 The narcissist never wanted you to know this. When your relationship came to an end with a narcissist, it was clear that they had found someone else. In some cases, they may have had a child with someone or got married. And it all seems to have happened so fast. You wonder, how is it possible that they could have found someone else so quickly? But there is something that the narcissist never wanted you to know. There is something that they did their best to hide. Something that they didn't want to be revealed to you. When the narcissist started devaluing you. When they started to reduce or underestimate your worth or importance. That is when they had already found someone else. They had found someone else who didn't know what they were about. Someone else who they could trick and deceive. Someone else who was then giving them the attention and admiration that they were looking for. You were no longer giving this to them. Because by this point, you had figured them out. You had questioned or confronted them already. You had made them feel less than perfect. Where they had to acknowledge their faults, mistakes, flaws or imperfections. You had invalidated their false self and the illusion that they were trying to portray. By simply acknowledging them as they were, rather than how they wanted to be perceived. That is when they choose to find someone else to validate their false self. If you do not validate their false self, they will find someone else that will. The moment that you begin to invalidate the false self. That is when they will begin seeking out other sources of supply. The problem is, the more time you spend with an narcissist, the more you begin to realize that the false self is false. You begin to realize that it is not real or genuine. Once you realize this, there's really no way to go back. You cannot go back to believing that it is real. Back then you lacked the knowledge and awareness. But since you have gained that knowledge and awareness, you will now never see them in the same way ever again. And the narcissist knows this. They know that you are no longer susceptible to their manipulation. They know that you are no longer going to be able to give them the attention and admiration that they need. And that is why they will be busy grooming other sources of supply. They will be busy preparing or training them for the purpose of validating their false self. Something that you can no longer do. Because you know that it isn't real. Only people who believe that the false self is real can validate it. If you don't believe that it is real, you are invalidating them. It is a very frustrating experience for them and they won't want to be around you unless you are validating the false self. This is something that the narcissist never wanted you to know. They never wanted you to know this while you were with them. That they were already looking for someone else. While you were with them, they had already found someone else. They were already grooming them. Preparing or training them for the purpose of validating their false self. The moment you begin to suspect that the false self isn't real. The moment you begin to invalidate their false self. That is when the narcissist begins to devalue you. That is when they begin to look for someone else who will be more susceptible to their manipulation. Someone who will believe that their false self is real. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. CoachingInquires you can email me at natfathercoaching at gmail.com Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.