 وَأَقُولُ فِي القُرْعَانِ مَا جَاءَتْ بِهِ آيَاتُهُ فَهُوَ الْكَارِيمُ الْمُنْزَالُهُ وَأَقُولُ قَالَ اللَّهُ جَلَّ جَلَالُهُ وَالْمُصْطَافَ الْهَاديِ وَلَا أَتْ أَوْوَالُهُ الحمد لله رب العالمين وهو الحمد الحسن والثناء الجميل وأشدوا لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له يقول الحق وهو يهدي السبيل وأشدوا أن محمدا عبده ورسوله صلى الله عليه وعليه وعلى آله وأصحاره والتابعين لهم بحسان إلى يوم الدين أما بعد وإندما ظاهر دنول هما The ways and forms in which low aspiration manifests وإن شاء الله تعالى today we are going to go into the 18th and that is that if تخارب الآباء إلى عظام والعيش وعلى أمجادهم it is to praise your forefathers and to live off their honor and reputation there are some people who have pious predecessors in their lineage maybe their father is a scholar or is a doctor or engineer or a scientist they have a cellophane they are pious honorable individual before him whether it be his father or granddad or great granddad who has proceeded either in knowledge or virtue or both and has received high aspiration gained high aspiration in his life so what this person does is that they live off the honor of their father they live off the honor of either the granddad or great granddad they don't exert any effort they don't come with any hard work they just feed off the actions of their fathers or their father or their mother their grandmother that's what they do وَلِذَا الْخِدَ بَوْتِهِ سَيْدَا مَلْحَيْهُ عَشَبِ عَضْمِ مَيْتِينَ فَذَا كَلْ مَيْتُ حَيّْونَ وَهُوَ مَيْتُونَ if a person who is alive lives off the honor of the dead then the dead are actually alive and you are actually the dead one the poet said and the scholars they say to the person who tries to say my father was this my father said this my father my father lives off his father's honors and his father's hard work they say a line of poetry to that person they say اذا افتخلت بي آباء إلاهم شرفون نعمة رجال ولكن بيسما ولدو if you try to tell us the honor of your father and how noble he was and his virtue we will say to you نعمة رجاله honorable were those men that you talk about honorable is your father honorable is your granddad and the ones that you talk about ولكن بيسما ولدو but evil did they give birth to we say to you so it's a line of poetry it's said to a person who tries to live off what their father was or their mother or their grandmother they want to live off that they don't want to come with work they don't want to come with hard work and efforts and etc they want to live off the honor the virtue the the status of their forefathers وما أجمل قول من قالل one of the beautiful statements was that which was said by the one who said it إذا إلام تكون بفعالي نفسي كسامية لم يغني عنك سمو من تسمو به ليس القديم على الجديد براجع إلام تجده آخدم بنصيبه he said إلام تكون if you're not بفعالي نفسي كسامية if you're not going to drive your own nafs to high levels if you're not going to push yourself to your potentials if you're not going to achieve your the goals in life that you want to achieve that you need to achieve لم يغني عنك سمو من تسمو به it won't help you the people who you're trying to use their honor and their reputation and their biography those who you're trying to take from their energy and their efforts and their hard work ليس القديم على الجديد براجع the old is not one that returns back to the new if something is old and it's been used it can't come back to being new again إلام تجده آخدم بنصيبه if you don't take your portion and that which is needed trust me my father was this it's not going to help you only that because there's a very famous Samali improv of where they say and I'll translate it they say my father has a camel what is better than that is to say I have a donkey in other words the honor and the good that your father has has got nothing to do with you my father has a camel my father has this my father is rich my father is well how could that? no what is better is I have a I have an egg is better what you own is better and also the poet also said ليس الكريم بمن يدني سعر الله ويرامر أته تكون بمن مضأ حتى يشيد بناءه ببنائه ويزين صالح ماءته بما أته the poet he said the generous one the unknowable one is not one ليس الكريم بمن يدني سعر الله the righteous person the smart the clever the one who has high aspiration is not one that destroys his own reputation he doesn't destroy himself and does not then see once he destroys his own reputation he doesn't then see ويرامر أته تكون بمن مضأ and then he doesn't see that his dignity it's in those who preceded him that his forefathers or his grandparents no حتى يشيد بناءه ببنائه until he comes and he strengthens his infrastructure himself with them he uses them to perfect himself and become a better person ويزين صالح ماءته بما أته and what the rise and noble one does is that he beautifies himself with the things that they did he builds on what they built on so he uses his parents اونا as a stepping stone to grow his legacy and his righteous works and his obedience to الله سبحانه و تعالى and even in the world if you came to a job today think about it and they asked you how are you where have you studied where have you learnt and you keep saying my father do you know who my father is you know what my father said you know what my father achieved you know what my father or you say my mother my mother is this my mother and with that in any way shape or form be a reason for you to be given that job and they know you don't know your right hand from your left hand they won't give you the job it just shows what is your father got to do with this situation when okay great he is and noble he is praiseworthy he is as you say but what have you achieved we want to know you the other one that's going to work for us so don't try to use your mother's honor or your father's honor or your grandparents grandfather grandmother whatever it may be to get around in this world and yes some people do and vice versa is true don't let your forefathers wrong doings your father may not have been a great person and he may have been a criminal for instance that doesn't mean that you're a criminal by default no he doesn't mean that it doesn't mean that و لذلك the ayah says يخرج الحية من الميتي و يخرج الميتي من الحي الله سبحانه وتعالى according to some of those of one of the views in the ayah that الله may bring a disbeliever from from him الله means a believer إبراهيم عليه السلام his father was not a believer الله brought him out and إبراهيم عليه السلام preached his father a prophet from the أول العزم من الرسول from one of the five chosen prophets according to if there is that opinion or that opinion is strong he's one of the five نبي الله إبراهيم he is خليل الله he came from a non-muslim who's in the hellfire his father is in the hellfire إبراهيم عليه السلام نوح عليه السلام he's a prophet of Allah he is he gave birth to a non-muslim boy who died in that state so from a noble prophet came a disbeliever and from a disbeliever came a noble prophet الله سبحانه وتعالى كل مرئ بما كس براهيم قم wondering how do and effort they exert and the hard work they come with no one is going to take somebody else's actions unless of course they were the reason for that person to do that action then yes but if not you're not going to take the sin of your father and nor are you going to take the reward of your father's actions his actions are his and your actions are yours يعمل جدًا جدًا جدًا يعمل جدًا يعمل جدًا هو ما أنت ستكون مجردًا جدًا على يوم القيامة وماذا فاتمة صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول لي أنه يعمل جدًا فاتمة رضي الله تعالى عنها وماذا فاتمة يقول لها صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول لها فاتمة أسألني على ما يريد ما يريد من my wealth I'll give it to you لكن I cannot help you the day of judgment from the punishment of Allah سبحانه وتعالى I can't do anything for you يوم القيامة if Nabi الله محمد said that his own daughter فاتمة who he loved صلى الله عليه وسلم that shows that we can't do anything for our own children and our children need to understand that that they need to work hard for themselves I'm going to now go into the 19th مظهر من مظاهر دون والهما and that is المزاحي والإسفافي فيه going overboard in joking and being excessive in it and this happens a lot by by the way between the people وهذا الأمر يقتر وقوعه بين الناس it happens a lot between the people so you see a person يغلب عليه كثرة المزاحي والإسفافي والتمادي فيه excessively joking there's no you hardly find this person serious it's always joking always you meet joking وهذا الأمر مظهر من مظاهر دون والهما وهذا الأمر مظهر من مظاهر دون والهما and this really is a form of low aspiration because joking drops veneration and respect فالمزاح يسقط الهما ويخل بالمرؤة ويجري السفهاء والاندال joking too much and laughing too much what it does to you is that it takes away veneration and respect for you it also takes away from your honor and your reputation and it opens the tongue of the dim-witted ones ويجري السفهاء the dim-witted ones will open their tongues at you وقيلة في بعض منطور الحكم it was said in