 Good morning everybody JR Fisher here good to see you and welcome to Saturday morning I got my iPad over here got my little cup of water here. Okay trying to do some more water. We do that right now Today's session is probably gonna chill you out You know up until Christmas because this is a stressful time, right? He's like, you know, those of you who celebrate Christmas or Kwanzaa or whatever you're celebrating, you know Hanukkah It can be stressful. It's crap. So today is gonna help you with that It's not only gonna help you with that. It's gonna help you with business And business is another thing and let me hit my screen here. Make sure I think I'm streaming. Okay, let me know if I'm streaming Okay, put something that comment there Yeah, I think it is I've got like a monitor off of the side. 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Let me put something in here Let me put I haven't done that yet. I should have Make use of the chat box and tell me who you are Man, I love talk to text because I can't type, you know, I mean I type But it's like two fingers of one hand and three fingers on the other hand We're live today on Facebook and YouTube. So a couple different places. I appreciate all you guys, man I got to tell you it's nearing the end of the year and it's been a phenomenal year for us And I don't mean just in money. I mean in relationships. I mean in people I've met online I mean in family. I mean, it's just really been a great year And I think it's really been a great year for all of us if we all step back and look We've had losses, you know, I've had friends who lost loved ones to COVID You know, and I've had friends who had some terrible things happen and we've had some things happen But overall we're still here and if we're still here, we can make a difference Today is not technical today is not about making more money today is really about getting your head right and Here's the thing if you don't have your head right, you're not going to be able to have a successful business You're not going to be able to have a successful family You're not going to be able to successfully exercise on a regular basis You're not going to be able to eat healthy if you don't have your head right first That's the thing you got to do That's the thing that is so very important that we all forget is to get our head right Make sure we're in the right place and today we're going to talk about a thing called mindfulness And you know mindfulness is a kind of a hard thing to do, I think Because mindfulness is really the simple act of being completely in the moment Now you think about that how often are you completely in the moment? You're thinking about just what's going on right now right now. You're completely here You're not being distracted by your cell phone or other people talking or what you got to do next week Or what happened last week? I mean you're in the moment right now This is a really cool thing to practice and I'm going to talk to you about the benefits of it I'm going to talk to you about how to do it I mean really being fully aware of what you're doing where you are and not Excessively reacting to or getting exhausted from your environment just kind of chill Now to some of you you're going to say all that silliness that mindfulness is so silly It's not and and if you can practice this guy's you will see the benefits of it They did a survey and they found that 66 of leaders better manage stress when they practice mindfulness 66 percent. They said 60 percent had increased focus on Decision-making and made better decisions. They said 46 percent experienced an increase in innovation and creativity What if you could do that? What if you could do that? Wouldn't it be worth trying this? And you know the funny thing is when we're not mindful we're really wasting our energy If we're thinking about what happened in the past, that's okay, but we can't change the past I've seen people try to do it. I've never seen anybody successful You just can't do it And as far as the future, I mean we can work towards the future But the best way to work towards the future is to work on the current time right work on right now So mindfulness will really help you with this mindful leadership means being able to take a truthful look at yourself And regularly posing questions about yourself I posted a meme the other day About elon musk and it looked at his net worth for the past 10 15 years and he's the richest guy in the world now And I know that goes back and forth between him and the other guy that sells stuff online I can't remember his name jeff something, but anyhow elon Treats people right elon cares about things outside of himself And when you get outside yourself and you start to care about the people around you and the people that support you The people that work for you a family member strangers You know I I used to have a bad temper when I was driving it somebody cut me off or you know Pull in front of me and I changed all that I'll give you a secret to that just second But I changed all that here's how I changed all that I let everybody in front of me Anybody that needed to get in front of me I would allow them and everybody that cut me off I assumed they were having a bad day They got fired