 I want you to open up your Bible and open up your phone if you're watching us alive or rewatching the service I want you to pull out your phone and I want you to go to Genesis chapter 2 Genesis chapter 2 verse 15 and as you do so I'm just gonna give a little advertisement we just released a single ready to mingle book yeah and so the book is officially out on Amazon it's gonna be in here on Sunday but on Amazon it's way cheaper so then it's gonna be here on Sunday and if you have Kindle it's for free and Kindle it's on the U version Bible app as well so Genesis chapter 2 and verse 15 if you're there say amen and if you did not bring your Bible and your phone does not have enough space and so you had to delete the Bible app God forgive you but we got you covered we're gonna read on the count of three on the screen behind me so one two three okay chapter 2 verse 18 let's read verse 18 one two three and chapter 2 verse 20 21 and 20 21 and 22 on the count of three one two three so Adam gave names to all cattle to the birds of the air and to every beast of the field but for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him and the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam and he slept he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh in its place then the rib which the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and he brought her to the man somebody say amen so in this just enough verses we just found out where all the women came from and we just found out God's blueprint and so every every person place your hand on your rib just kidding place your hand up on your heart I want you to say this with me say Lord Jesus open my heart to your word Lord Jesus open my heart to your spirit Lord Jesus open my heart to your faith amen amen give somebody high five as you take your seat in the presence of Jesus amen amen amen amen I do understand that most people sitting in front of me today are younger and it's not your time maybe to mingle in that way and people watching and there's some young adults college young professionals that are sitting here as well and so we're gonna try to tailor it to to every group of people I wanted to let you know that Bible has a lot of bad examples of how to be single and ready to mingle when somebody says how do you find a spouse according to the Bible it actually has a lot of bad examples like one of the guys for example worked for seven years and part of his working contract was that he's gonna marry a wife except he didn't bring the small print what it says he'll marry the first born not the second born and he liked the second born one guy in fact bought a real estate property Boas and wife came as part of the deal very expensive property another dude went to war and killed 150 people and he had to cut certain parts of their body that I'm not gonna mention here and that's how he got a wife if you do that according to the Bible you will end up in jail so that's not one guy just simply what he did he was a king and he made peace treaty with every country and every country he made peace treaty with he got a woman as a package so he just married all of them so if somebody says you know date like the Bible says don't like find a spouse like the Bible says don't because you will be put into jail and that is gonna be immoral and that is gonna be wrong and so what do we what do we learn from now if you come in any kind of household your parents tell you the way we did it is the way you should do it like all of our parents have really crazy stories like my mom and my dad my dad made my mom and two months later they were married my dad did not actually know who my mom was to that point a few days before the wedding he came to the house he confused my mom with her sister he kept on talking to her and like like about the wedding plans that she's like dude that's not me you're married the other one and so my dad could be like dude don't worry about it man just to just marry them and if you confuse the sisters you can end up with some kind of a sister so my dad is not an example of how to get it done nor am I an example because I used Facebook I used the mouse to find the spouse and for most people that's not how it's gonna work and stuff I found a person well my wife found me on Facebook and she added me as a friend on Facebook and she initiated that and at the time I was single so I was ready through to mingle and I was scrolled through her photos and I liked what I saw and it wasn't sinful at the time because I was single and so I scroll through her photos and I was like wow you know where where's this woman from and then I found out that she's from Vancouver Washington the church that I would go to a lot and preach and I said how did God blind my eyes that I was there so many years and never saw her and so next time that I was invited I said Lord my eyes are open I am ready speak to your servant and I preached powerful sermon but in reality from the first word that I said I was honestly looking for her and then I found her on the second pew she was sitting there and after that my sermon which is one down the hill from there and then right after the service I came up to her and and I was asking her how she enjoyed the sermon that I was distracted and I say hey how did you like my sermon I was really stuck in her because she was trying to get coffee and I stood right behind her she she went somewhere else and I happened to be right behind her again and it's not easy when you're a preacher and you're a little bit known to to connect with somebody to cut the story short a few months later we were engaged and then some months later we were married I was 24 when I got married and if I would have do it again I would just do it