 It's called the It's called the Carpman drama triangle Carpman drama triangle. It's a rescuer abuser and victim Carpman says that the roles change all the time the shift So a victim could become an abuser abuser can become rescuer and so on so forth. He said that the roles are not I'm not fixed But yeah Yeah, you have these you have these saviors healers fixer is rescuer a types and They're actually mostly narcissistic the very grandiose They're covert. So you can't see them coming They hide behind a facade of empathy and compassion and altruism and charity and Healthfulness and sacro and they're the most wonderful people on earth and they're saintly almost, you know But actually behind the facade. There's a predator a dangerous predator Who has no boundaries is unboundary And who has no moral compunction and no moral compass Predator who would do anything like anything totally anti-social I had I've been I've been 26 years in this racket. So of course I've seen I've seen quite a few Actually, I had I had one I had one in my life until recently the son is Playing tricks on us He was a guy I I used to hang out with and we broke up After an incredible incident of egregious bedmouthing and backstabbing So a lot of what I say in this video in this interview It's based on his on this rotten character, you know So saviors are very often perfidious fake friends Many of them are people pleasers actually They always claim to be helpless and defenseless Victim stance, you know, they're always victims of manipulation and abuse And they're so childlike in their in their vulnerability and so in need Oh so in need of love and of course Women lap it up They lap it up. They love it. They they they see a love deficit And they just want to plug in and fulfill it And that is that is the secret source of saviors and rescuers Because remember, as I said saviors healers fixers rescuers They're grandiose They're covert the fake and they are definitely predatory They often move around in in couples like the savior rescuer type Would team up with someone who is a lot less fake someone who is honest straightforward non-nonsense Doesn't do sweet talk never pretends and never lies And so in comparison to this backdrop in comparison to this wingman The savior or the rescuer appears to be empathic Compassionate altruistic loving caring even saintly It's this contrast they create this contrast It's a problem It's a problem because you can't see them coming These savior rescuer types like this guy that I mentioned that that snakes in the grass They masquerade as good people but they actually engage all the time in perfidy In betrayal and backstabbing and bitmouthing and and so on because to pose as a savior or to pose as a rescuer You have to cast someone as an abuser You you can't be a savior if there's no abuser So they go around labeling people abusers and and so on so forth they But in reality Most of these saviors and rescuers who are usually men They're rabidly misogynistic some of them. I think are latent homosexuals or closet gays They're narcissistic And and they're psychopathic in in the on the dating scene for example They're players actually most of them are players and the pickup line of these people is I am a savior of damsels in distress They're self-appointed of course and their saving and rescuing is self-imputed. It's nonsense and bullshit It disguises predatory practices But they go around picking up vulnerable heartbroken Sad crying women and telling them. I'm going to save you from the bad mentally ill Dangerous damaging abuser that you're with I'm the alternative to the horrors of your relationship, but often As carpman correctly observes It is the same savior who is the abuser not the so-called abuser carpman says that these roles are not fixed They crucially depend on play acting Circumstances interpersonal dynamics and so on so forth so very often saviors and rescuers Apprenditors and abusers masquerading as saviors and rescuers so They go They go to venues where you can find such women. I don't know bars dating apps restaurants but They home in they zero in on on heartbroken Sad damage crying devastated anxious and depressed women As targets wherever they may be it could be a dinner It could be an intimate dinner with friends. It's happened to me This savior type he picked up a girl at a dinner, you know they These women need to talk they need to share they can't be alone. They can't They can't face being alone immediately for example after a breakup Or after a big fight with a partner they can't face being alone. They just need to talk But they end up being pre sexual or otherwise the The savior or the rescuer Just stigmatizes and labels someone as an abuser to just pick up any guy And they would they would label him an abuser It often is actually a friend Or a colleague because these are the easiest most available targets So they would go around they would talk to your They would pretend to be your friend and then they would talk to your wife or to your girlfriend And they would convince her that you're an abuser and they can save her They're fake friends. They are sitting with envy and resentment owing to deep set inferiority complex Saving rescuing this operation makes them feel omnipotent Makes empowers them You know, they feel godlike They are They it's mythical. It's almost almost mythological. It's almost like King Arthur legends, you know, they they are the knight on shining armor and they're saving Dancers in distress from the monsters that lurk in relationships The abuser could be anyone. That's what I'm telling you That's not the point. Of course, some women are subjected to abuse in relationships But the savior and rescuer is a predator Is not really interested in the woman or in her relationship Or or in her woes or in the problems that she's having or in her state of mind or in the abuser They couldn't care less. They hate women. Most of them absolutely detest women and hold them in deep contempt. They want to hurt women They are dangerous sadistic predators They're rabid misogynists. I I as I told you So they bet mouth Even if you are best friend with them, they bet mouth you They betray your confidences for hours To other people And of course being grandiose They don't realize that their words are reported back to the so-called abuser. For example, this guy and me um I had information from multiple sources About how he's bed mouthing and egregiously backstabbing me I would introduce him to women