle this. Well, you're not working on your three bees if you down Because one of the three bees is your brain. So if you get knowledge and you read in books That should produce confidence if you invest it in yourself. That's gonna produce confidence another bee is brand So if you start a company or you climb in the ranks at your job and you get another certification or another degree That's gonna motivate you if you start your nonprofit organization. You write your book. That's gonna motivate you so you're not investing in yourself enough you're not putting enough work in on yourself and Creating something that's bigger than you so that you get excited about the journey and the task and what you're trying to accomplish You you just kind of living and going day-to-day and you doing just enough to get by and you live in a mediocre Existence and when you live in a mediocre existence it it'll depress you So your goals got to be bigger than you and that's why I say I say all the time. I say I'm a I'm a billionaire Because that's so far fetched You know, it's really not a lot of billionaires that look like me, you know, it's not a lot that's You know young and so I say that because it stretches my mind. It keeps me involved It keeps me invigorated it keeps the goal in front of me And so we get down and we get sad when we Don't give our lives purpose something to work for something to shoot for you know, that's bigger than us Hey T miss my super chat When y'all if you do that, you know when you put that in there still a pan Just write your question in the next one too But what y'all have to understand about these these are free Q&A's so when you Give a donation That's a donation. I'm just not a paid Q&A so Don't y'all Put a donation if that's not money that you can't afford to lose. There's not a paid Q&A. There's a free Q&A There's for the blessed tribe people who pay $1.99 a month to be in the blessed tribe So a lot of y'all coming in and y'all paying for these questions You're not even in the blessed tribe and then so I'm missing that and you got to realize a lot of There's a lot of questions in this hit chat So just post your question for free in there If you ain't got that right there to lose you see what I mean Cuz I don't I don't ask for donations and I don't do one-on-one sessions You know, so I want y'all understand. This is a free Q&A child father Right here and YouTube they need to set this timer on these questions when y'all do Send a blessing in they they have them go so fast and they don't put all of them at the top some of them They put in the chat, but it's a thousand questions in the chat. So it just I get it get lost You too need to have it aware of you pay To submit something that it stay on my screen until I exit off Child father Want son three years to live with him. He lives in the south side kind of dangerous And listen to bad music slash party. I said no but also feel like son need to be around a man I don't trust his friends either For one a son don't need to be around a man. A man is is essential but if he live if he's not living right then he's not a man and If he live in the south side sound like you talking about south side of Chicago To where your son could walk outside and get hit in a drive-by then You will be a fool to send him to that area Knowing that that could happen and it's like okay If the daddy wanted to live over there the daddy ought to be trying to come out their hood Stop listening to the trash music Stop hanging around lowlights and bombs if he want to be a role model in his son life You know sometimes a man just want to be in his son life Because he want the child to be an accessory He want a child to be oh, he cute. Oh you taking care and guess what I? Heard a couple of you rappers Say you don't take care your kids we can't talk and so some of these men want to have a child Just to say oh, I take care my kid not realizing that taking care your child meaning being an Example that your child could look up to so if you cursing like a sailor you smoking like a chimney if you drinking like a fish if You clubbing like a DJ Then you still not a father. You still not a man. You still not a mom. You still not a good parent Just cuz your child is in your presence And so that's what people got to understand and at the end of the day Whoever the court gives soul custody to it's that person to protect that child You can't get caught up in grown folks feelings and he want that child But it's like he ain't doing what it takes for that child to be in a safe space Then he don't he don't need that child You can't put that child in there because I think it's look like you say your son two or three You don't need no man. You don't even know the difference between man and woman yet like three years old maybe at seven eight nine he might need more interaction with his daddy, you know learning about manhood but You ain't gonna learn about manhood if the baby daddy is a grown boy immature Britain court God bless my boyfriend of almost a year has been pretty Consistent and loving to me. He is handsome and I fear in time. He will get bored of Just me any advice for longevity slash faith Well, that's that's the thing right there is you can't operate from fear You know, if you if you fear that then that's what's gonna come upon you You can't you can't move in fear and you got to realize that We're not built to just be jumping from person to person. We want routine. We want consistency Yeah, he could get bored. He could lust or what have you but you can't get caught up in that if you know You're doing what you can do If you know you respect in yourself, you're a respectable person You're loving good hearted kind hearted person. You can't get caught up in you know, his insecurity or what he you know going through and Him being a grown boy and all of those things can get caught up in that You know, you just got to live your life Okay, that was Camel Right now baby daddy doesn't help with anything but when our son I seen that one. What do you think about a woman? This ain't contact. I've seen that one. Do I tell X I can't handle his on and off convo Yeah, see that one. I'm 26 why do men who are 15 to 20 plus years older than me seem to be the only ones who approach me Well, they well at 26 the day men really not even ready to date and These 26 year old men right now, they so caught up in social media and on that cell phone That they almost brain dead to real real life real communication. They sold into 2k the video game and so into Snapchat and Instagram and TikTok that they really almost don't know how to function in the real world like back in the day When I was coming up and before that we really didn't have all these phones, we you know cell phones start to come around I mean first time I seen a cell phone My uncle came to my house that cell phone with this big He had a cell phone in his hand. Like what in the world is that? I'm like walking around with a VCR and so and then we got a cell phone It just had a little snake game on it. If that and just Text message the ink used to bleed in the sun I'll flip my phone over one time and the phone just disintegrated all the ink just disintegrated. I was like wow the world sprint door and So today it's so much technology. I remember my dad said the Bible say The world is weaker and wiser. I don't know if that's actually in the Bible, but What that meant to me by weaker and wiser Meaning that the more technology we have the dumber we get The smarter our phones get the dumber we get and so you 26 years old You up against a lot, you know, you up against a lot and unless a man got purpose he got focused like I worked with college athletes who you know in their 20s in their early 20s and Now quite a few of them that I've worked with that I mentor They got a full-time girlfriend like live with them talk to them every day But that's because these guys want to go To the pros and so they locked in and focus on a purpose and