 What is happening in the 21 convention Tampa, Florida? We have a pretty amazing speaker. He is the founder of the Direct Dating Summit. He, man, is somebody who is actually, I've surely seen YouTube videos of him. He's one of the most asked about guys here at the convention. And he is known for, well, I'd say many things, but destroying your fears as a man. If you have trouble approaching, meeting women, or working through some issue in your life, Sasha Daygame is the man to talk to. Come on stage, my man. Let's do it. Listen to that. What's up? How you guys feeling? This guy, the fucking Indian guy, has more energy than you fuckers. How you guys doing? All right, that's better. So my name's Sasha. And I'm a professional dating coach for many years before that, and still currently stand-up comedy. This is my thing. So I thought, wouldn't it be appropriate to start with a little joke? Yes? Who wants to hear a little fucking joke? Good. So my best friend, Jeff, in Toronto, is one of my best buddies, awesome guy. He's really helped me out through my life, a really loyal friend. And for me, that's one of the most important things, loyalty. So my buddy, Jeff, I come home one day. I was living with him for years. I come home one day, and Jeff loves this game Grand Theft Auto. This is years ago, this is Grand Theft Auto 2, right? So it's this game where you go around, you rob people, and you get missions, and you get money, and whatever. So I come in, and I walk in, and I see Jeff behind the computer, and he's there. And I just see him pressing the spacebar really fast. He's just there going, do-do-do-do-do-do. And I look up on the screen, and I see a guy's bicep, and he's holding a weight, and the guy's just working out this way. And I'm like, Jeff, what's going on, buddy? I don't understand what's happening. He's like, oh, I've got to get to this next mission, to this next level. But for me to succeed, I have to go on a date with this woman to do it. But she won't go out with me, because I'm not in good enough shape, so I've got to go to the gym, and I've got to work out, and then he's just there just fucking doing this fucking thing. And I'm looking at this guy, like he's from outer space, and I'm like, dude, you realize the time you're putting into this video game, you go out there in the real world, join an actual gym, get fucking ripped, feel better about yourself, go on a date with an actual woman, and have real sex with a real woman. And Jeff looks at me and just goes, fuck that. And Jeff went for a stretch for like 10 years of not having sex, finally had some sex, but just was not interested in having sex. And it came down to he had a bad experience, and he just decided he's got this fear, he's got this fear of women, he just went, I'm not going to deal with that, fuck that. And he played video games, and he's a nice guy, and he does his stuff, watches TV, but he just will not approach girls, he won't face his fears. And I think that's one of the biggest problems for men today. We're not really put into a situation where we have to face our fear, we actually have to become men. James mentioned this as well. And so we kind of become little bitches, and it's kind of normal, right? You can go and do what you're supposed to do as a man, you go and you get your job and you make your money, but you're still a fucking little child, right? And so, and for me, my process, I did it a long way, I went out and I spoke to like thousands of women, but eventually I managed to fuck up and I got to a point of being fearless in that part of my life, and I found that spread into other areas of life. And I really find that, you're either going to be one of those guys that faces for your head on, you're like, fuck this, I'm going to do what I want to, and I'm just going to, whatever scares me, whatever I can't do, I'm going to do it over and over until I master it. And then that just opens up your entire life so you can just do anything. Literally, there's nothing you can't do if you face fear, but if you live in fear, you can't do shit. And you end up living a mediocre life, and again, other speakers have spoken about that. So I thought, let's talk about, let's make my whole talk about destroying approach to anxiety and social fear. How's that? Good? And I want it to be, I want it to be, yes, that's right. And I want it to be interactive, so I've got these Sasha day game condoms. That's right. And you can get one of these if you're interactive. It says, got game in the front, here's the best part, you open it up, and it says inside, we don't sell condoms, we create men that need condoms. That's right, so, yep. And so whoever gets a condom, if you have sex with a girl and you use it, and you get me a video proof, you win even more stuff. So that's all. Leave it at that. All right, so let's get cracking. I'm not, I don't know, I'm not very, there's going to be weird stuff in here. I'm not a professional maker of screens. Okay, so, who has social fear? Fucking everybody, okay? If you've ever been nervous about talking to a hot girl, okay, if you've ever thought about public speaking, being the best man at a wedding, going to any situation, maybe you've, somebody's like, hey, you should go do stand-up comedy and you're fucking shitting yourself. Everyone has social fear, okay? It's not like, oh, that's good, it's afraid. Everybody has it. So, there you go, nice professional slide. So, now I find there's only really, I think in my opinion, there's only one real way to deal with that shit and get over it, okay? I'm not even gonna ask you guys if you've seen a hot girl and be like, oh, and then run away. Everybody does that. So, some people might say, well, you're gonna do a hypnosis. I don't trust hypnosis, okay? It doesn't work for everybody, it's expensive. And frankly, I don't trust some dude like, all right, stare at this and I'm gonna make you feel good. I'm just like, no, man. James Marshall spoke about this earlier. If you don't have to work for it, right? It's probably not worth much, am I right? So, I don't believe in that shit. I think you really have to make deliberate, conscious change and that will lead to permanent change. You have to work for it. You gotta feel that pain and get through it to actually get results. So, first I'm gonna do a little review. I've put these out in one of my talks before. So, just a quick review of some crucial mindsets and I'm gonna actually get into my system for permanently removing social fear. So, that's right. Look at that shit. I hate it. Seriously, and