 And I think if there is that good intention that people want to grow, there is no shame in that, because we all have these trauma, you know, defense modes from gaslighting, from being growing up and having to panic, explain everything because you're autistic and no one understands what you're, anything about you and you know, and you know, it's all understandable and there's no shame. In any neurodiverse relationship, there will always be some elements of miscommunication, particularly when it comes to confrontational or emotional things. And if your first reaction is to blow everything out of proportion, and it's like, you know, if this person is someone to be like, oh, hey, actually, you know, did you mean that in that way or you kind of