so that woman give them consistency and You know routine and just a sense of peace Because they don't have time to be just jumping around but when the men without a purpose they're not trying to approach no one especially no 26 and then Them older men They try and like Stella got a groove back. They like stepman got his groove back You know, they want they want to get a groove back so they they want them a pretty young thing that they could throw a few dollars at and Get you wrapped up so he could feel young again midlife crisis Megan roll God bless a cute guy in my class saw him looking at me. He was walking in the hall I greeted him with hello and asked about the class project That's it. Was this too forward? Um, not really Because you played it off about that class project You know it is That ain't too bad that different is saying hey, I saw you in class, you know wanting to speak to you You wouldn't happen to be single would you like that'll be a little too far Um, oh speaking of shout out to the lady who Had the flight attendant give me a note today to just share with me how the videos and things have helped change your life and and And then used to add the lady said to me Just in case you recognize my name I've sent you a blessing to your cash out before and I went to cash out and search your name and show enough saw Several blessings that you sent to me and that really floored me You know and I really appreciate that because I woke up I was asleep the whole time on that flight and I woke up and the flight attendant came a hand me a letter and say hey it's a young lady and coach and She said that she You you your inspiration you bless her life and she told us to give this and And I I I ain't read it till I got home that it was like a Leo four-page level and I said man That's only happening me two or three times on the plane So that that really means a lot and that that right there that keep me going because as y'all see Answering all these questions. They get a little draining. You get a little hard. Sometimes I get frustrated Sometimes I get tired Cuz typically people come on live just to talk just to talk at the screen But when I come on here, I try to answer questions and that's real it tug on you You know it tug on you and especially when some of the stuff for me is you know, it's cut and dry But I know when you in it It's a little harder to see your way out and so you know, I really Appreciate that. Let me see now cuz now listen. This is a free Q&A So folks in send a blessing. I try to prioritize it and get to see it, but they delete it My boyfriend been pretty okay. I seen that one too. So I think I caught up. I think I got a caught up on the ones who Send a blessing in them. So let me try to get to the regular chat Do you mind taking a glance at my pic? Does it look like too much? Should I not use a profile pic appreciate your help? You should use a profile pic, but I can't see you on here. Really y'all pictures so small but I can't see you and I really don't answer those questions when y'all asked me to take a look at it because I Am married and so I don't like looking at women and judging a woman and reading a woman So if you notice when I answer those questions, it's not solicited of me the woman is asking me a different question and then I will comment on Her image like what she's showing what she portraying, but I don't answer those questions when they are solicited Just because I can't tell the difference between the spirits And so it could be and it's no offense to the pure spirits But it could be Jezebel spirits that say hey, can you look at me and tell me what you see? And then if it if I do see Jezebel what I'm gonna say is I look like I see Jezebel Look like I see Delilah Look like I see Bathsheba that bent over in that water Trying to show some booty off now that day what Bathsheba did, you know, David just was a little thirsty Alondra God bless you Blessing for the Queen's birthday bless you now bless you now that they floored me how y'all bless my wife How y'all saying I'm blessing for my wife, you know that that really floored me. I Really appreciate you. Hey Tony my boyfriend and I have been together for three years and he's been saying for years I need to propose first and I'm so tired of it. I'm ready to give up. I need help um if I'm reading this right sound like you saying and Mauricia Put this in the regular chat without paying Tell me is are you saying that your boyfriend telling you that you need to propose to him first? It is fun reading is right Cuz it's so you need to pack your stuff and leave if that's what he telling you cuz You got too old lane You got too old Fruity booty, I don't mean sure he Less, you know, you want no relationship the man only you want no relationship Alondra bless you now bless you Sasha is royal blessing when should a father share with his daughters that he's met and has married someone 18 and 13 live in another country Well, they live in another country, then I'm not really sure You know, that's even really necessary cuz it don't really affect them. I mean they in a whole another country That just kind of you know, it sound like the mama Want the daddy to tell the daughters some business that don't affect them at all Because they're in a whole another country So that the daughters could get upset with the daddy and be mad with him for moving on from their mama But it's like, you know, it's child keep a child in the child's place If it's a whole another country, it's different if they got to go live with the woman if they got to be Cohabitating but a whole another country. That's really that's not even really real, you know So it's like sometimes as adults we can't make what makes sense to us Make sense for kids make sense for, you know, young adults. I know one I'm 18, but it's like You know, if they don't have that kind of if he's not telling them that mean they don't have a relationship So it's like why why would he just be telling something to somebody that he don't even know like you really don't even know It daughters like that, you know So it's like that sometimes the parents We want something to be a certain way for the kids because it makes sense to us as adults Not realizing that the children they might sound kill about that like okay And like, you know, those your feelings you hurt that he moved on you see what I mean The kid might be like listen, I understand you heard that he in another country and he with another woman But that don't affect my life. Like I don't even know this man. You see what I mean? So you have to Sometimes we got to get ourself out of the way Ashley and God bless you. Hey Tony, I had a long term Seven years boyfriend near the end of the relationship. He told me he didn't deserve me and hates himself My intuition told me he was unfaithful and I left him. Can you explain? Not really can't really explain that but um, I Can't say that that was not your man that was not your husband Cuz seven years a seven year boyfriend that that's a dead giveaway right there that that's not your husband And so, you know, understand that Denise God bless you not Denise I don't I ain't sure if you meant to put a question with that. Hey still scrolling all the way back up I'm just gonna grab this is the last question. That's at the bottom down there Because and then y'all just keep posting your questions. Just repost it back in there But you believe that when you keep giving someone the benefit of the doubt you are dishonoring yourself. Yes Yes, you are because even in the court of law We we got to prove beyond a reasonable doubt So in the court of love You should have to keep giving the benefit of doubt because you're dealing with a human being who can do the right thing They could do right. They know right from wrong. They could do the right thing So you should have to keep giving the benefit of doubt. I can see if you do that one time Two times out to be the most but if you keep having to give