 We don't need to disagree less. We need to disagree better. And actually in a lot of cases to disagree more, that's actually what brings people together. When I talk to married couples, for example, you find that the coldest marriages never fight. Now, the marriages that fall apart, they fight like crazy, but they don't know how to fight is the way that that works. And so I work with couples all the time on how to fight and actually how to do that. And a lot of people will say, it's kind of interesting, married couples will say, you know what, after we haven't fought for a long time, you know, it's been weeks and weeks we haven't seen each other, we have a big argument and then for some reason we always have sex afterward. It's like, it's not makeup sex. That's actually not right. A fight is the most intimate thing that you have because you actually said something that you believe that you've been not saying. And when somebody's super honest with you and you're being super honest, you're just completely in love even if you're angry. That's the way that that works. And that's what we have to keep in mind that conflict can be incredibly healthy if we know the rules. I also wanna add to that and that's an incredible point. And to go back to a point that I was discussing about my dad's family and my mom's family, both of the grandparents stayed married until there was a death. And you could look at that and think they hated each other. They should have been divorced a long time ago or you can look at that saying they did what it took to stay married for that family for all those years. So you could say, and it depends on observation and a worldview, but learning to fight, learning to stay together, right? And that fighting plays an intimate role in that relationship and keeping those things together. Yeah, right. I mean, nobody knows what's going on inside an individual couple to be sure. Only the couple knows that. And you find out things about people after the fact, et cetera, you're always kind of surprised about that. But when we say that these older couples, the reason that they stay together is because of the social strictures against divorce. That's not usually true. The number one reason is that they were highly complementary to each other because they were probably set up by a loved one who thought they might make it kind of a good match based on their complementarity and their difference. And the second is because it was really, really inconvenient to split up, they learned how to have conflict. They just actually learned the rules of the road is what came down to. Now, when I'm working with couples, the number one thing that I work on is I listen to them having an argument. And all the couples that are really, really struggling, it's always me and you and I and you, and they're always talking about these personal pronouns, either in the first or the second person, always move to the we and us pronouns. And it's gonna change the way you think and change the way you fight, it turns out. Because you don't say, you hurt my feelings. You say, we had an argument and that really hurt me. We had an argument that really hurt me. You're taking responsibility and you're defining the problem as a project for the two of you to solve. And so when you actually solve it, you've made progress together. It's like your fights become projects just because of the pronouns that you use. It's so critically important. And couples that always use we and us, always use we and us, they're a team and they don't split up is basically what you find. So that's idea number one. Well, not only you're staying married together, you're growing together because if you had gotten married kind of early in life in your 20s, you haven't really even discovered who you are, let alone your significant other. And that process, if you're able to be able to do that together only lends itself to building, constructing a North Star between you and your partner and working towards that together. This is actually one of the reasons that the marriages, they tend to do better when they're startups than when they're mergers. You have to use the industrial language. I love it, that's a good one. So people are like, you know, I got to get through law school and I get to get my career down. And then I'll think about marriage. That's the wrong order. Startups where people is like, we got nothing, we got nothing together. So, you know, I fell in love with my wife when I was 24 years old. And man, I was like a starving musician in those days all the way through my 20s. I had hair like you. I mean, it was, that's what she fell in love with me, by the way. And we, you know, we got married, we were poor. We had big ideas, we had dreams and we learned how to live together so that, you know, people change over the course of their life. Couples that are startups, they tend to change together. Mergers, it's harder. And don't get me started on hospital takeovers and acquisitions. Those are really, you can tell I teach in a business school. Well, I mean, listen, a marriage basically is a business arrangement, the way it is presented on paper. So, let's be honest here. Yeah, yeah. And you know, the mergers are the, I mean, the mergers are the ones with the prenups, by the way. You know, those startups have prenups. I mean, you, I mean, it just, you don't think of it the same way. And it's why there's hospital takeovers. Oh yeah, that's right.