 because they don't really apply to love and war okay it's you know survival of the fittest the strongest the smartest the most equipped okay the most determined so this is how I approach relationships love and all that kind of all is fair in love and war and when I say that I'm not trying to say it's not smart to have morals because it is but you have to know when and how to use those morals to get what you want and love okay just because you have morals does not mean that there are always going to be needed at certain times sometimes you have to set your morals aside sometimes you have to really embrace your morals in order to accomplish certain things okay so it's it's not fair love is not fair and it never will be it it never was relationships are not fair and they never will be and they never were okay it is a battle of the mental okay and it's also a thing where once you're in this relationship or once you've gotten married or once you're in a partnership now it is maintaining okay so first you got to play a game to get you have to play a game to maintain okay it's it's a it's chess okay if you don't know how to play chess it's all about it's all about strategy it's all about perspective it's all about sacrifice it's all about protection okay so as a as a woman you you are the queen on the board of chess okay you are the most valuable piece even though when they get the king it's checkmate but the queen is the most valuable piece because she can move any type of way she can do more than the king she is basically you know running the board with she you know needs to be used now if y'all know how to play chess you know don't worry about it the queen is the most powerful piece on the board the king if he's captured you lose the game okay so basically if you capture the king of the other side you win okay so so your mission is to get the king okay so whatever it takes whatever you think you need to do whatever advice you get and it apply it towards your goal of securing this king or this man that you desire do it don't feel bad about it don't feel the guilt don't think about karma don't do this and that because if y'all watch my other channel y'all know I don't do karma okay karma is just a way to make you feel guilty for doing something in your best interest or to make you feel you know good okay like for example a lot of people say well if you cheat on somebody and there is Carmen's gonna come back to you and somebody's gonna cheat on you if you really believe that and your word about that and you're like oh my god I'm in a relationship and now Carmen's gonna get me I know he's gonna cheat on me because I cheated on my last boyfriend and Carmen's out to get me what are you doing you're vibrating this worry about him cheating on you so you're attracting it to you through the law of attraction now you're always paranoid and looking and upset and super suspicious and you're bugging him and thinking he's cheating when he's probably not and then he says you know what you think I'm cheating I might as well go cheat and then you just brought it on to yourself so karma is more of a fear tactic you know karma is more like the the stuff they show you on TV to hype you up and to be scared of everything on the news to where you live your life and fear don't want to go outside yeah that's karma okay if you don't live in fear and you don't carry around guilt because you did something wrong and just so I made a mistake you know people don't feel as guilty about making mistakes as they feel like they did something wrong right so don't care around no guilt you won't have any karma okay and don't worry about people say people people people whatever I'm worried about what you think and how you feel and what you're tracking to yourself okay so when you get rid of that fake karma that people tried to put on you to keep you from doing what you needed to do in the first place to get to where you needed to get okay don't worry about that okay that's just part of the game so now that you've got this man that you probably stole from somebody else if you stole him or you know whatever you had to do to get him you know now what now what do you do you know how do you keep him now how do you keep him okay you keep him by you know telling him you know I'm so glad to be with you you know what do you want to do you know in the future what do you see us in five years you know make future plans together don't don't sit there and hope and wish that he's going to be in your future or that he's thinking about you in that way put it in his mind put it in his mind you know you start talking about it so you know what in about five years I think we should go to you know such-and-such islander I think we should start saving up for our you know our honeymoon whenever we decide to get married don't put a date out there to say whenever we decide to get me I think we should have our money saved so that we can go somewhere cool okay say I'm not trying to like say get married now but I know eventually I'm gonna want to get married you know just put yourself out there like that just eventually I'm gonna want to get married so I'm gonna start saving up for the honeymoon okay so every week you need to put $10 in this savings account blah blah blah blah blah okay so yeah so start making future plans again the more things you do together as a couple the more things you plan together the more places you go together without overbearing you know everybody needs to tell apart but the more things that you plan together the more secure your future will be okay so if you're one of those kind of people who just wait and sees you know see what happens like whatever comes my way comes my way you're not taking control of your situation you're letting