the benefit of doubt then you can play So you got to understand that 26 working on the three bees, but I'm healing very slow from Pat wrong and And out yeah, sis, that's a little too deep on here We don't we as this is not Tony to now when I get on Tony to we could dive into that this is YouTube Okay, so you to you can't even say certain words on here. Okay, so y'all listen Y'all, you know some of this stuff they don't get all deep and all like that. That's for therapy That's for therapy. It's just kind of what we're doing is just surface level fly by night. Just a little Little light Q&A. Okay, this right here is that we ain't going all Super-duper deep now because for one that's private business That's bedroom business. That's deep stuff and you got it's a whole audience on here You know what I mean? Your coworker could be on here watching this and recognize your face and now they at work You can see it on her You see what I mean, so this the world wide well It's the world wide. Well, and that's why I try to tell y'all like listen So I do a lot on here for free But I want y'all to understand in order to really grow in order to really get what you need out of life You're gonna have to go to that next level. You're gonna have to invest in yourself That's it's coaches on my mentor that life for twenty five dollars an hour and They'll talk to you a whole hour and y'all could Uncover some stuff y'all could really talk through some things. So When I say do the work, I mean really sit down get you a book Read through that book get you a notepad Write notes highlight in the book get you a coach at whatever your budget is if you can't save $25 Then you have a whole nother set of problems that you need to be focused on I remember sometimes people used to reach out on that. I ain't got $10 for the book I say listen you weren't about the wrong thing then you shouldn't even be thinking about no relationship if you can't Save up $10. You got to get that get your job get your grind get that in order before you learn about love You see what I mean? So listen, I Want y'all to be able to do the work invest in yourself get you a coach You know, I'm not doing one-on-one sessions right now But we got I think about 700 coaches on my mentor that life where you could go on my mentor that life Click browse coaches and then it's gonna come up a list but above that's gonna apply filters When you click that filter you could select the topic that you weren't coaching on and then you hit apply filter And it's gonna bring up the coaches on that subject and then you read a bio's see who bio you like You know who you get a trustworthy vibe from and then book that coach And if you don't like that coach then book a different coach You don't like that one book a different till you find the right coach for you Just like when you looking for a job looking for a pass you looking for somewhere to live You got to go through look at different things before you find the right fit you find the right fit and then you work with that coach until you get your goals and you get to get your life in order and The knees God bless you God bless you now the knees look like you seen another blessing on that not Blessing now restoration. I met a guy. He seems nice. However, he tends to call at later times Is this a red flag or am I overreacting with my boundaries by not answering? You're not overreacting with your boundaries. You got to have boundaries. You got to respect your boundaries You got to make people respect your boundaries. And so with him calling late That either means he worked the gray yard shelf and he can talk to you while he at work away from his woman Or that mean he talked into other women in the earlier hours of the day giving them the decent hours And then giving you the gray yard shift hours because you number two or number three or number four on his roster and Or he and if it's not other women then he preoccupied He got too much going on in the decent hours of the day and calling you in the trash hours of the day And so you got to let him let them go on by this business and just let him know like this I don't answer the phone after 9 p.m. So if you want to talk you got to call me before 9 p.m you know and let him know because sometimes a man I call you late to because Certain time of night ain't nothing open, but legs and a Mac don't drive through So if you asking the phone certain time of night it let him know that you on freaky time that you nasty That conversation finna get out of order. You see what I mean? So so that's also a test because that voice get low at late at night that voice get a little raspy got a little breath on you and Things start to Get a little out of control on that phone late at night So sometimes men want to talk to you that time of night just to get you out you Little element new date said he will bring Flowers on the date, but doesn't instead saying I should have reminded him to buy flowers Well, since you were about the wrong thing you were about the wrong thing like don't get caught up on movies Don't get caught up on him reaching over to unlock the door You know him having a flower and all this right here. That stuff don't matter. None of that stuff matter Listen to his conversation. How much do he drink? Alcohol when y'all on the day how much does he curse? Do he cut you off all the time when you talking is he over talking you is he? Attentive like pay attention to the stuff that matter Because a player a pimp will bring you a bouquet of roses. You see what I mean? So y'all got to really know what matter what don't matter After J. God bless you now my marriage doesn't have much romance when I tell hubby he says I don't do romantic things either I don't because he doesn't thoughts well You could leave by example being that you married you could try to do some romantic and then see if he reciprocates You know marriage in marriage. You can't have an ego and marriages is equal in marriage. It's not like I Always say don't give a boyfriend husband benefits, but in marriage It's okay to initiate It's okay to at it's okay for a woman to initiate in marriage It's okay for for you to shoot your shot to see what you could try Because he you may be teaching him how to love because I just did a video on romanticism now the other day And why men aren't very romantic so watch that video all your answers in there And so, you know, you got to understand that that like right for this he'll lie, you know, my wife sent me old message So I ain't gonna be on this lie too long to my son go to bed But when marriage it ain't no keep it score then they know, you know, let me just sit here and wait I get served It's like He could be raised so cold that he don't know how to be warm He could have been raised by savages, you know, he could have been raised by the wolves Like he could have saw all kind of abuse in his household He could have been in a single parent household and never saw love So it's like when you marry if you know better then you do better and when you do better if he don't pick up What you putting down then that let you know, he's not invested in the marriage and he's smart enough to see What could be done and what should be done? And if he's not doing that now, you know, you got your real problem and you could go ahead and put on back Okay, I like the way they did watch amber thing it's a member for 18 months and Amber Washington just want to say thank you for all you do blessings on blessings that you and the family God bless you now God bless you appreciate you now Sabine Forgive me for saying your name wrong now Question me and today particularly the Millennials born between the 80s and 90s 35 successful and now feeling like I may need to have a baby unconventionally Time help, please Well, go go to the doctor go to the doctor get him eggs checked out Let and see if the doctor tell you hey the ex his Over easy like one of my clients call her eggs See what the doctor say