 Hi, she was seven. I'm back. Okay. So today I'm coming at you with a video So I've noticed that a lot of ladies Are asking tips on how to do this this this isn't that you know a lot of you guys And a lot of you guys are asking me. How do you do this? How do you meet guys? How do you do this? I'm married. I don't be guys, you know, so but I've been there and done that and there's lots of ladies That follow me. I'm sorry. I hurt my daughter and they know all The ways I know all the ways but I've been there and done that So there are lots of ways but the main focus is Basically fake it till you make it Dress for the job you want Go to the places where you want to be, you know, you like always say go out of your area That's the best way Explore out of your area if you don't feel ready to explore out of your area get ready You know, you can't just wake up one morning and say, hey, I'm gonna go in that side town Feel comfortable and pick up some Richard you got it. You got to build up to that if you're not Ready, you know what I'm saying so Hair makeup, clothing, speech, how you carry yourself, you know, things like that Make sure that's all in order before you go and do what you need to do A lot of guys are in the comments sometimes and they laugh Because and they're not laughing per se at you individually They're just laughing at how some of these ladies are looking in their profile pictures and they're saying Oh, I want to get this type of man and the man are actually judging you on your look on your looks Like you ain't gonna get no man. Look at you in your profile picture, you know and they will tell that to the women in my comments, but Some of the times you have to actually go and check out these ladies profiles and look and you know if that's what you represent yourself as online and these men are attacking your looks and you're Wanting to upgrade your lifestyle, you know, that might be a Troll that might be someone who is mean But you also have to kind of listen to what they said, you know Sometimes you got to upgrade to upgrade you got to upgrade yourself to upgrade your lifestyle So if you're looking busted and stuff like that, then you really need to Focus on yourself for a while get that in order and then try to move on to the next level. Okay? I'm just saying that because It is what it is and someone posted this Video in a group with this transgender woman flawless, okay and Makeup done hair done, you know nails just beautiful woman beautiful trans woman and I'm like If a man can turn himself into a beautiful woman You have no excuse and I have said that so many times and y'all some of y'all still running around here looking Crazy, okay, and I'm not saying I'm not saying that natural beauty is a beautiful I'm just saying you have a lot of competition, okay And you have a lot of competition now. You even have to compete with men, you know and so You have to do something to put yourself on a higher level You know image-wise if you want to upgrade your lifestyle so Even you know, some people can focus only on their body and some people will focus up here some people will focus on both Whatever you need to focus on focus on that and work on it until you get to Comfortable to a comfortable place or you're okay to go out with confidence. You know what I'm saying because there are some A lot of people don't see what other people see when they look at them You know, I know a lot of people are saying things about me And I see those flaws in myself daily doesn't mean I'm not working on it. You know, so And I don't even see them as flaws, you know, sometimes I do sometimes I don't it just all depends on how I feel that day, you know But There are there are so many products out there in the store To help you, you know, there's makeup, you know Like this is I have to buy this stuff all the time like this is a monthly thing for me makeup, you know I run out quick. I gotta buy some more. I run out. I gotta buy some more. It's not cheap to look good. You know what I'm saying Men have no idea how expensive products are. Okay the lipstick that I have on Okay, if y'all watch my beauty channel, y'all got that this is this is a 20 dollar lipstick 20 right here Okay lipstick 20 Um, there's some stuff you can buy cheap some you can buy expensive You know face powder, I need to look at the price on this I just picked it up because I know I need to see how much this stuff costs 56 dollars Oh wait, hold on 32 32 dollars This is 56.56 ounces. Okay So this is 32 dollars for powder. Okay Then we have look this Foundation contour how much is it? 42 dollars. Okay. This is monthly like you know I went and went cheap because I was at target on the mascara But I still have expensive mascara that I'm not out of I just have two sets one for upstairs over down there So it's it costs money to look decent So instead of paying, you know instead of splurging on other things Splurge on things to make you look good. You don't have to buy expensive products You can buy cheap products and just put extra of it on You know, it's it's it's the cost that much you can watch youtube videos on how do your makeup How do your hair? I know I'm looking crazy right now like a mom, but That's what I was doing bombing today, but You got to put effort into yourself before people will put effort and attention Towards you. Okay You can't just wake up So one of my favorite people in the group Bobby Says you can't just wake up and shake your wig Shake your wig out and put it on Um And just look I'm ready. You know, you can't do all that you you got to take time for yourself You got if you don't put effort into yourself. No one else is okay If if you look like you're well put together Well-grown You know that you care about yourself you put a lot of effort into how you dress You know your clothing your shoes your hair your makeup people are going to treat you accordingly But if you look like you just rolled out the bed They're going to treat you just like that. Okay, and I made a video similar to that before But it's very important how you present yourself and how you treat yourself people can tell if you love yourself or not They can tell you know, and they'll they'll treat you like you treat yourself if you don't love yourself They're not going to give you the time of day Unless it's to get over on you or use you up. Okay You ever wonder why a lot of these guys marry certain women and then cheat on them with other women? It's because at the end of the day They know that that woman will let them cheat on them because they don't love themselves and they don't look Good, they don't take care of themselves. So they're lucky to be with this sort of man And meanwhile, he'll tell her. Oh, you look good natural. You look good with nothing on you. You're good But every time someone walks by that looks a little bit better or it's a little bit well, you know Well-dressed makeup hair. They're all googly-eyed and the tongue sticking out. Why because that's what they're really attracted to Okay, so you can't go for what somebody says you got to go for what they look at and what you realize That they're attracted to okay, so I know plenty of guys who married the plain, you know Only looking woman and cheats on her with everything else Okay, because a She allows him to cheat because she can't she feels like she can't do any better B He looks better than her and see she don't love herself So I hope none of you ladies are that kind of woman And if you are and you're you know, and you've left that situation It's time for a makeover inside and out, you know You gotta make sure You look and feel your best every time you walk out of the house I don't care if it's just to run to the store Or to the mailbox Invest in yourself Okay, I don't have any regular flip-flops. All my flip-flops are nice They're sandals, you know Good brands, you know My other Latest style, you know, you gotta keep yourself up even if you have to go thrift shopping or use coupons or whatever you gotta do um Keep yourself up, you know, a lot of the ladies in my group have noticed How much more in lives, you know, their lives have improved because they stopped walking at the house looking raggedy You know, they meet people People will pay attention to them that wouldn't have paid attention to them, you know on a normal basis So remember that, you know, I see too many women out here looking crazy. I saw this lady and then I don't even know what store it was My daughter pointed her out In some emoji pajamas This lady who was about 40 something years old In some emoji pajamas My daughter was like What is that? Like I don't know But you know, you can't do that stuff. You're not in college. You're not a child That leaving the house with pajamas on, you know, stop leaving the house looking raggedy and stained cloth You're too old for that. Okay. No man is going to respect that I don't care if it's just to run to the store. You got a clean shirt, you know I'm tired of seeing a lot of people in my area. They can't do that. They don't do that You know Everybody goes to the grocery store nicely dressed nice clothes, you know, not sweats either nice stuff Because they're like the nice area. That's what you see. You go to the bad area. You don't see all kind of crazy stuff Dressed for the job you want even if you live in a bad area, don't go to your grocery store ghetto You know, go there dress nice dress dress nicely In fact, go to a different grocery store outside of your area That way you get a feel for it, you know How where you want to be how nice this store is how nice the shopping is look at all the people who Took care of themselves to come to the store, you know, get into that frequency get into that vibration Of wanting better and doing better And that's all you're going to be able to stand in the future You know, you're not going to allow yourself to talk to guys who don't have it together You're not going to allow yourself to go out on a date with someone who wants you to pay You're not going to allow yourself that because you've tasted and you've seen what you deserve And once you've done that You're never going to go back. You're not going to turn back. No one ever has No one has ever had the good life and turn back and say, oh, I want this bad life unless they were stupid Okay, and then they always regret it. Anyway Don't Sit there and let your life pass you by life is short. But life is very short. Okay A lot of these ladies that I've talked to They're some of them are older than me or at least around my age and they sound like they're 21 by the way that they think okay, and It's because they don't know any better. No one ever taught them any better And I feel like my videos will help them, but they also have to help themselves, you know I feel like you got to put in the work I didn't wake up. I don't look like this for real like You know, I have a I have a lot of makeup I'm I'll tell you I have a lot of makeup. This is not how to look naturally um But this is how I want to look so I make myself look this way and it's not like I'm the most beautiful woman in the world But If I treat myself that way this old man, you know, you might not be the most beautiful thing in the world But if you treat yourself that way other people will treat you that way as well So it's all about how you treat yourself And what you want a lot of women don't know what they want. Ask yourself. What do I want? And go from there, you know, I don't want to work I don't want someone to fully take care of me. I want to be happy. I want to look good feel good and Live life to the fullest And I can't do that You know doing certain things dating certain people living in a certain area and working myself You know to death. I can't you can't do it. You can't do that with doing all those things So you have to figure out how to get out of it You know a lot of women figured out a lot of women don't because they go by what society says you're supposed to do Oh, you're supposed to only marry for love People do not marry for love until the last what? 60 years everybody married for status wealth To combine families or to combine wealth. It was not About love up until recently. Okay It just it wasn't I don't know where that like Dating and being in a relationship and having a fling and being in love with your teenage lover or your young lover And then you know when you marry You marry for lifestyle and comfort if those two Happen to be the same love and comfort and lifestyle great if not Make the make the smart decision. Okay, because you can't eat love. You can't live off of love And love don't pay the bills. Okay, so if you have to make a choice Make the right choice Don't settle for struggle love Um unless You like struggle No one likes struggle. Okay. Nobody It doesn't make you a good person. It doesn't make you a stronger person. It just makes you a struggling person That's all it makes you it makes you prematurely age. It makes you have too much stress It wears your body down You get sick faster. Okay, so struggling is not cute. I know all a lot of women who will brag all well I did this by myself. I was like, okay. Well, that's something to brag about because I did I didn't do none of this Somebody else did it for me That sounds better to me than somebody saying I did this all by myself, you know, okay Well, you paid all these bills by yourself. You worked you did this and that but I have more than you have and I didn't do anything So which one is the fool? You know Um, and I'm not saying it's foolish because you have to struggle. I'm saying it's foolish if you choose to struggle you know Just because you feel like It makes you a better stronger person. That's that's a man's job. He's supposed to be the strong one You're supposed to reap what the benefits of his labor You know, you're not supposed to go out and do his job If you go out and do his job Then you don't need him and he don't need you You're not his muse. You're not his inspiration to go get out and work You know, so remember that a lot of independent women end up alone because The man feels useless around them And the woman usually Emasculates that man You know, I make make a lot of money, but my husband will never know how much money I make I'm he's gonna pay for everything I'm gonna need him to do everything and That's just gonna be it because I'm not designed Or created to work Like a man That's just it. I'm not and I never will try to And I never want to and I and I teach my kids You know You can't date anyone or you shouldn't date anyone. That's not equal or above you I said, I wouldn't even do equal, you know, I would do but So Just just a little bit just a little bit of advice. I'm not gonna go on forever But um, I'm probably gonna do more live videos y'all seem to like those a lot better And I'm gonna keep this one short and I'll see y'all on the next one thumbs up comment Let me know what you think and I'll see y'all later