faster I would just save money and gas because there's a lot of driving back and forth and and sooner or later no matter for me I believe who you marry you're still gonna have to deal with your stuff and you're still gonna have to learn to be unselfish and to be kind so who is our example when it comes to relationships I believe the example for us it's not me even though I have certain things that I believe everybody should follow the example is not even our parents even though your parents might be a great example some of you here you don't have a good example from your parents when Pharisees came to Jesus and they said Jesus Moses said we should divorce that's what the law says and Jesus told them this he says in the beginning somebody say in the beginning come on somebody say in the beginning Jesus says in the beginning it was not so in the beginning he's referring to the first two chapters of Genesis the first two chapters of Genesis is God's perfect plan I believe for the humanity and the last two chapters of Revelation is God restoring that perfect plan and everything in between is a mess and then there's Jesus there reconciling us and bringing us back to God's perfect plan so what we're gonna do today is I'm just gonna jump in quickly and share with you three simple principles of from the beginning when God created relationships let me remind you God created Adam and when he created Adam after that God revealed himself to Adam Adam had a relationship with God and after the relationship with God Adam also had a job Adam's job was very simple he was taking care of the garden so it wasn't anything too fancy it wasn't like he was you know rolling in dough and you know driving really fancy cars and wearing designer shoes and all this stuff Adam had a landscaping business he was taking care of the garden he was trimming the trees mowing the lawn taking care of the sprinklers and then everything goes goes well he slept there he didn't have to buy clothes because they were naked there was no stores available anywhere he didn't have to pay for a cell phone because AT&T didn't exist at the time Apple didn't exist and so Adam's life was very very simple he couldn't compare himself to nobody because there was nobody there but Adam had a relationship with God and Adam had a J-O-B Adam had a job I always tell people first and the most important thing as a single person you must know is this is you have to have a relationship with God somebody say amen but the second thing after you have a relationship with God whether you're a teenager or a young adult before you even think about a relationship you have to have a job no money no honey come somebody say amen all right you can't take her out on a date with your mom's credit card all right and you can't go on a date and say hey honey I forgot my wallet could you could you cover me or hey could you could you could you could cover up for me that is that is not how this works God from the beginning established this that every guy and I believe also the supplies for ladies because ladies we should not be should not be waiting for a sugar daddy who's gonna supply all of your needs according to his riches and his glory you can work you can have a job as well and you can succeed in that area can somebody say amen and then something happens when Adam gets a job God begins to come to Adam and this is what we read in verse 15 God says to Adam it is not good for a man to be alone let us make somebody for him I want to let you know something in here watch this Adam did not come to God and say God I am lonely send me a girlfriend Adam did not come to God and say God there's nothing to do and I am bored give me somebody to like Adam was so lost in God he actually was so engulfed with God the God had to come to Adam I say Adam you lonely I believe Adam replied back what does that mean like what does it mean I'm lonely God me and you go on these walks every single day you speak to me in the whisper of the day you're still small voice I'm trimming the trees calling out naming the animals God I'm having a blast what do you mean I'm lonely are you trying to kill rid of me like are you not enjoying the talks that we have and all this stuff God I don't understand what is the agenda behind this I'm lonely see if you're coming to God and telling God you're lonely you still need God to fix that loneliness but God wants to satisfy you so much that it has to be God that will remind you hey it's your time see some of you come on some people are 16 years of age and God goes in there you deliverance not a date you need a rehab not romance you need to find God and be lost in him so much that God would be the ones say hey come on it's your time but see some of us guys some of us have a fear if I go deep in God God the more you get to know him becomes this control if jealous boyfriend it's like only you belong to me and nobody else God forbid you have feelings for somebody I killed them kill them like this I'll bring you to a freedom weekend and cut it out like this see some of you think that God is a jealous God in regards to relationships he's not it was his idea to tell Adam you single and you're ready to mingle you gotta go bro and I believe Adam's like God I'm having a blast if you're lonely if you are broken needy relationship you will not go into it because of love you will go into it because of a need so you don't go there to give love you go there because you're hurting and typically what usually happens we end up attracting the very thing we are we end up attracting exactly same broken person as we are and next thing happens is to broken people get together and we have a big big broken mess dating is not where you find love dating is what you're supposed