 Flying there, very small plane. You don't see too many of those around you. So the narcissist finally decided to get rid of you. After everything you've been through, after everything you did for them, and then they move on. And what happens, same as what always happens, it gets worse. They get worse. They end up doing things that you never expected them to do. But you really shouldn't be surprised by that. You shouldn't be shocked because you have to remember that you were dealing with a narcissist, someone who has a mental disorder. And this disorder is really based upon this functionality. Things not working out. Things not being normal, where they cannot sustain anything for a long time. Just as they couldn't sustain the relationship with you. They got rid of you in the end. That's going to be the same thing with anything in their lives. Either it fails or they abandon it. But you may look at them after they've gotten rid of you, after they've moved on. You may think that they look happy and that I can understand that. It may look that way in the beginning, but you need to look at it long term. You need to see the bigger picture because just remember how emotionally unstable they were while they were with you. Their mood would change rapidly. It's like one minute they were happy with you and then the next minute they hated you. And that is how you should know that whatever is going on with them, it may look fine, but things could change at any moment. It may look like they're doing well right now, but why are they doing well? What has changed for them? They've moved on to a new person. This new person is building them up. This new person is taking care of them because this new person is interested in doing that, even though they're being fooled, they're being taken advantage of, they're being mistreated because as we know, enablers tend to overlook things. They're not paying much attention to that and the reason why is because maybe they have something to prove as well. They want to show everyone that they can be normal, they can have a healthy, successful relationship, so they will bite their tongue, they will take care of the narcissist. And of course, when someone is taking care of them, they're not going to leave. They're going to stay there at least in the beginning while things are good. Of course, they have to do that because if they were on their own, they already know they're going to fail. They're not going to survive on their own. That's just the nature of their disorder. It's only meant for short term. It's only meant to acquire the supply, not to keep it so they cannot be consistently happy or positive. They cannot consistently experience harmony. They cannot consistently be efficient and effective in anything. And that is why they will never have anything that lasts for a long period of time. And that really comes back to how they got rid of you. They couldn't sustain it. You may have found that they self-sabotaged. They blew everything up on their own because they just can't sustain anything. The disorder doesn't allow them to do that. But then even when they leave and they go off on their own, they still self-sabotage. And the reason for that is because they don't want to be independent. They want to be a child. And they want you to be their caretaker so that they can remain youthful forever so that they can always have a reason and excuse for not being responsible, for not responding to the best of their ability so that they can always be in need of something. And then there will always be someone there to feel sorry for them, to take care of them because without that, they would have to learn to be efficient and effective on their own. And they don't want to be on their own. They don't want to be alone. So of course, if there's one thing that they will work hard at, it's finding someone who is willing to take care of them. And that's how you should know that if you see them doing better after they've moved on, after they've gotten rid of you, it's because they've managed to find someone who is allowing them to live comfortably. So they could be with someone who lets them work, lets them make money and keep all of that money that they're making to themselves. They don't have to pay rent. They don't have to pay the bills. They don't have to pay for a car, for fuel. They don't have to do any of that. They don't have to take on responsibilities like a normal, responsible adult would do. They still get to be a child, which is what they want. That's all they want. The only reason they got rid of you is because they couldn't be a child while they were with you. So they move on with this new person because they believe that they can gain an advantage by being with them. And of course, by them gaining an advantage, that means that person is getting the short end of the stick. So of course, the narcissist is gonna remain in that situation. Why would they leave if they're getting treated like a baby? They're having everything done for them. They have no responsibilities. They don't have to worry about anything. Of course, they're gonna stick in that for as long as they can. And it may look like they're doing better now because of course, while they were with you, they had to be responsible. You were questioning them and confronting them on everything. They had to be accountable. You expected them to pay their way, but then they got rid of you and now this new person is taking care of everything. They don't have to be accountable for anything. What you need to understand is that all they really care about is having more, getting more for themselves. All they really care about is taking care of themselves. Whether it's at your expense or someone else's, they don't care or they care about is doing what they want for themselves. And if they're in a situation where they're able to do that, why would they leave? There's no incentive for them to leave. What would they gain by doing that? But trust and believe, if you put them in a real-life situation, they will quickly fall apart. They