 them to another Narc Survivor Live video. I'm out here at the beach today, living my best life. Got a view of the city and the distance there. I just drove up all the way. So you might think that there are a lot of things that hurt the narcissist, but actually it all comes back to one thing. That's right there's one thing that hurts the narcissist more than anything else and no matter what it is that you think has hurt them, it always comes back to this one thing. There's really only one thing that hurts the narcissist and that one thing is rejection. Nothing hurts them more than rejection and in fact that is the only thing that hurts them. No matter what you can think of whether it's you didn't do you didn't want to do something that they want you to do, you didn't listen to them or you wanted to do something your way. You rejected their proposal or idea. It still comes back to rejection or you expose the narcissist. Again that's rejection. So it doesn't matter what it is whatever you can think of it comes back to this one thing which is rejection. That is the only thing that hurts them and of course when you reject a narcissist or anyone for anyone rejection is very painful. For a narcissist that is 10 times worse it causes a narcissistic injury which will be followed by narcissistic rage and at that moment there is no telling what they might do. They can become very unpredictable in that moment. You may think that you know them and you may have known them for years but once they feel slighted rejected they feel like you do not know them at all. You'll feel like you don't even know who the hell you're dealing with. Like they will become a completely different person to anything else you've ever seen before. Like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde they will just suddenly change completely and they may even lash out at you. There's really no telling what they might do but they will desire to take revenge on you and that could be in any way that they think of. Whatever they think will get to you the most that's what they're going to do. Whatever they think will hurt you the most which for you you might not care about rejection that might not bother you you might not care about that. So they will tailor make it to you. If you're not bothered about rejection they'll do something else. They'll do something that they know will get to you because remember they've studied you to see what you like and what you dislike. What bothers you what hurts you the most and then they're going to go and do that because they've listened to the things that you say and they zone in on whatever they think will hurt you. But yes for them for the narcissist the number one thing and the only thing that hurts them is rejection. And I'm sure many of you who are watching this right now you've already seen it. If you say no to a narcissist that's pretty much a guaranteed narcissistic injury because as we know hurt people hurt people. It goes for anyone but it's ten times worse for a narcissist. So when they feel hurt they will want to hurt you. And if for whatever reason they can't hurt you they're gonna hurt someone else. It's got to come out somewhere. So they will lash out at someone if it's not you. And oftentimes they could even be children. They may physically abuse the kids and they may do it in front of you just to get a reaction because they know that might be the number one thing that will hurt you. But they will do anything. Whatever they think is going to get to you they will hurt you because they feel hurt they feel rejected. And as I've said that is what hurts them the most. It is the only thing that hurts them. I mean we can go deeper into this. We can go a lot deeper into this actually because there is a reason why rejection hurts them so much and that's because they lack a sense of self. And I can say this from my own experience because I think in my past there was a time where I was quite sensitive to rejection and that's because I lacked a sense of self. I didn't really know who I was. I hadn't really found my identity because maybe I was quite sheltered in life. But now at this point in my life I feel like I have found myself. I'm very secure with myself. I could even say that I love myself for who I am, who I've become, the work that I put in every day to be the person that you see today. The one who was inspiring millions of people around the world. Changing lives. Making people happier. So at this point in my life when I have a strong sense of self I know who I am. I know my strengths, my abilities. Rejection is not going to hurt me. The haters, the trolls, they can put whatever they like in the comments. It doesn't matter what they say about me. It's not going to hurt me because I have a strong sense of self. I have a strong identity. I know who I am. But with narcissists they have a very weak sense of self. And there's no, there's no inner sense of value. There's no value coming from within. It's generated from external things. So of course they're easily slighted, hypersensitive. And you will find yourself walking on eggshells around them because any little thing you say or do can potentially hurt them and then they will feel rejected. But for people who have a strong sense of self they probably just laugh it off. They wouldn't get into them because they know who they are. They have a strong identity and that is the difference. A person who knows who they are and what they've done to become the person that they are today is very difficult to sway, very difficult to move. But with narcissists they don't really know who they are. They just bits and pieces of everyone else, things they've seen in movies. And that's what they've used to create this identity. So it has a very weak foundation and structure. Which means that anything you say, anything you do, they're like loose cannons. The font could go off at any moment. You just don't know. Any little thing you say could set them off. Because they're very hypersensitive. So a lot of times you wouldn't even know what you've done wrong. And you might go to them and ask them what the issue is. And they can't even tell you. Because even they don't know because it has nothing to do with you. It's something coming from within them. Because the value is not generated from within. Their self-identity is not generated from within. It could be molded and shaped by things around them. Anything can change how they see themselves. Which then if they feel rejected it causes them to lash out at you. So yeah I said we were gonna go deeper into it and I mean I think that is pretty deep. For a short live video. But that's really what it is. That's what's happening. That's what's going on inside their minds. When you see them and they get aggressive and they lash out at you. They want to hurt you. That's why. And you know I think we should have compassion as well. Because understand that they do feel hurt. It's not a nice feeling. No one wants to feel hurt. No one wants to feel rejected. I mean you may not be hypersensitive to it like they are. But you may still feel something. I mean of course we all have weaknesses, vulnerabilities. That's normal. That doesn't mean that you're not a healthy individual. That just means you're human. So with that in mind I think we can show compassion and forgiveness. But of course from afar. That doesn't mean you have to get deeply involved in their situation and caught up with their emotions. Because of course that has nothing to do with you. You know it's not your problem to fix. So you don't need to get involved in that. But I'm just saying compassion and forgiveness that really is the key. And especially for giving yourself. But yeah that's it. That is the one thing that really hurts the narcissist the most. And the only thing. It's rejection. I feel like I'm in heaven right now. Just walking on the beach. The sun is shining. Got a view of the city and the distance there. Coconut trees. I think right now it's safe to say I am living my best life. And I will continue to do so wherever I go. And share this message with you. Because I know there's so many people out there who need to hear this today. So with that being said please give this video a thumbs up. If it was helpful for you. Maybe it could be helpful for someone else as well. So let's spread the awareness. Let's get this message out there. Let's make a difference in the world. That's what it's all about. Share the video. 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