 So recently, I was watching a video about from a divorce attorney telling men all the reasons not to get married from financial consequences to others. And I thought to myself, think about this. When you're giving advice telling people what not to do, especially when it comes to commitment, you're actually degrading the whole process of dating, mating, or relating. That's the point of entering into a relationship at some point if you don't either move in together or get married. And I want to lean into the other reasons beside this divorce attorney giving advice on telling men particularly what not to do. So why is it today we see such a proliferation of casual relationships? And I think it's really important to examine this because casual relationships opens the door for so much short lived relationships. That's right, short lived relationships. And this is because we have now become a society here in the United States. And did you know that roughly 50% of adults are single? I mean, I was like shocked to think about that number. And when you think about all the people who got married at my mom and dad's era and whatnot, and I can understand younger people but not being married, 50% are single. That's a pretty high number. And so what that causes is, as I said a moment ago, casual relationships. These are the relationships that really don't have any real meat to them. They don't have a lot of trust and they don't have a lot of commitment. And I believe the reason why this has happened is because we have turned more into a hookup culture here, particularly in the United States. And that might be true for all over the world. This hookup culture because of these devices, because of swipe dating, the easy access to connect with people. And I think men in particular are playing a game. Now, I don't believe they do this intentionally. I don't believe this is a true conscious game. But the game is this, that you could simply tell someone you want a relationship. And I think women hear that that's something significant. And this is why I want to draw attention to this, because ladies, don't let guys get away with this. Just when a man, when you're meeting a man maybe for the first time through an internet connection, or maybe you've met them even out in the real world, that does occasionally happen. I think it's important that when two people begin to start to feel romantic towards one another, you start to have romantic feelings towards someone. I think it's critically important to define what it is you both want, okay? Now, on a complete side note, and I'll come back to this in a second, I hope. You know, I was watching, I shared this recently in a video. I talked about this Netflix show called Indian Matchmaker. And this is where I believe it's the parents that actually reach out and hire the matchmaker, not the individuals. And I'm not certain of that, I'm just saying that out loud. But the families are actively involved with pairing two people together. So there's a real intentionality from the participants, the boy and the girl, if you will, to be intentional about this, because this is a union that's gonna lead to marriage and it's a very short courtship. Today, we don't have that level of intentionality. We don't have that level of real, what is it we're doing? Are we just dating to have a good time? Are we dating to get to know one another? What is it that we're really doing? And ultimately, what is it that you truly want? So if you follow my coaching, by the way, there's a link right here to schedule a discovery call with me. And there's a link in the description below in the first comment to schedule a discovery call with me. One of the things I help women do is get crystal clear on the type of relationship they want. Now, I don't mean the type of relationship like a situation ship or casual relationship. What I mean is who is truly compatible for them when it comes to their values, their lifestyle. And more importantly, what I teach is how to vet and screen people, how to filter out the wrong people. So if you need some help, schedule a call with me. But coming back to my point, what type of relationship? I think it's really important to ask yourself this, but more importantly, ask men, what does commitment mean to you? And more importantly, what does commitment look like for you? Take the word relationship out of the equation. But Jonathan, that will scare men away. Listen, folks, you have to play hardball. You have to, you have to be, you don't have to do anything. This is just a recommendation. But if you want to get to something deeper, then it's critically important to find out who is this person I'm dealing with. I've shared this recently in videos because I've been watching Jay Shetty lately. And he says it takes about 40 hours of face to face time just to barely get to know someone. Think about that, 40 hours of face to face time. But Jonathan, all we do is text, and that's our only form of connection. Well, that's a cyber relationship, okay? Now, come back to me and tell me what is it commitment looks like for you? What does commitment mean, but what does commitment look like for you? I got to go off on another tangent here quickly. I got to tell you a story about a client who reached out to me once and said, Jonathan, I'm in a relationship with a guy nine months and I want more commitment. I'm like, great, what does that look like for you? But Jonathan, I just want more commitment from him. I'm like, great, what does that look like for you? And she screams it at the top of her lungs again. And then she goes on to say, you're not hearing me, Jonathan. I'm like, no, you're not answering my question. If you can't determine what does commitment look like for you, then it's going to be critically difficult to know what it is from him. So if you follow my channel for a while, prior to meeting my beloved, there she is, Marie. She's out visiting her grandkids right now. My, my, my standard was really simple. My, my desire was in the early stages of building a relationship together. We'd spend two, three, four days, nights, a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in our personal and our professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional intimacy that led to either moving in together or getting married. This was my standard. So I invite you to explore what's your standard because you're, my standard doesn't apply for everyone. And in our particular case, because it was long distance, after we agreed that we were going to explore a relationship together in a very short period of time, we determined that if this was going to work, we'd have to live together. And that's been the case for the going on over five months. And that happened five months into the relationship. Why am I sharing all this with you? Because coming back to what I was saying before today, we're seeing a proliferation of hookups, situationships, casual relationships. And the reason why I don't want you to let men get away with this is because there's a lack of consequence, a lack of respect and a lack of care. What I mean to say, a lack of consequence, what I mean is if you aren't in a place to really explore a long term relationship, then why are you taking up my time? There's no consequence for him taking up your time. There's no consequence for him if there's companionship, connection and sex, if there's no commitment. But the problem is ladies, you're not establishing what commitment is right from the beginning before you begin an intimate relationship. And what this oftentimes creates is a situation where men aren't truly respecting you and, more importantly, they don't genuinely care about your well-being. You know, I can say after my divorce, I was a trainwreck. I was an emotional trainwreck and I was also very naive. And I was in, I just turned 40 when I went through a divorce. And I mean, here I'm a 40-year-old man and I was naive to relationships. And what I meant to say is I knew I wanted companionship, connection and sex. But I didn't know what commitment looked like for me because I was gun-shy, I was afraid. I wanted a relationship, but I didn't have the capacity to go any further. And so I would date someone for six weeks, we'd be intimate with one another and then something went wrong and I pulled away. And this happened again and again and again. It took me about a year to realize I was the problem. This is why I began doing a deep dive into personal development, self-help and spiritual work. And eventually I wrote a book about it called What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway, a journey into those areas. By the way, there's a link below to all the books I