wouldn't be able to deal with that. They can't deal with stressful situations. If you put them in something like that, they will quickly run away from it. But yeah, it may look like they have an easy life. It may look like things are going well for them. You might go in their social media and see all of these pictures with this new person. Looks like they're so much happier now going out to restaurants, driving in their car, it's nothing of real meaning or substance. They're just putting on a show and they have to do that for this new person who they are trying to please, but they never change. They never adapt, they never adjust. They will always repeat the same mistakes again and again. So you should already know how they're gonna end up. You've seen this movie before. You should already know how it ends. It may look like they're doing well, but that's just because they have an enabler, there's someone taking care of them. They have not changed. They are still doing the same things that they were doing with you. You can count on that. The only difference is they've found someone who is more of a fool than you were, someone who is willing to be their doormat, someone who is willing to put up with a lot more than what you were willing to put up with because this new person has their own problems. They have their own issues. Maybe they don't wanna be alone. Maybe they don't have any other option other than to be with a narcissist. And of course, once the narcissist is aware of that, they're gonna take full advantage of it. They will go crazy in that. They will be careless and reckless. They play on your fears and insecurities. They push your buttons to make you obey their rules, to make you do what they want because you're afraid of losing them again. It's all an orchestration. Whatever you think you're seeing from the outside, it's not real. It's not really going down like that. It's not what you think it is, which is why when you see these things from the outside, you need to know that whoever they are with does not know what they're getting themselves into. If they did, they would be out of there quicker than a heartbeat. Whoever they're with does not know that eventually they will be regretting that situation. They will be wishing that they never put themselves in that because as we know, nothing good comes out of being with them. You lose a whole lot. There is no such thing as a good thing with a narcissist. But of course, they're not just gonna give up. They will try to do better, to be better because they wanna prove you wrong. Maybe before they got rid of you, you told them, I'm the best you'll ever get. You're never gonna find someone as good as me. So now they have to go and prove you wrong. They have to find someone and be everything that person needs. They have to be good to them because then it will make them feel better about themselves. It will make them feel like they're valuable because you may not know it, but you heard them. You bruised their little ego and they don't want you to know that. They don't want you to see it. They don't want you to know that you have affected them. So now they are gonna desperately go out of their way to attract someone else, to pull someone else into their mess. They will throw themselves on them and make it very obvious that they wanna be with them. And while doing that, they will try to avoid making the mistakes that they made with you. But even when they do that, even that falls apart. Even that doesn't work out. And the reason why is because they have so many issues. There's so many things wrong with them, so many things that they just don't wanna fix. So when all is said and done, they just go and screw everything up on their own. They just go and destroy everything. They act recklessly and carelessly. They do things that you never thought they would do. And the reason for that is because they wanna show their bold defiance and disobedience to you. To show you that you don't have power over them, you can't control what they do. They can do whatever they like. To show you that they don't care what you think. But it's actually kind of funny. Because when they're doing that, they're actually doing the opposite. They're showing you that they do care what you think. They're showing you that you do have power over them. They're showing you that you are in control of what they do, of what they decide, of what they choose. Because they're only doing that because they're reacting to something you've said or done. They're doing that because they don't wanna be accountable. They don't wanna be expected to justify their actions, their decisions, their choices. They don't wanna be responsible. They don't wanna explain anything to you. They don't wanna give you closure. They don't wanna make anything on the studs because they wanna remain a child. A child who doesn't have to answer for anything they do. Why would they be accountable? What would they get out of doing that? They see it as though they're just giving you something. They're giving you the power. They're giving you the advantage over them. And then they would have to act right. They would have to act normal. They would have to be respectful of you. But that's not what they want. They wanna benefit from people. They wanna gain an advantage. They wanna get something out of you. So they need people to help them. They need people to lift them up no matter how much they screw things up. So they don't need you. They can just get rid of you. Their enabler will still be there to support them. Doesn't look good though. Doesn't look good at all because they're just taking advantage of people. They're taking advantage of opportunities without planning anything. They're doing it impulsively and recklessly without thinking about how it affects other people because they only care about themselves. They just see a chance and opportunity to gain some advantage. But this new person they're with, this enabler cannot see the forest for the trees. They are unaware of what the narcissist is doing. They don't see things