 Not having a unicorn. Alright, here was it you guys, welcome back to my channel. If you're new here, hi, hello. Welcome back, welcome, hello. What's up? That was the longest freaking introduction I've ever done. Today I'm going to be talking to you a bit about family and BPD. When I was first taken over with BPD, Budaline Personality Disorder for those of you My family, I remember the phone call I made to my mum after the appointment where I got a diagnosis. I was like, oh, did I get my BPD? She was like, what's that? I was like, Bordaline Personality Disorder. And she was like, Bordaline what? I was like, no, just Bordaline Personality Disorder. That's the diagnosis. And then she googled it. She fucking googled it. And I think I hate it back when people Google a condition rather than speaking to a person who knows about it. Google has so much misinformation out there. The information on Google makes out like people with BPD including myself or attention seekers don't really... They think it's just emotional, like emotional dysregulation. And it's not. It's so much more than that. But now the issue is every time I, when I last attempted to do it, my mum was like, oh, it's just because you got BPD. I was like, no. I was like, it's because my flashbacks were getting too bad and my anxiety was bad. It wasn't to do with BPD. Like BPD isn't even my primary diagnosis. That really did get to me. And it's so hard when you have a family that don't really understand what you're going through because you're then left and you can't talk to them about it because they're so misinformed about it that it just stigmatizes everything and it takes away from why you actually want to speak with them. My family assume that because I'm diagnosed with BPD, again, not primary diagnosis, they assume that when I'm struggling, like when I'm self-harming or when I'm suicidal, that it's attention-seeking because I need the attention and it's got nothing to do with wanting attention. In fact, in that mindset, I don't ever want people to think that I am attention-seeking. I often avoid people when I'm like that. I'm talking really fast. My family, when I was diagnosed with BPD, was a little off me. I tried to explain this a bit earlier, then I got interrupted by people, opening and closing the door and making noise. So now moving on to how I educated my mum and got her to understand this, I let her see my life. As in, I didn't like give up on my YouTube channel. God, I couldn't survive if that happened. I showed her videos on YouTube, not my own, but I showed her what BPD actually is and how it affects people because when I first started telling her about the dissociative symptoms, she presumed it was a hallucination. So it was quite hard. And my tips for telling your parents, talking to people about it, would be to just be blunt with them. Tell them what symptoms you're experiencing. Tell them if you're on medication, explain the medications for the symptoms, not for BPD itself. Explain what a personality disorder is. Explain the basics and have them understand it all the time in my life. And that's the universal arm. I'll have to finish the video when I get back. Like about seven o'clock, which I started the video with, but uni-alarm. Alright, so to continue on from what I was saying earlier, with BPD, there's often a lot of misconceptions, especially when it comes to relationship breakdowns and toxic growing up. When my mum blamed me and the way I acted as a kid as to why I am the way I am, and why I'm treated the way I'm not treated. Fiality setting in. No, I acted the way I acted because she abused me. She hit me. I wasn't being over-dramatic with that. That was why. But she put it all down to BPD. While I went to uni, I asked people if they had anything they wanted to know about in this video, like specific areas I wanted to cover. I'm going to put you on Twitter and find all of these. I think I'll screenshot them on my phone. I hate the misconception that with BPD, you are volatile, manipulating, that you have no empathy. Which is not something that I am, but anyone who I knew with the condition. Very true, very true. I find a lot of the time people assume you're trying to manipulate them and that you're going to be some horrible person because all the internet promotes is the negative symptoms. And yes, there are a lot. I'm not going to sit here and tell them, but you have to give it a big shove and realise there are positive things. They were not horrible people. So, the question for us, how do the parents react when they hear the three letters BPD? So, my family reacted in a way that wasn't the best. No one understood what it was. My mum didn't even know borderline personality disorder was a thing. She was like, borderline between one mum, that's the name of the condition. Something like an hour to convince her that it was even a thing. Which, it hurts to be honest. It hurts to think that, but it's true. I think when your family is unsupported, it puts you down and you're more likely to be self-destructive. Personally, if you want my thoughts like if you want to talk to your family about it, start a conversation. And if they don't want to hear it, make them listen somehow. I did it by starting to post up on Facebook about BPD. I just posted loads of BPD facts. Having to support your family around can be really helpful. So, if you want to support your family, go out of your way together. You can use my books, my literal kids books to explain it and I'm going to do a whole lot of video talking about kids and explaining mental health because I want to have a conversation with people like what do you think people should, like kids should be educated on mental health because I do. Not in the extreme way, but I think just educating them on different disorders, giving examples of what it could be and if anyone gets concerned, speak to your teacher. I think if we always talk about it at a younger age, it'd be so much easier. And for me, I have two younger sisters. The 14-year-old one, she knows about my mental health. She follows me on Twitter and one of her friends watches my videos. So, she knows a lot about my mental health. The other one is six and she knows nothing about mental health and I wouldn't put it on her for the world. She's too young. I guess it's 12, 13, a good age to learn about mental health. Like, if you've got a sibling, you struggle to do mental health, it can be really hard to live with. So, I think in that case, that it should just be a regular conversation. Like, just check in, you know? I think that would really help a lot people. And my family didn't react great to my mental health and the BPD diagnosed us. I want to know your experiences though. Like, if you've had a similar experience, let me know in the comments down below. Well, how your family reacted to your mental health diagnosis, whether it was BPD or not, I want to know how your family responded. Because, you know, I don't have a conversation about it and maybe I can do a answering comment video on this. That'd be cool. But with that in mind, I'm going to end this video here. I will see you guys in my next video. Like, comment, subscribe. You know, these are all so close to 3.6K, which is absolutely amazing. We're literally three subscribers away. With that in mind, I'll see you guys soon with a new video. Peace.