 Next question is from Taylor Dinkel. You guys seem to be pretty confident. Do you have any tips on cultivating confidence in life? Oh gosh, you know what's funny? The minute you stop caring. We are the best. Yeah, right. We're the most confident. You know, the minute you stop caring about what people think about you, now not all people. I think it's important to care about what important people care about you, like the good friends that you have and family members and your kids. But once you stop caring about what everybody else thinks about you, then you just be yourself. And here's the other side of it. Do you want people to like you for being yourself or do you want people to like you for being someone fake? Because that's an important thing to kind of understand too. I think it's like developing a muscle, you know? Confidence is something that comes after you start to understand yourself more and you're secure in the way that you are. So like all your flaws and consideration really like just owning it. If it's something you want to change, it comes from within. Like if you're relying on other people to tell you, you know, this, that, the other, too much about their feedback as opposed to your own, you know, pursuits, I think, you know, that's something to evaluate. But I think it's just something that it just grows and develops. You know, the more you bring back like your own, like what do I want to do? What, you know, where do I want to go with this? What do I want to learn? What do I want to change about my own, you know, body of things that are obvious to me? And just like try as much as you can to bring it back to, you know, your own pursuits. Today you are you, that's true or then true. There's no one alive that's you or then you. Yeah, Dr. Seuss. That's right. I love that. Yeah, that's Maximus's quote that's on his Instagram page. And I think that like I was asked like, I don't know, it was a couple of weeks ago when I did my questions. Like if I could hand my son one quality and that was it, what would it be? And it was confidence. And I think that's really what it is. So I think you hit it on the head. Like the reality is the more you care less about it, the more you confident you become. Yeah. And I remember this like in high school, like because I didn't have money, I had crooked teeth. I was the skinny kid, like grew up on the other side of the tracks. Like I didn't have in the high school world, I didn't have a lot of things that were working in my favor to become like a popular kid in school. And when you're a young kid like that, you care about that stuff. And what I started to realize was as I was getting older and growing up in my teens, the more that I cared less about that and I was truer to myself and just was gonna be me, the more people that I attracted, like people are drawn to people that are like that. And so the people that I feel that struggle with this, they desire it so much that they get hung up on it. They're trying not to be them, they're trying to be somebody else to get the attention of other people. And this is what causes them to lack confidence is cause they're not being real to themselves. They're trying to act a certain way or dress a certain way or be into certain things so other people will like them and they're not being true to themselves. If you just learn to be who you are, which should be the easiest thing you possibly could do and be confident in that, that this is who I am. There's nobody alive that's like me. I'm unique. Every one of us are extremely unique and be confident and being different. You don't wanna be normal. That would be the worst thing in the world is to be like other people. And so recognizing that you are so special, that you are so different, that you are so you, that nobody else can do you. And being true to that, people will gravitate to you and people will be drawn to you because of that. And so it's just learning to love yourself for who you are and that includes all the corkiness and the nerdiness and the different, the things that make you different from everybody else. Don't allow other people that, and here's the other thing too, right? Cause this is where this gets challenging, especially for young kids that are growing up, is when people tease you and put you down. The moment that you make the connection that when people tease you and put you down or make fun of you or point out the things that are different about you, that's a reflection of their insecurities. And so when you start to make that connection that has nothing to do with you being unique or different, has everything to do with that person is projecting their insecurities on you, that should build confidence in you. Like, oh wow, this person feels threatened by this thing that's different about me. Even though they're teasing or pointing at maybe an insecurity of your own, them doing so is a reflection of their own shit. Once you realize that and you stand firm in who you are and you're like, fuck yeah, I am that person. I am confident about that. I am who I am and nobody can do me. And the more you solidify that, I think the more confident you will become and the more people that you will attract. And you know, it's different, difficult about this particular conversation is I think it sometimes gets confused with, I like who I am, therefore I never have to grow, change or improve myself. Like, you know, I'm lazy, I don't take care of myself, but you know, I'm confident and I care about myself. And that's it, you're mixing two things up. Like one of the best ways to cultivate and build confidence is to seek growth, real growth, not like pretend growth that's driven necessarily by insecurities, but rather challenging yourself in overcoming challenges that builds confidence. If you want a child to be confident, you allow them to encounter challenges. They gotta be tested. And to fail and to try again and then to succeed. It's an amazing thing to watch when a kid, they've done studies on this. Kids that are raised this way, will work on a puzzle much longer than other kids. They'll keep going, keep going to try and figure that puzzle out. So confidence is also built that way. Is that, you know, I'm not perfect, that's okay. I'm comfortable in my skin. So I'll tell the truth and I'll have that integrity. But I'm also trying to be a better person. I'm also trying to grow. Those things are simultaneous and they work together. It's not one or the other. Because I think sometimes people think, oh, you just gotta love who you are. So therefore that means I'm not gonna grow. Cause that's who I am and I love me. That doesn't mean, that's not what that means. No, that's the difference between confidence and cockiness, right? Somebody who's- Or narcissism. Yeah, it's cockiness, right? You think that you've arrived and that you're somebody who is confident doesn't ever think that way. They think that they- That's right. That somebody who is really, truly confident knows that what is the stoic thing to say is that I know that I am wise cause I know that I know nothing, right? You are forever in pursuit of growth and you are forever looking to grow and be better. And that's what makes you confident is being okay with, okay, I lack in this department. Oh, I could be better here. I'm gonna continue to push that way. When you're the other person, when you think you've arrived and you're smarter than everybody else, you're better than everybody else, you're more popular. Now you're cocky. You can recognize other people out there better than you at things. Yeah. And you're fully okay with that. That's right. That's right. I mean, I'll give you an example from a fitness standpoint, from a trainer standpoint. The trainer that lacks confidence is the trainer that pretends to always have the answers when the client has a question or a problem. Even though they don't know the answer, they're not confident enough to say to their client, I don't know. Confident trainers say I don't know a lot to their clients. They'll say things like, I don't know, but I'll find out for you. That's what real confidence looks like. Fake confidence looks like I got this all under control. I know everything. I'm the man or whatever. Look at me, check me out. That's a projection of insecurity. It reminds me of the, I was eating dinner with Jessica. We were eating an outdoor patio at Santana Roo, right? And you see a lot of nice cars in that area. And if you live in San Jose area, you know Santana Roo and you know that you're gonna see two or three Ferraris or a couple- Maserati. 100,000 or 200,000 dollar cars. And it was so funny that you'd see them drive by and they'd be just driving by because there's a road there or whatever. And then every once in a while, one would drive by and they would rev their engine super loud. Hey, look at me. Look at me. Like everybody's already looking at you. That's not confidence, it's insecurity, you know what I'm saying? Yeah.