 Just drinking some tea Japanese quality. It's pretty good So in this one We're going to be talking about something That's kind of different I Notice that it isn't something I've spoken about for a while, but earlier on In my channel It seemed to attract a lot of attention There was one video I did on this topic Had with 40,000 views So I thought I'd do another video Maybe go a bit deeper into it with my own experiences as well because when we think of narcissists I mean you look at them on the outside Let's be real They have this image of perfection and I know a lot of you will know what I'm talking about I mean, I've been with a few narcissists myself of course, they were all female and They all portray this image of perfection to the world Often at my expense of course But they had it all they have the designer clothes They took care of their hair They had very expensive designer makeup They had the nails They really had it all and it was very important for them To portray this image to the world because of course it's all about how everyone sees them But behind closed doors And I'm sure a lot of you will relate to this They're very lazy They just leave their dirty clothes all over the place They don't clean the dishes they just don't clean up after themselves at all and You'll find that When it comes to having people over Then you've got to go around and clean everything up It's like They're too important for that That's meant to be your job and they just expect you to do it They expect you to go around after them and clean everything up. I Don't know about you, but in my experience. I was doing the narcissist clothes Washing them pretty much every day and even Cleaning up after she'd cut You've been doing the dishes and I'm a vegan she ate meat And she would cook and all of the Juices from the meat would be all over the kitchen And I'd have to be the one to go and clean it all up Because if I didn't it would just be left there for days Maybe even over a week and then there's the bin The bin always add just Rubbish piled on top of each other Like the rubbish was almost like Twice as high as the actual bin And if I didn't deal with it Then it'd be all over the floor and it would just be left there. I'm sure Many of you have experienced as well These narcissists who sleep around They cheat on you they go behind your back And then suddenly you start having these symptoms Maybe they gave you an SD guy Because that's another thing that they neglect as well They don't even care if they have SD guys they won't even get a test And they'll just pass it on to you without even thinking about it without a care I mean, there's just so many different things Some of them they don't even take a shower. They don't they don't even brush their teeth And yet they do their hair. They do their makeup They do all of these things to portray this image of perfection When you already know that the opposite is true And it can be really Frustrating really irritating because they're portraying this image And you already know the reality is nothing like that You already know that they're fake Because you know exactly what they're like you've lived with them You've seen all of these things behind closed doors and it's like When other people come around Now you have to do all of the dirty work just to prop up their image To make them look good in front of other people So you're enabling Them to be these filthy animals So yeah, that's my take on it. That's my experience Let me know down below in the live chat if you can relate If that's something you've experienced as well, I'd like to hear from you But yeah, it can be quite a disgusting experience with these narcissists They just tend to be very lazy They're only focused on this superficial image the things that other people see Anything else. They're just not concerned about it they're not worried about that and Sadly because you're the closest person to them You're the one who sees it all You see all of the disgusting things about them, I mean, I'm sure with the men You may be dealing with a narcissist who maybe they dress nice when they go out And then it's like only you know Maybe they haven't shaved their legs or their armpits for about a week and yet you have to deal with that when you get back home They don't do any self care. They don't try to make themselves look good for you It's like they just let themselves go. They don't even go to the gym. They don't exercise They don't eat the right foods. They just eat junk food every day And on top of that you may be the one who is paying for it. I mean that used to frustrate me as well Go into the supermarket pretty much every day and buying all of this junk food for the narcissist Just so she could let herself go and then it's like when you finally get fed up of it And you're about to walk out Then suddenly they switch it up They start taking care of themselves again Then they want to go to the gym They want to dress better And then it's like by that point. It's too late I've already seen all of these things I've already seen These things that have scarred me for life And now my mind is never going to be the same again So it's like no matter what you do It's just too late now And I'm sure many of you can relate to that as well I mean some of the things I don't even want to mention it on this video But I've seen some things But I was almost sick and it just scarred my mind. I mean I've seen Women who One who models I did another one who came from very Very nice location. Let's just say that I can't say where it is exactly And these girls were picking their nose farting Just doing all these disgusting things and only I had to see that