about your fertilization and then you kind of then you could process that next step But don't just be in your head and panicking because Anytime I go to talking about oh You know you your woman could be getting up in age women want to Just rip me a new one Tony and women up one. I can have a baby at 53 I'm like well if you can have baby at 53 then why so many 35 year old bothering me upset by they clock ticking if you just so fertile in your 50s You said I'm there so I so I'd be lost in I'd be lost on how the woman body work and how what's going on So I say instead of getting stressed and worried and jumping the gun go go talk to your doctor go talk to a doctor Get checked I see what the doctor say Because that's that that right there. That's science right there. That's that's not something that a life coach could really tell you what to do Loads God bless you What are the benefits of a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship and how long should you date before marriage in this day and age? Loads I think you know here now all these questions is already in the YouTube video So y'all really need to just go to YouTube school on my channel all the every question y'all asked me I know already answered it in YouTube video I just won't let y'all know that now just in case just in case y'all didn't know I looked at my channel the other day You say I got a thousand videos. I say what when where? Things I got a thousand videos, you know a kind of catalog of learning that is Cuz it's all learning a thousand videos. That's more videos than a university got a Thousand videos now so listen it ain't no excuse for y'all to have any stone unturned and it's his love and relationship So understand that now But the benefits of boyfriend and girlfriend Relationship is really is you you getting know each other So what you looking for is this person character traits their personality traits You're looking for how their mindset is that their temperament You're looking for their choices their habits and you paying attention to that and so that's what you have to do Now look what share eight said She say hashtag is water wet Has to IQ is water wet. She says she now what she's saying Stop asking them is water wet questions now and she ain't saying that what I'm saying Don't ask them is water wet question and So that's what that's for and dating today A man a man knows if a woman is wife material for woman is his wife A man knows that about a 12 month mark Because by the 12 month mark you've had enough time to go through the elves and flows the ups and downs Nearly the full range of emotions have been shown in 12 months So a man knows by that 12 month mark if this woman is his wife that does not mean he's in love That does not mean he's ready for marriage, but it does mean he will know if you are a wife So for y'all that's dating so at the most I used to say by the 12 month mark a man need to be proposing I had to change that because of dating apps and social media and just how dumb the world is making us with all the technology So by the 24 month mark really by between 12 and 18 months a man need to be proposing and Then you need to be married if you over the age of 25 and you're dating a man that is 25 or older If you are his wife, he will marry you typically Within three years. There are exceptions to the rules the exception to the rule that I've been seeing are pro athletes Who make tens of millions of dollars? I could think of two guys I know personally who make tens of millions of dollars both of them make over 20 million a year They took a longer they took Well, I don't even know if he took I don't know if he took that long It probably between three and five years not a other one probably I'm thinking of probably was around between six and Between six and 12 years But and and there is hesitancy there is hesitancy when a man takes longer than three years Because I said because that's really not an excuse either But a lot of time we raise in dysfunction certain races or certain Demographics certain socio-economic levels you raise in this function So you don't see a healthy marriage or you don't see marriage And so you don't know what it looks like and you don't feel comfortable But I just saw the guy the quarterback Trevor Lawrence from from Clemson He making millions of dollars and he got married before he went to the NFL Right out the college. He got married and I worked with a top college sports team and I remember one of our managers I met him and he was like 22 years old now both of these guys are white and Typically in America the white experiences a little different Than other experiences and I met this guy. He had a ring on like married. He was like, yeah I was like when you got married. He's like we got married in our sophomore year of college. I'm like what? in your sophomore year of college and And so I was like a man a man knows and a man could get married So it's like when you dating don't be out here dating 50 million years career dating waiting on somebody your whole life and But no one piece of advice you would tell everyone and keep your ass closed keep your ass low Because one thing that a man won't from a woman more than anything else is what's between your legs and Lot of time women don't realize that a lot of time women downplay What's between a legs and they think a man won't personality a man won't conversation a man won't a woman who could cook a man Won't this or that won't your mind and won't know he won't what's between your legs So if you keep your legs closed you have kept all your power You didn't kept all your power and and so men and women jumping in the bed on the first night first week First month first three months first six months And when you do that for the man the journey is over the challenge is over and so Men know that it is of the essence that we work for a woman's heart That a man earns your heart before he gets your body That a man earns your trust that he earns your love that he earns your heart Before he gets your body and so many women don't understand that that men are just ticking for That bedroom Because we wired to replenish the earth So that is the number one command in a man's mind replenish the earth Like and so it's a drive that is extremely strong It's extremely strong and that's what a man going for and a lot of men because we're not raised right We're not being raised. We're just growing up. We're not being raised a lot of men don't understand the way to go about Winning a woman's heart getting a woman's trust and a lot of men don't understand the order that Intercourse should be put in and a lot of men men will put into course before love and that's like putting the cart before the horse and men don't realize the Idiocracy in that or Even when they do if the woman don't realize it the man not gonna make her help to This is idiotic for us to be in the bed before we even in love Because when you get in the bed, you could alter your whole life When you get in the bed, you could catch a disease. You can have a child You you get a emotional bond Meaning, you know, just a it could be a toxic bond you do all of this in the bed and you don't even have love and We doing stuff backwards So when you keep That gold that prize that gift when you keep that wrapped up and he got the unwrap it by Getting to know you building a real relationship in that time period. He falls in love So now when y'all actually get in the bed You're not having that you're making love because y'all are fell in love and you know each other and you together and y'all marry or You know for those y'all don't believe like that, you know God bless you Alicia asked God bless a dating a guy for eight months first online dating experience in my 40s His initial approach was I'm looking for a wife Three weeks ago. He says I don't feel like talking now silence. I don't know men in their 40s I didn't know men in their 40s were ghosting. Well, now, you know Well, now, you know and just like I said earlier do not online date So you did online dating did what you come up with Yeah, you come up with this in real life, too, but You're more likely to get it online date The rest of God bless you. Hey Tony Started watching your videos a few weeks ago and I have learned so much at 24 I greatly appreciate you. God bless you and your family. God bless you now God bless a few weeks ago. They let me know I got a lot long ways to go for people people, you know People still father still finding me got long ways to go where you ever host a live to review profiles Denise I see you can't hear late. No, I will not ever do that ever I will not ever do that and again, I will state this again for y'all who come in late I don't answer those questions when they are solicited of me because I am a married man So that will be foolish of me to sit and stare at the profiles of women Reading women because if I'm reading a woman then I could be lusting after that woman A man who lust after his heart is in sin So the only time that I do that it is happenstance Meaning that somebody asked me a question like hey, he ghosted me why he did that And she got on a bandage dress a bodycon dress And she looked like one of the city girls and I'm like well You got to think about your image that you're giving off too. Is he judge you because of that? So it's just Happenstance. I don't answer those questions when they are solicited Or if I'm doing a coaching session with somebody and so we going in depth then That's when we'll talk about the whole type of thing, but I'm not doing one-on-one coaching right now because I opened up for one day And I had to close it again the next day and so Y'all understand that sometimes y'all got to sometimes y'all got to think about You know what you asking me think about charie gaskins If you charie gaskin, do you want your husband sitting online staring at other women pictures telling them women what What he think of them? You see what I mean? Come on. Y'all got to think on that um I'm 28 People close to me say I need to live life more referring to Casual I feel guilty just thinking about how Seeing no one understand why or my way of thinking what should I do? You can't convince people your way of thinking as long as you know What's right? Stop talking to people about your business that you know ignorant The bible tell you don't cast your pearls to swine so You Meaning the swine finna be rolling in the mud So what you gonna give them wisdom for what you gonna give them your pearls your nice pearls That cost thousands of dollars what you gonna? Give that to a pig for to go chew on it and break it and Roll in the mud with it. You see what I mean? So when you see people around you don't have your mind set They're not thinking on the level that you're thinking on You talking to them about your business that's gonna be more draining and depressing than anything Because they don't think on the level you think on you know, so understand that Married twice. Not sure I want to get married again. Where does that leave me? single single So, you know, if you ain't sure you want to get married again, then stay single want blank period And don't be out here fornicating And I'm gonna tell y'all when y'all come on here It's a later the other day Tony. Some people don't want to get married. Were you on the wrong page, ma'am? You're on the wrong page. It's a christian page We we is waiting until marriage Tony you ain't wait till marriage till god be the glory. I ain't I'm not burning in satan house So just because I ain't wait the marriage you think I'm supposed to come tell you make the same mistake I made I could have come up with the heave HIV And I ain't got the money magic johnson got So how he survived it thing what it took me out I ain't got 10 percent of magic johnson money He made it through that thing would have had me coming up along I'd have been Gone And it's and you think the people that was sleeping around that caught that gonna come on here and tell you And yeah, go ahead and sleep around. Yeah, go ahead and you know, just have unprotected You know, just do that before marriage. Yeah I I caught it. You'll be good No, they're gonna tell you listen make sure you know who you're dealing with make sure you take care of your body make sure you You know make sure you doing the right thing like make sure you Pause make sure you get to know somebody make sure you save yourself the people that done made the mistakes Like out of made we're not coming on here to tell you To do the same thing we did so you could end up with the with the soul ties and the drama and the trauma and all of that so on here We're doing things the right way And we're gonna be a the lone voice in the wilderness because the world is going to at double hockey sticks With gasoline draws on And we finna be over here Doing stuff godway. So when the trumpet sound See you later I'll go I'm gone See you see you later Get rid of the tribulation finna come seven years of tribulation God bless you You want to dribble water like Lazarus got like uh, not Lazarus who the world need that dribble water You see what I'm saying we over here doing stuff, right? So I Told i'm gonna ate this wrong page I'm this hill It ain't realistic to wait until marriage Yes, it is. Yes, it is If people I know people doing it every day. I coach clients that's doing it Do it right because everybody grace ain't gonna be your grace Prince God bless her. Hey Tony boyfriend got upset and out the mood when I asked him before to play some romantic music Too many expectations then later apologized You know, that's a hard one. That's a hard one. You know That's hard when when I'm gonna tell you when that thing When that thing, you know, you should have put some romantic music on If you want to romantic music, you should have put some romantic music on but For one y'all in sin talking about your boyfriend one y'all in sin two You know, that's a boyfriend. It's not a husband. He don't care about your needs. That's your boyfriend He don't care about your knees. He worry about his knees You right? He you is the cow That the milk is free You see what I'm saying? The milk free so he ain't care about romanticizing you That's your boyfriend. That's why you ain't supposed to be sleeping with no boyfriend He don't care He bought his knees your husband Gonna like the candles gonna cut on the salt music If he in love with you if he loved you So when you give a man time to fall in love with you Then you're gonna get wind and die But if you with a boyfriend and you on your back Then you wound bound thank you ma'am So he so you you making demands. He's like hold on. You ain't no wife You ain't no wife great about a shut up and listen to this Uh gunner Listen to this little dirt little dirt Kind of soft listen to this drape You want to listen to teddy pender grass? Like listen You ain't my wife. So see you got to think about that. That's what happened when y'all getting to bed with boyfriends You giving a boyfriend the benefit of a husband We doing stuff backwards and we want it that we want stuff to be go straight, but we doing it backwards Nala god bless you. What if a man lied about having a child, but it was conceived before we were together If he'll lie by having a child he'll lie to you by any and everything Any and everything If he'd been better off lying about his age or lying about his income if he would lie to you about his flesh and blood It ain't nothing under this Son that he won't lie to you about Should friendships and relationships be in the same set of standards or am I just judging their growth? No, it's not the same set because with a friend you ain't got to sleep with a friend With a friend you ain't got to marry a friend with a friend you ain't got to live with a friend So, you know, I have homeboys that I'm around That I'll invite to the football game to the basketball game and they curse like sailors You know, I got