 we are going to get the show going right away and the first thing I want to say is just don't get scammed if anybody reaches out to you it's not me so please don't think it is and we're gonna let that go and we're going to move right on okay I will be taking callers all night long if you would like to call in and ask a question or connect with a loved one on the other side the call in number is 845-277-9131 and or yeah 845-277-9131 or you can watch live via YouTube I go live twice a week every week every Monday at noon and Wednesday at 7 p.m. both of those times are central times the messages I'm giving if they're not for somebody listening right now it might be for somebody who's listening to the show later on use your own discernment okay if this is not your situation do not own it you're gonna know if this these messages are for you so first we're gonna do messages and then I'm gonna go to songs and then I'm gonna go to names the first message I am getting is don't take him back and they're even doing a parody I think it's called a parody of a song so that song up don't let him go take it easy take it slow instead they're singing don't take him back I can't I can't and don't take him back tell don't take him back tell him to go and pack you deserve a better love and something else I don't want to go on with it but because I can't get the beat of the song but there's somebody out there or maybe more than one somebody who I feel like obviously something just happened or happened a while ago this person wants to come back and they're saying just say no now everybody's situation is different but if you've been or if this person has just come back and you're wondering did he change no no the only thing he changes is his underwear that's that's not me I'm sorry that's not me that's and I didn't even finish that comment the only thing he changes is his underwear in between interludes okay okay that is not me I don't know this person okay I don't I don't know this person but clearly I think it's a man so if you if a man has recently come back or is going to come back don't take him back they're saying a lot about this person and I'm just gonna leave that there there's another message coming through if you are a person who has been wanting to go horseback riding just go don't wait for anyone just go go get on your horse and ride Sally ride okay I know that's a song but yes whoever it is that has been wanting to go horse back riding just find a place and go it's just that's a don't wait for other people go and then somebody and then also there's a message that for someone you're going to be getting a job offer okay it's a little complicated there was a company maybe that you interviewed with in November and that didn't go through for whatever reason but it was in your best interest because this company or another company is going to come through with a better offer for you so you couldn't get that offer because it wasn't high enough for you it wasn't good enough for you so whether it's this company or another company they're coming through with a better offer for you a better position or title or job for you okay okay now I'm going to go to songs and the first song that I am hearing nope they want me to go to names I'm sorry folks I'm not the boss of me I am not they want me to go to names the first name name I'm hearing is Joe or Giuseppe and there could be a Joe and completely separately Giuseppe the next name I'm hearing is Susan the next name I'm hearing is Marie and then Mary Ann the next and somebody up there has hella humor because they said and don't forget ginger and the reason I'm laughing is because there are people who don't even know that reference because they're younger and they've never watched Gilligan's Island okay if you're not laughing go watch the show you will be that's what passed for entertainment back in the day okay okay the next the next name I'm hearing is it's Maligro with an M Maligro or I don't know how to pronounce it but if it's something like that the next name I'm hearing is Nico the next name I'm hearing is Jennifer the next name I'm hearing is just mean the next name I'm hearing is Paul the next name I'm hearing is Willie the next name I had to stop and just double check on that and they said yep Willie the next name I'm hearing is Winifred the next name I'm hearing is Darcy the next name I'm hearing is JJ the next name I'm hearing is Jerome and the next name I'm hearing is I'm only taking two or three more you guys because there you guys there's a line there is serious a line around the block here the next name I'm hearing is Beth and I almost went back to Winifred Beth and the next name I'm hearing is oh no no no Nicole Nikki Nicole the next name I'm hearing is that's that I'm done with names I'm done with the names okay you guys if you want to bring your names through on the show we can the next the next thing we're gonna do is songs and the first song I want I'm hearing is if you want a rad something a white pony or the white horse I know whoever that's for you're gonna know as soon as I said if you want a ride I can't do the obviously the voice and I thought they were gonna sing the song my pony jump on it no it's that white not the not the Katy Perry white horse it's a guy with a deep voice if you want to ride and ride the white horse or something like that that song somebody is coming through and saying they're really really sorry and then I'm hearing the song white lines crystal clear illusions running through my mind so I think that song and the I'm sorry have something to do with each other clearly the next song that I'm hearing is okay they're okay okay I'm gonna do this and you just somebody's coming through and they are they I feel like however they went to the other side was it was a little bit of to I have to be careful of what I say because I've already been flagged so they did too much they did too much and if this is for you you're gonna know who that is but they're really sorry they didn't mean to it wasn't intentional okay on that I'm just gonna cut all that out and I'm gonna go