to share love where you find love is in the relationship with God is in intimacy with God where you discover who you are is in intimacy with God God wants you to delight yourself in him so he will fulfill the desires of your heart God wants you to get so lost in him that honestly you have to the other person has to look for God to find you God wants you to get so rooted in him is so found in him that the other person has to look for God to find you come on somebody give God some praise right now God does not want to take things from you he wants to prepare you for things write this down if you are taking notes the first point is that you are ready to date when you don't need to when you don't need to as long as there is a need I need why because I don't know man is just just just life is not is not everybody is dating around me and my biological clock has ticked and I need to why because I don't feel like I'm successful no no no no my friend find yourself in God like Adam did the God comes to Adam say Adam come on bro it's your time I believe that many people wrote this book and I titled it single ready to mingle the word single in the original language means whole unique one the problem with many people is they're not single see you're not single because you're not dating you're single because you're whole you're not single because you're not married you're single because you're whole the more single you become the more ready you are to mingle in fact even when you get married the more single you stay the better chances your relationships will get better singleness is the hope to this generation being single means being whole being single beings complete being single be meaning being unique being single means you know who you are being single means you're not broken being single means you're not shattered being single means you being single means you are free the problem with many people is they're mingling and they're not single there's not whole of them what's what's given what they give of themselves is only 80% because 10% the guy who abused them before he's taken that the other 10% was taken by by the fact that there was no father in a home or broken family environment the other 10% was taken by the fact that they looked to themselves in the mirror and they say I don't like the way I look and so when they actually come into a relationship they're mingling but in reality they're not truly single they're not truly whole and that's exactly why those relationships don't work why because when you're not whole you're like a bleeding person that is going into the sea full of sharks hoping to have fun you always end up somebody's lunch you will say why why is these bad people always are attracted to me sharks smell blood there are evil people in this world and they smell a lot of times you could see even even people among us and I'm not gonna put fingers or anybody will call anybody out that was Paul's job last week we were watching live she meant we were like I hope she's not gonna call anybody out on a live shoe you there but sometimes I watch young guys or young girls the way they dress the kind of attention that they seek and you know it's not because they want to it's because they're hurting and next thing that happens is the kind of guys they get the kind of things they get eventually they're like man I always get heartbroken I always hard I always get you know these people who leave me wounded I said well you know if you stop putting out the bait you will stop attracting those things but the reason why we put out that bait is because we are hurting it's not because we want to act this way it's because we grew up without a father maybe we've been abused before or maybe we feel very insecure and so I want to tell you something that God first wants us to find wholeness in him if you're taking notes write this down relationship with God will make you whole all relationships will reveal your holes every relationship in your life will actually expose the holes that you God only one relationship will make you whole if I hear another young person says he makes me whole to me it's a first sign they're broken if she makes you whole that means you messed up you gotta walk in already I am whole he God makes me whole and the other person walks in and guess what happens when you whole you don't have to settle for anything or anybody who has a last problem who has controlled the problem who has manipulating problem you don't have to send your nudes you don't have to sex you don't have to give yourself a way to cheaply what because you know that you don't need them to be you you are you by yourself you found yourself in God I know it's sexy I know it's romantic I know it sounds cute on Instagram he makes me whole he completes me all of that stuff is junk it just simply means you infatuated you're drunk with infatuation and the same God who makes you whole then begins to stock all of your friends and send all kinds of bad stuff about you and destroy your reputation why because if you give somebody a power to make you whole they'll break you down I walk into a relationship knowing one thing there's only one person in this world who has a relationship to make me whole and to break me to pieces and that person is the one who died on a cross for me and so when I come into marriage when I come into dating I don't come to get whole I come to be blessed I come to bless I come to love I come to bless why they don't have the power to heal me and they don't have the power to hurt me why because I am whole by God come on somebody but you must understand no matter how whole you get every person in this room has gotten some holes the holes are the things your attitude when you one of your