from their job something horrible happened in their family They were rushing to an emergency and if I put my mind in that place All of a sudden it makes me calmer and if you think about it if our car gets in front of you What is it? What how long is the car 12 15 feet? I don't know. Um, so you're going to get there 12 or 15 feet later Uh, this is like a split second. Let them in front of you. It'll it'll really chill you out Got a couple of comments in here Fortunately just got notified. Oh good paul. Good to see that Your audio is okay, but I think you need my closer or position different friday audio was better. Okay. Let's see Let me know how that is. Let me know if that's better. My wife did tell me that this microphone is going to be super close I hate having this thing up on my face But if it if it i'll do the sacrifice I will do this sacrifice if you guys have better audio. So let's see if that works The biggest thing I learned on mindfulness was learning to say no to distractions Yeah, and you know this no and yes thing and I've talked about this no and yes thing before You're always making decisions as to one thing or another So if you say no to one thing you're saying yes to something else So if you're saying no to helping somebody for an hour and a half on a saturday You're saying yes to doing something else for an hour and a half on a saturday There's still that hour and a half on a saturday Okay, I don't know if you you're grasping this but uh, if you say yes to something on a saturday You're going to spend an hour and a half doing something for somebody or helping somebody or doing some for yourself or exercising You're saying no to something else because you've taken up that time with an hour and a half It's kind of a weird thing to wrap your mind around As a thought leader and business owner. It also means leading without arrogance I can't stand arrogance. I hate when people think they are better than other people. It makes no sense to me I don't I don't care if you're a celebrity. I don't care if you're rich I don't care if you've accomplished something you're still the same as everybody else You've got to lead by example leading with humility and appreciating and recognizing the efforts of your clients your students your peers Your family your friends strangers. Yeah, appreciate strangers Everybody is going through this thing called life and they're struggling with it. Okay, everybody struggles I don't care what your position is in life. I don't care how chill somebody looks. They're struggling Everybody's struggling and as soon as you realize that everybody's going through the same stuff as you It makes it a little bit easier and and here's the truth Some people handle situations better than others. Don't judge people for that. That's just how they are Mindful business leaders also communicate with compassion and they know how to balance their emotions They get their emotions in check They they get angry a whole lot less You know, I hate to see managers that are always pissed off and always going off the handle I mean, it's like the worst management style in the world Whether they're angry frustrated or tired They don't let their emotions rule their decisions or actions that work. And I think that is so very important guys In this place We delve into why mindfulness is important for your knowledge And your your commerce business and how to be a more mindful leader. Okay, so let's talk about some of this stuff here And I've taken some notes here Paul, let me know if that sound is better there or Erica. Let me know if that sounds better Let me know if that sound is working out a little bit more I am closer to this big old Microphone, but anyhow, so according to behavioral essentials uh etna ceo mark batolini Initiated the company's mindfulness program after a ski accident etna partnered with american Vinayoga Institute and e mindful to launch a pilot program with 239 employees. Okay, this is pretty interesting Listen to this now more than one quarter of etna's workforce of the 50 000 has participated And at least one mindful class those who participated listen to this in the program reported an average of a 28 percent reduction in their stress levels. I don't know how they measure that by the way Uh a 20 improvement in their sleep quality and a 19 percent reduction in pain So probably what they do is they just ask the people and then they take a percentage of the total number And they say that's their percentage They also became more effective on the job gaining an average of 62 minutes per week of productivity each etna estimates the value of that added productivity will be $3,000 per employee per year. Additionally, etna is seeing a decrease in health care cost If you're less stressed if your mind is more chill If you're you're you're calmer you're gonna be healthy. That's just the way it is. That's how it works guys Um, uh, let's see a great point about leading by example, but also a business owner. You need to set expectations Uh sound is a bit better. Good. Thank you for that. Um, yeah, I mean you obviously have to have expectations Um, but I had this three rule thing Um, and you know, I see so many managers You know, I had sales managers and they would say that a