recommend. See, a lot of men aren't doing the work to heal from their past relationships and their behavior since going through possibly a significant divorce. And there's no consequence. Ladies, you're not establishing a consequence for a man leading you on. This is why I'm encouraging you to set that standard more importantly, set that boundary sooner rather than later because ultimately a relationship for it to truly forge, there needs to be trust and commitment. And if men are gun-shy on marriage, then, OK, let's explore one other aspect. Since my audience is mostly mid-life, which is after baby making years and before retirement, so most of my clients are somewhere between the age of 42 and 69, for the most part, have worked with younger women. I'm happy to work with younger women to get them started on this sooner. But here's the challenge for those of us who are over 50. The days in front of us are probably shorter than the days behind us. Choosing our mate, choosing someone to go to our twilight is critically important because at some point our bodies are going to fail. And do you want to do this journey alone? You know, I'm grateful to be in a position where I've helped so many women find love. I mean, real happiness. I've got so many marriages under my belt now as a coach because I threw out all the bullshit gender rhetoric that you hear. And you know, and folks, if you follow me, you know, I beg on the sit in your feminine energy and make them in, claim you kind of thing, just lean back and that's going to magically work. Folks, the reason why I beg on feminine energy is because feminine energy is simply self-empowerment. Self-empowerment, that's that's what feminine energy is. Masculine energy is self-empowerment. Feminine energy is self-empowerment. Now, they throw in words like receive, you know, being the receptive mode. I understand that maybe from a sexual perspective, sexual polarity, having that dynamic of giving and receiving, it's a penis inside a vagina. OK, I get that. But to throw out this to imply that feminine energy is something unique. It's just self-empowerment. That's why I beg on it. But why I want to dive into trust and commitment a bit more because don't let guys get away with this. Trust is really, does this person have my best interest at hand? Is this person, it's not just about fidelity. Does this person genuinely care about my well-being? And it takes a minimum of 100 hours of face to face time just to get to the first level of trust. It takes about 200 hours of face to face time just to build a good friendship provided that you're building it on a good platform. And what I mean by good platform, I mean. Is this a relationship that is designed to be a long term relationship? And today, dating is just a strung out version of situations, ships of casual relationships. I actually call it a strung out version of friends with benefits with some minor monogamy and exclusivity. Listen, I'm encouraging. This is the solution to all this. I'm encouraging what I talk about, vetting, screening, filtering. The term is called hardballing. What it means to say is a woman who is in her self empowerment doesn't allow herself to actually accept crumbs or accept a man who isn't absolutely intentional. Now, it's tough to figure these guys out. This is why you've got to do a pre-qualifying before you ever meet them. Hey, listen, you're spending all day text messaging. Why not spend all that time asking deeper questions instead of the surface questions? You know, sadly, most people have surface conversations. You think there's depth because you might be talking about some emotional things, but you're not talking. Really, most of you are not are talking about the importance. Listen, of shared values, what those really are. By the way, go to Google, type in list of values, see what they really are. But more importantly, where your values lie in the way of your ideologies as well, whether it's politics, whether it's religion, those are two critical areas to explore to determine someone's ideology and then lifestyle blendability. Folks, I talked to you about a long distance relationship I was in. We didn't explore this without really going through like really picking apart our lifestyle compatibility. And lastly, emotional maturity. You know, we have so many human beings out there that are dysfunctional or if not worse, clinical issues, men and women alike. And you could listen, we've all been indoctrinated in the belief that chemistry equals relationship success. And most of us know that's furthest from the truth. So, how do we avoid the men? What was this, men are doing this to avoid a commitment? They're hooking up, they're choosing situationships, they're choosing casual relationships. That's not really much of a commitment there. Why are they doing this? Because it's available to them. Because they don't have to make a serious commitment to someone because so many, sadly, women don't establish their standards sooner and then they find themselves attached to a person that isn't going to go the distance. Just remember, self-empowerment establishes that you're intentional. You clearly discuss what does commitment mean to you. And maybe you do this before you ever have a physical relationship with them. I don't mean kissing like that, but I'm talking about a true physical relationship. And through radical honesty, screening and filtering and vetting, as I continually talk about, is the solution to avoiding those men that avoid commitment. And don't let guys get away with this, okay? Is this sinking in? Is this resonating with you? Please let me know. Post a comment below. Hit that like button. Please share this video with your friends. If you're brand new to my channel, please subscribe to my channel. And then check out all the links below to a discovery call with me. Check out my book called What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway and all the other books. And you can check out my group to have direct access to me at Midlife Love Mastery. All right, I think this will be a great place to start to take questions from the group. For those of you who know my format, if you're on the live chat right now, you write the word question, then post the question thereafter. Or you can purchase a Super Stick or Super Chat. All the monies from the Super Stick or Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's a picture of him right there. That's my son who passed away a few years ago and in his honor, I donate to nonprofit groups like the Hoffman Process and Insight Institute. Just to name a few. And if you're watching the replay, please hit that Super Thanks to say thank you as well. All right, let's see. We got a question from Lori. Question, what do you do when a man compares you to a dead woman they were in a relationship with? Well, I guess it depends on the context. I think I've compared my... Have I compared any woman to Grace Kelly? Somebody had a big crush on growing up. It depends on the context that he did that. I think men are rather clueless. I sent a text message to a friend the other day and it came from a place of love. And I shared what this text was to another friend of mine and he implied that that person could have taken that the wrong way. And after reflecting upon it, I'm like, oh my God, how insensitive it was I. And the point is is sometimes we don't realize that when we are being loving kind and whatnot, it may not land on a person the way you expect it to land. So in this particular case, I just suspect that he probably was doing it from most likely a loving place, not recognizing that that may have some negative reaction to it. Folks, raise your hand if that's ever happened to you, inadvertently, unintentionally, have said something to somebody you care about, not realizing in the moment that it might have been taken the wrong way. Just say, yes, Jonathan, I've said something that's been taken the wrong way. So in this particular case, I would dig deeper. I would first ask yourself, why did that trigger you? And then more importantly, ask him why he chose to do that and just listen to his response. Does it feel sincere? Does it feel does it came? Did it come from a kind place or did it come from a malicious place? That's what I would ask yourself to look inward. Okay. All right. Thanks for that question. I really appreciate it. Again, if you have a question, write the word question and post the question thereafter. Hey, I want to just give a shout out to one of our new members, Malvi, by the way, folks, I do have a membership group here. There's a little join button on the home page of my channel. So if you'd like to have some free goodies, check out that