siblings is getting ready the holes is is when somebody cuts you off maybe you're driving the holes maybe when the manager you know pulls you on that shift on the 4th of July and asks you to work and you have a barbecue to go to and you know that's a hole for some of you the whole is is maybe the fact that you know you're addicted to something that's that's a hole and a lot of times when you get into a relationship you recognize you're perfect but then they begin to reveal your holes and so in many people of course they're like oh my God I made a wrong decision and no you didn't make a wrong decision you've had these holes all of your life your mama told you you had these holes your brother told you you had these holes your pastor told you you got these holes your youth group leader told you you got these holes but you always said it's not your fault and now you got somebody in your nose saying you know what you got to deal with that or we're gonna have problems and guys like finally I got to him marriage is not meant to make you happy it's first meant to make you holy and if it doesn't make you holy it'll make you miserable but if it makes you holy it will make you happy every other relationship is not gonna make you whole temporarily it will make you the feeling he's so perfect and then three months later you find out he's so perverted oh wow from perfect to perverted man he makes me feel so beautiful and just three weeks later I'm sick of him why anytime you give somebody a power to make you whole they'll destroy your world like Thanos only relate right is down relationship with God satisfies all other relationships magnify every relationship in your life including the relationship that you will have with other people will magnify who you are only relationship with God will satisfy somebody say satisfy somebody say magnify God satisfied relationships magnified if you are satisfied in God when other person walks into your life they'll magnify that satisfaction for example if you are a young lady and you know that you're beautiful because your dad told you you're beautiful because God told you you're beautiful next thing that happens another person another man will walk into your life at the right time and this is what's gonna happen they will magnify what you already know about yourself but if you walk around knowing that you're ugly if you walk around you feel that you're worthless nobody will love you and this is what typically happens somehow some way in this crazy universe you tend to attract people exactly the same who after about two three months begin to tell you exactly the same thing you've been telling yourself for 20 years and people say why am I attracting that kind of a thing because see what you believe about yourself is a magnet that attracts exactly the same thing if you are lonely you begin to attract more loneliness if you are sad you begin to attract more sadness and so I want to challenge you today to get in the face with God begin to find a relationship with Jesus where he can satisfy you and then God will bring other people who will magnify you who will magnify what you got inside they will make it more like that if you if you are broke as a single person can I give you a secret no man will never fix your financial problems it's like that woman who who married a man and she was bragging about that he was a millionaire they asked him who was he before you met him she was like he was a billionaire he was a billionaire before I met him because when you broke you get married you become more broke but if you know how to manage finances if you know how to manage your emotions if you know how to manage your time you get married that begins to grow you have an intimacy with God you have a devotional life even though you're in school even though you're in work you still find time to read the word of God this is crazy how it happens you get married and you find out your relationship with God actually grows somebody else gets married you find out they don't have any relationship with God at all why because they've never had a relationship with God to start with marriage doesn't change you it only reveals and magnifies what you already got inside you got anger it's just gonna be more of anger you got sadness it's gonna be more of sadness you got depression marriage won't fix it if marriage would fix depression if marriage would fix lust some people some guys like men are so good with porn I just need to get married so I can have free sex you're crazy marriage is not gonna deliver you if marriage will be a deliverer God wouldn't send Jesus Christ to die on the cross for you he will send marriage to die on the cross for you marriage doesn't deliver guys God delivers people repentance delivers people renouncing things delivers people freedom we can deliver people come on somebody are you with me without devotional life we will seek out of dating what only can be found in deliverance without devotional life we will seek out of dating what only can be found in deliverance I believe if you don't have a walk with God your romantic relationship mark my words I know some of you I'm looking over you it's going through your thick skull right now it's completely fine I will still be here when you will be broken and heart broken and you will cry but I'm gonna tell you this you've seen this 16 years being in youth ministry seen this all over the place romance becomes a rehab when you don't have an intimacy with God and you see a poor girl helping a guy to go over his cheating problem because she's so insecure instead of dropping him like a hot potato she's literally babysitting that dude who literally needs rehab or you see a guy same thing put a pudding up with the girl