person is not selling enough. Okay, and I would say great Uh, what do you think the problem is and they would say well? I think the problem is they're incompetent or they're lazy or they're whatever Okay, they would give me some reason for this person not performing well And I would say okay, did you tell them what you expected? It's pretty important and I sometimes I would give replies like well, they should know better Well, maybe they don't okay. You as a manager. It's your job to tell them expectations It's really hard to hold somebody to a certain level and Not tell them what you went out of them. I mean, it's like it is really kind of insanity, right? You I want you to do this, but I'm not going to tell you what I want you to do So yeah, you have to set expectations now the second thing you have to do which is super important Is you have to help them get there. So that means you got to train them So if my sales manager says this guy's a terrible salesperson and I say well Why they're a terrible salesperson and they say well because they're not good at x y and z And I say have you trained them in x y and z and they go well. No, but they as a salesperson They should know these things So you as a manager, you know, it's your responsibility to teach them x y and z and if you haven't taught them They aren't the problem. You are the problem Okay, if you're managing people and they aren't performing well And you haven't told them what you expect and you haven't trained them to do these things You are the problem if you have a whole sales force of terrible sales people You're the problem. Okay, so, you know, I had a hard time with that because managers didn't want to look at themselves They wanted to blame their employees and that's not the way to go about it Now the third the third part to this okay, so you've told them about it You've trained them how to do it and then the last part is you got to check on it You got to check on it on a regular basis, you know, you can't say well, you know, bob had a terrible month He only sold seven units and he should have sold 12 And I would say to you did you check on bob on the fifth of the month? Did you check on bob on the 10th of the month the 15th of the month the 20th the 25th How in the world did you get all the way through the month? And bob wasn't as productive as he should have been It was because you didn't check see things that you check on will often improve Mindfulness prevents cognitive failures such as distraction Forgetting blunders and it improves performance at work. So if you're living in the moment You're less prone to errors and mistakes that may prove costly to your business And I can't count how many times I wasn't mindful, you know, I was I was saying Last night it was funny because we were having dinner and we had some curly fries We don't eat fries very often but we buy these frozen Arby's curly fries and every now and then we'll have them maybe two three times a year really good And I wanted ketchup and I couldn't find I knew I wouldn't be able to find the ketchup I knew it when I opened the the refrigerator. I wouldn't be able to find it So I started moving things and I grabbed an item and moved it out of the way to look for ketchup And I couldn't find it and when I went to put the item back Guess what the item wasn't my hand to catch it I had moved Ketchup to look for ketchup. Now. Do you think I was being mindful in the moment? Probably not Probably not. So, you know, if I teach you about this mindfulness you can practice it But you have to work on it on a daily basis all the time. You got to work on being mindful So important to do because all of us will slip out of it and if you do slip out of it It doesn't mean you're a failure. It just meant you slipped out of it You know, it's like saying, you know, I want to go to the gym and I want to work out But I missed two days in a row because something happened. So I might as well just forget about it No, you just missed two days. There's no sense in forgetting about it. You got to get back to it Enhanced efficiency increases your productivity and it also helps you complete more meaningful work every day Next thing it does is improved intuition improve into that's a big word was intuition I'll see how often do you visit your production facility to make sure they meet your expectations? I don't as a matter of fact I don't do that because I have people in place to do that and I check with those people. So that's your answer on that one there You don't want to be a micro manager if I showed up at the production facility once a week and said, I hope you guys are doing it Right I'd have a problem, but I can check with my management team and make sure they're doing it right and that's what I do there Let's see as a business leader. Do you have a mission statement that you share with your employees and that they know Your values and expectations. Yes. It's a matter of fact I'm editing a video as a as of this morning and it's about mission statements and vision statements, which are two different things A mission is what you're trying to accomplish And once you've accomplished that then you have a vision and I've done an entire video on that policy You're going to see that come out within