 Welcome to another live video here on Narc Survivor. In this live video, I'm going to talk about how you can recover quickly from narcissistic abuse. And when I say quickly, I don't mean it's going to happen overnight, but in many cases, people haven't made much progress, even after years have gone by. And I believe that you can make a lot of progress, even within just six months to one year. Naturally, when you're coming out of the relationship, you may go through a period of isolation. And there's nothing wrong with that. You may want to take some time to yourself. You may not feel like talking to people, but at some point, what's really going to speed up the healing process is when you get out of your comfort zone. As long as you stay comfortable, you're not going to make much progress. But I think the reason why many of us stay in our comfort zone after experiencing narcissistic abuse is because we're afraid of the consequences. We've been told to just stay in the box. Maybe they targeted our self-worth. They made us feel like we're not good enough, so we just keep it to ourselves. We don't try anything new. We don't go back to any of the things that we were passionate about before we were with the narcissist. When that's what's really going to heal you, your passion for life, just being at peace with yourself, being one with the world, with the collective consciousness, instead of continuing to exist in separation, which is what the narcissist wants you to do. So, just going out for a walk, whether it's a forest or coming out by a lake, this can be very healing for you, somewhere where it's peaceful, somewhere where you don't have to think. Because when you're around narcissists, they keep you in your head. They keep you thinking all the time, and that only prolongs your healing. And while it's understandable in the beginning, you may be thinking a lot, you may be analysing what you went through, but as time goes by, you want to get out of your head. Because as long as you stay in your head and you're ruminating over everything they did to you, you're going to be stuck, but you might choose to stay there because it feels comfortable to you. Maybe it's all you really know is having your thoughts dictated to you, being told what you should do or what you should not do, and just staying in the box, staying in your comfort zone. When what's really going to heal you from this is when you get out of that and you start finding things that you are passionate about, things that really mean something to you. And that could be anything, really. It's different for different people. I can't tell you what to do and what's really going to push you past this, but I can help you to find out what that is. For some people, it might be playing a musical instrument. It might be playing the guitar or the piano. It might be yoga or some other form of exercise. Or it could be a sport. It could be cooking. It could be making YouTube videos like I do. I think what it is most of all is it's something you're passionate about. It's something that gives you the opportunity to express yourself. Because while you're with these narcissists, you never get that opportunity to just be yourself, where you can express yourself, where you can just be you, where you can just flow freely through life without the fear of being judged, without the fear of being criticised, because that's really what shuts us down and locks us into this cage where we just feel helpless. We just don't know what to do. Because if you can't be yourself, what are you supposed to do? And I think that's what really drains the life out of us. It just crushes any opportunity of happiness is when we can't even be ourselves. Because you can't be yourself around a narcissist. You have to be what they want you to be. You being yourself is a threat to them. It's a threat to their control. Because naturally if you're dealing with a narcissist, the odds are that they are going to be in opposition to any sense of your individuality or free thinking. Because they want to call the shots. They want to make the decisions. They want to dictate to you how to think. You can't think for yourself. You can't make your own decisions. And even when you leave the narcissist, you lose confidence in yourself. You feel like maybe the narcissist was right. Maybe I am no good. Maybe I do need someone else to make decisions for me. Maybe I'm not capable of anything. And it just sets you back. And that's why I say to really speed up the process on your healing journey is to just find something that you're passionate about. Find something that means something to you. Find something that gives you the opportunity to express yourself. Because while you've been around the narcissist, you haven't had the opportunity to do that. You can't coexist with a narcissist without being under their control. They can't have you thinking for yourself, making your own decisions because they look at it like that's time to get away from them. They need to occupy all of your time so that they can milk as much out of you as they can. But once you've moved on from the narcissist, this is what you can do. This is how you can speed up the process of healing. And I'm not saying it's the only thing that you have to do. Of course, you should be speaking to a professional, someone who understands narcissistic abuse, someone who can move you through the stages, through the denial, the anger, and more into acceptance. Because that's what's really going to heal you. So it's good to have a coach, whether it's me or someone else. But if you would like to book a session with me, you can go to NarcseFiver.co.uk to do that. But of course, I would also recommend speaking to a licensed professional, someone who can help you to heal the trauma. And for that, I recommend a service that I have used which is better help. And you can access BetterHelp by using my link which will also help to support our community which is betterhelp.com slash NarcseFiver. And of course, BetterHelp is not only very effective, which I know from using it myself, but it's also the most affordable service that you will probably find. You can have four one-hour sessions and unlimited messaging with a therapist or doctor for just £140 a month. And it's great, you know, just have someone there who understands someone who can help you to heal from the trauma.