 Five questions a narcissist can't answer there are certain questions that narcissists just can't answer and it may seem like you can't have a conversation with them because they don't want to reveal certain parts about themselves there's things that they don't want you to know because they're paranoid and hyper-vigilant they believe that everyone is out to get them they believe that the world is not a safe place they believe that it's a dog eat dog world it's survival of the fittest so they are constantly in survival mode they're doing anything they can to survive they're in a fight for their lives which is why they're so mean it's why they're so harmful and unpleasant it's why they're so difficult to deal with because they believe they have to be that way for them to survive they need narcissistic supply it's like their oxygen they can't survive without it because they feel worthless inside they have no inner sense of value they feel empty they feel self-hatred which is why that's all they give to you they can only give you what they've got and all they've got is their own self-hatred which they constantly pour onto you and they expect you to identify with it so that they can relieve themselves of that burden because they don't want you to expose them they want people to continue validating the illusions of their false self which is why they won't answer any questions that have the potential to expose that it's all a facade so here are five questions a narcissist can't answer what do you love about me if you ask the narcissist what they love about you they will only mention superficial things they might say that you look good or that you make them feel good they might say that you take good care of them because they want to seem normal so they will try to respond like a normal person but they will never tell you exactly how they feel about you because they don't even know who you are and it doesn't matter how long you've been together they don't know you they never took the time to get to know you because all they care about is what you can do for them which is why if you ever have some time apart they will miss the benefits of confidences that you provided to them they will miss your money or sex but they will never miss the things that make you who you are to what are your deepest hurts sometimes the narcissist will give you their sob stories they will play the victim and tell you that someone did something to them so that they can get narcissistic supply but they don't really know what hurts them or who has hurt them because they lack introspection they don't self-reflect they don't examine or observe their own mental and emotional processes so although they may give you a story about someone who hurt them they can't talk about it in depth they can't tell you about how it made them feel because if they did that they would heal and then they wouldn't be a narcissist anymore these people and things that have hurt them or what is stopping them from being a normal person if they just took the time to reflect on these things like we do when they discard us then they would heal and be normal but that's not something they're going to do because they don't want to be vulnerable they don't want to self-reflect and they don't want to deal with the pain three why can't you admit that you're wrong narcissists don't take responsibility they always blame someone else for their actions and decisions they don't want to accept when they've made a fault or mistake they will deny it they were gaslight or they will blame someone else but even if you catch them out they will always find a way to justify it they will always find a way to blame you for being the reason why they did what they did you will always be the cause of it you will always need to fix it you will always need to do more for why are you kinder the strangers than you are to the person you say you love narcissists are kinder the strangers because that's how they get supply strangers don't know who the narcissist really is or what they're about so it's easy for the narcissists to lure them into the little traps narcissists treat the people closest to them the worst they are very mean to the people they say they love but they were quite nice to you before you knew who they are they just don't care about what people who are close to them think because they've already involved you in a difficult situation and it's hard for you to escape they're comfortable with you they've learned you they think they know everything they need to know about you even though they never took the time to get to know you they only learned about the things that could use you for so that they could get supply so that they could get their needs met so that they could use it against you but they think they've got you all figured out they think they know everything they need to know they've consumed you they've used you up so now they just put you back on the shelf until they're ready to play with you again because they don't even see you as a separate person with your own wants and needs they see you as an object that exists to serve them which is why they're kind to the strangers rather than the people who are in their lives who they claim to love they believe that since they already know you they shouldn't have to be nice to you anymore five how do you feel about yourself if you ask a narcissist how they feel they will tell you they're great but it's a lie they're always miserable they try to disguise it by acting as though there's something wrong with you or someone else by accident so there's a better personal situation for them and sometimes they actually believe it they really believe the grass is greener on the other side because they lack introspection they lack the ability to observe their own feelings about themselves they can't tell that they are generating those feelings wrong within they're not coming from anything outside of them which is why it's so easy for them to discard you it's so easy for them to act like you never existed like you never meant anything to them but in actuality they're not running from you they're running from how they really feel about themselves they're running from their own self-hatred which they projected on to you sometimes it makes seem like they don't want to deal with anyone or anything but the truth is they just don't want to deal with themselves they don't want to deal with the reflections on the selves that they project under everyone else thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you please like comment share and subscribe if you would like to donate my PayPal link is in a video description coach the inquiries you can email me at coached at an ARC5 by the crew UK thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon