 A little trick that I used to do with my children when they were younger was to ask them for some money. I didn't need their money. I had money, but I would ask them for their money just to see if they would give it to me. One, to see if they love me enough to share their money. But then two, to see if they understand why I'm asking this. After a while, my children realized that I was just testing them and then realizing that this is just a test. Once they pass the test, then I will bless them even more so. Is it possible that God is doing the same thing? James says, Count all joy when you fall into these various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. Maybe when you're going through something you should look at it as though you are being tested and then on the other side of this test, there is a reward. Be not weary and well-doing for in due season you will reap a reward.