 Welcome to another NARC Survivor Live video. And in this video, I want to talk about a very important topic, definitely something that you need to take note of cannot be around someone like this. And I'm just going to get straight to the point. They can't be around someone who practices self-love and self-care. Someone who knows who they are. Someone who knows their worth. They can't be around someone like that. This thing they have to do, when they get around someone who is powerful and dynamic, they have to target their self-esteem. They have to bring them down to their level and then even try to put them beneath them. They have to do that because your self-love, your self-esteem is the greatest opposition to them being able to control you. And you may notice this when you have dealt with narcissists, that as long as you feel good about yourself, you're confident in your own qualities and abilities, they can't get to you. They can't control you. It's only when they make you doubt your worth, when they make you feel like something is wrong with you or so you can't do anything right, then they've got you. Then they can control you. If you resist their narrative, their agenda, then there's really not much they can do. They can't be around you. They can't coexist with someone like that. So in that case, they will ghost you. They will disappear. They're not gonna wanna be around someone who they can't control. That's no good for them. They have to have an authoritative position. They need to be able to influence you. If they can't do that, they will disappear. But that doesn't mean that they won't be talking about you behind your back. Narcissists will go and start smear campaigns or triangulate you with other people. Even if you do have high self-esteem, even if you do love yourself, that's just gonna make them even more envious and jealous because they know they don't have that. It's because you practice self-love and you have high self-esteem. That doesn't mean that narcissists won't gravitate towards you. They will still see you as their shiny objects. And when they come around you, they will try to target your self-esteem. They will try to control and influence you. And yeah, I mean, your self-love should act as a defense against them. It should tell you what you are deserving of. So let your self-love guide you. They will play the victim. And that's really a way in to people who love themselves, people who practice self-care, people who know who they are. When someone comes around them and plays the victim and acts like they're in need of help, yeah, that can get some people. Even if they do have high self-esteem, because remember people who have high self-esteem and practice self-love, they are vulnerable to wanting to help people. But you need to see it as though you have your own secret exclusive club and you're very selective of who can become a member. It is very strict criteria. You have to be qualified for that position. So yes, you may see people who are outside of your bubble and they may be in need of your help. Maybe they're playing the victim or maybe they really are in need of your help. But it could be so much that it's gonna weigh you down and it's gonna affect your life. You have to be selective with who you choose to allow into your secret exclusive club, which should have a very limited number of members. And those who are members in your club, get the requirements, the very strict criteria. If one day you find that has finessed their way into your club, you need to end their membership, you need to ban them, get them out of there. Because it should be exclusive, you can't just allow anyone into there. Yes, you may have very, that doesn't mean that just anyone can go in there and partake in that to be exclusive. That's how you prevent it from being misused. Same thing, when you're dealing with narcissists, you need to have very strict criteria for people. That's how you keep narcissists out of your life, out of your club. And when someone breaks the rules or when you realize that someone is not a suitable member for what you desire to be a representation, your club, your life, then you need to get them out. You need to put them out in the cold because yeah, it's very with you. That's how narcissists see it, predictable. They know what to expect. When you go to a Marriott Hotel, you can go to a Marriott Hotel anywhere in the world. And you already know what to expect. Expect it to be luxurious, double room, banded of treatment. It doesn't mean that everyone is deserving of it. You have to work hard to earn that so that you can partake and enjoy it. You have to prove yourself. It's very exclusive. There are different types of memberships as well. You have short term memberships and then you have long term. Some people are acquaintances. Maybe you see them now and again. You have a conversation. But that doesn't mean there should be anything more. You have to qualify themselves. They have to show you why they are deserving to partake in everything that you have to offer. Because if you just put it out there for free, no one's going to value it. And if you put it out for free, then that may mean that you don't value yourself. And that's what this is about. Valuing yourself. Loving yourself. It's like appreciating a work of art. When you spend months painting this perfect, you want to stand back and admire it. Admire your work. That doesn't mean that anyone can just come and view it. Certain types of people are going to be able to appreciate it. Maybe those who have also put in work to paint their own painting. You can't really recognize the effort that someone has put in until you've been down that same road and you've put in work. Only then can you truly understand. But when you've just had it given to you, like how we just give ourselves the narcissist, how could you ever appreciate it? And then we wonder why in the end, they just throw us away like we're garbage. Because we gave ourselves away for free. We didn't set a high enough price in the beginning, which is why they didn't value it. So value yourself. And then people will learn to appreciate you. You will find that narcissists won't stick around when you start to value yourself. When you have a price on your services, then they're going to run off and find a bargain somewhere else. Because that's all they're really looking for. They're not looking to work and earn something to value. They're just looking for a bargain. And if they're not going to get that from you, they'll get it somewhere else. And let them do that. Let them go bargain shopping. Maybe one day they will realize what they had with you. They will realize how special and important that was. Make it on their own, value, and appreciate. So why then would you settle for someone who's just looking for a bargain? Then maybe one day they will realize that one day, but by that time it's going to be too late. Sometimes people will just come out and show you that they are not on your level. If you're a good people and you're going to hold on your hand and you're going to try and lift them up when really go through it on their own. They'll be able to see them anymore. Repel narcissists away from you just off love. Trust me, they will weed themselves out on their own. They won't have to do anything difficult because they may try to get revenge or know where we belong. We all know what we deserve. It's down to why after we're involved with these types of people, we're devastated. They're so heartbroken because we know that we deserve more. Well, they move on without a care in the world because they know where they belong. That's why they're just going back to where they belong. Let them do that and you go to where you need to be. My message for you today, I'm probably here coming down with rain. Just watch the cars dry on the inside. Last time I was flying business class, class fair as well. I've tried it before, so I'm looking forward to that. Let me know in the comments below if anyone's trying to flat bed on the plane. Let me know if it's any good. Looking forward to trying something new anyway. We'll have a lot more videos to come when I land at my next destination. So yeah, a lot of good times ahead. Really looking forward to it. Let's just share it with all of you. Anyway, I'm going to head off now. It's raining outside, so there's not too much to do. I'm going to go and get a foot massage. Thank you all for joining me. Please hit that thumbs up button down below. And I look forward to talking with you in another one very soon.