 Okay, welcome back. And yes, we shall continue on with what we were looking at. We were looking at what makes a good husband and wife team. We did refer to the first initial three points. We're going to keep going ahead. We were looking at what makes a good husband and team. The fourth point that is what really talks about is how when each of us as individuals have our own strengths, we have probably our certain interests. But when we can share some of these interests and pursue some things that are common, whatever it may be, it could be to do with maybe an intellectual pursuit, some kind of project or activity that you would want to do together, or it can even be learning God's word together, ministering together, going together to some form of a place where you can minister. When you share these common interests, doing things common, even simple things like maybe playing a game together, working together, all of this builds in a greater position. Even when the team together, as you're working together, each person becomes a good player in the team rather than becoming these individual contributors. Because when you work together instead of independently, you will find that many things multiply and it can be in your work area, it can be in the spiritual area, it can be emotional, it can be intellectual, rather than doing things independently working together as a team. When you work together as a team player, you know that the communication gets better. Decision making gets better. Working together as a team opens you up to probably certain criticisms as well. But being willing to accept those criticisms without feeling as if the other person is out to harm or out to be a little you, but taking it as an encouragement or taking it as a sense of growth. So you would see that when you work together in a team, there is one person who sees something that isn't working well that's helping the team. When it's being called out and taken well and not with criticism, it is definitely helps the team at a larger place or there is a larger impact in it. So being willing to take on those criticisms is another way of how you show that you work together as a team. Also, not defending your own ideas, but being willing to sort those ideas out so that there can be a better understanding together. When you are together as a team player, what you're also committing to do is able to take on your share of the load or your part of the load is something that you are going to be willing to take up. So, you know, and that's actually quite, this is so essential. Even, you know, as you start in marriage to be able to establish this, you know, who carries what part of the load together, the more in frequently that this gets established, the greater the team works. For example, let's say a husband and wife, a man and woman coming together in marriage may have, you know, certain things that they agree to do, but they need to revisit this when they become parents. Because while being parents, there could be so many additional responsibilities that's there. So being a good team means visiting your roles, you revisiting what are responsibilities that you may need to take on. So taking on and carrying on your part of the load really helps in building the team. Also, being a good team player means that you're not concerned if you get the recognition or not. The recognition goes to the team, right? Maybe someone does something well, but it is because someone has allowed that kind of a support. Probably, you know, one member of the team, you know, is getting a promotion. And that is probably because the other person, the other spouse has been willing to, you know, maybe let go of certain of their priorities so that the other person can have something met at that season of life. So there needs to be a place where, you know, the credit or the recognition actually team and individual member. So being able to share in the strength of another and supporting each other through the weaknesses is again a way of how you find a good husband and wife team. Okay. I'm going to look at quite briefly of what are some attitudes for teamwork in marriage. We've seen from scripture that there are specifically two main attitudes when, which is essential while you are in the part of a team when you're looking at the context of marriage. Okay. And the two attitudes is having a servant heart and being mutually submissive to one another, having a servant heart and being mutually submissive to one another. So when we look at scripture, and I think I'll ask somebody to read, this is in page 103, Matthew chapter 20, 25 to 28. And Philippians two, three and four, would someone take turns to read those two verses, please? Matthew 20, 25 to 28, and Philippians two, three to four. Ma'am, shall I read Matthew? Go on, Rupa. Please go ahead. Matthew 20, 25 to 28. So Jesus got them together to settle things down. He said you have observed how Godless rulers throw their weight around or quickly a little power goes to their heads. It's not going to be that way with you. Whoever wants to be great must become a servant. Whoever wants to be first among you must be your slave. That is what the Son of man has done. He came to serve, not to be served. And then to give away his life in exchange for the many who are held hostage. Thank you. Thank you, Rupa. So if you see, I'll just take up some part of that verse and then maybe someone can follow it up with Philippines two, three and four. So if you see Jesus talks about how in order to become great, one needs to be a servant. In order to become first, you need to be a servant. So what we and you do see the example