 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narc Survival Live video and an unusual setting in this one. As you can see I am at this bird park and I'm surrounded by Storks and other birds as well. The stork is actually one of my favorite birds. I think my number one favorite of all is the Pelican as I made you see that later on down this path. But for now let's just enjoy these storks. I do like storks they're quite unusual looking birds. They are very large beaks and long legs but yes on to the topic of this video. We are going to be talking about why the narcissist has to hurt you because if you look at it it's like everything they do. They want to inflict pain, suffering and control on you. They want you to feel down. They want you to feel bad. They just want to hurt you and they may do this in many different ways. Even the love bombing when they're manipulating you. They're giving you this illusion. They're deceiving you. They already know that that is going to cause you pain and grief and yet they don't care. They do it because they only care about themselves and not only that but there's the devaluation. They insult you. They put you down. They call you names. They use words or they may even become passive aggressive or physically violent. They may cheat, lie to you, steal from you and even after they've done all of that they will even blame you because they know that's going to cause you even more pain. After you really did your best you did everything you could to please them and despite all of the abuse you still maintained your discipline and self control. There were so many times where you could have reacted. You could have lashed out at them but you chose not to do that and despite all of that it's like you're only rewarded with even more abuse, even more lies and deception, devaluation and then in the end when they discourage you they make you feel like you're nothing. You don't even deserve them. They want to leave you feeling like you're no good for anyone or anything. They don't want you to be good for anyone else after they're gone which is why a lot of times they will even start a spear campaign against you and they will do that to control you, to isolate you, to prevent you from getting involved with someone else because by doing that it's just going to reflect back to them that they were in fact the problem all along. Of course it's something they don't want you to do because they already knew from the very beginning when they targeted you. I mean of course they're not going to deliberately target someone who could be dangerous or harmful to them. They deliberately pick innocent and naive people, people who they know they're going to be able to control so they already know someone like that. It's going to be very easy for you to move on and to build a real relationship, a healthy family with someone else because that's typically how it goes for the types of people that they target so of course they don't want you to move on and do that, something that they can't do because yes they tried probably many times before you and they failed and many of them already know that they were the ones who were at fault, they were the reason why they couldn't establish that. So yes all of these things they do, everything, it is all intended to harm you, to cause you pain, to make you suffer and if they can they would love to observe your facial expressions and see it in your eyes, the pain that they cause because yeah they get off on that, it makes them feel alive. They say this, many of them even have psychopathic traits and they find joy not only in hurting humans but in hurting animals as well. Yes they actually enjoy that, many of you may know that psychopaths in particular that's typically what they begin with when their children they enjoy inflicting harm on animals and then they move on to people and they enjoy tricking people, lure them into something that they know is going to be very undesirable for them but they're going to be subjected to a lot of lies, a lot of deception and control and they're just not built like us in any way and you can see that because normal people, people like ourselves, especially those of us who are empathic, we just can't bear to see another person or an animal, a pet, whoever it is, we just can't stand to see anyone in pain, anyone experiencing distress because when we see that it hurts us as well and we just want to run in and make it stop especially if there's someone in tears we will do anything to put a stop to that, we just can't bear it, even those of us yes we may have been abused, we may have had a lot of things done to us but I think a lot of us as well even if our abusers the people who did these things to us if they were in a life or death situation and their life was in our hands I'm sure we would still do everything in our power to rescue them while knowing that they would never do the same thing for us if the situation was in reverse but then a lot of times they don't want you to be in that type of extreme situation and it's not because they're actually these heroes or saviors as they want you to believe but it's because they're actually far worse than you could ever even imagine a narcissist even a psychopath or a sociopath as well they are the type of people where if they saw you hanging off the edge of a cliff and you were about to fall to your death they would have a smile on their face they would be enjoying your distress and they might leave you hanging off for a moment but then they would reach out their hands and pull you up because it makes them feel powerful but not because they care about you but because they don't want to lose their supply so they would pull you back up just so they can lure you back into the relationship by making you believe that they're this hero this person who rescued you and then they would continue the abuse for as long as they possibly can I just let that sink in that is how evil and wicked these types of people really are they're not just like a typical psychopath who just wants to put an end to you and destroy you completely these types of people they're so sick and messed up in the heads that they will actually do