who literally has a spirit of adjustable she's deliverance not a date but the reason why he's putting up with her because she's so good-looking the Bible says a good-looking woman without her brains is a pig with a golden nose ring home slice you're dating a pig the home girl is a witch she's a manipulative controlled freak the fact that she looks great it doesn't mean anything but why we do that because without relationship with God we don't have the confidence to sing no no no that is not right for me I know you hot but hell is hot too and I don't want to be with hell he's so fine you see the BMW that he drives you know he's this he's so fine those biceps and the triceps did you see that do you see his hair I mean he even he even does his eyelashes and he goes waxing and everything I just I know he has a porn addiction I know he sleeps with anything that moves but we can change that no no no no no no no no no no no no no if you don't have an intimacy with God you will turn you will make out of your relationship at rehab I can't tell you how many people even this week I've met with for 13 years 12 years are not in a marriage they're in a rehab program and the other spouse keeps retaking the same classes every single year and can't graduate and there's sucking their life out people literally who were telling me I tried to end my life already why because this rehab sucks marriage was supposed to be a place of love that's what they were expecting instead it became a prison sentence God doesn't want it to be for you but it will happen and you will never be able to see differentiation between love and lust if you don't have an intimacy with God intimacy with God who gives you protection intimacy with God lets the weirdos stay away from you and you to smell where the weirdos coming you know what hit the road Jack I'm not I I protected my purity for 12 years not so I can live in there in the rehab in my romance no no no no no that's that's not I prayed I fasted not so that I can just have a good-looking guy I need a good man with some good morals with the head screw on his shoulder with his heart in his right place as somebody who uses his hands to pick up groceries not to slap me somebody who's not a player but somebody who's a priest in the house somebody who knows how to pray somebody who knows how to read the Bible not just somebody who's always on his phone but somebody who's always connected to God and so you begin to know that why because you're in a relationship with God because somebody same man I want to see that Adam he he spends time with God and then God comes to Adam says Adam you need to get married and Adam's like married what I mean I've never seen that happen God because he was so lost in God that God had to tell him that hey you need somebody in your life and so Adam says well okay God what do you want me to do and the scripture says we read that Adam was naming animals but he was not found somebody say found come on somebody say found the word found indicate somebody was looking correct so when somebody says found or not found meaning somebody was looking if I send you say could you could you find my keys and you come back I didn't find your keys means you were again so that means that while Adam is naming animals giraffe elephant snake hyena lion Adam is looking naming and looking here are done two things at the same time so Adam is naming at the same time looking I think he's imagining he's like if we end up together hyena elephant you looked at the rattlesnake how the kids will turn out my God and mercy and then there she was a monkey or is a little bit too much here but there's nothing God cannot do my God is the God of impossible laser surgery hair removing surgery by God is the God of miracles there she was the only thing that was as close to a human as a man has ever seen and I'm pretty sure Adam was like you know what not the best choice but you know with little bit of discipline surgery and some miracle working power of God we can make this work watch this Adam doesn't come to God and say God look what I found could you do a little tune up a little fixing all change change the tires kind of do the whole you know you know that Adam actually had no other options there was nobody else around it's not like Adam could go to Mars and find somebody there there was nobody around Adam should have settled for a monkey because nobody else was around instead of Adam came back to God with his head and said God I looked everywhere I found something that you could work on but I decided that I don't want to bring you someone to work on I want you to bring someone to me you've been working on before God brings you an Eve devil will offer you a monkey come on let's go preaching with us somebody say amen before God brings you an Eve I want you to watch this God didn't go and put Adam to sleep or the way I say hey here's your wife God actually sends him to search because he wants the generation after Adam to know that before God brings someone to you you are will be tempted to bring someone to God for God to fix this is a big anger problem slaps me around but God can deliver him can't God deliver him uh-huh he can but that's a monkey why anyone you're bringing to God while you're dating already forgot to fix is your monkey I'm not saying they look like a monkey I'm not saying they behave like a monkey what I mean is this is that you're not waiting for God to bring someone to you that he's been working on you're putting someone to God for God to work on and that is your monkey and that's why I just want to tell somebody here a prophetic word right now don't date monkeys a monkey is someone who doesn't share your faith someone who doesn't share your values and someone