And once they had seen it It's very difficult to unsee it But yeah, let's just look through the live chat here. See what people are saying Druid VW says she bragged about not bathing She thought she smelled great Yeah, it's like a lot of them can't even see it. I mean, I think I said before it's like Imagine you walk into someone's house and it stinks It might stink to you but to them because they live there every day they used to it So they don't even smell what you smell Gordon Bennett says these people are demonic Yeah, I guess you could see her that way. I mean You know, what is of God is to be? Clean to be pure Taking care of her bodies Taking care of her homes as well. Of course Carvarado says they start getting in shape and eating better When there is a new supply in the picture. I don't even then From my experience, it's still just about the outer image It's like When the new supply comes around They might start doing their hair better Wearing new clothes doing their makeup But underneath they're still dirty They still don't change anything about that. I Don't know if it's just too much work for them or they're very lazy or I mean, yes, they are definitely very lazy Minimalist Bosnian says no friends in real life because apparently everybody is fake But they are popular online for my experience Narcissists are actually They tend to be surrounded by fake people And not only that but narcissists typically have tons of friends They just can't be alone They can't just even online even Social media dating apps that isn't enough for them They've got to have someone there And they can't be alone even for a day Just one day alone. They would experience extreme depression. They would probably go insane They really are addicted to people And they love fake people as well They don't really like us in past that they target us They just see us as an easy target, but they hate us. They don't really want to be around us They want to be around their own kind. That's what they feel comfortable with So that's my opinion on that Trisha Dana says my narc ex gave me an attitude Like I was lucky he let me pick up after him LOL narcissists don't grow up They go from diaper to diaper Yeah, that's really how it is. They just expect you to see it as a privilege to be around them And they expect you to just clean up everything after them I've said it before they are like big babies And they throw these temper tantrums when you don't do what they want It's like they always need to be fed and he be burped. They need to have their diaper changed As wise they throw a tantrum John Tracy says she always slammed the toilet seat down hard But making strange noises while on the toilet All the neighbors hear the commotion Well, I feel bad for you there John Yeah, they can be really embarrassing Sometimes in public as well. It's like they just don't even see it Like how they're behaving Because they're so full of themselves and they just don't care sometimes But yes, I've experienced that as well the noises on the toilet And I said they didn't even care Anonymous 2281K says somatic narcissists tend to be in shape Because their supply comes from their bodies Yes, that is very true Somatic narcissists they do use their bodies to attract attention But even then just because they keep in shape There's still all of these other things that they neglect Because as I said they are very lazy And they really see it as though these things are beneath them As though they shouldn't have to go around cleaning everything So as you probably experienced a narcissist bedroom is typically an absolute mess It's usually like clothes everywhere That they haven't washed for days or even weeks That's been my experience About 561 Narcissists can get real comfortable in other people's homes While others pay all the bills and do all the work Yeah, that's been my experience Where the narcissist was just sitting back Without a care about anything And I was the one paying for the rent, paying for all of the bills Doing all of the work And they just sit back and put their feet up Or they just sleep all day And yet no one else knows about it It's like we're the only ones, we have to take accountability for it Just looking for the comments here Tony Ashby says they are master manipulators Yes, that's really true I mean that's what this video is about How they portray this image to the world But it really is all manipulation As you probably know, they're not really like that behind the scenes And not only the narcissist that you dealt with But even these narcissists you see on social media You see them on TikTok or Instagram And they're able to present this image on there Whether it's for a few seconds or a few minutes And it's all just an orchestration You don't see what they're like in real life Everything these days it's all just an illusion They're all just selling this dream But in my life I like to keep things real I like to show things as they actually are I mean of course I do like to take care of myself physically But everything you see it's how it is And what you see on Instagram that is actually How I live my life and how I have lived my life For the last four years, nearly five years I've been travelling every day around the world Exploring That is actually how I live in real life It's nothing fake Nathan Pointer says I had a narcissist girlfriend for five years And she couldn't take any edification And put her problems on everyone else Yeah that's been my experience too I mean that is what they will do They take no accountability at all It's always someone else's fault It's always someone else's problem Someone else has to deal with it Especially at the