 Some of you right now Your partner is broken and if you can help fix them They are the most dangerous son of a bitch in the world. Do you think you can question your partner's intentions? Do you think they want to you up? Do you think they want to tear you down? No, then quit responding like they're trying to tear you down The same life, how do we become more like-minded? You know I started to talk about you know a lot of times we tend to compare ourselves with other couples and other people that are out there Now I have a segment that I teach during our events that I call the three dangers seized which is comparing Right complaining and conforming and I talk about that a lot because I think that we do that a lot in our marriages as Couples we tend to compare ourselves with other couples and you know wives We tend to compare husbands with other husbands and say look at the way he praises his wife Look at what he does look at what what she's doing for him look how much love she's showing and all of these other things Or why aren't you working out like her? How come you're not motivated to do this? Like it's all wrong I'm just telling you like we can't do that and we fell prey of doing that ourselves in our Relationship and I'm just gonna tell you that you're never gonna find what you're looking for if you start comparing yourselves You really don't know all the sacrifices all the heartaches and all the fights said it to get those people where they are and Maybe if you choose if you trade places with them, you wouldn't want to go through that experience anyway So never compare to each other I think a lot of times we complain to the wrong people about what we're doing You know prematurely when we have an idea or a goal It's very important to share those sacrifices together as a couple But don't talk to other people around it They can talk you out of your goal or make you question your goal where they talk you out of your dreams because you're gonna have trials and Tribulations along the way and they're gonna be like why did you give up this for this? And then it's gonna make you question that because we all have our moments of weakness We all have our moments where we're going to question Our ability to do something and we are human and that happens So I suggest not talking to outside people That are going to be that have that limited mindset that don't know what that growth really looks like unless you're really talking to a Mentor that really has the same goals and aspiration and does everything we talk about following a mentor that has The relationship side of it that has the business side of it that actually cares about people and somebody you want to emulate Sometimes we tend to find so many different mentors and you're looking for one person here in the other one And that's why you know we tend to fail So when you're when you tend to look for somebody to follow always find somebody that actually has the same values and morals that you Have and somebody that your wife is going to be okay with you looking up to as well When you first started your endeavor in business or even in your relationship You took a lot of risks in the beginning and you didn't really have anything to lose Because you didn't have the money you didn't you didn't have the success that you have like today in getting to the next Income bracket for example. It's really hard and you find like you get stuck in the sense You're stuck in your relationship because you're stuck doing the same things and you basically don't take those same risks Or you don't try to prove yourself anymore in business or your relationship and you almost get that sense of entitlement You get your sense of entitlement and business and think like I already proven myself when you first started like hey I'm gonna work my stuff. I'm gonna prove myself when you didn't have anything. You're like, I'm make sure they know my name I'm not hardest person and worker in the room. I'm the one that's going to make my name be known You know same thing in the relationship and all of a sudden you conform and then you wonder why Your relationship has gone stagnant you were you wonder why your income has stayed stagnant or you can't save money Or your bank account doesn't grow It's the same thing as that conforming. I want to say something too on the conforming side I'm gonna go to the flip side of it So I would always say because I told you guys we always had a better marriage than everybody else So like some of you in here, you're the fucking best and that's why you can't and grow compared to who good But I would say I'd be like babe She'd be like Andy this is what we're gonna do and I'd be like or she'd be like I need you to do better in duty immediately. I would strike and I would say you babe you you fucking see them I'm not doing shit like that dude. Listen these guys on Sunday dude. They're out playing golf and shit like I'm fucking home with you guys You know I'm saying like I'm with my family and she's like You're gonna can compare yourself to them. I'm like well I could be a wife that goes in shops all day like all these other freaking wives do while they're going Yeah, she's like she's but my point is is that your partner's job is the can identify How bad ass you can fucking become and then believe in you to be that bad and then can tell you go Can become it because I believe you so don't get fucking mad when your partner says hey You need to get a six pack And you're like I don't fucking like that. Hey, I'm not fat like him. Most these hey She wants you to get fucking shredded Shut your fucking mouth Hey guys, what's going on? It's Andy a lot of you leave comments Tell me that you need help do me a favor I'm gonna tell you the best way to get a hold of me Shoot me a text message right now 918-210-0254 918-210-0254 I'll help you with whatever you need. I got your back for life. Let's get back to the video Do you want her to want you do you my point is is that a lot of us in here when our partner tells us That we're built for more we've conformed we've settled Just just to kind of go with that because he talks a lot about fitness and a lot of people are like well