 viewers brothers and sisters in Islam as-salamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh welcome to the first episode of the mother of loyalty with me your host Ahmad Ali now Umul Bani occupies a very essential role within the religion of Islam for her being as one of the greatest ladies in Islamic history so great that her life has to be examined thoroughly and in depth due to the numerous lessons which can be extracted from blessed life the life of this highly regarded lady has been understudied undervalued and has not been given the recognition it deserves within Islamic literature when it comes to the embodiment of loyalty of sincerity of patience and of modesty Umul Bani deserves to be ranked as one of the highest ladies and among the highest ladies in Islamic history Fatima Al-Kilabiya aka Umul Bani was born in a fourth year after Hijrah and died in the 64th year after Hijrah on the 13th of Jama'at Al-Akhir so roughly it's safe to say that she lived approximately 60 years now this great lady is buried in the land of Medina in a cemetery called Jannah al-Baqia now honestly when we hear of the enormous sacrifices that this individual gave for the religion of Islam one would expect that Muslims would flock towards her holy shrines in millions now speaking of holy shrine where is the holy shrine of Umul Bani she has no holy shrine for the people who are fortunate enough or lucky enough to go and visit Jannah al-Baqia in Medina when you walk into Jannah al-Baqia just on your left hand you'll see the graves of the Imams of Ahl al-Bait alongside Umul Bani alaihi s-salam Peter and blessings be upon her so we find that a huge disservice has been done to Umul Bani for this reason there is a crucial need for us to study her life especially on an occasion like this which marks the demise anniversary of this great individual tonight i want to focus on several points number one how is Umul Bani a descendant of the courageous number two her life before getting married and after getting married the importance of a noble family three important points i want to focus on tonight inshallah Fatuna Umul Bani was the daughter of who was the daughter of Hizam al-Kilabi and she was also known as Umul Bani as we just mentioned but why and what is the meaning of Umul Bani i'll talk about it briefly right now and later on in the episode but tomorrow's episode inshallah i'll emphasize on this more it means mother of the several sons now we'll touch upon this why her name was changed from Fatuna to Umul Bani but she was a descendant from a a brave and a heroic family in the era peninsula Hijaz modern day Saudi Arabia her forefathers were known to be the bravest what's also interesting yet i barely hear anyone uh speaking about this fact is she that she too is also related to Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam through some generations of the great grandfathers of Prophet Muhammad abd al-munaf so now we can realize where her bravery her courageousness and her patience emanated from as i mentioned earlier Umul Bani Fatuna al-Kilabi was born in the fourth year after Hijrah just after several years when men used to bury their daughters alive and you know for for different reasons some may say that we have flourishing businesses and we do not want women to interfere women cannot help us in in a business so what's the solution bury them others use the excuse of burying their daughters alive is you know women cannot help in a in a battlefield you know young girls cannot help in a battlefield so what's the solution bury them Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam peace and blessings be upon him and his purified progeny came forth and transformed the mentalities of the ignorance he brought forth the Quran and placed a huge emphasis on the importance of women in Islam he brought forth examples from history for example we have Mary lady Maryam the mother of Jesus we have Asya the wife of Pharaoh and we have his wife Khadija and his daughter Farham Tizahra alaihi sallam Umul Bani was a column nation of this work as she embodied remarkable characteristics another reason now this is the first reason why we should study the life of Umul Bani another reason is that currently in our communities our sisters ladies always complain that there is a lack of female role models in Islamic history compared to men they seek a role model in parenting and modesty and in bravery so they can look up to when people speak of such characteristics they automatically go to the male role models or refer back to them focusing on them not really you know not really keeping in mind that there are many female role models in Islamic history our sisters say that we men have 124,000 prophets to look up to as male role models we also have in addition to the 13 infallibles from Prophet Muhammad Muhammad's reappearance so in comparison to men 124,000 prophets and 13 infallibles male role models yet women as they state we have two or three you know Khadija, Lady Fatima and Lady Zainab and it's unfortunate some people don't really understand or you know don't really count Lady Zainab and Khadija as a role model it's unfortunate or don't not fully understand what their position in Islam for wasn't for these two individuals Islam would have never survived they say ladies right now and it's beautiful to say that we want a woman a role model that can help us in our day-to-day life that we can relate to and learn from from