things happen you're letting air you're letting air in you're letting opportunity in for other women okay because if your man goes out and he has in his mind that in five years we're going to this destination we're saving up for it we have this plan we've already picked out you know that the luggage I don't know something stupid like order something to have a visual like order some nice luggage off of online and say but this is what we're going to use on our trip or not honeymoon or whatever so that there's a physical reminder and when this isn't like a man's head they're less likely to go out and see what else is out there because now they're committed whether they know it or not now they're committed because now they have made plans with you they they're visualized their future and you're there okay so now that now they know oh my god I can't do this because I'm supposed to go here you know then and this this chick doesn't fit into the to the plan because I gotta save this money I can't spend it on her and you know never mind forget it let me just go home you know it stops your man from trying to make other plans and think and visualize other people in their lives when you're already in that spot okay so say stuff talk about I know a lot of girls are told not to talk about marriage when you first get together don't talk about marriage talk about the honeymoon there's a difference one is pressure one is I already know we're gonna get married I'm not trying to set a date I know you know eventually we'll do it I'm thinking about the afterwards the vacation the fun part of it the you know the good side of it I'm not trying to get you to commit right now I'm just saying I'm gonna want to go on a vacation after we get married you know and if they're kind of hesitant about that like okay we mean honeymoon well then if they say oh what do you mean honeymoon like they haven't decided if they're gonna marry you or not just like well okay well vacation whatever you know I'm going somewhere in five years I know that somewhere spectacular I'm going in five years this is my plan I just thought it would be the honeymoon since you know we're together but it doesn't have to be a honeymoon you know whatever so now it's still in their head that you want this to be your honeymoon and if he says okay well I'm gonna be saving up for this trip and if we do get married then I'm gonna have to pay for another trip okay now he's trying to save money in his head so maybe this should be our honeymoon maybe we should just have a destination wedding so I don't have to pay for that either you see okay so now that y'all are planning things together pick out things together you know pick out furniture together pick out clothes together let him pick you out an outfit pick him out an outfit be in each other's lives and don't leave things up to chance take the control in your hand like if you want your man to dress a certain way and you don't like his outfit take him to the store with you got some clothes ask him to try on clothes for you for you say oh my god let me see how you look in these these are so I like these it's gonna be like okay and it's like oh they turn me on or something stupid like that and he'll put them on he'd like then you start like oh I like how they fit on your body and then he'll buy them because then he thinks other women are gonna think that he looks good in him too but he gonna buy him and he's gonna look good for you so slowly but surely you can kind of mold him into the partner or the life partner that you want subconsciously physically and stuff like that like if you like let's just say if your man you want your man to have more muscle or something and he's okay but you want to be built right all you got to do is say oh my god I'm getting ready to get this membership to the gym they got a two-for-one special or something stupid like that or oh my goodness you would be so irresistible to other women if you like lifted weights and work that I'm so glad you don't work out because I would have to fight for you and reverse psychology right I would have to fight to keep the women from off of you then all of a sudden you're gonna notice him gonna start trying to work out because now he's thinking about you know she's right if I was muscular she I'm like I might attract all these different types of women and you know they might like me and I might get all this attention and maybe she'll be giving me more sex if I get some muscle I don't know so then he's subconsciously you reverse psychology to him and now he's gonna start working out a little bit he's gonna start doing some push-ups or something you know so there are a little sneaky ways to get what you want in love there there are tricks psychology methods so don't be afraid to use those that's what they're there for I mean what else are you gonna use them for don't leave your relationship of the chance because there's a chance they could leave take the power in your own hands and control the situation as much as you can you know be able to mold it you know you can't change everything you can't make somebody into something that they're not but you can sort of mold and you can sort of suggest and you can sort of lead the way by example and you can sort of plant something in their mind for it to grow over time but you can do all of that it's called mentalism and a lot that's how people are programmed in society you know you look at a picture so long of what the ideal image of beauty is and then every everything else becomes ugly or everything else becomes unacceptable same thing you can do with a man use your brain that's why you have to be the most beautiful woman in the world just have to be smart and strategic and know how to play the game okay I'll see