a homeboy that I grew up with He don't affect my life at all He don't affect my life at all, but he cursed like a sailor. He smoked weed every day He in a relationship. He committed to a relationship He's not cheating to my knowledge, but he smoked weed every day. That don't affect me. He don't live in my house So I ain't got to smell that it don't affect him. He ain't bringing it around me. He don't sell it He, you know, that's just what he do for his cte playing football all his life That's what he that's how he cope with his stress. That's a friend quote unquote, you know, but my wife That's a different set of standards I can't have no wife that smoke weed. I can't have no wife that curse like a sailor because we're raising kids but One of my homeboys I ain't got to live with him I ain't got to pay his bills. He ain't got to pay my bill. We ain't you see what I'm saying? We not until death do us part I cut off a homeboy any day That's not a covenant under god So no friendships and relationships to told several things and your friends you could be a little more patient with because You could help your friend grow and change Whereas a relationship that can cost you a lot faster a lot Sooner, I mean a lot worse I'm trying not to make sure I'm trying to make sure I ain't miss Is it a cop out for a man to say he needs you to teach him how to love the right way? You can't assume that but um, it could be but you can't assume that uh rugby league fan god bless you God bless you For him to say that you know, that's vulnerable but essentially what he's saying too is What he's saying is like a my phone about to die. Let's see some Essentially what he's saying as well is he saying I don't know how to love right, you know, I don't know how to Everything you want and so I've said the same thing to my wife Like hey, baby, you know talk to me. I can't read minds Talk to me, you know, tell me what you want Tell me how to please you Tell me what this is and what that is, you know, tell me And and a lot of things she'll say. I don't know. I really don't know So all right. All right. We got to figure it out then But if a man say that you got to appreciate that y'all hold on right quick. I got to get my computer Let me grab my computer. Come on phone about to die Phone about to die on it. So I got to plug my computer in I know it's computer Well, well in front we say computer Because by the time we got us to get pruder We really ain't know what it was Hey, you got your computer for christmas? I'm trying to get me a computer for christmas Now what somebody did to my To my plug down here now I'm gonna plug that something in Oh The blocking now Y'all come on now Hey y'all got to forgive me my phone asked me do you trust? Do you trust the computer? Somebody say get those lights up. Hey, we ain't got to worry about that over here We ain't got to worry about it. I know I know y'all be on them youtube channels that be I'll be watching some of them lives and they be talking five minutes Get the lights up get the lights up. We got we got 500 people here. We got 28 likes I ain't caught up on the likes. I ain't caught up on none of that don't know And see I don't need like for y'all to say how many people watching The rule over here, we don't count numbers We're counting numbers. We're doing this We're doing this for the lord So when you're watching numbers and I and I know I do stuff differently But that's why I don't do like the little posts with the Confetti when we hit a when I get a certain amount of subscribers because I'm not gonna count every little number Because you count every little number. It's gonna be you doing it for the wrong reason So I never mentioned how many subscribers I got how many likes I got how many People watching we just over here to do the work. You see what I mean? So So y'all got to see see how I see how I do And realize My attributes if you notice on all my videos I never open up a video Hit the like and subscribe I never open a video. I never close a video like that. Hit the like and subscribe I never do that because I don't want to beg nobody for nothing I don't want nobody to hit subscribe because I said hit subscribe I want somebody to hit subscribe because they see value in the content that I'm providing And if they don't see that and they don't want to hit subscribe, God bless you. I don't want you over here. You see what I mean? So that's how we got to And that's when you're going to see the difference between who God's sin and who the devil's sin You're going to start to notice a difference Because over here it can't be about ego. It can't be about None of those things. It got to be about the work It got to be about the work Actually, Beverly, God bless you praise report met a young man great conversation reveal. He thinks marriage is a contract You say praise report. He thinks marriage is a contract He's basically a cheat and it's okay with political ran away as fast as I could ladies be safe. Hey, God bless you Oh That boy being raised by youtube You have to boy. What is daddy name? He'll youtube A boy being raised by youtube Him to come out his mouth with that nonsense That's a crying shame More precedent rule to do men really care about weight when I'm 20 pounds overweight I'm not approached but when I was then I was approached but then Men said I should gain weight for curves It depends on the man It depends on the man, you know, because One man will say he care about weight and that man say he don't care about weight, you know, so I done seen my wife several different You know phases of these 15 years we've been together And what I realized that I love her in and out of season and a lot of times she's not happy With where she at in her body and to me It might be the best body I done seen on them and I'm like Hey Where you looking how I like them to look And she was like, oh my goodness I know if you're saying that then that means I am overweight and I'm like listen I don't know who you looking up to And she a show middle lady I'm like, man, listen, I don't know who done got in your head But you need to read you need to readjust that because that right there is not a tractor That woman looked like in the wind blow hard. She'll fall over I'm like, no, no, come on. We ain't on all that So I'll be right here. Just leaving red velvet cake out I'm leaving chocolate chip cookies out because you got a weakness for for snacks But you gonna piece of the red velvet I'm like, listen, we got meat on the bones over here. So that right there. That's a preference That's something that it just from man to man So you got to realize, you know, if you 20 pounds overweight And man not approaching you it may it could also be because your confidence is not there because you Because you calling yourself overweight. So if you feel overweight, that's going to show on your face That's going to show on your walk If you that weight and you 100 confident, that's going to show on your walk So you got to be where you know you're supposed to be at And that's when you're going to get the best results out of life Trying to see if my son's still up Meditation on God bless you. Hey Tony, do you believe in energies and frequencies as a Christian? Like if you are happy and positive, then you attract More good things to you meaning you are vibrating on a higher frequency Now here's the thing that right there is really semantics You know, so you have these Christian apologetics or whatever they call it And they try to condemn other Christians for saying the word energy Or saying the word vibration But a Christian could say that word and really they mean they talking about a person's attitude They talking about the way a person step into a room And they're not talking about this metaphysical Definition of this word that is tied into You know, Buddhism or Hinduism or yoga or some type of ancient belief They literally talking about a person attitude a person mindset The Bible say so as a man think of such as a man think of so he is That could be also energy that could also mean in just how he his positive thoughts And so we hear these different things and we get caught up in semantics instead of the heart of the message And so I don't get caught up in all of that in that holy of the endow and Pharisees and arguing over words and who Got the best comprehension skills and who got the biggest vocabulary and who doesn't study The latin origin of the word and all of this it's like At the end of the day in the sight of god everybody done Don't nobody know nothing. We could all be misinterpreting the bible That's why the bible say we got to serve god and spirit and in truth So i'm not going to get caught up in nothing that the devil didn't create it But i'm also not going to be tripping myself up in semantics trying to argue over The the meaning of a word when I know what I mean by it. You see what I mean? So if I say energy Or vibration i'm talking about somebody attitude I'm talking about the way they treat people the way they act And I might have heard the word and it could come from somebody else But I made it mean something else because the dictionary wasn't written by god and written by man and woman So if they made a word up that mean I got the right to change the word So if they if energy mean one thing to him It energy means something different to me because god didn't write weps the dictionary that we live by god didn't write that So energy means something different to me vibration means something different to me It might mean one thing to a buddhist and it means something else to a christian You see what I mean? So we get too caught up in that stuff and that's the work of the devil I see people on youtube who are quote-unquote christians and all they do is argue over scripture argue over what this scripture mean and it's like What you done? Like you ain't you not hebrew you're not arabic You don't know what the scripture mean. It's like you you don't know you not all knowing It's like getting to know god And what what god peace give you sir god and spirit and true god is not a man god a spirit So if god a spirit that mean god energy That mean god now by the vibration because he's not a man sitting on the throne It's a spirit. So you see what I mean? We get so caught up in semantics arguing over words And I hear people just conceded in a righteousness Yeah, you know these new christians. They're saying energy and vibration And all of this and that is not of god I'm like you sitting over there condemning with a handful of stones and jesus said He who was without seeing cast the first stone that ain't no god over there what you're doing So shut up You see what I'm saying? That's what we got to realize and that's why the world sit back and laugh at us Because we as christians come into the room and we divide the room by arguing over a scripture And and everybody barely passed comprehension class Everybody barely passed english class and want to argue over what the scripture mean It's like man. You don't hush You barely got our school To long the god bless you. Thank you. Tony when working on the brain. What recommendations do you have for reading? You know, you you're gonna come across those things So you could read a woman's influence And right and when you go search that on amazon, you're gonna see other authors book You read a title you read a Thing what I read and what you read is going to be totally different because we on different, you know paths in life, so I really don't recommend books the one book that I do recommend is the hill the bi ble basic instructions Before leaving earth It's the most profound book out of never read And any book that I read that got wisdom in it The wisdom come from hill And what they'll do often with these books With these famous authors what they doing is they quoting the bible without saying god Because the bible is the one book That we are allowed to plagiarize Meaning that god don't strike us down or take us to court for plagiarizing the bible So the greatest authors that have ever written a book the wisdom in their book literally come from the bible And so the first book I grew up reading was the bible reading is fundamental I never had to read a book my whole entire life Except for the bible So until I was in my mid 20s. I had never read a book other than the holy bible martin luther king autobiography and malcomax autobiography. That's all I had ever read And so when I became an entrepreneur and I started getting into books What I noticed about them books was The books were All the books with wisdom, but it was all pulling from the holy bible And I was like, man, this I read that in the bible. You just ain't say god You're taking credit for something that's in the bible And i'm telling you every author And so What you need to do is get you a book This held the nlt This might mean new living translation And so it's written in kind of plain english And then it just say say that You will tell us What will occur in the days ahead and we will know you are gods In fact, do anything good or bad do something that will amaze and frighten us It's in plain english and you can read that and as you read and you like man, this thing hit on everything This thing hit on everything And so and that's where honestly wisdom begins In that holy bible And so when you see the 1000 videos I got on youtube And you see me teaching for an hour long you see me answering questions like this off the cuff with no college degree and you see me coaching celebrities and With over three million people online And and people coming to watch a video or to get wisdom it all come from god It all come from god. It's none of me And so this one of the things that everybody say all secular people say Readers are leaders all secular people want to make everybody feel dumb if they don't read man made books But i'm here to tell you I had everything that that you could call good and blessed in a life without depending on man made books I depend on one book At that holy bible At that holy bible I ain't gonna tell you no lie I'm thinking about signing up as a mentor on your site. I'm a small business advisor Do you get a lot of clients requesting business advice? Absolutely, that's probably one of the behind relationships the top I would say the second most popular coaching category But on my mentor got life you got to have a certification to get on there. So You can get certified you can take anybody a life coach certification It's not required to be a coach But it's required to be on my mentor that life because we want the best of the best So we want people who done took a training And my training is on tonigasinsacademy.com And um before that price go up Speaking of I meant to I meant to change the I meant to change the price back Because right now I said $1,200 and fifty dollars, but I say you know what I'm gonna take it back to a thousand So I'm gonna do that while I'm on here I'm gonna take it back to a thousand dollars and it'll go to 1500 Um before black friday and then black friday. Hopefully we'll have us a little sale I just don't know what the sale will be. But you know, everybody do a black friday sale. So If you're not able to afford a course then just wait the black friday Because it will be a discount. I just can't say what the discount will be because I don't know. I have to look at the market But uh, so I just took 250 dollars off the course the price you see is the price you pay It don't change that to check out the price you see is the price you pay So right now it's 500 off because it's a 50 it should be at 1500 right now, but it's at a thousand It's other life coach certification courses that don't teach what my course teach And it's coaches that then created courses that don't have the success as a coach that I have And they charge them for four five thousand dollars I have a client that took a life coach certification course She paid $12,000 