so we can say that we want to live our lives by the examples or by the principles this great individual set hence when we examine the life of Lady Umm Al-Baniin peace and blessings be upon him upon her Fatima Al-Kilabiya there isn't an excuse for someone to come and say I oh I did not know about the sacrifices of Umm Al-Baniin oh I did not know what Umm Al-Baniin did or who she was there's no room for that we give enough information inshallah I seek to fulfill this through these episodes to learn as much as we can from Umm Al-Baniin when a young girl grows up she needs that individual a role model that she can look up to relate to as a young girl and if she does not find that her heart and life will be cultivated by others so the solution is is to cultivate the hearts of our young daughters and our young sisters with the love of ladies like Umm Al-Baniin now who was Umm Al-Baniin what merits did she possess what characteristics did she possess and how did she enter the house of Imam Ali Al-Talib peace and blessings be upon him these will be answered but after the short break so stay tuned respected viewers brothers and sisters in Islam one second peace be upon you and blessings be upon you I welcome you to the second part of today's episode where we have been touching upon the early life of lady Fatima Al-Kilabiya aka Umm Al-Baniin before the break we touched upon some of the key points revolving around Umm Al-Baniin her family who was she the the descendant of but now I want to touch upon some later on stages of the life of Umm Al-Baniin who she was why was she called Umm Al-Baniin how did she enter the house of Imam Ali Al-Talib peace and blessings be upon her Imam Ali Al-Talib read in the will of his wife to marry her niece Amama now Amama loved Imam al-Hassan and Imam al-Hassan Zaynab and Qultoum so Fatimah Zahra realized her love towards them and told Imam Ali to marry her so she can look after her children so Imam Ali married her and then married again and again but once again Imam Ali wanted to marry he wanted a son to aid his own son Imam al-Hassan al-Hassan on the day of Ashura so he went to his brother Aqeel who was a genealogist in the Arabian Peninsula knowing every tribe and every you know woman within the tribe having the information about genealogy so Imam Ali Al-Talib al-Islam goes up to his brother and he says I want you to find me a woman as a wife was that enough is that the only thing he said right now when someone goes to you know up to his sisters or his his mother or he looks for a woman to be his wife he thinks about beauty he thinks about other things that's not something bad but if you put it as the only criteria it's something bad because these things will vanish the only thing that will really stay is the heart and the will of the individual you're looking for Imam Ali Al-Talib al-Islam went to his brother Aqeel said find me a woman from a strong from among the Arabs choose a lady as my wife someone who is a descendant of the brave Arab and can bear me a magnanimous and a courageous son Aqeel thought for a little bit and he said Fatima al-Kilabiya this is the individual you're looking for right away he told him Imam Ali Al-Talib al-Islam then sent Aqeel on his behalf to propose to Hizam her father on behalf of Imam Ali however it's amazing to consider and to think about how the line of Allah the commander of the faithful insisted on marrying a brave wife and in order to raise a courageous son a wife who can bear him a son that will leave behind the legacy when Al-Abbas al-Islam entered the battlefield people thought he was Ali ibn Abi Al-Talib from the way he fought from the way he entered the battlefield right now when you ask someone what is the legacy you want to leave behind some people say wealth some people say our companies some people say you know our families but your true legacy is your son your sons and daughters when you walk into a market or when you walk especially right now in our centers when you walk into a center and son of a great individual that helped around the community or someone that is great in the community what do people say to that son they say may Allah rest your father in peace so the legacy that we should seek is the legacy of choosing a wise wife to bear us a courageous and young man this demonstrates to us that it's there's a crucial need for a proper upbringing of our children both parents play a crucial role within the well-being and nurturing of their children so Imam Ali Al-Talib wanted us to learn that not always beauty i mean we can see a brave woman so she can bear him a magnanimous and a courageous son let us keep that in mind when we look for our future spouses our future bride if you will the same night when islamic brother we're talking about this topic the same night Fatima Al-Kilabiya Umul-Beneen Osanon saw a dream she woke up in the morning and started telling her mother about her dream mother says what did you see she says i saw myself in a beautiful garden and the moons and the stars are above me all of a sudden the moon came down and laid in my lap and after that four other stars came and laid in my lap as well now her mother was happy that her daughter saw such a dream you know an individual when when we see such a dream it's it's something happy it's something that you know it's it's predicting the future of something good but her mother did not know what this dream meant so as as they were talking her father Hazam