and then he would take them aside or fix an appointment with them or have You know a date with them and he would go on and on and on for hours Bed mouthing me trying to convince him to not be with me But I refuse to believe it because he was that good at faking He's a consummate fake. He's been fake fake all his life. I assume He had to be fake to survive you know Saviors and rescuers attempt to create alliances or coalitions with victims against abusers But often the abuser is actually not an abuser So that's what I said. For example, there's a fight. There's a fight a couple has a fight the savior would plug himself in and Convince the woman that she's being abused Or there's a breakup Hours after the breakup the savior would date that woman and sleep with her That's the pattern I call it the Uh, the predator the three the predatory three s's I'm gonna save you I'm gonna have sex with you And then I'm gonna scram And I'm gonna scram pretending to be altruistic So like save sex scram the three s's of the predatory savior and rescuer I'm gonna I'm gonna pretend to save you. I'm gonna be a friend I'm gonna be your shelter and refuge and sanctuary and respite I'm gonna be there for you. I'm gonna listen to you for hours And you can cry on my shoulder. I'm gonna understand you and accept you I'm gonna calm you down Ameliorate your anxiety and everything all this In order to end up having sex with you And then once I've had sex with you And aroused your sympathy and so There's a connection. I will scram I just run away And I will tell you you don't need another fantasy or you are not ready for a relationship or such other bullshit like this This is what rescuers and savior types do It's a highly narcissistic behavior It's selfish. It's egotistical. It's predatory. It's exploitative It's horrible because it leaves the victim Of abuse if she is indeed a victim of abuse. It leaves her much more broken Than before it leaves her even more devastated. She feels used and retraumatized second time Depends if they're narcissistic Yeah Yeah, if they're narcissistic, yes, they believe their own lies They believe they have this fantasy of themselves. It's a grandiose fantasy of themselves As saviors and rescuers and and they believe their own Lies and confabulations. It is their job. So to speak self assigned mission in life to save women from men They it's splitting They choose a target. Let's say a good friend a colleague a neighbor They choose a target. They make the target all bad or all black An abuser and then by comparison They're all good And that is splitting it caters to their grandiosity But they have unboundary sexual needs. They don't record. They have no moral compass They have no moral compass They would sleep. They would poach your wife. They would poach your girlfriend. They would do anything. They don't care They absolutely there's no boundaries. No guiding behavior. No codes. No nothing They are utter Unmitigated feral savage predators Yes I think I can generalize and say that all I mean everything I've just said is based on this character This guy In my life, but I've seen others of course in action And yes, I can generalize and say that all savior Types are like that They are like that. Absolutely. No, he's not it. No, he's not And it's not he is not an exception and it's not because I'm angry at him I am angry at him, but it's not I'm sufficiently detached Yes, this is the profile of a rescuer savior and any woman who has gone through this cycle Will confirm what I'm saying Any woman ask anyone who has had this triangle of abuser rescuer savior ask her what the rescuer savior Self-appointed rescuer savior ask her what he did to her Did he or did he not have sex with her hours after she appealed for help? For example, yeah, we can we can move on to the next topic absolutely But I still I still want to say a few things But it's not about him It's about this phenomenon of narcissistic saviors narcissistic rescuers narcissistic healers and fixers narcissistic gurus narcissistic coaches Narcissists are everywhere. They've taken over the helping professions. They are among therapies as well It's very dangerous. What's happening because narcissists and psychopaths infiltrated victim hood movements self-help activities forums online And they're all over the place and they are in control of the agenda. That's not me These are studies in british columbia in 2020 studies by gabbi g a b e b b a y these studies clearly show that Clearly show that victim hood movements Self-help movements are being infiltrated by narcissists and psychopaths, especially covert narcissists Covert narcissists are the most dangerous in this sense Because again, you can't see them coming And when they strike it's sudden. It's disorienting. It's disconcerting. It's destructive It's a horrible experience. I can tell you from personal experience the last few weeks It's an absolutely horrible experience Because the sense of betrayal is profound You want to believe in the good of other people, you know, you want to believe that the world is good and people essentially are good And so it's a betrayal not only of you but a betrayal of kind of cosmic justice or a betrayal of the order of the world It's it's destabilizing and unsettling and terrifying in many respects It's like everything is up ended. You you can you lose your ability to trust in people after something like this So these predatory rescuers Who end up having sex with vulnerable broken people? Who end up abusing and exploiting people? You know, they are they're dangerous They're much more dangerous than overt open abusers They're much more dangerous than in your face My way or the highway narcissists and psychopaths Because you can defend yourself if you know that someone is a narcissist or someone you can protect yourself if someone is a psychopath If you if you have the the accurate information, you're safe But what do you do against people who pretend to be who pretend to be good people empathic people helpful fake Fake the willingness to help Justing order then to kind of pray on you What do you do with such people? as a friend as a as a lover as a spouse What do you do with such people? That's the issue and there's no good answer to this There's no good answer to this because our current civilization enables such people Gives them access to all kinds of technologies empowering technologies And so their reach is much wider than ever before The danger cannot be overestimated. I I