I say ma'am that course ain't gonna teach you nothing that my course ain't ain't taught you I'm a six seven figure coach. It ain't nothing about coaching that I can't teach you So you just paid $12,000 when you could have got all of that knowledge and more Four thousand come on now. You got to stop just buying stuff just because it costs a lot That's how we get with these with these brands that we be buying. I know I'd be Stupid for buying Gucci and Louis If I buy that stuff, but you know The quality do be better, but it don't be that much better to be that Expensive they look like my son ready to go to bed. So I got to go ahead and go Because he would my kids get the bed and that's me and my wife We get our quality time where we could talk and all that so He done finished his homework nine forty So I got to get ready to go Thank you to share share put my cash up enough and I don't get my cash out but share and Carmel kisses get out and I appreciate it because It's always scammers and so it's scammers and they'll put They'll do a cash out with leaving the s off gaskins off the end of my name to try to intercept You know somebody being nice And so I appreciate when they do that so that people do know Although I'm not I hear soliciting I don't want you to send it to a scammer And it's a guy tried to hack my cash out the other day Send me a fake email trying to get me to log in through that email talking about he got $5,000 for me Well, uh, well come on now You've been a scam me I come from out that life. I see that a mile away What does it mean when a man tells you that your vibe is like no other? He's experienced i'm understanding That might be why you vibe like no other. He's experienced because you were staying So you got that oil dripping off of you Man posting shirtless selfies while trying to date me. Is this a red flag or no Yeah, it's a red flag. He's attention-seeking He's attention-seeking. He he liked the praise going to his head And he watching for the women that put the little eyes in the comments and the hearts in the comments So he could shoot him a dm and say thank you and didn't strike up a conversation So he ain't no personal trainer and that ain't how he get business as a personal trainer Then yeah, that's a thirst trap and that's a red flag. He insecure in attention-seeking How to deal with being jobless and broke You know get on your grind if you got to go work at mic donalds go work at mic donalds Mike donalds ain't gonna turn you down Go work at wallmark. They ain't gonna turn you down A lot of times it's work that but it's work. We don't want to do Uh customer service american express Bank of america All the the customer service you can work right from home 17 all out. You should I mean mic donalds I just passed mic donalds they paying 17 all out 20 all out It's all a group home go work at a group home group home ain't gonna never turn you down They need so much help in a group home My sister she on the group home. She says she can't get good staff She can't even get reliable staff So it's always a job out there. You just got to get out your head And you got to do what you got to do not just what you want to do So understand that right done now because ain't nobody coming to say I worked in a group home eight dollar fifty seven hours a grown musky man And I maxed out at nine dollar fifty seven hour I'm lying right before I right before I resigned to do this full time. I was at ten dollars an hour I was there almost five years Got to do what you got to do until you can do what you want to do Hey, there's totally guys. I'm getting ready to go now. Don't y'all see no more question Let me ask the jm question met this guy on facebook and we've been talking daily for the past two weeks. Hey, god bless jm He is ready to meet but I told him that I'd rather wait a month And the reason for that is because I am trying to get to know him am I wrong for that Well the thing about it you're not wrong for it But you kind of went about it the wrong way by telling him the exact date because when you told him a month If he is Ted Bundy nephew and he on what Ted Bundy was on He just could continue to wear a mask and And play you so now that you've said a month you really need to make it two or three months But without telling him what the deadline is Because if you tell a person what the deadline is then they know how long the fake So instead you got to keep your Stuff to yourself don't let your right hand know what your left hand doing So the person will show you they true colors, but you can't say a You know, I don't sleep with nobody until day 91. They're just gonna fake They're just gonna take their heart out of it and just fake until day 91 till they get them something then they gone So when you say at a month if he is, you know cuckoo for cocoa puffs then He just gonna fake to that month up. You see what I mean? So Don't don't tell too much But hey god bless y'all and scroll through here real quick. Make sure ain't Just overlook Fun. Yeah, god bless you now god bless you and say I miss I miss that Oh fitting mom. I miss that too Fitting mom I saw this question about one of the moderators Deleted it and then fitting mom gonna pay 20 dollars to put it in here Fitting mom nah You got a spendable income because every time I'm on here. I see fitting mom paying to ask other people question So you need to be teaching a budgeting class or something fitness mom because you be having too much expendable income on here To be paying 20 dollars to ask somebody else question. Come on now Fitting mom you want to invest in tonic acid academy idea 1% About a hundred thousand My boyfriend has a room mate. She disrespects our relationship leaves her I'm uncomfortable and I've told him he still hasn't moved out after three years What needs to happen to get him to move out? Okay See her fitting mom. That's why they deleted this question This ain't no real question. There's somebody in here trolling That got to be somebody trolling you got a boyfriend or three years. That's the first key word his roommate a scrapper She leave her thong In the public area and he won't move out. I wonder why I wonder why he won't move out Why you think he won't move out? They in their club live They're in their king of diamond. They're in their blue magic blue flame with all the name they be saying I ain't never been to one of those places, but I did be here. I'm saying on youtube the rappers Here there tonight Hey girl, give a little show It's your boyfriend your boyfriend ain't on the phone with you here though He got it drizzling snowing raining. That's why he ain't got no money for y'all days That come on y'all got to And see this why people go to charging for their services Because you begin questioning like this So it's like at least you want to get paid For the question it's like my goodness. Come on now sister You got a boyfriend who got a roommate. That's a red flag in itself He did have his own apartment and then his roommate is a woman And she dance come on now And she disrespect you You know why she disrespect you because she's sleeping with him But she ain't got no standards So she okay with him having a girlfriend But she give him some when he wants some because he give her a few little dollars It's come on now scratch a lie find a thief like like on ray charl mama said Hey, god bless y'all. I got to go and get going. We'll talk We'll talk soon share Hey, we need to put the speakerphone on what share just said Y'all along here, but are y'all listening? Absolutely not. I'll be talking to that blue wall Hey, appreciate the moderators mama tish and share and glam rocks and Caramel kids. I really appreciate y'all helping my own is a chat God bless y'all and we'll talk soon. Hey god bless y'all. Hey god bless y'all. I just seen that That donation y'all gave God bless it because the first coming up, you know mortgage and stuff and y'all along here blessing me Hey god bless y'all. We'll talk soon