of Jesus of how Jesus showed us the example of washing the disciples feet. And he brings that up later and says, you know, this is a pattern that that is there that I have for you and follow that, you know, do what I have I have asked you to do. So even though I am leading, you know, I am showing you the way, yet I still continue being a servant. So what we would some read Philippines two, three and four. And then we will we will just get into a quick understanding of that. Philippine students, is it Philippine second chapter? Yes. Okay, okay. Fulfill you may my joy that you be like minded, having the same love, being of one accord of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vain glory, but in lowliness of mind, let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Okay, thank you. Thank you, Susan. All right. So what again, it talks up here is be humble towards one another, considering others better than yourselves. You're considering others better than you and you're looking out for the interests of the other person, which means you are placing yourself in a place of humility and looking at the interests of one another. So, you know, when we when we look at the role of the husband and wife, even as the husband is the head of the home, he is also called to be a servant. He's also called to be a servant. And this is also true. Both is also true of the wife as well. It's not that the husband leads like Christ, yes, but it is also where we where even the wives are called to be like a servant, to look into the interests of the husband. So both needing to have the servant heart and be able to serve more than looking to be served. Okay, so the example like we said, we saw in Matthew is following what the Lord said is to wash one another's feet, even though it may be something, so it's not just about physically, you know, washing your husband's or your wife's feet, but doing something that probably has not been easily taken on by you, something which cause sacrifice, something that requires some sense of a humility, maybe things that you've probably never done before in your paternal home, maybe you've never washed the toilet or the, you know, never done any form of a cleaning or anything that seemed unpleasant to do, but you having a servant heart willing to sacrifice, maybe a game or maybe a movie rather than that doing something showing and exhibiting a servant heart. So one of the most important attitudes is to have a servant heart like how Jesus bought his example. Okay, the second one is being mutually submissive to one another. If someone could read Ephesians 5 21, Ephesians chapter 5 verse 21, please. Is everybody awake? Yes ma'am. Yes, ma'am. Yes, Ammi, go ahead. Ephesians 5 21 says submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ. Amen. Okay, amen. So we've looked in the roles where we've seen that one of the how the Bible brings about the role of a wife as submitting to her husband. We see in Ephesians 5 21, it calls for a mutual submission. It says to be in submission to one another, why out of reverence for Christ, out of your love and out of your fear of the Lord. So what does this mean? This means that even if the husband is the head of the home probably making you know playing a the primary role in making decisions and doing things or being willing to discuss ideas take on ideas take on certain decisions that the wife has has bought about as as good and as going ahead with the plan is something that we look at mutual submission. So where you are willing to submit to one another to yield to one another why because the outcome is the best of the marriage not that as as the head of the home or as a helper of the home I'm not supposed to be you know allowing this but then we've been called to yield to one another to submit to one another because of reverence like we said you know we we saw that each of us in as God's children have different giftings have different things that God's given us maybe different strengths so something that the wife may be having a stronger strength in probably the husband does and vice versa but being willing to learn from each other to submit to to having in this case the husband submitting to take on maybe something the wife has said which seems like a good plan so the two heart attitudes servant be having a servant heart and being mutually submissive is is the key are these essential heart characters that we need to develop as we work together in being a team okay now we're going to be looking at what does it look like to become a kingdom team now a kingdom I think a kingdom team happens only when you've married somebody in the Lord okay so the goal in the kingdom team is to support encourage and empower each other to fulfill what God has ordained for you okay so the goal in the kingdom team is to support to encourage and empower each other by fulfilling what God has given for them okay and here the the husband and the wife become a team together only if they are able to see what are those purposes that they need to fulfill together through their lives maybe as individuals as well as together as a family so the purpose is only to extend the kingdom of God so whatever that takes for the two people to come together is what needs to be done because there is a specific purpose it's not a selfish interest it is not a man-made outcome it is not something that you your your individuality is increased it is for the purpose of the kingdom of God so we do see that when when we've you know earlier we did see in chapter one where God brought the man and the woman to become one it is for a purpose and we we see that it it just does not