to callers and questions because even though this is good there are people waiting eight four five two seven seven nine one three one you can call in and ask a question connect with somebody you love on the other side if you are watching live on YouTube like all the people that do I love you guys so much thank you for being here you guys I like 15 20 minutes before the show we're go we're already talking we're already answering questions so you if you ever you can hop on YouTube before the show and join the conversations with us hey Patrick house California oh Patrick had a bad day on the golf course yesterday it's his heart okay mmm Patrick you probably need to go see a doctor you probably need to you need to get it checked out and a little bit sooner than like don't put it off off like yeah you really do Patrick you need to go I'm hearing sooner than later I don't want to freak you out but I think you should call I think you should probably get it checked out they're saying ASAP don't don't don't don't effort don't ever round and find out Patrick that's what I'm hearing get it checked out okay please get it checked out please get it checked out okay okay okay okay Patrick I'm happy I read that message right away because that I think is really important so thank you Patrick Godspeed be careful okay my friend don't take it's not worth the risk it's better to be safe than sorry okay keep me posted on that one Patrick I have so many questions coming in please put your questions in if you're a person that donates to my channel like Grandma Kitty I don't care what your question is I'm taking it first because you donate it's that's just that's how it works I will get to everybody else as soon as I can I love Gilligan too okay so I'm going to go what's that song well that song is coming through that just happened okay grandma kitty I'm trying to read what you wrote and then I'm gonna go to the first caller okay I'm gonna go to the first caller who is two zero three two zero three what's your name and where you're calling from okay if I get all the way through my swallowing of my beverage we know we move on to the next one nine two zero what's your name and where you're calling from hey don how can I help you I'm good love I'm good how can I help you love pretty lonely and I guess you know holidays contributes to that okay dawn the first thing the first thing I hear for you meeting someone I hear yes no yes no I think there's the potential to meet someone but I don't know that you're ready yet is part of what I'm hearing it's okay the second thing I'm hearing that if you do want to meet someone you may need to get up and get out not only of your home but of your area I feel like the person you meet there's the potential to meet someone in your area however okay I do okay let me let me I'm gonna say a few things here dawn and it's gonna I'm kind of saying them backwards maybe love so what I'm getting that once you get up and out of your area like maybe you travel you take a trip you take a little vacay it's gonna change your energy and when you change your energy then you're gonna meet somebody who's in better alignment so if I can say this another way you could go out there and meet somebody now but it might not be somebody with the best energy right yeah so what we want to do is we want to get in our best energy our best place we want to kind of you know if you've ever I'm you know I don't think it's an insult to compare us to dogs because I think dogs are just amazing but so you know how what a dog like well bump its head and then it just shakes it off us going out to a dance or to go on a vacation is like us shaking it off like a dog well okay and then we have new fresh energy so you really need to travel dawn I see the potential for a cruise coming in I also see the potential and I feel these are coming in between gent like obviously you might not be taking the cruise in January but the opportunity to start planning it is going to be coming in between January and March I want it might be as far as June between January and March you could be planning this now if you don't literally take a full-on cruise okay I feel like you're gonna be someplace and be out on the water on a boat during that or planning it during that time I do feel like you need to get away and I'm hearing that song I well it doesn't matter I'm not gonna sing it I'm just gonna say they're not letting it go that's on Rosanna oh yeah something I want to okay that song okay so now they can stop singing it I said it leave me alone you guys don't get this if I don't say it they won't stop so hmm I decided it's a deal we made I keep my end you need to get you need to get get out of the area and get get into new and some fresh fresh different scenery area everything whether you take a cruise or not maybe you plan the cruise for in September or sometime next year but you need to travel this winter you need to get out be about out of out of Wisconsin this like between I'm gonna say they are saying December and March you need to just go plan something travel with someone or travel to someone and then after that things will start to fall into place okay my love okay and you have anything to do you turn off yes of course um and okay so one of the things I'm getting when you ask that he's sending someone who does not to him only but other people they're sending someone who does like to travel and part of the reason being is because you need to you know you only live once and you're at a point where you can so do it and you're the you're more on the fence like if you had somebody saying come on let's go do this you would do it that's your personality type you're a goer you're a go along not a planner and you need somebody who is the motivator because you'll go you'll say yeah okay I'm going let's go but you're not always the one to plan it because that was squashed too many times in the past I'm getting so now you don't even try to plan call Pete call you know what I feel like if somebody over the past year offered let's travel here let's travel there hit them up and say you know