what they can to keep you afloat so that they can continue the pain and suffering for as long as they possibly can because yes a lot of them they want you to experience a lifetime of suffering where they can just subject you to whatever they want and there is no cut off the abuse they never satisfied with anything no matter what or how much they do to you they're never gonna have this moment where they're like okay enough is enough he's had enough she's had enough stop let's leave it alone leave it be they're never gonna have that moment never and of course the reason why is because they don't heal or they don't self reflect they're always focused on the moment they're not looking at the bigger picture or they're thinking it's like a reptile they're just thinking what can I get in this moment out of this person how can I use them to make myself feel better what do I have to do how can I hurt them how can I keep them off balance just so I can feel better about myself yes that is exactly how they think a second twisted as that sounds so for that reason yes there is no cut off of the abuse it will always be ongoing and it will never end there will never be a moment where they feel like you've had enough they will beat you down just so they can pull you back up when you're like an inch within death and then they will try to revive you just so they can beat you back down all over again and then they will revive you again and then bring you back down and the same thing they will just repeat again and again for the rest of your life for as long as they have that control over you and it's just never going to stop I've never heard of any situation where they narcissist or psychopath or sociopath as well but they finally decided they finally had a change of heart and they felt like nope this person has had enough I'm gonna be kind now I'm gonna treat them right they will only do that in the moment to trick you to put you on this pedestal just so that you're further away from the ground when they want you to fall and of course the reason why they do this the reason why is because they can't be happy or satisfied it's because they can't stand themselves they have no inner sense of value and they're very envious and jealous of their targets which is why you may find that it's always like a competition they're always competing with you in some way and the reason why how they ended up this way how they have to use you as their supply where you always have to be subjected to this punishment or harm they always have to use and abuse you and then discard you the reason why they do these things it's because they didn't get that emotional needs met when they were children they didn't get that emotion that's why they're so cold-hearted to where it's like all they want to do is hurt you they want to take all of these things from you and drain you but they don't want to give anything to you in return out of the goodness of their own hearts when a person hasn't had their emotional needs met yeah they might trick you in the beginning but all they really want to do is kill you destroy you because they see you they can tell straight away they know you had this sheltered upbringing you were this child that was taken care of you had a good upbringing someone actually valued you they took good care of you but no one ever did that for them no one ever put their arms around them and told them that they loved them that they care and now it's all about cheating lying and stealing from people and they actually enjoy doing that as well because they look at it like you've had an easy life you got what you wanted you were happy you experienced all of this joy in your childhood you were looked after you were comfortable you had everything you needed and then they're just looking at it like what about me why didn't I get that kind of treatment and I it's sad I know but this is just how it is with these types of people their parents their family I had narcissistic parents but I was also the golden child when I was young so I received all of my parents love and attention they were always there for me it's like I couldn't get away from them and it was like I could just have whatever I wanted whenever I wanted it I was putting this pedestal I was like the favorite child of both of my parents and I could just see it even when I went to school the other kids they could tell I was well taken care of and they were very jealous even though my parents were separated they both made me the golden child up until I was about 12 or 13 years old and by that point I think maybe I was still the golden child for my mom but with my dad's I suddenly became the scapegoat I had my family's love and attention when I was a child and it may not have been real I mean with narcissists they just see you as an extension they don't recognize you as a separate person but at that age I was too young to even know the difference so I believe that it was real so as far as I know as far as my child self knows yes I was loved, showered with attention when I was a child you will know that this makes people very envious and jealous of you when you were growing up the kids at school then when you get a job it's your co-workers turning against you and then maybe from people in your community maybe later on even your own family members relationship partners and it may not always have been your family's love it could have been gone she believed in a higher power it could have just been some maybe you had self-love when you were a child and that carried you through but when people see this those who didn't have that when they were young it just makes them want to hurt you it makes them want to destroy you stamp you out because you're reflecting back to them the love and care that they were missing in their lives and that just makes them feel bad about themselves a massive beak there he goes straight into the water maybe he's found a I think someone once said in my comments I'm like the David Battenborough of narcissism either that's why I'm the M&M the slim shady I know I do talk quite quickly sometimes I've got a bit of a flow to it but yeah I'm just out here this always brings me peace and that's what I