on my page. Okay. Let's see. If you have a question, SJ writes, seeing a guy for four months, friends of friends, 25 years, we go on dates. He never asked me to meet his friends and family. He's open up. We agreed a monogamy last year. How to progress the really progress without pushing. You know, I think if you've been together for a year and you want to progress the relationship, I think you need to establish the standard of what you're going to do to continue the relationship. You know, sometimes you have to draw the line in the sand. Look, I don't want to continue this relationship without some sort of discussion about where this relationship is going. And if a guy gives you flak, what more information after one, well, first off, you haven't met his family. So that's a red flag right there. That's that could to me. That's a deal breaker. Okay. That's not a red flag. That's a deal breaker of someone unless there's a genuine valid reason why you haven't met his family and friends. It seems to me that you guys are in what I go back to calling, you know, your friends of friends seeing a guy for four months. Wait, you agreed to monogamy last year. Oh, I'm sorry. I thought you were dating for a year. You know, okay, so you're at the four month mark. I got to rewind a little bit. Hmm. No, listen, if listen, ladies, if the penis gets to go inside the vagina, you have every right to have serious discussions about where this relationship is going. If you're not familiar with the book eight dates by doctors, John and Julie Gottlin. By the way, there's a link below to get a copy of the book here. I'll keep it up again. These are eight separate conversations to have about where's this relationship going? So you have a book already laid out for you. I would start to peruse it chapter one peruse it on your own and say, you know what, Tim, I'm enjoying spending time with you. It appears to me. I didn't establish what I was looking for early on in a relationship. I think it's important that I'm that you understand that if we're going to continue this relationship, I'm doing it on the guys that we are forging something serious that we're either considering either moving in together or getting married after a period of time. And and, you know, period of time of within a year to two years. That's what I'm I want. What do you want? You have to pay ladies. You've got to have your spider senses up. You have to be in a place of really paying attention to his sincerity. And if he avoids any real discussion about commitment, that doesn't build trust. That doesn't build a sense of member. I said earlier, there's a lack of consequences. There's a lack of self-respect or there's a lack of respect, but more importantly, there's a lack of care. That's a man saying to you, I only care about my own needs just after you told me your needs. Because look at I want I don't want you to let guys get away with this. Listen, you have the power within you to use the word and oh, no. And yeah, and the hard part is, look at I get it, you have a real challenge to deal with today because your replacement is a swipe away. Isn't that fucking disgusting? Your replacement is a swipe away, but the reality is for a lot of men. Look at I found the top of the tree with my sweetheart. There is. There's no way I can replace her a swipe away because she showed up with clarity on what she wanted a relationship. She showed up with self-confidence, self-respect, self-esteem, self-worth. She literally established her standard in their boundary with me right from the get go. And I mean, it matched my standard. So it was rather easy until you've established what a relationship means to both of you. What does commitment mean to both of you? And more importantly, what does it look like? Then don't invest more until you have this radical honesty conversation. By the way, a lot of my clients are doing this and if a guy is genuinely into you and he isn't a jackass, he's going to want to do the work with you. What I mean by jackass, he isn't so, you know, we don't need help, you know, type of thing. I'm tired of guys who saying we don't need help. Everybody needs help. Even Tiger Woods, the professional golfer has a coach to help him. Okay, we all need help. It just shows him because there was a golf tournament going on today. All right. Thanks for that question. I really appreciate it. All right. S to pay a page says to SJ who wrote that question. What is wrong with pushing for answers and clarity? There is nothing wrong with that. Exactly. All right, let's see what other Kim Kong said. Kim Kong Kim, Kim King, excuse me, apologize for the con question. Why would a man make eyes at me and then fight? And then I find out he's been seeing along. He's been in a long-term relationship with the woman. That he later did marry. You know, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Look, you know, the other day my sweetheart and I were watching a show. The good doctor and there was a doctor on there really handsome doctor and she'd say, I do him. You know, it's okay to look. There's nothing wrong with looking. Okay. It doesn't mean anything. He just he found something attractive about you most likely. That's most likely what it means. Now he could want to be unfaithful to his partner. The real question is, why do you care? Why do you care that he looked at you? Is it really? Listen folks, one of the first things we learn in the course of miracles and I'm not trying to be biblical here because this isn't a biblical book, but I did a deep dive instead. Look at how thick this sucker is for three years with a group. I studied this book and one of the first things it talks about is oftentimes humans make meaning out of meaningless things. Okay. In this particular case, it doesn't mean anything. Now I'm not throwing you under the bus Kim. I'm just using you to illustrate something. We don't have to make, you know, you know, a lot of meaning out of something. I wouldn't make create a sense of of meaning around it. He just looked at you. Maybe you want to have sex with you. Believe me, that's a guy thing. We look at women and we immediately have sex with them in our heads. But the question is, why does it matter to you? That's the question I ask you in response to that. So thank you, Kim for that. All right. If you have a question, write the word question, post the question there after or purchase a super sticker, super chat. Let's see what else we've got here. Nina from Norway says, I love listening to all your videos. Jonathan, thank you so much. I really appreciate it. Folks, if we don't have any more questions, we're going to run out of it's going to be a short live stream today and I am willing to go for an hour if you have questions. So oh, she goes on to say I walked in the room and he blushed. So I did. Okay. Thanks for sharing that. All right. Question from Catherine. Have you found any helpful way or method to not dwell on a relationship that didn't develop in the way you wished it would? Have you found a helpful way? You know, one of the techniques I use whenever I'm feeling anxiety whenever I'm feeling unease about myself, folks, I want you to Google what's known as the Hawaiian forgiveness prayer, Hawaiian forgiveness prayer. Can someone write that in the chat box? It's also known as the Hapona, Pono, Pono, Pono. I might have butchered that. So please forgive me. The Hawaiian forgiveness prayer. So let's think about what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is for giving love, for giving love. That's what forgiveness means to me anyway. So a great way to give yourself love, the Hawaiian forgiveness prayer is like a a shot in your arm of love and it simply goes like this. Can someone write it down for me? I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. Okay. Now, why do you do this? When you might find yourself dwelling on anything, the Hawaiian forgiveness prayer is a pattern interrupt inside yourself, a pattern interrupt. It's like a neuro linguistic programming pattern interrupt. And now I'm going to share with you when I'm feeling, I'm dwelling on something when I'm lamenting, when I'm feeling anxiety like when I sent that text message and I realized it might have been taken the wrong way. By saying this over and over and over and over and over and over again. I'm giving myself love. I'm giving myself permission to say you're a human being. You make mistakes. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me and thank you. That's my invitation for what to do on that one. So Catherine, thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. And roller go just wrote it down. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. And Kim wrote down. This is the Hawaiian forgiveness prayer. Please Google that. Okay. Patricia writes question. Do guys test you before they commit to you? Well, I think we certainly test women on their boundaries when it comes to sex. Yeah, we definitely do that. I think to some degree, we don't test you in some sort of malicious way. I think ultimately what we're doing is testing the viability for men. Okay. So for like myself, I'm known as a grower or a builder. I was very clear. I wanted significant commitment and I recognize that it's it's it's okay to do therapy in relationship. It's okay to do counseling or relationship. I think it's okay to read books together. I mean relationship books. I'm a grower builder. And what a grower and builder does is they want commitment. They want commitment. So the way I tested my partner, it wasn't so much a test. It was really a recognition. Are we aligned with each other? This is why, you know, when I work with a client here, check out the link to a schedule and discovery call with me folks. So there's a link below my whole job is to help you get clarity on who's aligned with you. That's that's really what compatibility is all about. Many of you focus on the surface level of compatibility and not what really goes on underneath. And so a grower and builder wants commitment. So they're testing to determine if you're truly compatible with one other. And again, it's not a test. It's an assessment. They're doing their vetting. They're screening and they're filtering for people that can fit into their lifestyle. They're they're trying to assess your emotional maturity. And believe me, there is a lot of whack job women out there. I experienced many of them. So just recognize that, you know, not all you ladies are picnics out there. But anyway, so I hope that helps with your question of do men test. Yeah. Now men just to be clear, men who are have clinical emotional issues or are dysfunctional in their emotional maturity. They typically test on a sexual level. But keep in mind, those men are capable of commitment. Okay. So my job as a coach is to help you focus on the 20% there are. And you might be Jonathan. Where are all these men? Well, they're actually right around you. Sometimes you reject a lot of these good men because they're not as attractive as you'd like them to be. That's one thing that happens. But there are plenty of good men out there that are growers and builders. My job is to help you vet out the wrong one sooner. So you can begin to attract the right ones much faster in your life. Okay. Kathy wrote a question. Why would a man spend three years being emotionally intimate with me only to go go to other women for sex? Well, there was something obviously missing in your relationship. My question would spend three years being emotionally intimate. So men oftentimes seek feminine companionship for their emotional to to process their emotional life. Okay. So these men are when you say emotionally intimate, you probably turned into his emotional therapist, but he didn't see you as a life partner because he didn't want to combine. Well, he was using you as a therapist, which a man who is in a good place emotionally doesn't use his partner as a therapist. He uses other people as his therapist. And I say therapist, you know, in loosely, I don't mean hiring a therapist. I mean, vomiting their emotions to someone that will listen to them. And women have a greater capacity to listen to men. And interestingly enough, men don't want to speak to other men about their emotional life. But the reason why he's going to sex for someone else is he wants to not he that he wants to look, you know, masculinely powerful to someone else because he's been emotionally intimate, most likely dumping on you. And I'm not by the way, this isn't my my my answer isn't it's a generalization. It is not a fact. So it may not be the case, but genuinely speaking, that's what happens in situations like yours. So Kathy, thank you so much for sharing that. And the decision you have to make is do you want to have an emotional relationship with someone where you're not building a life together? All right. King's can says question. Woman with the man who wants to be friends and won't accept going away. Never romantic relationship insist he has none. He behaves as if he does have feelings. Why and how to cut it off? Folks, why does he do this again? The why is irrelevant? The real question is why do you accept less than what you want? I'm assuming you want Lee. I'm assuming that everyone who follows my channel wants a juicy, delicious, healthy, happy relationship that leads to either moving in together or getting married. They want partnership. So my question is, why do you accept someone who isn't on the same page as you? And how do you cut it off? You just simply say, Tim, I really appreciate the time we've been together. This isn't the kind of relationship I want to explore. I think you're a nice guy, but I'm going to move on. And by the way, be careful remaining friends with someone. You know, a friend, a friend, a friend is a person that's going to be there for you when you're going through tough times. Okay, that's what a friend is. You may have a, a social relationship with someone by communicating with them on a regular basis. I don't call that a friend. So my point of even bringing this up is cutting it off means cutting it off. You can be, you know, a social acquaintance to this person, like say happy birthday to them and stuff like that. But do you really want to build a friendship with someone when you're looking for a life mate who should eventually become your best friend and you don't need this person to be friends with just something to think about. So thank you so much for your question. Kings can Hillary writes question. How do I read a man who doesn't flirt with me or act play, playful? My top love language is words of affirmation. I know he wants to spend time with me, but I don't feel a spark. Well, are you flirty and playful with him? Are you flirty and playful with him? It's sometimes listen for a lot of men, they're clueless. They're winging it. Okay, they're winging it. We need you to bring out our playful side. You know, my sweetheart, Marie brings out my little kid. We sometimes do little kid talk to one another. And that's how we bring out our flirty and playful side with one another is when we bring out our little kid voice. Our little kid is always a little bit needy. Our little kid wants a little bit of attention. You know, that's how we flirt with one another. Now I'm not a flirting expert. I would go online. Google flirting expert start to watch some video not Google YouTube. I should say some flirting videos and be flirty and playful with him and see if he mirrors and matches you. But if there's no spark, you know, listen, relationships need a spark. Relationships need if nothing else, a good sense of humor with one another. You know, sense of humor is a critical component to a healthy happy relationship. And to me, that sense of humor brings out the spark or at least it does with with most people. You know, it's interesting. Most of you know, I shared in my previous video that my oldest dearest friend lost a child the other day almost the same age as my son who passed away. And I was talking to my ex-wife. We've actually talked every day since this has happened. And, you know, we we're not friend. We're friendly to each other, but I don't call us friends. We're family to one another. So it was like calling my sister. What was most fun about our relationship was our mutual demented sense of humor. She had so I said something a little demented to her. And she laughed folks to me sense of humor brings out the spark in a relationship and then jumping in the bed and fucking each other's brains out brings a spark in a relationship. At least that's my please forgive me for using the F word the way I did. I apologize if that offends anyone. But my point is spark usually is great sex life in a sense of humor in my world is anyway. All right. I hope that helps. Thanks so much. Bump bump. Just a reminder. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me and thank you. Yes. Laura writes question. Just to elaborate more should a man expect a new partner degree and be like his new his past partner. You like his no well should a man expect that? I mean could a man expect that? Absolutely. He could expect that. Should he know each person is uniquely different to them? I think sometimes listen if you're not familiar with the work of hold on a second. It's book called getting the love you want by Harbell Hendricks and Helen Hunt. Okay. So this book talks about our patterning of something called the amago. I am a G O can someone write that in the chat box Harbell Hendricks and getting the love you want amago. What amago means is we tend to mirror or seek relationships that are similar to something familiar in our childhood. It's an unconscious thing that happens with inside of us. So what may be happening is he has an unhealed wound related to one or both of his parents and he's choosing women. You know ladies have you ever heard the definition of insanity doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results that might be what's happening in his life because he has unhealed wounds and traumas. So the question you have to ask is how do I feel about this am I going to set a boundary and a boundary is simply what's okay and what's not okay for me and then discuss it and move forward because if he doesn't is that you got to ask yourself is this the right relationship for you. All right. Thank you so much. Catherine agrees. Sensey humor really helps build a relationship. Exactly. Page six said to Laura seems like he wanted someone like his last partner. He would still be with that person just saying good point. Rebecca to make a little play on my words but Jonathan will scare them away. Exactly. Catherine comes back with a great sense of humor. I'd love to find that again exactly and it's a mago with an I if I said a I apologize. I am a G. O. A mago in Google. I am a G. O. I miss felt a bit. Okay. Misspoke it. Good morning Jonathan everyone else. I met a man by the way folks write the word question when you're going to post a question. So DC good morning Jonathan and everyone else. I met this man online three months ago. The conversation was so easy and we're so compatible. We started texting several times a day. I was impressed with that. Okay. Folks texting is the weakest form of communication. Did you all know that 80 to 90% of communication is nonverbal hand movement facial gestures pheromones coming out. You know you're like look at this you see this is communication that you can't get through an emoji. So many of you are building these weak foundation relationships via text messaging folks get on the telephone have two hour conversations on the telephone at least you have an auditory to go with with the sensation it's in real time. So you're not having to think of your answers. You have to be intentional but eventually meet up folks and many of you are doing this because you're engaging with someone who lives too far away while all you're doing is creating a long term of pen pal and they're wasting your time. Don't let men get away with this don't let men with get away with wasting your time. If you if you met online there's mutual attraction from the photograph you've had several phone calls then find a way to meet and then spend time intentionally dating with one another. That's my invitation for you all. So thank you so much. We join says I am a G. O. Thank you for clarifying that or thank you for writing that so did roller girl and Prima. All right Priya says. My profile says looking to date with intention of marriage I'm afraid guys will run away and I will have less matches although I'm not desperate for marriage then you can reframe it saying looking for looking to date with intention of either moving in together getting married or a serious relationship and listen if you if all if you're if you're making the wrong guy run away. Why does that matter listen it's time to not let guys get away with this so yeah you may go listen you're more than welcome to do what most people are doing hooking up situations ships casual relationship but that's because ladies you're letting guys get away with that you're letting guys get away with that don't let them get away with if you all band together right now put on a chastity belt and said this is my standard going forward men would change but that ain't going to happen so do it for yourself. And you might find that with your standard you become more of a magnetic attractor for what you want. All right thank you Priya. Question I'm 53 I've been dating a man 49 for two months we have strong connection desire compatibility strong friendship developing I brought up the exclusive conversation he says he's not ready well then he's not ready for your vagina then say thank you next okay I'm not going to continue with this but sadly you guys jumped into bed together most likely I'm making an assumption here without having a commitment conversation folks coming back to the book eight dates read chapter one. Hold on a second folks look at this chapter one lean on me trust and commitment trust and commitment read that chapter for yourself before you allow the penis into the vagina but Jonathan that's so crude when you say that folks I'm trying to make a point trying to make a point here why invest in someone who's not ready for exclusivity then guess what I'm not ready I'm you know what I'm going to date someone who is ready. Okay and if he if he by the way if my girlfriend said that to me I was on the fence and she said you know I'm out of this relationship unless we had exclusivity I would have said fuck yeah I want exclusivity to why because I viewed her as the top of the tree I viewed her as the Omega I viewed her as someone who was worth it and it didn't take me that long now mind you we spoke for one year on and off now when I say on and off over the course of a year because this was a long distance we had probably seven to ten telephone calls sometimes text messages sometimes a Facebook comment and in the scheme of things it was a small amount of time that we connected till we physically met then when physically met it didn't take me more than a couple of times meeting her to go I want to I want to forge this forward if he doesn't see you that way if he treats you listen the problem with today's dating number I said hooking up situationships casual relationships is most everybody is treating you like a maybe you know I like you for this but I like you for this but you know I like how nice you are to me but you're not the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with so I'll just use you until I find that woman it is don't let this guy get away with it that's my does anyone agree with me to what I said to Kaley if I pronounced your name wrong I apologize okay thank you so much Catherine wants to remind everyone the book is Harvelle Hendricks and Helen Hunt getting the love you want that's regarding the amago check that out alright let's see what other questions we have bum bum bum bum bum Catherine says I'm holding to my standard now good for you that's exactly what I'm trying to encourage everyone to do is to hold to your standard do we have any other questions Pruta says love you Jonathan I really think that learning in leaning in has helped me save a lot of time that I could have been wasting waiting around in my sex sex sex folks I jokingly bag on the feminine energy partially because some of the coaching is related to letting the man gives and you receive look a healthy relationship is two people on the same street traveling in the two lane street traveling together at the same speed not him pulling you okay or pulling you or giving to you it's a two street it's a two lane effort okay that's my big that's my invitation for everyone it's two people equally making effort okay we don't have to characterize that is masculine or feminine we just talk about even Matthew Hustie says invest and test okay you invest a little bit and you test him to see if he invests he invests a little bit he's testing to see if you invest okay but it's not him investing him investing you just sitting here feminine and receiving and being submissive and all that stuff I was watching a woman's YouTube channel the other day that said ladies your job is to be a wife and to be submissive to men and she's a wife and she submissive to her husband and she shows her big rock on her finger I wonder what's going to happen when that relationship implodes when she's about 45 years old which it most likely will be because she's been so submissive in this relationship believing that that actually pays a dividend in the long run okay even in the movie the stepford wives those men wanted to step out folks submissive behavior guys under the feminine energy is not healthy for any of you being in your empowerment your self reliance your self-esteem your self worth your self-confidence is all wrapped into self-love self-love by the way the link below to the book my book and all the other books I recommend all right let's see what else we got here this will probably be our last few questions for the day question how do I maintain this relationship with this