benefit one person but it benefits benefits the marriage but it benefits maybe a larger family it benefits you know a church it benefits maybe a certain community and that is what you are called so when God brings you together to be one he has also called you all to be one for a purpose and when we see the you know when we look at the Genesis commission it says to be fruitful to multiply to fill to conquer and to rule the earth that that's what the commission has been given and this has been given to both the man and the woman and both the husband and wife see this as a responsibility of taking on the rule and the reign of God in their lives and being able to extend it to to that which is outside we do see that becoming one for a purpose is also as a result from the standing that the husband and the wife are joint heirs in the kingdom as it's seen in first Peter 3 7 we're joint heirs in the kingdom so just because we are joint heirs you know when when you you know if you have a brother or a sister and there are there's an inheritance given to you everything that your parents have left to you belongs to the two of you so similarly when you when you know that you are joint heirs in the kingdom everything that the kingdom has or every privilege that the kingdom has has offered to you is is for both of you whether it's in the gifting or it is in the calling or it is in the anointing or if it is in the value we need to pursue God's purposes ensuring that we are supporting each other the husband and wife support each other to release and fulfill the purposes of God okay now even as we understand that we are one for a purpose we also need to discover our own individual callings and vocation so if you look in scripture there are places you know in Romans as well as in first Corinthians it talks of how God has set the members in the body because each of them have a function so similarly the husband and the wife also do have a place or an individual standing in the body of Christ depending on their strengths or depending on their anointing so let's say you know you have a couple who's working together maybe there is the husband who is who teaches who's able to teach and bring the word of God in truth to the to maybe a community whereas the wife probably is a maybe is a better administrator and able to work in administrative purposes so knowing what it is that God has individually called you for and also being able to encourage each other to discover that calling rather than having one person or the or either of you being fitting into the calling that they may not be designed to be right so learning to understand that God is given each one of us an individual calling but we can still work together even those those callings and that's that's what we talk about blending you blend your callings and your vocation together so that the purposes of God can be fulfilled so that your calling can be fulfilled not just as a couple but also individually so while you're doing that you're keeping in mind that that there is that you're respecting also maybe the the needs and the you know gifting and the calling that God has put on your spouse's life you are respecting that and allowing them to grow rather than it being a cause of contention or being a bone of contention between the two so discovering what those personal callings are and being willing to encourage and support each other through those through the through that specific calling that each of them may have okay and as so I think something that I'd like to bring bring here is you know we're working together as a team which I had made reference to earlier can in different seasons change so maybe you know when y'all are when when when a husband and wife is a young couple there may be many more person common pursuits or common goals that they can work together right but as they are in a different season maybe like a season of childbearing where there is you know children comes along the way so there there there may not be one person may not be able to take on maybe their personal calling for that specific season maybe let's say in this case a wife who is who's a new mother requires a lot more time to be with the children with the babies so that you know there can be some form of growth that happens in that life so understanding that every season each the husband and the wife supports each other and comes to a place of communicating what new roles they would have in in a current season so it is important to be able to encourage and support the other through these different seasons of life and as they may as you make these transitions being willing to help one another so I remember when you know when we were very young parents that we had you know young children my husband had just got into the worship ministry and our children are only three years apart and it used to get very difficult to you know to to manage both of them together especially when you're coming to church you have a little kid crying and then you have the next one who is you know just with you so there was a certain time that we had to you know reprioritize certain things so that we could work together as a team but then when things got a little better when the children became a little more manageable then you know there was we began to help each other and we began to share some some of those responsibilities or or even you know release some the other to do the calling or to do what god had called them to do and maybe one person probably had to take on a little bit more of extra work and you know extra stress but but that was understood that that was a way that you work together in a