 Hello everyone, I haven't done a live video for a while, Thailand for the beach, it's time a different beach, I've been doing a lot of travelling here, I was in Bangkok, now I'm in Thia City, it's been having a really great time, so yeah, just things they've got you all figured out, they think they already know what you're about, they already know what you're trying to accomplish, you value, you believe in, but the truth is they don't really know anything about you at all, if you remember back throughout the relationship they never even took the time to get to know you, they were never really interested in anything you had to say, because they felt like they knew already, when a narcissist meets someone, they project this idealised version of themselves onto them, they create this fantasy in their mind of you, in this idealised moment, in their mind that's who you are, that's who you should be, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, you're not allowed to deviate from that, naturally no one is ever 100% the same, sometimes we have good days, sometimes we have bad days, sometimes we're happy, sometimes we're sad, but the narcissist takes this mental snapshot, thinking that they've got you all figured out, they expect you to always stay the same, you're not allowed to have days where you are tired, or times when you're sick, and so the moment they first meet you, they think they've got you all figured out, they think they already know what you're about, you don't even have to say a word to them, and then they think they know everything they need to know, which is why they never take the time to get to know you, be told to you, ask you why, they don't do any of that because they think they already know everything, and all they're actually doing is projecting this idealised version of themselves onto you, and then when they begin to devalue you, they project this, this own parts of themselves onto you, either of which is you, and yet they think they've got you all figured out, and there's really nothing you can tell them, once they start to devalue you, it's all over, there's nothing you can do to make them see you differently, because all they're seeing in you is a projection of themselves, they can't even see you, they can't even talk to you, I've said it before in my other videos and I will say it again, that I may be one of the first people on here to say this, and I believe that it is the truth, a narcissist exists in a population, in a world with a population of one, in a world where it is just them and no one else, no one else exists in that world, it's like the matrix to come into the matrix, to the narcissist world, you have to be just another agent-smith, you can't be yourself in that world, you're either a projection of the idealised self, or you're a projection of everything they hate about themselves, it's one or the other, and the only way that this world matrix is going to come to an end is if the narcissist decides to choose their source of supply, or you, over their false self, if they're willing to drop the act, let go of the ego, honestly that's something that never happens, I've never seen it happen myself, and I haven't cured anyone else say that they've seen it with anyone, through to them, and they often can't get through to you, they think you're stupid, they think you're crazy, and the funny thing is when they say these things to us, many of us just brush it off, either that or we take it personally, when really we should be listening to what they're saying, listen to the narcissist when they say these things to you, when they tell you that you're stupid, they tell you that you're crazy, we are talking about people that are detached from reality, so naturally of course they're going to think you're stupid, of course they're going to think you're crazy, because they're living in a different world, they've created this fantasy in their minds, and if you don't validate that, then yes, you will appear crazy to them, you will come across as being the one who is insane, a few step foot into a world where everything is nuts, and you're the one who is acting logical and reasonable, of course they're going to think you're crazy, they think they've got you all figured out, they think they know you better than you know yourself, and the truth is they don't even know who they are, they never take the time to get to know themselves, and they never took the time to get to know you, so please don't take anything they say personally, observe, don't absorb, respond, don't react, everything they're saying is really has more to do with them than it does to do with you, remember these individuals are self-absorbed and they lack empathy, they cannot share your experience anyway, but yeah I just wanted to put that message out there, I don't know what this message was for, but I hope it was helpful, as I said I'm just out here in the tear city by the beach, lovely quiet part of the beach here, got my palm trees, it's a lovely beach, I'll have to come down here in the day as well, maybe do a video in the day, now we've got the BMW here, it's the same one that I had in Pouquette, only it's a different color, but also got the red seats, any other inquiries, you can email me coaching at Narc Survivor UK, and I'm also available on TikTok and Instagram at Narc Survivor YouTube, okay, that's all for now, I will talk to you in another live video very soon.