what I wasn't ready then I'm ready now let's plan something and on just go do it just go do it okay you need to be have your life when you want to meet someone you need to have your life in a good happy place and you need to know that you can be good on your own so that you're not dependent on somebody else to bring that to you you can go with your friends and you can do this and you can do that and then if somebody comes in it's a beautiful accent not the whole thing okay love you are so welcome my beautiful friend and I hope all is going well for you it's go it's thank you very much Tony you are welcome Don happy holidays Merry Christmas my love honey you're welcome okay I'm gonna go to the first question on tickety no it's not tick-tock what am I thinking oh my goodness maybe something is tick-tocking away okay oh my gosh Susan says she has a brother Willie alive I think I feel my dad Bill might have a message for me or let me see I'm ready have to move it up or down to be able to read it or whoever thank you okay um okay Susan your Susan is grandma kitty Susan your okay I'm waiting for them to finish the sentence and they won't finish it they're waiting for me to start saying it they're going to finish it as I'm saying so I truly don't know what's about to come out Susan you're in a place now where you can call your shots and do what you want so go and do them don't wait don't stop don't hesitate get out and go you're gonna have a lot of fun in the spring time and then they're singing that song do you remember okay and and for anybody who thinks I'm pulling songs I don't know I mean I've heard them but I and then they're singing the part that that main verse go listen to that song there's a message in that song for you Susan okay and then if I if I can okay you have there's a relative okay Susan there's a relative on the other side that passed either right before you came in or when you were very young and they've been watching you ever since they've been on the other side they help you with your imagination call on this call on this relative to help you with your imagination and to push your storylines and your punchlines even further allow them to take you down a road that you've not seen before allow them to walk you through the very dark forest until there is light sometimes I think I get a little bit more excited for the messages than the people do but we can't tell because like she's not on the line with me so we can't tell okay it's time for you to start your next one don't sit on the morals I don't know what that means that's I think that's a statement of sitting on you know you've done this much so far and you're just waiting get on the next one it's time for you to start the next one and the next one is supposed to expand your boundaries it's supposed to open you I can't say this next part with a straight face Susan so please forgive my little booty your next one is supposed to open you up like a flower I'm telling myself to get it together but myself won't listen to me it's going to open you up like a flower and allow all that you've been repressing that you thought well maybe I should do this but no it's that's a little too far it's going to allow all that to spill out onto the pages and create something from a place that you thought you would never go to you know what that means Susan I may not I'm gonna say it again when I channel I don't remember what the open you like a flower part I'm going to just take my take myself to my next caller Susan I hope you enjoyed that no seriously seriously even though I dance even though I danced at oh my gosh I was gonna say even though I danced at open you it's laughed at even though I laughed at open you like a flower because well that's just me that go back I want you to listen to that again because that's really good your next one is going to dive deeper into you to pull more out of you and when they say into you I think your imagination you're gonna freaking let loose okay nine four nine five four nine five four what's your name and where are you calling from I have a birthday coming up on Friday and it's been a very tumultuous time I just wonder if you have any messages from my loved ones about anything coming up for me my birthday year oh absolutely first and foremost happy birthday Mary can you please give me a name of a loved one so that I can start with one person at least I can get into the right group or person I'm going to bring in a long time friend that passed on this date last year her name is Sylvia oh Sylvia okay oh she is just so dear okay so okay so let me get into this Sylvia wants to tell you this year coming up is going to have a couple of trials and tribulations but for the most part it's going to be good we don't have to be great as long as we can skate through the year on good we're going to be good there will be one maybe two trials and tribulations they're going to be small and you're going to overcome them quickly as long as you use logic and you don't go into fear the next thing she wants to say is you're going to have just a little a little extra um cha-ching or money coming in um don't go when you first get this little bit of money don't go crazy thinking it's going to be a regular thing it's not it's going to be just it's going to be a little it's not going to be like uh you know whatever when you get it use it wisely or save it for a rainy day is what I'm hearing the other thing is um I don't I don't understand the message I don't know why but Sylvia is showing me a dog Sylvia is showing me a dog do you have a dog here or up there or did Sylvia have a dog here or up there I have a big concern over someone else's dog right now that's missing I don't think that's it this dog is white with brown or tan not brown tan spots on it not spots well it's white I had a photo that disappeared a white photo and then my mother had a a gray dog okay I don't I don't know okay here's what I'm going to say here's what I'm going to say for you whatever it is maybe this is her dog and she wants you to know that all the dogs go to heaven whatever it is whatever