who has a very chronic problem right now like addiction abuse problem flying anger problem demon possession demon oppression is addicted to drugs pornography masturbation parties like an animal cheats on you disrespect you belittles you and you're not even married that person is a monkey you gotta run from him like from a plague why because that is devil working and is bringing you a monkey God has someone else for you but before God brings someone to you that was gonna offer someone to you first a monkey somebody who is hot but they're not holy it's someone who you will seek to flirt so you can convert it's someone so you can well you know I heard this one time and one girl said all the Christian boys they're so ugly they're so not fun and they're so boring and they look like you know and I just they just all these like non-Christian boys they're just so exciting they're just like so amazing they're just like they just know how to treat a girl the problem is that and then there's the particular girls would say this or guys the same thing would apply to guys I'm gonna I'm gonna bring him to church I'm gonna win up to God I'm gonna get him saved then we're gonna get married and be happily ever after because I know some people in our church look I know that couple over there they the girl was in our church and she went to the world she got a guy she got him saved and she got married and now you know they're doing great did you know that the Bible says for us to win the world not to date the world did you know that the Bible says for us not to be friends with the world to witness to the world not to go on a date with the world any time you are gonna date somebody so you can convert them into their your religion or into your faith shame on you and if you are here today and you're not a Christian and the Christian is dating you drop them because let me tell you something about them is while they're dating you they're secretly praying for you they're not interested just in you they want to get you saved they got they got points they need to score with God your project that's not cool are you with me this whole idea well but I know people it worked you know my brother fell from a second story building when he was young in the Ukraine I saw that my brother under the guy who is long hair right in front of my eyes second story building head down into concrete I saw blood come out of his eyes his nose his ears I saw blood come out of every part of his body that had an opening we picked him up he was unconscious we thought he died he had a such a heavy concussion he recovered his hair grows growing so fast now I don't know if it's because he hit the head so bad but his hair is like you can see he's like it's like very long hair now that's a powerful testimony second story into the concrete hair is growing fast so we should all go today and jump from a second story building into the concrete and see how fast can our hair grow let's go do it you always look who's like are you more or something what's wrong with you his testimony is not your example are you with me monkey is somebody who doesn't share your value and faith monkey is somebody who's playing who's who you are praying for God to fix monkey is somebody you're dating out of desperation and out of impatience and number three we're gonna come to prayer God is preparing you for the person he is preparing for you God is preparing you for the person he is preparing for you so Adam comes to God they've had a great relationship Adam has had a job Adam has named the animals Adam was looking for a spouse he couldn't find anyone and he refused to settle for an animal for God to fix he comes to God and he says God I you know I can't find anybody but God could you could you help me with that and God says yeah I have a this amazing thing that I want to give you a solution for and Adam's like dude let's do it what is the Christian mingle ready to single or Christian single ready to mingle calm sign me up Lord and and God gave him this like he puts him to sleep give like this anesthesia and anesthesia God actually gives him an anesthesia he just puts him to sleep and while Adam was sleeping I want you to see this Adam is sleeping and you would think God is working on his wife in fact God was working on Adam not on his wife and while he was working on Adam somehow his wife came along see the this deal where people say I'm just waiting on God God is working on somebody actually the only God the only way God's gonna bring someone that he's been working on is if while you're waiting he's working on you God is preparing you for someone he's preparing for you somebody say a man in Psalm 90 it says this is that our years on this earth are 70 years 70 years is life on this earth and anything above 70 is bonus so if you listen to your parents if you were eating your broccolis if you were not eating a lot of sugar if you were not taking a lot of red bowls God says you know what you're probably gonna live up to 80 but like if you were messing around really bad with your parents you know eating not eating your green vegetables and just drinking a lot of sugar and all this stuff cause like 70 is gonna be the top now do the math let's do the math how many years are you as a teenager 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 how many what is 7 out of 70 come on let's I know the school is over so 7 out of 7 is what 10 what 10% what's this your teenage years are the 10% of your life your teenage years are your tithes to God God wants you to give your teenage years the same way as you give tithe completely to God your teenage years have to be given to God the same way your tithe is given to God if you keep your teenage years for dating fornicating