walked in and he saw his daughter talking to her mother he says the brother of the commander of the faithful is here to ask for the hand of our daughter in marriage Fatima right away went to her father and narrated the dream once again he said this is the manifestation of your dream my child Allah the Almighty has turned your dream into a reality and has granted you happiness in this life and in the hereafter for you will be another mother for Imam Al-Hassan Imam Al-Hassan right away she started tearing up he turns to the mother now this is amazing to hear i'll comment on this after i mentioned it he turns to his wife and he says do you find our daughter Fatima qualified enough to be Imam Ali's wife knowing that his wife that his house is the house of revelation prophethood knowledge wisdom courtesy and good manners if you think our daughter is good enough then let us agree to this blessed marriage can we comprehend this for an idea let us pause for a second and ponder upon this statement right here if you want to apply it to the 21st century marriages the first thing that an individual if i'm going to propose for a girl the first thing that comes to mind is a bank statements how much money i have and what kind of job i have if i have a house or not focusing on materialistic things not focusing on the individual's religiosity now such things i mean right now in the 21st century a marriage just a wedding alone costs from 15 to 20 thousand dollars the honeymoon alone is another five to ten thousand dollars an individual who has just graduated or has just gotten settled down in a good job does not have such money so we have restricted ourselves from what al-bayta alayhim as-salam wanted us to continue now what did we're in the speech of the father of Mu'l-Baniin do we see him mentioning anything about the wealth anything about power he said is our daughter qualified enough to be the wife of imam alayhim as-salam his wife said by Allah i trained her very well and i requested from Allah the Almighty to make her extremely happy you can give the news to alayhim as-salam that we have accepted nowhere in this speech do we find them mentioning does he have any money we see now alayhim as-salam from his first marriage with farum tzara we've seen him having only a shield and he sold that shield to make the wedding right now no one is mentioning anything about wealth because you have to focus on one thing and that's the individual's mentality how they think how will the opposite spouse play that role that nurtures our child that's one of the most important keynotes to keep in mind when we are looking for the opposite spouse when umul baniin arrived at the house of imam alayhim as-salam she stopped at the door and requested from imam alayhim and her mother to go inside and she'll come back out quickly now her mother wasn't shocked why why is she doing this she said my mother i'll i'll tell you later but i have to go in she was granted she goes in the first thing she does when she enters the house she goes over to lady zaynab she goes over to umquilthum imam al-hassan and imam al-hassan she says do you give me permission to be your slave nothing more a young wife a young bride right now she i mean even at that time she has many ideas she has many aspirations in her life as a young girl yet she goes up to the children of her husband and she says do you give me permission to be your servant only and nothing else when the children of imam alayhim and alayhim as-salam saw this they began to refer to her their respect to her went so high they began to refer to her as their own mother they would call her oh umma oh our mother to that extent ummel baneen served al-bayta alayhim as-salam she says i don't want to be anything but a servant to you because she knew who these individuals were she knew who zaynab was who umquilthum was who imam al-hassan and imam al-hassan were so hence through ummel baneen alayhim as-salam and through imam alayhim choosing the woman that he wants to spend and wants to raise his children and to bear him children he wants to teach us a lesson to raise our children with god consciousness and to always keep in mind that the individuals our children that we want to nurture must possess the characteristics of al-bayta alayhim as-salam whether a daughter let her possess the characteristics of ummel baneen whether a son let them be characterized with the characteristics of al-abbas of imam al-hassan alayhim as-salam be brave stand up for the truth even if that means putting your life on the line which will inshallah get the touch upon in samur's episode but before i conclude i want to touch upon a few points it's very crucial for a man to choose wisely when looking for you know settling down in a marriage life for the rest of his life because the only victims in a bad marriage are the children and honestly let our sisters learn and this goes for the for the sisters as well choose the man that will aid you in raising a good family a noble family and our sisters must learn from the examples set by ummel baneen alayhim as-salam and how to become a perfect woman a perfect wife and a perfect daughter i would like to thank you very much for tuning in tonight may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give everyone the ability to continue serving and learning from al-bayt alayhim as-salam especially ummel baneen thank you very much as-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh