 I think I could make a compelling argument that the things we say to ourselves, our self-talk and our self-narrative, are the most important things we will ever say. So we have to start learning to talk to ourselves the same way we would talk to a friend or a loved one. If you called me up tonight, and I know we're new friends, but if you called me up tonight and said I'm feeling stoppable, I'm feeling stuck, I'm struggling, the very first thing I would do would be to try to comfort you, to let you know I believe in you, that I care about you and that you got this. The last thing I would do would add shame and guilt, would be critical, would pile it on. Yet a lot of high drivers, a lot of ambitious people, that's the first thing they do to themselves. And they take these negative feelings and they either try to resist them or suppress them or ignore them, which I don't recommend, but then they start being very critical and they start stacking on the shame and guilt and that only weighs them down. So the first thing you have to do is just let it go.