end of the relationship They will blame you for everything And then you've got to pick up all of these problems behind them After they're gone The awesome asks what makes good supply A good supply for a narcissist Is someone who just does whatever they want Someone who is at their beck and call Someone who is susceptible to the manipulation They believe everything they say When the narcissist says jump The supply says how high And they're just always there They just don't have a life of their own Forget about their work, their purpose Whatever they'd like to be doing Their hobbies and interests All of that is pushed to the side Someone said something about children in the live chat And yeah typically If you have children with a narcissist Even though you may be working You may be the one who's bringing in all of the money You'll find that You may even have to take the day off work Or you're taking the kids to work as well And you're taking on all of these Responsibilities there At the same time while you're working It's like they expect you to do it all They expect you to do everything Anonymous2281K says this Financially rich narcissist out there Just so you know And we're fighting against higher principalities and powers Yes, but even these Financially rich narcissists I mean this is kind of off the topic But even they portray this Allusion to the world It looks like they have it all And they're very successful But then what you don't see behind the scenes Is that they're not actually What you see behind the scenes Is that they're not taking care of their children properly And They're very cheap with Certain things in their lives They might have a nice house And a nice car But then maybe when it comes to food They're very cheap with that So it's all just an image It's all just about what other people see If they can just use the money to put on a show They'll just do that And then they don't worry about anything else Stacey V says Please stop comparing people to animals Animals are way better than people by far We wish we were animals Animals don't kill animals Don't abuse animals Don't manipulate They kill to eat No, I agree with you there I just thought it would make a good title Of course I do love animals as well I am a vegan myself But yeah, definitely I'd rather be With an animal, a pet Rather than with a narcissist As you know I usually take my Cat, Nala with me Wherever I go Unfortunately I couldn't get it here to Vietnam I miss her a lot And my cat, I would choose her Over any narcissist Really any person in this world Other than my daughter of course My cat and my daughter They are equal to me There are a lot of comments here But I think that's enough to say for this topic I mean it's quite simple And I don't think I'm really revealing anything That people don't already know I mean if you've lived with a narcissist You're going to know You've experienced it already And the reason why They do this It's typically because They're lazy Or they think that it's beneath their consideration They're too important for it Someone else's job Someone else has to deal with it And sometimes I haven't mentioned yet But some narcissist It's like they It's like they Almost get off On disgusting you And this is something that I have actually experienced as well Narcissists who They may pick their nose or farts on purpose And they want you to be aware of it Just so they can disgust you It's like they want to put you off And sometimes they will do it Just to put you off having sex with them And it's just really weird I mean a normal person is not going to behave like that They're going to have some decency They're going to have some self-respect But yeah, narcissist Some of them will actually do this for supply Because it's still getting them attention It's getting you to notice them And in their minds that actually gives them power over you If they can disgust you As crazy as that sounds, yes There are actually narcissists like that out there And I've experienced it myself And actually I've experienced it more than once A few times And I think what it is is When I look at myself And I'm sure people look at me as well And clearly I'm a person who takes good care of myself I make a lot of effort in my appearance I shave every day I have a haircut often I wear makeup, I am my clothes I do all of these things And I think certain narcissists when they see me They instantly feel inferior They feel like They're not going to be sexually enticing to me So instead what they do is they go the other way And they just try to Intentionally turn me off Because they're looking at it like They've got a better opportunity To gain power over me by doing that And trying to attract to entice me And I'm sure those of you who are watching this You take good care of yourself You're physically attractive You will have experienced this at some point as well And that is the reason why they do it But many of us were empaths It may trigger us and make us look at ourselves And then we think We're not good enough, we're not sexually attractive to them When in fact it's the opposite They feel inferior to us And that is why they do it But yes, that's it for this video I think that's enough for this one And it looks like it's attracted quite a lot of attention 132 live viewers But only 46 thumbs ups So if you found this video helpful Please give it a thumbs up down below It helps to support our community Other than that, thank you all for joining Let me know if you agree with it or not Let me know your experiences in the comment section I read your comments every day Share and subscribe And as always, I will talk to you in another video very soon