it's funny because like, there's so many guys from so many different cultural backgrounds all over the world and it doesn't matter where they are or where they come from, I'll point to a really beautiful girl and I'll just go over there and say, hi there, no. And it really is the most crippling thing and I found after seven, eight years of teaching this stuff, if you can just get rid of it, if you can really just get to a point where you just don't give a fuck, you're like, I don't care. Your whole life changes because you're just like, I'm just gonna do it. Even if you suck at game, you don't know what to talk about. It doesn't matter. If you're not afraid and you come up and actually face it and talk to women, just everything else falls into place. So, some of my mindsets, I think, are useful. Women are bored. Women are bored. Most women have mediocre lives. They walk around doing their thing. They go to work. They work for a few hours. They come home, they'll eat their food. Maybe they'll talk to their girlfriend on the phone and they'll watch some movie and then they'll go to, they'll masturbate in a lot of cases and they'll go to bed. This goes on forever. There's not that many amazing, crazy things happening. And just by actually coming up to a girl and being like, hey, I want to talk to you. You look amazing. She's already going like this. I can't believe that happened. That's a great story. Even if she says no or she's married, odds are she's calling her friend going, this guy came up to me and told me I was sexy. I can't believe this. Obviously not in that manly voice. That'd be weird. But so women are bored and just recognize that you're giving women and other people you speak to a great story just by engaging them and giving them some kind of experience other than nobody talking to them. Does that make sense? Okay. So women are hornier than men. Does that come as a shock to anybody? No, they are. How do I know this? I know. So women are hornier than men. Now not just that women have this thing called a clitoris which is built just for their sexual pleasure which frankly, I'm a little bit upset. We don't have one of those. That's a bullshit. God, if you're listening, that's not fair and you know it. Anyway, but also if you've ever, like you see women have just as an idea, if you've read any of those books that have all those, you know, the secret garden and there's that other huge one, women's fantasies, all these books, if you actually read those books, their fantasies are crazy. Like it's unbelievable. You know, like a man's like, yeah, you know, just like, yeah, I had sex and then I ejaculated on her boom and then I went, it was awesome. That's us. And maybe her friend was watching. Women are like, there's 19 dudes and 40 horses and they all take their turns and they fuck me and my arm falls off and they start fucking the arm thing and I'm tied up and one guy's punching me in the face and then they have multiple organs and this goes on for four months. That's their fantasy. It's just some ridiculous, horny, crazy shit. And men are just like, yeah, I fucking, yeah, I watched a porn movie and a girl gave me a blow job at the same time. Cool, dude. So women are way, way hornier and if you actually have sex, anyway. So that's just an important thing. Don't be like, yeah, we want sex and they don't know. They fucking, they're way worse than us. Okay. This is really big. How long does it take to come up to a girl and be like, you look beautiful. I just had to come over and meet you. How long does that take? 15 seconds, Max, you get a condom. You can get that later. But what was that sound like? I just went over and called him a bitch and punched him in the face. I threw a condom, it hit someone else. Okay. So it doesn't take long. Takes literally 10, 15 seconds, if that, to come over to a girl and tell her, hey, you look amazing and it makes women happy. That some man actually had the balls to come over there and make her feel good. So it's a beautiful thing. It's excellent. It only takes a few seconds. So one of my greatest mindsets is you're an asshole. You don't go over there and make some woman's day or some person. All right. So this is a really big one. Nobody talks about this. Okay. So most things in Hollywood movies are absolutely bullshit, right? Like all the advice they do a lot, I just want to punch the screen. But there's one thing that's in those Hollywood movies that's actually true. And it's that women crave a magical moment. Now, can anyone kind of guess what that, what am I talking about here? Okay, well that's a little bit extreme. But yeah, sure, I joke about that on my boot camps. Did you have one as well? Something like that. So most girls meet guys in really unimpressive environments. They'll just be in a bar and some guy's hammered and he works up the courage and comes over, let me buy you a drink. And it's like so standard, it's horrific. That's why I really like meeting girls in everyday situations. Because odds are just by approaching her in a bookshop, on the street, on a bus, you're already kind of creating that magical moment, especially if you're authentic and you're direct with your intention. So a quick way to illustrate this is students will often ask me, what do I do if there's two girls or a group of girls? And the big mistake is going on and be like, hey, you guys are all so hot or whatever. Don't ever do that because you come off as this horny dude, right? Like you guys are hot. I'd bang any of you chicks. Bad. But the movie moment, even if there's four or five or six or 10 or 20 girls, it doesn't matter, I'll walk up and I'll be like, hey guys, don't worry, I'm not a lunatic. However, then I'll look at one girl in the eye and I'll say, you are absolutely gorgeous. I just have to meet you. What's your name? I'm Sasha. And I'll put out my hand. Why did that create a magical movie moment? For, well, I'd say many things, but destroying your fears as a man. If you have trouble approaching meeting women or working through some issue in your life, Sasha Daygame is the man to talk to. Come on stage, my man. Let's do it. Listen to that. There's many paths, but try and pick the path that's gonna serve you in the long run. And I go, no, all right, I forget the baby. How about a date? We'll start slow, okay? Simple, effective. Great, okay. So this is huge here. I love this. One of the most important things I've been teaching for years and years and years and years and years and people used to have, they'd pay a lot of money for this and pay attention.