just plotting on just for yourself it's the same thing as you taking your tithe and you're not giving it to God but you're going to watch Spider-Man God wants us to take our tithe and to give it to him why because to the rest of the 90% will be blessed God wants us to take our teenage years and give them 100% to God why to the rest of the 60 or 70 years to be blessed by him can somebody say amen your teenage years are a tithe to God so watch this God comes to Adam and God puts him to sleep and while Adam is sleeping he's under this thing God is working on him like a doctor I had two eye surgeries and in both of the times when I had eye surgery the doctor was not working on me until he put me to sleep but he put me to sleep he didn't kill me when he put me to sleep I was in the coma but I was knocked out I don't remember anything that was happening the only thing I remember is I woke up hours later felt like an eternity I woke up hours later and I like I open my eyes and I felt like something was different about me now it was not it was not the same thing and I found out that the surgery was over see when you're a teenager God wants to put you to a sexual sleep where you close your eyes and God starts working in you there are some things God will never be able to work on you until you're sexually asleep what does that mean sexually asleep you stop looking for somebody to date you stop looking for somebody to love you you stop looking as long as there is a teen attached to your age God wants you to go to sleep another reason God wants you to sleep why do you sleep at night why do you rest at night to recharge why so when you wake up what so you can have energy for what for the day so when you wake up you can have energy for what if I would tell you God wants you as a teenager to be sexually asleep so when it's your time to get married you can have energy for your marriage what if I would tell you God wants you to say all of your kisses and all of your hangouts and all of your roses and all of your oh you're so sweet you're so fine you're so great what if I would tell you God wants you to save all of that and not throw that away but to say hey why don't you date your mate instead of date somebody in high school why don't you have your best dating romance and all of that in your marriage instead of having it in high school with people whose names you will never remember when you get married and then when you get married you and your spouse to be grumpy old not fun not exciting why but the days in high school the party time all that was fun because you were awake at night and now you're sleeping you're in the day many marriages don't date couples they get married and their marriage is like an arrangement their marriage there's no fun there there's no excitement there there's no guys no longer open the doors they're nobody flowers there there's none of that you know where all that exists in high school with people whose names you don't remember and the person you gave your heart to the person that you said I'm the you are that for me that person gets nothing why does that person gets nothing because the night time was supposed to be a time where you recharge for the day for your soulmate for the person you're gonna spend the rest of your life the problem is most of us during the night which is our teenage years we go party we go having fun and then when we get married we go oh that's you still married to you okay and my life is boring you're boring and you're gonna ugly you gain some pounds our life sucks we don't we go on a date why we can't afford to in a list of any look at you like man I did not marry for dad why does that happen in our generation why is the old romantic couples are in high school in college and when they get married it's all dull predictable boring could it be that the marriage is supposed to have energy but we wasted it on teenage years with people we will never ever spend our life with Rick Warren said this he said if there will be more courting in our marriages less of our marriages will be in courts can I challenge you with something right now some of you here today it's 10 p.m. in your life and I'm telling you go to sleep why because you have a day coming there's somebody God is bringing into your life and God wants you to be prepared for them God wants you to be like energized for them God wants you to have the best the best the best stuff not just before the wedding after the wedding continuing all until you are retired God wants you to have that and God wants you to save not only your body God wants you to postpone stuff for your marriage so that your marriage is fun your marriage is exciting but many people here today sadder to say your marriage will have to run on caffeine and Red Bull because right now you're awakened one time I went to a summer camp not gonna mention with youth group and they placed me with with the kids where the kids were sleeping the kids were sleeping above the floor so I was on the first floor me and my wife and the kids were on the second floor at night we're going to sleep at 11 o'clock and I hear this so I thought quick happen grab my wife's hand I was like honey you okay she's okay I'm fine and so I to the point it got so loud so bad and it's like midnight I got out of the bed and then I went to look for some volunteers or some people I was hey guys could you figure it out if there is like an like some nuclear weapon that's been dismantled upstairs because I'm like I'm dying with their blue I feel like they're gonna break through the roof like the guy who was paralyzed in a Bible they broke up through I feel like that's exactly what's gonna happen turns out there were teenage boys who decided to turn bunk beds