had as well when I was a child not only was I the golden child but I also just enjoyed being by myself going out in forests or by the beach being around animals I also enjoyed that a lot as well I guess when they see these things it brings up a lot of insecurities and resolve traumas from the past about when they didn't get the love and attention that they needed of course you have to remember that this all started in childhood that was the root cause of it and sadly it's too late for them already you can't just come around them and try to love them better but it's not going to work because you have to remember that they are presenting this false character to you and the more that you try to love the false character the more that they will hate you because of course they already know that this false character isn't real and when you love it just reminds them that yes who they actually are was not good enough especially when they show you who's really underneath the mask they lash out at you they rage at you they attack you of course they already know you should not love someone like that so when they're doing that they're attacking you and you're trying to give them another chance that just makes it even worse because they already know that they're undeserving they're unlovable they're not deserving of your love and attention they already know that from the very beginning and I'm not saying that's true I'm just saying that that is what they think and they cannot change their beliefs about themselves they wouldn't know where to start it's too much pain for them to just accept their feelings how they feel for them to come out and say yes maybe I am undeserving maybe I am unlovable maybe I don't deserve your love and attention for them to do that it would be very painful for them they do not want to look within they'd rather just point the finger at you and point out all of these imaginary insignificant petty irrelevant things that don't even matter they have to be outwardly focused and projected on to you rather than go within and to accept that actually the reason why they do these things is yes because they feel that they are unlovable that is why they do it because unlike you or me I mean that's pretty easy for us to do for us to say to ourselves okay yes maybe we did some things wrong we're not perfect I mean we're not going to go to that extreme where it's all or nothing black and white I deserve all the love in the world one completely unlovable we're not gonna think like that of course but exactly how they think and that's how you will feel when you're around them when they first target you you feel amazing like you're the greatest person they've ever met in their lives and then it isn't long before you feel completely worthless and unlovable which is exactly how I felt myself when I dealt with these people and then once I got away from them I started to question these beliefs which I never had before before I met them and then I began to realize this does not make any sense how can I go from being this person on the pedestal the greatest person they've ever met and now suddenly I'm nothing I'm no one how can that make any sense and that is what you have to do it's question these beliefs that they have implanted in your mind because it has nothing to do with you these are their beliefs their projections that's how they feel about themselves so of course that is exactly how you will feel whenever you are around them however they feel that's who you're gonna feel you're gonna feel bad about yourself you're gonna feel completely worthless and you know what I'd say to that is that that is exactly how you should feel when you are around these types of people that is your body and your mind telling you that you do not belong around them because when you're around good healthy people they will uplift you they will make you feel better about yourself they're not gonna make you feel worse how we treat other people it's a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves so when they're constantly badgering and pestering you and trying to hurt you that should reveal to you how they already feel that should tell you everything you need to know you shouldn't even need any more closure or validation after that but as for us empaths people who do love and care for ourselves but not just ourselves but also other people as well people like ourselves yes we must continue to spread the love and compassion to every genuine person that we meet yes we must continue to do that and we do have the ability to do it and the reason why we have that is because yes we had our emotional needs met when we were children whether it was real or not it doesn't matter we believe that it was real at the time so we are complete people and we have love to give you had a lot of love to give when you first met them and they took you for granted they just robbed that from you so these are all things for you to recognize in yourself and to be very wary very cautious around these types of people because now they did not get their emotional needs met until I come up you're not gonna come along now and be able to do that for them it is too late it's just gonna make them even worse the best that you can do now it's just know what you were dealing with and avoid them keep that good energy to yourself or for other people who can actually receive it people who did have a good upbringing they were valued appreciated taking good care of these types of people can receive it you can build a relationship with someone like that but narcissists no no all they're going to do is use and abuse you you're never going to leave a relationship or even just an interactional engagement with a narcissist and feel stronger or more confident in yourself you're never going to have that unless you're just lying to yourself but yeah that's it for this video my battery's getting quite low now but I hope it was helpful and I hope that you do find people who want to uplift you and not hurt you because no one deserves to be hurt or abused abuse is wrong and there is no justification there are no excuses for that but thank you all for 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