team okay even through these seasons ensuring that you know you do not impose any kind of not not imposing anything that you may be personally experiencing in your in your life on the other person so being willing to stand by with them in in the pace that they are going going through so that you know you can build and support them through their difficult challenges and difficult times okay and through these seasons always ensuring that you are there as their cheerleader to be able to help them in their growth and whatever god's doing in their lives okay quickly i'm just going to stop again for a few minutes to see if any of you have any questions the class has been awfully quiet today ma'am the class is very interesting it requires it requires yeah it requires us to pay a serious attention because when it comes to marriage it's it's something that nobody knows it all and then there's some mistakes you know you make and you just wonder how did i make that mistake so for me right now you know listening to what you're teaching us is just something that's amazing and the words of wisdom i hear the words of wisdom i hear is just something that you know that can help me really build a better home because you know i i believe that i believe that marriage represents the kingdom of god it's a reflection of god's kingdom and when we don't pay attention to it it becomes becomes a problem to the society and that's how i see it and when it comes to you know unity in the home when it comes to how you know the one i got mostly is the is the one the competition in marriage just competition in marriage you know it's something that i've experienced you know where it's more like you know you're competing you know with your spouse or with your partner and in those moments you know you're asking yourself what exactly are you competing for but by the grace of god you know it brought us to a point you know where we go to see that there is something god has deposited in each and every one of us that is unique you know to making that home you know be what it ought to be you know i use my gift and as a man and my wife you know uses her gift as a woman and when we come together you know to make that gift you know function in the home it becomes a tool you know for expanding the kingdom of god and that's why listening to you is just something that has just blessed me this morning and i want to say thank you and god bless thank you halison i'm so glad to hear that yeah praise god that he brings his word duly and timely to each of us okay thank you all right so if there aren't any questions i think i'll move forward okay so um yes someone's written a question uh it is really true about discovering and valuing the strengths of your partner especially in ministry for god no matter how insignificant sorry apologies i think my my connection went off for a bit okay i'm back all right okay uh as we move on i think there's some there is a warning that um uh we need to pay attention to especially for those of us who may be on the front line of a church or a christian ministry um you know very often we we do see that uh you know when there is one of the members of the family either the husband or the wife is um engaging in some kind of a ministry especially in the kind of ministry that that's maybe more um you know more in in public view when i mean by public view i'm saying things where they're up in the forefront either to teach or to preach or to or as a worship leader or a worship pastor um often the expectation is that the other spouse and the children should be in a certain way or do certain things you know and i've seen that a lot of times there is a lot of pressure in the way that um that maybe it's it's uh the members or a congregation or other people ask that you know why isn't the other spouse involved and i remember seeing this in my home church uh you know the church that i came from that um and you know i was in a traditional system but nevertheless the pastors would you know um they would come they would minister in rotation so there was a certain amount of time that they ministered like they were there for three years or five years together so every time that we used to have different new pastors you know rotating over different congregations so uh and a lot of the a lot of the men are the pastors but the women generally uh at least in the tradition church that i was in women were not pastors but they were they had to assume some form of ministry you know and usually it would the women's ministry is pushed to the to the wife uh of the pastor and i remember in our time there was one such couple where the where the wife of the pastor wasn't she was never led to do women's ministry she was led for children's ministry and the and the kind of um battle she went through because you there is an expectation that the wife of the pastor must fit into this kind of a box so i think that's that's a big warning sign for us to be true to what god has put in our heart so when god has called us for something he wants us to fulfill our role or you know our place in what he has called us to do shei i will reach to you in two seconds i'll just finish this point and i'll give you a chance to ask a question so um it is important that we do not do things for the sake of pleasing people around or for the sake of fitting into the expectations of others and um you know being either hypocritical there shouldn't be a hypocritical gap in knowing that you should be doing something but actually doing something else so we are not called to live uh according to people's expectations but we are called to be examples according to what god god's