into soccer goals move the bunk beds and played soccer at midnight and somehow some way without lights bunk bed fell I don't know how they survived that so I guess when that boom that's when the bunk bed fed felt they still continue to play soccer without lights I'm like I am amazed at the amount of energy they had but see nobody is like God you don't have energy for 24 hours you only have energy for 12 and next morning do you know how I knew which guys play soccer it's the guys who struggle to pay attention and I knew right away I like those are the guys and you know what I guessed it not prophetically I was like were you guys the ones I was like do you know how I know that because you're yawning and I always tell people this the night is supposed to be a time not when you play soccer in your bedroom but when you sleep and rest so that during the day you can be excited you can be passionate with one spouse not love a thousand different women but a love the same woman a thousand different ways and for that to happen you gotta be arrested and you gotta be recharged somebody say amen somebody say amen God wants you to get sexual sleep some of you here today it's not your time to get married it's not your time to date when are you ready to date when you don't need to secondly we know when you're ready to date when you're ready for marriage so let me ask you a question with the next 12 months are you ready for marriage is marriage an option with the next 12 months okay most of you're going like this you just answered if you're ready for dating if you are dating without the intent of getting married it's the same thing as going to the mall without money you're either gonna leave unsatisfied or you're gonna take something that's not yours dating is not for fun what's for fun is hiding hiking badger dating is not for fun what's fun fun is going to life group dating is not for fun what's for fun is to learn how to minister learn how to start a business that's fun learn how to fix a car learn how to get a car pay off the car get a job that is for fun get a get some friends that's fun we don't date for fun that's involves somebody's heart and emotions dating it has an intent and that intent has to lead to marriage and if marriage is not an option dating is not an option either so I just want to encourage you until that time until dating becomes an option can I give you one suggestion go to sleep well how do you go to sleep oh it's very simple you turn off the distractions in your bed right you turn off the notifications on your phone and secondly you actually go to bed and then you close your eyes that means you turn off the distractions around you if somebody's distracted you cut them off from your life go into bed meaning you develop an intimacy with God and then you willfully purposely choose to close your eyes meaning you come to church for God not for him her and them that means you stop having personal relationships with someone who is not your spouse as though you're dating them as a young lady learn to talk to guys the same way as you would talk to guys if you would be married right now girls who go around talking to all the boys why because I'm single you're developing a habit that will still continue after you get married God doesn't want you to do that Bible says blessed is the man who finds a wife it doesn't say blessed is the man who finds a woman let me she was acting like a wife before she was a wife she wasn't talking to anything that moves she was already keeping herself meaning she already had her client guys eyes closed same thing with guys they mean snap chatting direct messaging you know sending all kinds of photos that are completely explicit having very explicit conversation spending one-on-one time on the top of the mountain let me prophesy and pray for you all that nonsense has to stop go to sleep sunshine go to sleep and what if right now you went to sleep and you realize you know what this good-looking guy woke you up he sends you a photo and he said he likes you and you realize you just woke up it's the same thing what you do if at 3 in the morning you wake up you know you look is like it was 3 o'clock in the morning you say how woke up I'm just gonna stay awake no no no you say you know what I'm gonna go back to sleep if you woke up already maybe you had a sexual in relationship maybe you were involved in emotionally and you realize you know it's not your time can I ask you right now something it's 3 o'clock in the morning you still have so much sleep to do there's a day that's waiting for you there's an awesome marriage there's an awesome husband there's an awesome wife there's an awesome destiny this wedding you don't need to jeopardize it so you can live it on the Red Bull go back to sleep until the day comes into your life and trust me it will it will it came into my life it will come into your life there will be that day I remember one one guy one of the guys that we married and he said Vlad this is crazy he's like I'm actually of age the person that I like is actually like right he says every time I like somebody was wrong everybody told me I was wrong and I thought that they would never come but now this is like I'm freaked out what do I do I was like enjoy it fool you've been praying for this you've been watching this I'm like you sacrifice for this enjoy it I'm like it's 7 in the morning the alarm has went up bro it's time to wake up it's time to enjoy your life my friend if you're gonna sleep well God's gonna wake you up well and you're gonna have a wonderful life your destiny is gonna be blessed by God your relations will be blessed by God your purity will be blessed by God come on somebody put your hands together for Jesus Christ right now