amazing man when I seems that I'm competing with his priorities and between me and his business well I think I've had this conversation with several clients fact one of which I actually called her boyfriend oh first off we arranged this ahead of time but I had a deep dive conversation with her and I said look I'm counseling you here but I'm a little bit biased to my client I said look I'm her big brother if I could have a shotgun out there and point at your face you know before you ever dated her I'd ask what are your intentions so we had a deep conversation about his priorities and the importance that a related so we all have okay let's differentiate between priorities and important okay so for those of us who have a business for those of us have children for those of us that have our physical health and those of us that have relationships at any given time one of those things might take precedence your children might take precedence at a given moment okay your business might take precedence but to me they're all a level of importance they're all a level of importance okay your relationship with your partner is one of the most important things to cultivate what happens is he had his professional life he had his children he had all those things before he met you and he doesn't put you in the same importance because he doesn't value the the he doesn't most likely hasn't determined he wants to fully commit to you so this is where you have your radical honesty questions about commitment because folks it's easy to use people today I just did a video about how men use women it's easy to use women and what I mean by use is companionship connection and sex without any real significant commitment do you know these days after monogamy and exclusivity most people aren't much more committed beyond that I think about that real commitment is being there for someone during the tough times real commitment is caring about the other person's feelings if this person doesn't care about your feelings enough to put it at a level of importance what does that say about him as a person and what does that say about you choosing a person like that everybody is this sinking in is this resonating please let me know all right let's keep going Hillary comes back with another question the common comment is not having to change or wanting to change someone so should I ask for change like flirting or just walking away well I don't look at as things to change I think it's about getting on the same page with one another establish your standard so what is it that is that you want from this relationship remember earlier when I was talking about that client said Jonathan I want more commitment out of my relationship and I said what does that look like for you after everyone that means something different I share with you what it meant to me but I invite you to ask yourself what does it mean to you folks I think the real one of the real problems okay I started this conversation hooking up situations ships porn did I mention pornography also has desensitized men to women I forgot to mention that earlier oh I finally got to that I looked at my notes porn has desensitized men to women we don't we men don't seem many men just don't seem to value you respect you and they and since there's no consequence for using you and I when I say using you I mean you're agreeing to it to your agreeing so you're agreeing to on some level be used because companionship connection and sex and you're thinking oh commitment will figure that out later no you got to figure that right from the get go so coming back to your question because I did should I ask for change like flirting or just walk away you establish your standard and see if he meets you where you want to be met and then ask yourself if this person doesn't align to what I want do I want to invest any more time in a person who is in the line to what I want that's what I would ask myself all right Hillary thanks and by the way Hillary wrote Helen Hunt is an actress actually no oh Helen look Kaley look Kelly hunt is a PhD okay so that's who wrote that book all right this person I don't know how to pronounce her name why men these days prefer light relationship than sincere because it's because they can get it okay started this broadcast with with a divorce attorney who gave reasons for men not to remarry okay because of the cost of marriage okay yeah there's a consequence think about it there is a consequence for choosing someone there is a financial consequence so you better choose someone you that's a really aligned to who you are what you want you're on the same page all these things this is why by the way I'm not so against the idea of two people living together right when they meet for for 60 days to play house together and then see if it works out now I say this a little tongue in cheek because you're meeting total strangers I know you can't do that but think of the value because we really don't know a person until we live with them so it used to be if you want to get laid you had to get married there was a because there was a consequence for choosing the wrong person so do a better job of betting early on to determine if you're on the same page coming back to the Indian matchmakers these are parents that pay for the matchmaker the children agree and they know the score but today it's so easy to hook up situationships casual relationship and that's why this is happening ladies all band together and say no we won't let you get away with this anymore just like the title of this video all right Kim can Kim King says a question I recently woke up with a boyfriend three years after finding he was texting all sorts of women he regret what he did I'm not buying it he blames it on PTSD from childhood well he can blame it on that and it could be that could be the that could be the reason I think today because we are a lot of people aren't actually spending three or four days and nights a week together with people where you can actually watch their behavior in real time I think that's the real challenge most days people are in situationships they're in casual relationships and I think this is why one of the reasons why things like that occur I'm sorry it happened to you doesn't matter what he blamed it on it's good that you ended a relationship with someone who didn't value you we join says self love yes this resonates with me thank you self love the optimum choice thank you so much Christina says question what if you're dating and there's no sex involved how long should I wait for him I feel as though he struggles with balancing his new business and prioritizing well wait till there's a commitment and you've established your standards on what commitment is for you that's what I would do read the book eight dates question is it that horrible to be in love with your best friends with benefits if you both don't know exactly what you want yet no it's not horrible the hard part is when one person decides to move on the other person oftentimes is feeling hurt you become by the way there's another consequence a lot of you ladies don't take into consideration when you have sex you become attached to that person you become emotionally attached this is why I think it's really important to be very selective on who you have sex with because there's a consequence of getting attached and then there's a pain associated with it when it tip when it typically ends men don't feel this pain as significant as women women tend to bond through oxytocin so I would be I would be very careful in this type of dynamic but that's my recommendation for you Rachel thank you so much for your question hey we've got someone from Greece thank you for saying hello roller girl says yes Jonathan thank you thank you Jonathan good thoughts thank you Catherine says I agree that with that real commitment of having your best interest as his priority are absolutely essential to partnership exactly Maria asks question do you recommend EDM are if someone is good at self love but cannot let go of a physical attraction an unavailable man married so I haven't done EMDR so I'm not intimately as familiar with it however this is a therapy technique I forget now what it stands for a Google what does EDM are stand for just forgot what it was I movement desensitization of reprocessing and reprocessing EMDR therapy okay so from what I understand there's some real benefits to using it I certainly would try it there's nothing I don't think it hurts to trying it as a way to heal from a past relationship folks okay it does anyone here have Netflix raise your hand or you don't have to raise your hand if you have Netflix can someone write this in the chat box it's there's