 The narcissist feels helpless when you do this, when you begin to take back control of your own life, when you think for yourself, when you start to make your own decisions. The narcissist had to manipulate you into giving your power to them. That's how they manage to keep you under their control. That's how they manage to do it. It's by keeping you down, making you feel unworthy, making you feel like you're not good enough. They used their manipulation, their love bombing, and then eventually the devaluation and they told you what to think. They told you what to do. They told you how to act, how to be, but when you start to move on with your life with sound reasoning and logical judgment, that is when the narcissist realises they lose control, they're losing the power that they once had over you. They begin to feel helpless when you do that because the narcissist is all about power and control. They want to have influence and authority over you. They want to direct the course of events. They want to choose what you think, what you believe. They want to decide what you do for you, but when you begin to set strong boundaries, when you begin to say no, the narcissist begins to feel helpless because up until that point, they had you under their spell. They had you under their control and when you finally become aware of that, they see it as though you've woken up, you're no longer asleep. They can't pull the wall over your eyes anymore and they don't like it. They don't like how it feels to not be in control, especially of you as this victim, this target that they invested so much of their time and energy into controlling, they put in a lot of work to manipulate you. And now to see you escaping from their manipulation and control, it just causes a narcissistic injury. It makes them very angry. They don't like how that feels. It makes them feel powerless and helpless. I've said it before in my videos, that what's good for you is often very bad for the narcissist. When you grow and develop and you learn more about life, people, you learn more about narcissists, you educate yourself, you become more aware, more wise. That's very bad news for the narcissist. They don't know how to deal with that. It makes them feel very helpless, but it's something that they're forced to deal with because at that point, you're no longer susceptible to their manipulation. You're not susceptible to it anymore. They can't control you. When you're with a narcissist, the best thing that can happen is when you finally begin to experience your freedom. And that is also the worst thing that can happen for the narcissist. That's the last thing they want to see. They don't want to see you being free. They don't want to see you live in your life with the ability to think for yourself, with the ability to make your own decisions based on your own opinions and beliefs. They don't want you to do that. They want to dictate everything to you. They want to tell you what to think, what to believe, what to do. It's like the narcissist's worst nightmare. When you emerge from the fog, you remove the world that they pulled over your eyes. When you wake up and you see that all of this time, it's like you are under some form of mind control, brainwashing. You weren't like yourself. It's like you were a robot. They managed to get you to perform these tasks and functions, these operations. And you were quite unaware of what you were doing. You didn't realize it at the time. And then you look back and you think, I can't believe I believe those things about myself, about the narcissist, about people and about the world. I can't believe that I acted in that way. It just seems completely alien to you. And when you get to that point of awareness and wisdom, they begin to feel very helpless as a result and there's an effect of that. At that point, they don't really know what to do. And that is why it will seem like they're holding on for their dear lives. They're in panic mode. They might get very angry. They might give you a fake apology. They might try to love bomb you again. But whatever they try to do, you've just got to step back and just observe the insanity because it really is crazy making. When you think about everything they said, everything they did to you, it never adds up to how they act once you begin to realize your power. When you regain your power, they're not by your side. They're not supporting you. They're not in your corner. They're not encouraging you. At that point, all they're trying to do is to convince you to hand your power back over to them. And if you don't willingly do that, they will try to destroy you. They will try to break you down mentally, emotionally and financially. They're not going to let you go then. The narcissist just wants to win. And if they can't win with you as the supporting role, then they will win against you. That's just how they see it. It's black and white. You either win them or you're against them. There's no going off on your own and trying to do your own thing with your own power, your own knowledge and experience. No, in their minds, you're just an object that exists to serve them. But yeah, when you do realize your power and you realize that they just manipulated you into giving your power to them, they do feel very helpless when you begin to think for yourself and you start to make your own decisions. But what makes them feel helpless is very empowering for you. So keep doing what empowers you and protect yourselves. I just wanted to put this message out there. Thank you all for joining me on this live video and I will talk to you in another one very soon.