one of the wise statements المزاح يأكل الهيبة كما تأكل النار الحطب joking excessively eats your honor and the respect and the veneration كما تأكل النار الحطب the way that the fire eats the wood and also it was said by the wise من كثرة مزاحه زالت هيبته anyone who's joking and laughing is excessive beyond and above the respect for him drops من كثرة مزاحه زالت هيبته the respect and the honor that the people have for you will drop ابن عبدالبرر رضي الله وقاد كريه جماعة من العلماء الخوض في المزاح ابن عبدالبرر رحمة الله he said there are a large number of scholars who disliked الخوضة في المزاحه to indulge deeply and excessively into laughing and joking لما فيه من دميم العقب because he has a bad ending ومن التوصيل إلى الأعراض and it means to go into other people's honors وستجلع بالضغائن and it brings out bad feelings وإفساد الإخاء and joking وكان يقال ابن عبدالبرر also says in his he says وكان يقال لكل شيء بد ابن عبدالبرر he said everything has a beginning وبد العداوة المزاح and the beginning of enmity and hate from one person to another starts by a joke one person made وكان يقال لو كان المزاح فحلا ما ألقح ألقح إلا الشر يعني قنضه and I want you to think with me here as well how many people do you know who stopped talking to each other because one person made a joke about the other person and if this person even asks for forgiveness this other person thinks that this person meant it deliberately سعيد من العاصل رضي الله تعال عنه he said وَلَدْ دَنِيْا فَيَجْتَرِقَ عَلِكِ سعيد من العاصل and he said do not joke with an honorable person because in his heart something may enter it hate towards you وَلَدْ دَنِيْا دُوْنَوْكِ with a low individual insignificant person فَيَجْتَرِقَ عَلِكِ and then he opens his tongue at you he doesn't know your honour and your reputation and your respect he doesn't know it you joked with him he thinks he can joke with you and then he jokes to you about things that are so irrelevant things that are your honour but the other one opened that door وَمَيْمُونُ بْنُبْمِهْرَانِ he said فَاَخِلُهُ الشَّتْمُ وَالْلِطَّابُ وَمَيْمُونُ بْنُمْهْرَانِ كَاتِبُ عُمَرُ بْنَ عَبدِ العَزِيز he was the writer for عُمَرُ بْنَ عَبدِ العَزِيز وَمَيْمُونُ بْنِمْهْرَانِ he used to write for عُمَرُ بْنَ عَبدِ العَزِيز and عُمَرُ بْنَ عَبدِ العَزِيز كان لا يقرب إلى الأفاضل عُمَرُ بْنَ عَبدِ العَزِيز would only bring close to himself the honorable people, the general, the noble people that's the people that were around عُمَرُ بْنَ عَبدِ العَزِيز so وَمَيْمُونُ بْنِمْهْرَانِ is a great Imam he said if joking is the beginning of the speech فَاَخِلُهُ الشَّتْمُ وَالْلِطَّابُ the ending of that conversation is going to be insult and beating physical and abusive the language is going to come from it the poet he said the poet he said if you want to joke do not let your joke be a joke where bad manners is followed with it many people they joke but it's disrespect for what they just said there's some jokes that are good but some people their jokes are disrespect for example they would joke about someone's appearance or someone's looks and they will make that a joke that one تُضافُ بِهِ الى سُوءِ الى أدب if that's bad manners let's put the joke aside but that is سُوء الى أدب so then that's something you shouldn't say generally even if it was in a joke something you shouldn't generally say the kind of jokes that you look at when the Imam is generally jokes that don't it's not targeting a person or that they're trying to hurt the person it's not like that and like the woman that came to the Messenger and she said and he said elderly people don't enter Jannah she cried and the Messenger he said to her he was joking with her because Jannah is young so the Prophet ﷺ in no way she performed did he attack her no way did he belittle her صلى الله عليه وسلم some people's jokes are insults, name calling in their jokes and when you say why did he say that he goes oh I was only joking sometimes I was only joking and whether they're serious you can't even tell the difference so he said لا تمزحا فإذا مزحت فلا يكن مزحا تضاف به إلى سوء الأدب but if you choose to joke then there will be a joke that doesn't accompany it bad manners and bad etiquettes وحد الممازحة تعود عداوة and be careful of a joke that will bring about enmity إن المزاحة joking is actually على مقدمة الغضبي it's the introduction and the beginning of anger another poet he said فإياك المزاحة فإنه be careful and stay away from joking فإنه يجري عليك الطفلة because it will make the child a little kid and open his tongue at you