 So I've been looking a lot lately at depression and I'm not just talking about clinical depression here I'm talking about that everyday low level depression that so many of us live with on a daily basis and so many explanations theories for what happens what causes these feelings and I want to talk here today about there is something that happens in depression and I'm sure you've heard it is before where there's that sense of nothing that I do in my daily life the things that I normally do or used to do none of those things bring me any feeling of joy anymore. Now what I want to talk about is and it's I'm not going to say that it's like this super simple thing to explain or a simple explanation but I want to offer one sort of avenue or of thought that maybe you can start using today and I've said it before but it's it could be something that's related to that is a psychological cycle we get into where we completely lose touch with what it is we really want so it's not necessarily that we stop and join the things that we really love that's a symptom of it but it could be what leads to that is not getting in touch with what do I want often times if you ask someone what do what is it that you really want there's a pause there's like I'm I don't know anymore what that is I don't know what I really want anymore and that can be from past failures things haven't worked out before when I did try to get what I want and often people will try and talk you out of pursuing whatever it is that you want you know that's a big big part of the conditioning we all have as we grow up when we're children we know very very well and clearly what it is we want but that's conditioned out of us so my invitation here what I'm proposing in this video is look there are many causes for depression but one of them could be to just I'm talking not so much the clinical depression because that is there's a biological aspect to that it's definitely internalizing the body and it's on a cellular level it's it needs significant treatment but I'm talking about low level depression uh loaded to moderate depression maybe as a cognitive approach to this to practice asking yourself on a daily basis what do I want what do I'm to rest with the fact I don't know I don't know what that is at the moment but I'm willing to keep asking that question until something starts to come up again and that's going to be a feeling of desire for something a feeling of I want that and I'm going to start moving towards it whatever it is and not to judge it okay it could start off with I want a cup of coffee and I'm in touch with the fact that there is a desire in me a feeling coming up I want that I want to have a cup of coffee and now I'm going to go and get the cup of coffee so it's a desire that comes up and act on it I act on that desire what do I really really want in this moment what do I want on a larger level larger scale level what do I want for my life and not to let anyone judge it don't judge it yourself I want to have a better relationship I want to have more money in my life I want to live in a nicer house you know you name it and those those desires are just desires that come up not to be judged but to see okay what would happen if I pursued that what would happen if I just move towards it without judging it without even needing that thing to come into fruition for it to happen but I'm just finding myself now following these desires as they come up not impulses these are desires I'm talking about desires that I know it's going to be a good a good healthy thing for me how often do we ask ourselves this question what do I want oftentimes it's just we're reacting to things we're sliding into passive ways of maybe enjoying ourselves telling ourselves yeah this is what I enjoy but are is there any real joy in the moment when we find ourselves you know watching the fourth episode of the tv show you know it's it's it's not really what I'm talking about here what do I want what will make me feel excited what will make me feel like I'm moving forward with my life you know so it's a big big difference so habitually you know I I would say if you're ever going to get a tattoo on your arm get tattooed what do I want just to continually keep asking yourself that question and watch there's a feeling coming up okay all right that's what I want that's what I want that's okay to follow that a part of the the thing I see with a lot of us is we we think we know what we want and we structure our lives so rigidly about routines and habits and life hacks and all these things that we try to think will bring us to whatever that thing is we wanted a month ago you know and so now I have the routine and the structure and everything and there's no need to kind of ask that question anymore because a month ago that's what I wanted you know so we kind of cut ourselves off from on a daily basis an hourly basis ask yourself what do I want what do I want and that's feeding the the motivation the desire to keep okay that's what I want now I'm moving forward with that it's still what I want I'm moving forward with that there's much less need for routine structures as I said life hacks and things like that so you know that's a kind of a higher level to beyond the procrastination stuff I've talked about in lots of videos in the past it's you get to a point where you don't even need schedules habits routines because you're so in touch with what is this thing that I want I'm going to trust whatever the desire is that comes up in myself and I'm going to just feel it and I'm not going to judge it and I'm going to let it move me forwards I'm going to let it bring me towards whatever it is I want rather than trying to figure out up here all the time what it is make a plan and a routine and then stick to that with discipline and have to pull myself towards the goal your desire will do all the heavy lifting for you it will move you forward with it so if we to bring it back today the depression thing I talked about earlier it's like for so many of us it's maybe just routines the environment we're not encouraged to ask that question our wants our desires our preferences are not encouraged maybe they're censored and they're put down and we're not encouraged to go after whatever it is that we want maybe we're not taught how to negotiate to get the things we want maybe we're surrounded by you know caregivers authority figures that don't care about what we want so we stop asking the question whatever it is the invitation here is to maybe consider start asking that question again what do I want and see where that desire that small desire what it grows into and where it will lead you to so I hope that's helpful and it's an invitation try it out and see if it works for you thanks for watching guys and as always I'll see you soon in the next video take care