That's crazy because that's not important to us. Okay, so just just so you know the history of Andy Like he has a lot of obese people in his family like they're all like obese like huge to him fitness has always been a part of him So there was a time like we talk about and we laugh about that time that I went and I grabbed him by the back And he's like, what are you doing? And I squeezed his little love handles and I was like we're getting a little But it wasn't it wasn't necessarily like because we're always like we're always thinking like she know I love him no matter what he doesn't have to be shredded all that stuff I knew the level that he needed to be to be his best. Does that make sense? I knew that when he felt like he was in physical the physical shape that he was he was going to be better in business And he was gonna be a better dad and he was gonna be happier when he was with me So I was gonna get the best version of him when he was an elite version of himself And I knew that I needed to shake that out of him because I saw him getting comfortable as a dad as a husband And as a business guy so by me grabbing him and telling him how we're getting a little comfortable in his physical aspect That freaking So I was like dude and he changed and transformed into what he started in his Transformation and that was a big big part of him. That's why he's always talking about that So just think about that other side and what that would do to get your loved one into that shape or level in order to Then feel you know back to being sexy back to being like you can dominate the world back to building that Testosterone to be like I'm a hunter on this and that and that power that comes along with it That's more important that other side of you know somebody you want to see all the time looking their absolute best is one But the other side is I think even more important. It's good. So when they push you just you know like lean into it Don't get mad. Don't get cold You know because like dude it can either start a a fire and you're growing or it can start a fight Okay, like dude, that's why I saying like pride ego and entitlement or the death of all of you Everybody wants their partner to believe in them more, right? You know the fastest way to get them not to believe in you the fastest way or to shut their fucking mouth Is when they tell you they believe in you and they tell you they see more in you and they tell you they want more For you to shut them down like today Some of you are gonna be inspired to open your mouth in which you've kept closed for a very long time and When you go to tell your partner that I really want to see you do this They can take it one of two ways. Well, you never told me that before what you're saying. You don't like me the way I am You weren't even present today. Were you like that's so sad that you missed all of this No I'm saying I love you so much and I know what you're capable of And I want to push you like we talked about today I thought it was okay to open my mouth. I thought we were fucking it was us against the world Is it not? So that's that's do you guys see? Normal unnormal Me and jackie Everything she says to me. I know she's protecting me. I know she's bringing that next level out in me I know her intentions Do you question your partner's intentions? Do you think they want to fuck you up? Do you think they want to tear you down? No, then quit fucking responding like they're trying to Tear you down. I was in the beginning I'm just being honest I was in the beginning trying to fuck you up because I just had to have my way But then I had to change that and that's why we talk about rules later. But yeah, like you have a change of heart You know what I mean? So and he was too. I mean that's that's what we were like we fight to win all the time That's what it was and we had to change that in order to to grow You know being in alpha because I was majorly alpha very independent and him being an alpha You know, you can either crash and freaking explode or you can grow together into something very beautiful if you do Yeah, you take over the world or you can split And then everything else in between is dead Like the reason why you guys are going to do your whole life together Is because you're choosing your partner as the most dangerous son of a bitch in the world to do things with Jackie picked me Because I was broken Some of you right now Your partner is broken and if you can help fix them, they are the most dangerous son of a bitch in the world See Jackie believed in me before I believed in me And I was always attracted to projects and actually everybody that I knew Everybody that I knew told me do you know who this guy is? He was the guy that everybody was like stay away from him I mean like his mentor my mentor at the time and all of that like he told me like listen Andy Elliott is trouble. I don't you know, I don't I don't recommend you being with this guy. Like he's he's crazy and I looked at him and I looked at him I'm like, do I look like the type of girl that puts up with any And he's like no and I'm like, okay. Listen one mistake and we're done. I said, that's it I said it doesn't matter what he did it matters And I've always been attracted to fixing which is my biggest freaking downfall in life But that's probably the reason why we're here today because This is the building this business was hardest. It's the hardest thing we've ever really done But Andy Elliott was my biggest project Okay, but we had some really really really there's a big big hard line in the sand that yeah Why I changed and by the way like you guys want to really know Like when you guys really look at each other in the eyes and you tell like your partner what you see in them And you're not just looking around you're like, look, let me tell you who I see in you I see you like this I see us doing this And I'm gonna go with you. We're gonna do this. That's kind of what Jackie said to me. We got together She goes, you've never met anybody like me I'm positive of it Okay, and and by the way, I mean nobody's ever believed in you either Yeah, and she's like and that's what I was telling you Jackie