the next few weeks But it goes into detail about nike about amazon About starbucks about all these companies and what their mission statements are and vision statements two different things So let's talk about this improve intuition thing You've probably heard the term gut feeling you got that's like kind of gut feeling about things That's nothing but intuition a secret sense that tells you if something is right or maybe it's not right Okay, maybe it's not right. I remember This is going back probably about 12 13 years and I was in my business attire at the time which was a suit and a tie And I had a sports coat on and I got out of my car And this guy started walking towards the young guy probably 17 or 18 going hey, hey, hey help me out This guy's really bugging me. So I look off to the right. There's another guy running towards him going Oh, no, he's telling me a story and they came in on both sides of me And I I had this intuition. I said these guys are up to something bad like I'm about to get mugged And they just both started yelling at the same time coming closer and closer towards me And I had a concealed carry permit. So I opened my coat and I said, I don't think you guys want to mess with me And they both looked at me and they went, oh, no, no, man. We're kidding. We're kidding. No problem No problem and they walked off together Now my intuition was that they were together and they were planning something and I think they were planning to mug me at the time But I did want to let them know, you know, I do have protection I wasn't going to pull it out because that's brandishing. You can't do that But I just showed them I said, I don't think I'm the guy you want to mess with I don't think I'm the guy and they both walked off together And started walking over to other cars. So I'm sure they were out there doing whatever they were trying to do Uh, but I had that intuition since mindful people are more aware of their inner voice and self They're more likely to have powerful intuitions about what may be right or wrong for their business too. Okay At times the intuition may be your best bet when making important decisions Possibly even more powerful than data and expert opinions, you know, because I've seen a lot of that stuff be wrong You know, when I started my company, I wanted to can meet and sell it for survival food and I would say Almost everybody told me I was wrong except people who had come up with products and they were like give it a try You know, give it a try But all my family and friends and all that they said that's not going to work. You can't do that None of them had done that. None of them had done anything like that. Now The next thing is Um, your creativity level. I think this is so very important If you want to be more creative heightened creativity One of the prerequisites of being creative is the ability to let your brain relax And of all things daydreaming daydreaming activates this default mode network in your brain, which is responsible for making new connections And helping you solve complex problems. It's pretty interesting stuff guys mindful people And I keep looking over for comments and feel free, you know to throw comments in there as I'm Talking ask questions. Do whatever you want here. This is y'all's session. Okay. This is not my session of y'all's Mindful people will find it easier to switch off these miscellaneous thoughts Like the days to-do list or what to prepare for dinner or you know What movie you're going to see that night? The brain can relax and think of creative ideas and solutions Paul's puts up in here. I think your street experience and previous experience which comes from failure Helps with intuitive development. It certainly does. Um, you know and as a kid Um, I had a lot of street experience. A lot of it was not good. Okay. I had a lot of bad experiences I got a lot of trouble. Uh, I got arrested at a young age I was doing things I shouldn't be doing But that helped me as an adult To know what's right and wrong and how to handle things and where I went to be in life There's about four of us that hung out together When I was in high school Two of the four ended up going to prison And they both did time and I'm talking, you know, a number of years not 20 or 30, but a number of years Those two guys those two guys are multi multi millionaires now probably in the hundreds of millions of dollars So I think sometimes these bad experiences can be very helpful to you You can also have increased satisfaction and less burnout think about this According to the national institute of occupational safety and health 1999 26 of workers say that they are often or very often stressed at work Stress can have an impact on your performance as a digital entrepreneur We want to reduce the stress when you're launching and growing a business. It can be chaotic. You're responsible for doing everything Okay, I know I was everything. I do everything And everything is urgent if you don't pace yourself You can easily experience this burnout and we don't want to do this. Let me send you a message here This is an area where mindfulness can be especially helpful And this what I just said somebody sent me a message here that took me off point I don't like that So I try