وَدَّنِسَنَّدْلَا and also the insignificant will also open his tongue at you وَيُذْهِ بُمَا أَلْوَجْهِ بَعْدَ بَهَائِهِ it will take away from you the نور on your face يعني the veneration and the respect that was coming from you وَيُورِثُ مِنْ بَعْدِ عِزَّتِهِ ذُلَّا and all of the honor that you had what it will inherit to you now is humiliation joking سبحان الله this is something that a person needs to understand the importance of reducing on it the intent here is not to joke at all that's not what I'm saying here what I'm saying is don't be excessive in doing it and also don't do it to everybody some people you're serious with them and you're and in some situations you have that character with some people it's not every place and everywhere you do it and you do it with the amount that is needed and when the time comes on when you need to be serious if that goes then what happens is disrespect and if you're always excessively serious it may bring about it may bring about boredom people might become bored of listening to you so joking the scholars they say joking is like salt in the food in عُدِما أو زاد على الحدي if there's no joking there's never joke then you can imagine no salt and if you increase in joking then you can imagine food with so much salt it doesn't become praiseworthy right but with that it's a line of poetry in two lines of poetry a poet said sometimes in your nature in the way you are follow it with a bit of joking be someone who sometimes jokes but remember he said but if you're going to give into joking those situations that you feel like there needs to be a joke فَلْيَكُلْ لَرِيْبِ بِمِقِدَارِمَ تُرْقْتِطْطْعَامَ مِنَ المِنْحِيْ make it like the salt when it comes to adding it to the food do you add too much food into the salt no food do you add too much salt into the food no you don't the same way you don't and is it praiseworthy if there's food with no salt in it whatsoever no not really it doesn't taste good so that is the balance that is needed laughing and joking too much and becoming excessive in that is an indication that a person lacks and high aspiration and the question here is just how is that possible what is the relationship with joking and high aspiration the relationship is that high aspiration is a person who is focusing on what is serious and what is important in life and generally speaking the important things in life are serious they are not things that are that are not jokes it's not a matter of joking serious things in life that you have to achieve they require sweat and blood you see you need to sweat for it if you want to gain weight sorry if you want to lose weight you want to be in shape it's not a joking matter when you go to the gym and you need to work out sweat that's what it is if you want to memorize the Quran it requires lack of reducing on your sleeping it requires spending your time alone with yourself, revising repetition all of that it's not a joking matter joking too much takes away from your seriousness in things that you need to achieve you'll take everything as a joke and that's what happens to many people their personality of laughing too much excessively and joking too much excessively it does generally speaking go into other things in their lives the way they are to their children the way they're with their partner the way they're you tend to find their life is not in order mainly because they're not a serious person they take everything as a joke so الجد والاجتهاد والصبر والمصابرة hard work exerting a lot of effort patience and there are times in your life that you need to joke لكن إذا أعطيته المزح فليكون بمقدار بمقدار ما تعتقد طعم من الملحي let it be controlled don't go overboard lack excessively and don't become laxity school regarding it I'm going to stop there anything which I've said that was wrong or incorrected from me and Shaytan and his message are both free from it سبحانك اللهم السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته how can you do a two second action right now that will give you a share of the reward of everything we're doing on this youtube channel simple like this video and click subscribe why it will allow youtube to recommend our videos to other users and imagine the huge amount of reward that could be waiting for you on the day of judgement if you did that with a sincere intention of spreading the deen of Allah you'll be rewarded for every single person who benefits from one of our videos as a 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