goes. I can believe in you And no one else believes in you and I know that people can use you and I'm the only mother That's not gonna use you So you can lean in And if you put me over Don't ever try to explain here. I said, I'm not gonna cry. I'm like, well, I don't do this Why did you do this to me? I needed that some of you guys need that Hard like you can do this. You're out I said, you just won't ever see and I needed that hard line You know I'm saying like like I'm always trying to it'll be like Don't touch that like like this like don't touch it like that Like I'm not touching it like I'm kind of like I'd not I still didn't but like I'll fucking play with fire and I'll tease the line But dude, she goes you don't want to tease this line and like sometimes we just need that right but also on the other side I also didn't have any love growing up You know what I mean? And I was thinking that success was money because we raised we're fucking raised broke So like everything was about making money Is that he started seeing me like his mom and I was like, dude, I'm not your mom I'm your wife like Chill out. Yeah, we went through some stages Right, but the most important thing is that everybody needs to know in this room right now That like dude when your partner when y'all leave here today and your partner says hey, we're gonna fucking go get it Okay No fucking lip We need a plan We need to attack it. We got to attack it viciously. It's you two against the world You got to stay plugged in to fucking people who think the same way you guys believe You got to keep coming back. It's like it's like our training seminars We teach salespeople how to go kill it they leave they go they kick ass for 90 days And then they never come back and they're gone. We check with them six months later. They're fucking bankrupt again I'm like, bro. What's mandy left you were killing it and then you never came back It's like we got to stay close Seek the same life together So a lot of people ask me hey jacklyn, how do you support? How do you support andy or how to get my wife to support me the way you support andy? Or how do we seek? You know, how do we become more like-minded? How can I get her more interested in what I do and more supportive in what I do? And I just had to say it's like a two-way street, you know, you don't have to work together We talked about this in the beginning, but you have to be growing together and sometimes, you know, we see one person You know andy started asking, you know, hey, who is the breadwinner and all this other stuff? Well, sometimes we see that and we take that role of being that breadwinner And you think that the other one is not equally important raising the kids or whether you have kids or not Or taking care of the home or even if you have a job that you love You know, you might be making the money, but you hate your job You hate what you do and the other person actually is bringing more positivity and actually feeding your relationship more With positivity and helping you grow because they're doing something they actually love So you guys have to both grow together and seek that same life together So it's it's more of a concession, you know, and you know, it's it has to be equal on both sides So you have to value what she does She has to value what he does And you know, that's the only way that it's sustainable and you're both growing at the same level, you know When we started the elia group, for example I mean andy was like the face of the elia group But I had to do all the dirty behind the scenes Like I was writing the courses and doing all the stuff and making sure that Legally we had all the stuff all the tax stuff making sure payroll was done all this stuff And if he did not show praise or show appreciation for that in that level because everybody was like Oh, Andy Elliott, you're the best thing in the world, right? And I just got like I was the wife, but they didn't know what happened behind the scenes They didn't know all the sweat and tears and all the sleepless nights and all the stuff that I had to do to take care of Everything in order to keep him on his game. If he didn't give me that support, I would have burned out He's sometimes in business We tend to give our spouse when they start working together a lot of times We tend to give our spouse the stuff we don't want to do, you know, organize me Put my information into the crm follow up with the customers that don't answer Like do all the stuff that I hate to do and then you burn them out. That's just that's just it So yeah, that's what happens a lot of different times So we always have to make sure that we're both growing and if they're not getting the praise from the other people for what you do Because you're the face of your business and they're helping you then you're gonna have to Step up that game and really show them that so Andy did a good job by showing me that appreciation You know and he got better and better with time for me to sustain the freaking dirty freaking role that I had to do Because it was not fun freaking handling all of the stuff behind the scenes when you know He was getting all the praise but what i'm saying is like it's okay to do it Because I knew that there was a bigger picture and we included our goals in our dream Was that eventually we would merge and make this thing together Which is what we're starting to do now and I knew that there was a there was an end of a tunnel And now we have a team that's coming together We're starting to trust more people as they come in and everything so it happens in business You're gonna have to do some dirty work But along the way you're gonna have to keep it fun and show your appreciation to your spouse if that's the person that's helping you Or even those roles like I said, you can be you can be uh, you know You can be a nurse for example And then he you know has a company and then you know if you know and you value what she does Because she loves what she does you will support her and you'll all grow together and bring that home to the family Hey guys, I just want to tell you the true one percenters. 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