word says so so when you know that you love god and you would want to obey him and being led by the holy spirit your objective is to serve god wherever he has called you to do and not to do it because um you know the the larger congregation or people expect you to be in that so this is specifically true of ministers or those of us who are in ministry i remember this you know so i'm a i'm a counselor and i and i i largely um work among people and so once i was in this setting of pastors we were doing a workshop for the pastors on marriage and family and it was me and a colleague of mine who's also a woman so he came to us who's a pastor he came to us and he approached us and he said a family ministry is uh you know you cannot do a family ministry if you you can't teach in a family ministry if your husband is not here with you and you know i i sweetly uh he was an elderly pastor you know i sweetly said you know my husband has a different calling um but whenever there is need of a support he is there with me but you know we do not have to live a pretensed life but do and go according to what god this call this to do because he makes that beautiful you know and sometimes i've seen that just my husband and i when we go together to minister he's a worship leader but i i do a lot i'm more into encouraging into one-on-one counseling and as and as well as within the ministry of marriage and family uh you know god equips us at that time and couples come to us and you know or you know there are times that i lead worship alongside with him i mean not in church but you know in smaller settings and he ministers aside with me when we are with marriage and family so don't be under the pressure of living hypocritically or for public view do what god has called you to do yes i'm opening this out to shey and harrison both have opened uh have raised the hands shey we'll go with you first yes ma'am thank you ma'am i just want you to speak to this i find nowadays um and this is not to discredit those couples who have decided to to preach i mean to to serve you know as pastors or shepherds over a flock but i find out these days is that the wives are kind of always compelled just because the husband is a pastor then they try to kind of decorate the wives you know to occupy an office just because by proxy she's married to the pastor and i'm just wondering um i believe at the end of the day if a wife is going to take the office of a pastor is that she also has a genuine call you know to be a pastor but it's like there's this pressure that you know once you're married to a pastor you have to become a pastor so i would just like you to just speak on that i from me i believe that the wife also too should have a genuine call that oh yes you know i would like to be a pastor but if she doesn't she can always just support in any capacity she can support her husband but not saying oh i'm going to take the office of a pastor you know and then so i just like you to speak on that really because some people make that mistake and they end up putting their wives under pressure you know getting them into trouble that would have just been avoided if there was an understanding you know absolutely shei i think you you just resounded the point that i just made that uh to be able to engage in ministry alongside with your spouse all because they have taken on a specific calling uh do not be pressured into that unless and until like you said god has called you in for for that and um so we we know uh we don't want to live for in order to fit into a social expectation but to be in a place where god has called because we will be effective only if we follow the calling of god in the gifting that he has given us so yes you you just um echoed what we were talking about a few minutes ago so shei you are right that we free um in this case pastors wives to take on the calling that um god wants them to do like you know i've seen very many times that uh pastors wives have been called to preach um you know just because their husbands have preached and uh it is a great task for them and of course they don't seem to be called for that so freeing them of that i think is our responsibility you know not ensuring that our attitudes towards pastoral teams or pastoral ministry is that whatever god has called them for that's what where they will flourish and that's where the anointing will be so as maybe people of the congregation i think it's our responsibility also to change our mindsets yes uh harrison thank you for thank you shei yes harrison thank you um and um thank you shei for that um question you know because it's still something that bothers me sometimes and also um looking at the continent in that i come from it is becoming impossible for you to talk to a pastor or ministers when they are doing something that it's not in line you know with the word of god and i want you to speak on this uh issue that i want to raise up now there are things in our have observed in my local church and not just in the one that i'm in now but some other churches that have gone to where you know the pastor seems to have a very close relationship you know with the women than the men that you know it's just like you know when shei mentioned you know where if a if a woman is married to a pastor she is compelled to like you know want to take up a responsibility you know to meet up you know to those expectations of a pastor but one thing i believe too is that as as a pastor's wife at least there should be there should be a close relationship you know with the pastor's wife and the women and more of the ladies too in the church so it's more like you know i see a