to turn off all my messages on my watch and there's one I missed and I guess it was messenger So I got to get that turned off Instead of reacting emotionally to the crisis of the day a mindful person will stop and process their feelings They'll refocus their attention. They'll address the situation from a practical perspective by thinking Mindful and once again mindfulness is just being in the moment by reacting to stress in a more thoughtful manner Mindful people are able to derive more joy at work and be less stressful. That's what we want to do The next thing it's going to help you do because this is not all about business life is not all business You know, we could work a lot, but it's also about your social relationships. We can improve our social relationships That's an important factor guys I like that both you and jessica both are Creative in your thinking. I think that events and travel opens up our creative process I really believe that paul. I think that's a very true statement and I think travel Travel and eating different foods travel and eating different foods Expand your mind. It actually expands your mind It makes you more open to different people and different things and understanding other people's situations I think we can be very judgmental if we don't understand somebody else's situation Businesses are built on relationships. So you got to have these social relationships relationships with partners relationships with peers and customers and employees and clients As as luck would have it mindfulness leads to better social relationships keeping these relationships positive Can actually buffer the impacts of business stressors They help you stay creative and happy even when dealing with challenges Now i'm going to talk about a few leaders here for a second And you don't have to like these people. You don't have to like these people However, they have some talents that you can't hardly ignore bill clinton, um, you know, I didn't like his politics, you know I just didn't however I talked to people who have met him and they said one on one You knew he was talking to you you knew he was in the moment with you He was looking you in the eyes He was shaking your hand and he was hearing what you had to say Which was very interesting. Um, the same thing with elan musk Um, and you know, you could like him or love him. I do love elan musk, but they say that when he's talking to you He's really thinking about what you're saying. He's really listening to you He really gives thought to what you have to say Because he's in the moment I mean now that guy's got a lot of things to distract himself, but he's in the moment Okay, very interesting. Um, I've heard the same thing about obama. I've heard the same thing about trump And you know, you can have Differing views on these people that's okay, but you everybody who's been successful has some talent in some area There's something that drove them to get there in spite of their weaknesses in spite of the downsides that they have There was a glom et al Report died in 2012 that suggests that mindfulness Further is positive social connections in business because it boosts flexibility and empathy among people What is empathy? It's caring about somebody else's situation If you care about somebody else's situation, you're going to be more empathetic to them And they're going to feel that people who exercise mindfulness are more likely to accept people as they are Without bias and be more accepting of different personalities. It's okay if your personality is different. It's okay Um, so are you ready to really kind of embrace this thing? Are you? There's some steps that you need to go through Um, number one is attention. Okay intense guys attention intention Know what you seek the first to boost Mindfulness is to know What you wish to achieve or accomplish intentions don't have to represent far away past goals or anything like that An intention can be as simple as what you want to achieve on a given day. What is your intention for today? What behaviors do you want to avoid? What actions do you want to embrace and keep doing more of? clear intention Helps you design your work and personal life that you're going to be happy to live with. Okay So that's intentions now attention be present And observe and pay close attention to everyday activities and experiences when you walk into a room look around the room See the room see the people what's going on? Even if it's repetitive and mundane Presence of mind helps you avoid errors and think about creative solutions to problems Whereas in attention leads to feelings of disconnect and border. Okay So, you know, if you're ever bored is probably because you're not connected to your surroundings For instance, if you create an online course, okay, which I'm doing now and I've done many before You may find yourself doing certain activities on autopilot like writing course material or completing admin tasks for your course Attention and awareness can help you write better course materials and think of ways to reduce admin work Next thing you have to have is alignment and guys if you're not taking notes Go back and write these things down because these seriously are going to help you alignment Is is living and working in alignment with your inner values? Okay, if you're in a job or you're selling a product or service you don't believe in it makes it very tough Just as companies have core values each individual does to for instance Some individuals may believe in sustainable living while others may value honesty and integrity above all else Okay, that may be their thing whatever your inner values are you can't achieve mindfulness without without what staying true to them If you stray away from your inner value system You'll no longer find joy in running your business and you'll fail to live mindfully when you're running your business Practicing mindfulness and sales can make sure your business supports your core values. You got to make sure you do that guys Next thing up is acceptance Acceptance imperfections mistakes in ourselves as well as others you have to embrace that you're going to make mistakes It's okay Except that you're capable of making errors and that you're not perfect. This is not Excuse me. This is true Of everyone you work with okay, once you embrace shortcomings and failures It's a whole lot easier to overcome and avoid and overlook them. Okay, it's okay if you make mistakes And it's okay if others make mistakes Attitude what's your attitude? Don't judge don't judge. You don't know what that other person's going through that person that cut me off in traffic I don't know that they're not rushing to the hospital To help a loved one. I don't know if they're they just caught their wife cheating their husband cheating I don't know if one of their kids is, you know, very sick at home and they're trying to get I don't know Okay Attitude don't judge the last key to mindfulness is having good attitude One that is non judgmental and be kind and be patient with everybody I don't care if it's that bag or at the grocery store. I don't care if it's the person mowing your lawn I don't care if it's one of your kids your husband life. Whatever don't judge You're not them. You don't know what they're going through and even if you knew exactly what they're going through you don't know what what Talents or what skills they have to handle what they're going through just because you would handle it differently Doesn't mean they will okay? So attitude don't judge if you were to establish a good relationship with Collaborators okay and develop meaningful products for customers You'd need to open up to different kinds of people and experiences This is the only way to empathize with other people and work effectively with them. Okay So What are you going to do? What are you going to do today? You've got you've got this week before the holidays If it's your holiday, if it's not whatever you still got a week Um, what are you going to do? Are you going to be more mindful? You're going to walk into a room You're going to look around are you going to start realizing you know to be in the moment Are you going to chill a little bit? Are you going to accept people a little bit more? And if not ask yourself this question Why not Why not calm yourself down a little bit? Why not be more accepting? Why not be more kind? Why not admit it when you make mistakes? Sometimes I'll say or do things. I'm like, why did I say that? Why did I do that? And it's time to go ahead and apologize if you did something wrong you got to do that Okay, or explain why you said that to people if you cut somebody off You know the sentence or whatever you said something to them be more mindful. You've got an opportunity you've got next year now It's coming up. We go we go ahead and start practices in this now and we're going to have a whole lot better year That's entirely up to you now If you do have any lasting questions or comments put them in that chat box there Let's see here. Let's see here. I'm going to read through some of paul's stuff. He's got a few comments Love it paul. Thank you for putting it in there Um, it's just like your friday lunch. It offers a chance to experience new food and ideas 100 paul That's why we do that. That's why we eat at different places. I mean, you know, here's the funny thing We've got a bunch of restaurants. We really like we could just eat at those every single friday Um, but we don't during the week. We'll eat at the ones we like, you know, maybe try something new Maybe not, uh, but on friday. It's usually something new. We have to try something new. It's got to be new Let's see here I also like that you reach out across different age groups From your kids to your older buddy in san diego Each bring different ideas to the table and expand your mindfulness paul. You're very observant And I actually do that intentionally Um, you know, some of my best friends are in their 20s. Uh, and some of them are in their 80s So I don't I don't I don't know man. I don't know this age thing is a weird thing. I mean Because people look differently as they get older. I don't think they're any different people. I think we're all pretty much the same Um, I don't I don't know if I act my age, but then again, I don't know what age you're supposed to act That's a weird question Is then what age are you supposed to act and people say well, it should match your chronological chronological age and then I ask the question Why is that? You know, I heard mel Brooks the other day on an interview and in priority I think he's 95 years old and you would think he was 20 the way he talked and joked around and all So is he not acting the age he should be acting or is he just being mel Brooks? I would suggest that you just be j. R. Fisher That you just be john smith that you just be jenny jones or whoever you are Just be who you are. I think that's the way to go. Um I think that most people suffer from lack of attention and it causes them to walk around on a fog Of mediocracy wasting time that they will not give back. No, you don't get time back I Tried to get time back and I think you're right Well, I think we walk around and so and the reason mindfulness is an interesting subject Is because most people do not practice it. They don't even know about it They they just like they're reacting constantly. They're bouncing off the walls. They're like, oh, I gotta take care of this I gotta take it. Oh this popped up. Oh my god. This is a new emergency and they're not in the moment They're not in the moment You know, you can see it when people go to concerts when people, you know go to performances And they're all holding up their phone Filming something That is right in front of their face Instead of just enjoying it the kids on stage And you know, they're they're doing a play or whatever it is and they're holding a phone in front of their face Where they can't see the kid and they're filming You know, if you want to film and I get it put it on a stand somewhere, but you Pay attention pay attention to what's going around you pay attention to what is happening in life Pay attention to your friends and family and strangers. Pay attention. Look at what they're doing. So I'll leave it with that today I'm going to tell you pay attention. Uh, by the way, how's your buddy in san diego? Hope he's well. Hope your son is well too. My son has improved dramatically Um, you know, he's a bodybuilder and he went through three operations in like 10 days Um, and it was because of a botched operation. If some of you don't know about it call me as my whole family And luigi luigi or mando or torico, uh, who was an attorney in san diego for I think 55 60 years He's in his 80s He has terminal cancer. Uh, and he's had terminal cancer for 10 or 11 years Uh, and it was funny because I guess luigi is 87. I want to say now, um, and I moved to san diego gosh when he was I think 78 something like that and um, he told me at that time that he had gone to the doctor And they diagnosed him with terminal bone cancer and they gave him five years to live And I said five years on I keep in mind. This is now 10 years ago something like that and nine years ago And I said they gave a 78 year old. Um Five years to live. I said, well, that's that's no trick I guess I could be a doctor because I would tell those 78 year olds I'm going to give you about five years to live and by the way, he does have terminal cancer and He travels and does the stuff takes his medication, you know, he has it I wouldn't say it's a remission because it's still there, but uh, he goes through life and enjoys himself And thank you for asking paul. He's a very good friend of mine. He's been a friend of mine since I was in my 20s Uh, and he's in his 80s now. So that's that's pretty interesting story. I think uh to be friends with somebody for that long Um, yeah, just a tremendous tremendous friend really love him. He's a great guy I met him when I was I think 27 years old Um, and at that time, I think he was you had to have been in his 50s Um, and now he's 87 years old. So he's he's a great guy It's kind of funny because I have a lot of friends Um over the years and you know to my best friends from high school I've been friends with for 40 some odd years. Um, we're still friends We still talk, you know, we still text and we still visit each other. Uh, and I think friendships are super super important Now some of the friends who went in the wrong direction. Um, I didn't stay friends with them, you know, uh But the people who you know got their life in order. Hey, we're still friends the way it is Hope everyone has a blessed weekend great week. Merry Christmas to you all. Yeah this week guys I'm not sure how much I'm gonna be live Um, uh, but you know, feel free to reach out to me if you're watching this video Um, and it's not live feel free to comment below, you know, put a you know Comment below a chat. Let me know what's going on in your life Uh, you know, what what you want to hear about on this channel feel free to do any of those things I want to hear from you. Um And paul, I'm gonna work on editing that uh, caesar salad video I mean that that was a good caesar salad. You're gonna see it. You're gonna see it and go That looks like a good caesar salad. Um, so I'm gonna get that edited. Uh, I'll finish my mind And excuse me not my mindfulness my vision and mission statement one very soon So that'll be going up and paul you had questions about that. I think you're really gonna like that video So guys, I really appreciate you being here. Let me switch over to this other screen here real quick You can tell I'm ending can't you you can tell I'm ending. 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