how you see things. They don't see the narcissist how you see the narcissist. Now that's why you're seeing when they move on. You see all of this crazy stuff. The narcissist is recklessly going out doing whatever they want, whatever they want with whoever they want. And you're wondering how is this possible if there was someone new? How can they put up with that? Well, the narcissist doesn't even have to work so hard to hide a lot of this stuff because the new person doesn't even care. Or they overlook it. They're willing to put up with it. They don't even notice. Or they don't see anything wrong with it. When if they had done that with you, you would have been all over them. You would have come down on them. You would have told them that it is wrong because you genuinely cared. You wanted them to be better. You wanted them to do better. But now they're with someone who clearly doesn't give a shit. Let's them do whatever they want. It doesn't even bother this new person. But it would bother someone normal. But this is how you should know. When you see this stuff, they haven't found the solutions to their problems. They haven't found the answer. As I've said before, you have already seen the movie. You already know what happens. You already know how it's going to end. And that's all that really needs to be said. You've already seen it. You've already know. And that just sums it all up. That's really it. And all you really need to do is just let them move on. Let them do what they want because you already know how it's gonna go. You don't need to get involved. You don't need to take revenge. You just let play things out. If you give them enough rope, they will hang themselves. Let them continue with this course. These actions, these behaviors that they choose because that lifestyle comes with certain consequences. It comes back to bite them. So you just let it do what it's gotta do. Don't interfere. Don't intervene. It has to happen. And when these things happen to us, we are supposed to examine it, learn from it, so that we can become a better person, so that we can live better. But that doesn't happen for them because of the disorder. Because they're only thinking about what they want. They're only thinking about themselves. That is why they will repeat the same mistakes again and again. The only thing you can do is leave. As I've said before, they're only good for short-term relationships. You're pushing so hard for something long-term for marriage for children. You're never gonna get that from them. The only thing they're good for is short-term fun. You might go on a night out with them for a couple of hours. Have some drinks, dance. But that's about it. They're only good for a weekend. They're not good for long-term. And the entire time that you were with them, they were trying to tell you this. They showed you so many signs, but you overlooked it. You didn't wanna believe it. You had so much belief in them that they could be something more when that's all they really are. The irony is that the very thing they use you for, this recreation, this enjoyment, amusement, that's actually what they're for. They're the ones who should be treated like objects, like ATMs, because that is all they're good for. When they did that to you, they were mistreating you. That was abuse. Because you're meant for more than that. Doesn't work that way with them, though. And they know it. They know they're not meant for anything more. You just gotta look at it like this. If they knew they were meant for something bigger and better, if they knew they were meant for something long-term, marriage, children, a future, you really think they would have just walked out on you? They wouldn't have done that. They would have stuck in. They would have worked on things. They would have tried to make things better. They wouldn't just leave. So you thought they were leaving because of something with you. But the reason why they left is because they knew there's something wrong with them. They knew that they could not stay with you long-term because of their issues. And you were starting to catch on. You were starting to figure them out. You were looking at it like, hold on a minute, we've been together for how many months, how many years? Why aren't things moving forward? Why does it still feel like the first day with you? Shouldn't things be progressing, advancing? Why isn't that happening? Now that's when they had to turn around and point the finger at you and say that you caused all of these problems but it had nothing to do with you anyway. But they had to write that story, that narrative, to paint you in a bad light, to take the heat off of them because really it is them, it always was them. And it will always be them. It's never gonna change. They will always be the cause of their own failures and they're destined to play this out again and again. But they're never gonna get it, they're never gonna understand, they're always gonna blame someone else. Like I said, it's that accountability. If they would just take accountability and realize their mistakes, then things could finally change. But that's never gonna happen because of course they are maladaptive. They don't self-reflect for long periods of time enough to where they would finally get it. So yeah, this is their fate. You've already watched the movie, you know how it ends. Thank you for watching. I hope this video was helpful. If it was 61 live viewers, please give this video a thumbs up down below. Share the video, leave your thoughts in the comment section. Subscribe. For coaching you can go to my website, it's narksfiver.co.uk. Check out my Instagram, I have new pictures and videos every day on there. It is Narks Fiver YouTube on Instagram. And I do have a new business opportunity available where you can earn $2,000 or more from the comfort of your home by editing and sharing Narks Fiver content on YouTube and TikTok. For more information on that, please send me an email. It's coaching at narksviver.co.uk. 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