pastor that is not having any relationship you know with the men but rather having relationship you know with the women and occupying you know responsibilities given responsibilities you know to the women more than the men and i've seen situations you know where it it becomes a point you know where a pastor can exalt a man's wife in front of his husband or in front of her husband and you know that you know break you know that sparks up a feeling you know to like what is going on here and at some point you know it bothers me a lot and when i when i spoke about competition competition you know comes mostly when we do ministry we are okay the husband you know is capable of doing this and the wife is capable of doing this and it's more like okay everybody's trying to see that okay i'm the best you know in this i'm the best in that and at the end of the day you miss the real reason you know why god has called you and it's very important you know for us to know who we are as christians and know our giftings so that you know we don't you know go to our floor you know maybe when the wind you know blows to the side you know we swing to that side or it blows to that side and we swing to that side we only need to know because you know why i'm saying this is that i'm not just saying this based on it based on what i've seen i've also experienced it where you become so furious you know with um the kind of activities you know you see and it wants to make you competent you know on what you know best or what you know how to do and it took me a while you know for me to come into the revelation you know to know that okay i'm not in this world you know to compete with anybody but rather to stick to the purpose or to stick to what god you know has called me to do so i want to like you know see how you throw more light you know to to ministries you know where it looks as if you know everything is one sided where a pastor will be exerting and man's wife in front of the men and making the man you know looks as if you know they're incompetent so i just want to i want to hear more on this thank you thank you harrison for your question okay um you know so these are yes practical challenges that we see among uh among churches and in ministry um so i'm going to try and put as much understanding as i can into this answer but i also think that even as we move into through this course we have a chapter that talks about boundaries and that chapter will definitely throw a lot more light on on this although it talks about boundaries between a husband and wife we still can take many principles of that in a ministering husband and wife um so one of the things that i think is very important for especially those of us who are in ministry is to have accountability um and where there is no accountability everything seems probably to be free flowing that and when it comes from one head or one leader there isn't anyone to really question motives question intentions question actions so a ministry where it is just a one leader setting often can face struggles similar to this so i think my first answer would be there needs to be accountability of the leaders to either other pastors other elders to help in engaging supervising different activities and actions of the church okay the second point that i want to bring about is um as a rule and i want to bring about something we're saying you know as as part of what we follow at apc is as a rule apart from a counselor a professional counselor meeting with an individual like for example a female counselor meeting with a male member apart from a counseling relationship every kind of pastoral work is done in the presence of the other spouse as well so if it is a pastor meeting with a woman it is done in the presence of the husband as well unders like i said it is for counseling that goes to specifically counselors so that is another practice that is that's put in place that that there is a code or an or a statement of understanding that pastors would not engage or counsel members of you know of the opposite sex without the presence of their own spouse or you know sharing of information there may be times like you know someone called someone you know let's say a member a woman would probably walk into the office to meet with a pastor yes but it is in full view of the rest of the members of the church and there is you know permission taken from the woman to involve the husband in cases of that so there are some of those boundaries that need to be put in place because that builds up with accountability and once you know that is spoken that is addressed to a team of ministers you know following that is something that we ensure it being done so this is the way that i can address these two but i think i will like to throw a lot more light as we go into the chapter of boundaries because it does talk of practical measures of how even pastors or those in ministry or even even just being a common minister you know each of us our believers and ministers even being just a common believer needs to hold fast to so we will be doing that in length at the at the chapter on boundaries i hope that i know that doesn't completely answer your question but i hope to do that as we move into our next into into that chapter all right okay quickly just to wrap up there are certain things that even as we are looking at working as a as a couple for kingdom purposes the the first and foremost thing that i think often ministers sometimes overlook is that there are specific priorities that come before their ministry so if you are to look at a priority or a hierarchy the home and the family comes before the ministry and i