a series called black mirror and in season four there's an episode called hang the DJ hang the DJ okay Netflix black mirror season for hang the DJ can someone write that in the chat box okay this is a great illustration of why everything happens for a reason and why all your past relationships experiences are designed to help prepare you for your significant relationship like that I before I met my beloved Marie I feel like I had what felt like a thousand dates in my lifetime I don't know if that's the actual number but it certainly feels that way okay and every person I met along the way was a stepping stone to help prepare me for this relationship so Kings King just wrote down black mirror season for hang the DJ again this is Netflix so thank you so much watch it and then let me know what you guys think okay Rachel says Jonathan this is such a great session we love you well I'm happy thank you so much I'm going to go further than I usually do today if we have any more questions Paige says love hang the DJ my favorite it is my favorite episode on black mirror without a doubt plus the other one with Bryce Howard Bryce Dallas Howard about likes on social media Bella says I'm reading eight dates thank you for the advice thank you so much for your time Maria says okay if you have a question right the word question and post the question there after hey can someone purchase a super sticker super chat I'd like to give some money to some really good organizations like the Hoffman process so I'd really appreciate a question by purchasing a super sticker super chat so listen I talked earlier about how porn desensitizes men you know I am not I mean I've barely done porn in the last 10 years I think or at least a lot yeah last 10 years personally because it desensitized me in you know prior to meeting a relationship and I was in a relationship that began 2011 that lasted till 2017 so I didn't use porn but I think porn desensitizes men and I think it's one of the reasons why men avoid commitments and not that you can do anything about this but recognize that these days especially younger men that are addicted to porn is because they don't have a significant physical relationship in their life we need to have significant physical relationships because that what's the point part of life is being I mean I think the part of life isn't just building a life with someone it's also enjoying the fruits and the pleasures of life who here loves sex raise your hand but I'm not a big fan of porn because it desensitizes men and I think it's cause a lot of men to avoid commitment so having these radical honesty questions having this real deeper conversation sooner rather than later makes a big difference okay so really quickly a cool you jumped on my question I didn't see it but thank you so much let me find we've got another question here by the way I sometimes do rant so I go off on rabbit holes and squirrels and such question hi he does go a wall for a few days and comes and goes however when whenever what boundary could I put on on him please I'm assuming you two are having regular sex together the boundary is you don't get sex until you've proven for the next 30 days that you're consistent otherwise I don't want to be in a relationship I'm not going to give you my body if you're not going to be consistent folks I'm sorry to use sex as a wielding tool but at some point you may the one if again if he wants companionship connection and sex at his back and call you're not in a really committed relationship if you're not if you're not consistent with your communication with your partner that's okay I didn't get into this earlier but the other problem that many of you haven't established is good communication in the early states of dating I want to recommend two books right now the books I hear you by Michael Sorenson and nonviolent communication by Marshall Rosenberg it's time to have deeper conversations so you avoid being in situations like this that's an unacceptable behavior to because listen you haven't really most likely you haven't established real trust and commitment because trust as he cares about your feelings I would never do that to my partner not check in with her on a regular basis because it's an important part of our relationship it's something we established as an important part of our relationship so anyway I hope that I hope I've helped you stand in your power a little bit more than rather than allowing this kind of behavior so thank you so much for this question I want to thank Ocean Hugh for the $9.99 super sticker thank you so much thank you so much for that I really appreciate it love to donate Jeanne writes how and when may I ask a man to read eight dates with me do it before the penis goes inside the vagina or at least read chapter one but with for yourself to know what trust and commitment is folks if a guy likes you then really right from the get-go have by the way you can do a lot of this on the telephone before you meet is really established what it is you're looking for and find out if they're on the same page and if you can simply say when the dating process listen it's important to me to know that you really want what I want and there's a book that helps us get there would you be open to reading some of the chapters in the book together to see if we're on the same page if he's like I just want to have a good time let's have a good time I'm not looking for anything serious I just want to have a good time that's why we're in a hookup culture today because everybody's just having a good time Jeanne thank you so much for your question I really appreciate it question do guys actually love beaches what is a characteristic or one oh beaches do guys okay if I think you mean bitch there's a book called why men love bitches bitch stands for babe in total control of herself yes okay now I don't love everything in this book I don't agree with everything but what I will say is this this is a great empowerment book to not put up with shit from men don't let man get away with this okay thanks for your question I really appreciate it thank you for the $4.99 super sticker Kim says yes same thoughts about porn here I agree how to set a boundary with guy in guy language I'm cutting off the vagina until you actually talk to me that's guy language being direct I'm cutting off my vagina until we actually have a serious conversation about commitment and when he runs away listen most of you if you're not familiar with my dating Val okay where is my dating Val I'm going to read this I'll post this this is in some of my older description some from some of my videos about a month ago you can find this the dating Val get him to commit before sleeping together the dating Val is simply an agreement to people make together so you both recite this to one another I agree to explore the process to getting to know you with the intent to declare something serious in the next three to six months you both agree to this you both agree to be monogamous sexually while you're having regular sex together you agree to not actively meet and date others while you're in the process of dating which includes taking down your dating profiles your exclusive you agree to speak up if this isn't working versus pulling back ghosting or disappearing and you agree to invest regular time in this process of getting to know you which includes three or four days a night a week together doing shared activities hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends traveling together teamwork building skills both in your personal and professional life intimacy both physical emotional intimacy that leads to either moving in together or getting married now 90% of men will bail on this because there are thousands of women who will have sex with them without any commitment or agreement whatsoever if all women band together and put on that chastity belt you have a greater chance of having success so since you keep until that actually happens folks you set the standard before you become physically intimate with a man but Jonathan we men are liberated and we can have sex whenever we want you can women are the gatekeepers of sex you can have sex whenever you want men don't have to commit unless there's someone do they want to commit to so why is it that they get sex without the commitment what's that that phrase why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free you can have sex whenever you want but there's a consequence for having sex with someone who isn't willing to commit to you is this sinking in is this resonating please let me know folks I scream at the top of my lungs to draw attention to what I believe the biggest problem in relationships today is it so easy to hook up have situations ships have casual relationships because there's no consequence because you haven't established the consequence by the way Johnny Depp had a consequence look what happened to him he should have done a better job vetting her we men need to vet you as well anyway alright let's keep swimming I think it's because it's too easy to swipe left or right that's one of the problems is this these devices it's too easy roller girl says I need to read that book again way to go Linda says Jonathan you crack me up I love your videos thank you I'm going a lot longer than I usually do right now Saturday I'm having fun question what are your thoughts on the effects of porn on the male brain I just shared that I believe porn has desensitized men to women and I did share that a little bit earlier so thank you where can I access the valve the dating now go back to my videos scroll I think they're in the description I changed probably just three weeks to a month ago go to any video that's older than three weeks a month ago go to the description of the video click that more button in the description and in there if you scroll through it is the dating vows also there is a way to schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with the coaches right for you there's my group called midlife love mastery there's all the books I recommend in the description as well so that's where you can find it the dating vows Priya says yes agree women should ban Karen says this is very informative you're right question how do men vet women you determine look at one of the things that Marie and I did was we did a three-day deep dive into our past relationships and what made them fail or I don't want to use the word fail what made them ends and in that we're both slightly still traumatized from it but we we did we laid our cards on the table by being radically honest with one another okay we laid our cards on the table so coming back to your question I did it because I didn't want to because there's a consequence to me if I choose and marry the wrong woman just like there's a consequence for you to having sex with a guy who doesn't want to go the distance there's consequences mostly emotional consequences and by the way dating okay the issue facing most everyone is I'm not good enough I'm not lovable and I'm not likable and dating triggers that like nobody's business so doing a better job vetting someone is critically important for both genders so thank you so much thank you and much appreciated your advice thank you so much do men prefer younger female body yeah we do it's just a reality of life now unless you're rich a free body or wait yeah what was it younger female body excuse me only rich guys can get that because women are willing you know younger women are willing to trade um they for security purposes to be with someone more financially successful but do we prefer yeah you ladies do you like look at you like the dad body do you like Brad Pitt you're the same way shit if I was a woman if I had to listen I've got a little bit of a gut I wished I had Brad Pitt abs that men and women both are attracted to the younger physical physique so that's just it's true yes it's true uh charity says thanks thanks a lot for your encouragement please how do I get this book why do men love bitches okay when this video ends charity click on this video again go to the description of the video I list there's a recommend Jonathan recommends books listed there okay Rachel says thank you you help us so much you're very welcome Jennifer says very helpful advice swipe dating has become mentally exhausting I'm only on two dating apps bumble in the league and super intentional embedding I tell myself I love you every day thank you so much I'm so happy to hear that you know what I think this would be a great place to wrap up today my sweetheart is out of town I want to give her a call I told her I'd call her right after this video um okay I got to come back and answer another question I'm just having too much fun today question is dating younger for a younger wait is dating younger for a woman a bad idea will it mess up with masculine and feminine polarity first up masculine foam feminine polarity is a crock of shit okay listen you don't need to have one leader in the relationship you need to have two grown-ups in a relationship to emotional grown-ups to emotional grown-ups that love sex together to emotional grown-ups that want commitment together again emotional grown-ups emotional grown-ups emotional grown-ups doesn't matter their age my son is more emotionally grown-up then 80% of men over 50 years old who are single right now my son who is there's a picture of him 26 years old he's more emotionally grown-up than probably a significant percentage of men that are double his age okay grown-ups doesn't matter the age has nothing to do with masculine feminine energy now if a guy okay what's an emotional grown-up hey let's look at this if a person has childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that makes them rather weak in their life they're not emotionally grown-up they haven't healed from that if a woman has has unresolved childhood wounds and traumas or unresolved like they've got daddy issues and whatnot you know they're women with daddy issues usually choose older men okay because they're reliving the amago piece okay they're not emotionally grown-up so it has nothing to do with Matt so long as two people like each other one have sex together and they have commitment to one another and they're emotional grown-ups the polarity is irrelevant because they're already grown-ups has nothing to do with masculine feminine polarity in my opinion merely my opinion I'm sure there's a lot of yogis out there that will tell you masculine feminine polarity in the bedroom matters look at men initiate sex most of the time anyway in the bedroom but that's masculine right and a woman receives an agreeable most of the time well actually women are less agreeable in the bedroom because this whole yogi kind of man has to be so in his divine masculine to persuader to have sex no you need two agreeable people to have sex together you may not be in the mood but the month's limited to get started it's great I'm just not so hung up on how it gets there you just have to get there Elena says it's not about being a leader it's about working together towards a common goal exactly exactly alright you're not okay wait a minute what is what if a woman initiates sex with a man sweetheart I'd love it that you I would love it if you initiated more often she's probably mad at me for throwing under the bus I initiate most of the time and we're okay with that but if she does I'm happy to men like it when you initiate she's not actually though she's an amazing lover so I don't I don't want to throw her under the bus she's an amazing lover and I'm grateful for her alright alright I think this is the time I'm going to wrap up today folks if you found that listen I want to say something men avoid commitment because it's easy to avoid commitment okay don't let them get away with it don't let them get away with not being intentional because you're not intentional be more intentional be hard ball do it use radical honesty remember to vet remember to screen remember to filter because without it you might find yourself in that pool of dysfunctional or men with clinical issues which are most the men out there and your job is to weed out the wrong guy to attract the right guy is this sinking in is this resonating please let me know alright question says this is a brilliant session thank you so much I really appreciate it alright I'm going to wrap up this video as I always do first off give myself a big gigantic Jonathan Barrett of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and you give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to actually to turn to someone a pet to Teddy Barrett pillow hugs are great source of love let's face it we could all use more love in our lives I want to thank Catherine who just gave me big hugs to you Jonathan awesome video great recommendations and reminders Jackie says I love you and your girl together you compliment each other so awesomely thank you we join says yes brilliant thank you so much men don't like honesty women don't like honesty either a lot of humans are delusional but that's for another conversation I want to thank Jennifer and we join and Jackie and Catherine and Angel and Sitto and Ocean Hugh and Jeanne and Elena and Jennifer and Kaylee Stacy Roller girl question mark and charity thank you so much wishing you all a super duper wonderful fantastic weekend be well take care bye now