think one of the biggest challenges that ministers do face is learning how to balance all of this the home the marriage the home the family and managing ministry and let's say if they are people who are volunteering they have an extra additional thing like work also so balancing home balancing work and as well as balancing ministry so it is important to understand that there is a certain priority that god has set okay and in in any form of work that a minister that a couple does is is first and foremost is their relationship with god secondly it is their relationship at home with their spouses and their children thirdly is their you know the ministry that that has been given to them and often a lot of people mix up these priorities and tend to serve or be so compelled in being within ministry that things that their relationship with god and their relationship with their co-family is forgotten so balancing these priorities within your calling is crucial and knowing what these priorities also are okay we are just going to quickly end as to two most powerful areas where a husband and wife team works the first one is in prayer as we saw in matthew 18 19 to 20 then when two agree about anything to pray it will be done by the father in heaven so one of the most powerful things that a husband and wife can do together as a team is come together to build the family altar is coming together in prayer setting a time for prayer and for worship and for learning the word and this becomes the the the blood line sorry not the the the blood you know the actual way the veins through which a family functions and grows so prayer is one of the most effective things that a husband and wife can do together and I know that becomes a huge challenge for very many christian homes coming together in prayer especially conflicting homes where they find hard it hard to come together to just worship god because a lot of times their differences are you know about the word or about doctrines I know multiple number of families who struggle because both the husband and the wife have different understanding of what the word talks about and as a result prayer gets affected or certain notions and perceptions of prayer often keeps families away from engaging in that but as god's word says it is only prayer that brings people together that brings god's reign and rule and answer to us so prayer is one thing that the family does that the husband and wife does together as a team and the second thing is bringing up children because you're not just bringing up individuals you're building a legacy you're building generation after generations so unless it is done together done in common done with with with with instructions from the word of god from standards of the word of god it becomes a challenge bringing up children in this age and time in in this season and in this life that we are in here to know to know that it is a commission that god has given us right be fruitful be be fruitful and multiply right we keep that in mind as we nurture and train the children because we are building disciples within our homes first and foremost if as parents as husband and wives as father and mother if we are not taking on our core responsibility of building disciples establishing disciples in our home our work outside becomes null and void and what does that mean becoming making disciples of children is to help them follow the way of the lord to build them to bring them up in the discipline of the lord to bring them up with with with the knowledge of god to bring them up and build their emotional maturity to stand as support and encouragement and help on them help to them so these two things prayer and in nurturing and bringing up children now both these two we will be speaking in much detail in the in the sections to come but this chapter completely just highlights that as a team these two things are very powerful because one as we pray together you know we change nations and when we bring up children as disciples we're building a future generation of gods kingdom they are gods kingdom right within our homes all right okay so today we covered quite a bit and I know this is quite intense and maybe repetitive too but nevertheless it still has the truth of god's word that unity has blessing and life in it all right okay i'm sorry i think we've gone five minutes extra would somebody please close with a word of prayer is manji there can i request you to pray okay okay let's pray Heavenly Father we we are grateful Lord we are grateful for your grace and your love and your kindness Jesus that you you keep on sharing us you keep on guiding us you keep on with your tender hands and your you even though you are mighty Lord you you still soften us you still lower yourself to the level that we can understand you we can see you in the way that we our mind can grasp and we thank you Jesus for this institution of marriage you've given us you you've made us know you understand you and know how how to to walk with you through the marriage you've given us and we pray Jesus as we we learn more about marriage let not be about our physical marriage but let also be about our marriage with you our interaction with you how we respond to you and how we walk in your in your ways we thank you Jesus for your love and your kindness do with that Lord until we meet again in your much name Father we pray in Jesus name amen amen thank you brother thank you so much thank you everyone reminder for all those who haven't completed your assessments please do it by end of day right thank you very much God bless and we'll meet you next week thank you thank you thank you thank you