this dog why ever this dog is showing up um no it's safe no it's with loved ones it's it's with loved ones and then the other thing that the other time yes I believe yeah I said yes right away so I'm gonna say yes and then the next thing I'm going to say is um um don't she is saying she is saying not me her um don't let the little things take you under don't let the little things like overcome you okay and everything's and and everything's a little thing okay love that's great did she say feel anything regarding my health right now which is troublesome okay so I'm going to tell you this I and this is for you and anybody else listening um I can't talk about health on YouTube but if you would like to talk about health I offer private sessions and the health readings are very very good but the actual the warning and the show they took down I talked about health and so they're very YouTube is being very particular about what we say about health so what I can say is that might be one of the trials or tribulations but you're going to overcome it very quickly and what I will say to you is if you would like more on that you can get a private session t-o-n-i-g dot i-n-f-o and I'll be happy to help you with that but um if you guys want me to stay on YouTube no political no health we can talk about any other smack jack stuff none of that so thank you so much Mary for calling in I'm really grateful and I wish you a very very merry Christmas a very merry Christmas um I'm going to go back to the beginning of the questions and in the beginning mish was it Michelle who was it somebody was asking me a question um and I said I thought I was going to finish answering oh yeah um Michelle wants to know do you see me moving out of state okay Michelle what I'm getting for you my love is that you are going to move now if you want to move December or January it's going to end up costing you a lot more if you wait until June it will cost you less now I don't know if that's because of the cost to move things if that's because of the places that will be available or where you're end up staying or the money you'll lose transitioning I don't know what it is but I do feel like you are going to go back to Colorado I feel like you're going to love it as soon as you get there I feel like it's going to be a really powerful move for you if you feel in your heart you need to go sooner you can it's I don't see that if you go sooner it's a bad thing I don't see that if you go sooner it will be you know any harm or danger I just feel like it will be um it will what the the exact the exact statement is the exact statement is it will cost you more so maybe the movers maybe whatever that means for your situation and you'll know if and when you try to do it that's what I'm having for you my love um I feel like if that costs more financially or in another way I'm not really sure and I apologize about that but that that is the statement I'm getting and they're they're saying that you might know what that means um as far as that that goes okay um hey Karen how are you Laura welcome to the show um I am going to go to the next caller who is 111 111 111 no 111 no no 111 there might be something going on with the call log two so I'm going to go to the next caller 646 what's your name where are you calling from hello hello hello how you're doing good what's your name where are you from uh from New York Esther Esther how can I help you today my love it's my love life oh my god as I closed my eyes and took the breath and they said talk about her love life I wish I just would say it I just sometimes wish but you know what even if you need to talk about your love life you might think your work is more important so I'm happy you said love life okay give me a direct question about your love life and I hear the song ain't nothing but a boo thing baby okay go ahead I still got a little feeling for my ex but I don't know if I want to okay no I'm so sorry please finish your question oh I still got a feeling for my ex but he's been around a little bit I don't know this might be the right thing I'm not sure okay here's what I'm going to say after my show go back and listen to the beginning of my show but as soon as you say your ex I get this feeling in my throat it's a very puke feeling and that means toxicity this could mean a number of different things certain aspects of your relationship with your ex could be really toxic or unhealthy he could be toxic he could have some habits that are unhealthy now listen two people can be two really good people on their own and they come together and for some reason they trigger each other they're toxic with each other it's just not the healthiest partnership right it and these two people on their own are very healthy very intelligent very good people but once they come together it's like what I'm hearing for you Esther and please pay attention to all the words they're saying step away from the button so what what they're saying is no but they're trying to make it funny what I'm hearing for you is if you it completely x this out if you completely say no I deserve better than this it didn't work out for a reason and those reasons still exist neither one of us you know he probably didn't change you probably still want the same whatever it is then with I hear in January and I see the 28th you have the potential to meet somebody brand new in alignment with who you are and the type of relationship you want okay it is perfectly okay it is so so normal to still have feelings for our ex we are not robots okay we're not robots we're going to have feelings for our ex we're going to be nostalgia because we are positive people and we always go for the happy memories and we don't always remember the icky ish stuff so when we're in that nostalgic moment and the holidays bring up all that nostalgia and because we are alone we might think well maybe no because all the ish will come with the nostalgia now you're not a robot you're going to have some feelings that are still good about this person and what I'm hearing is one one one of the things that I've watched people do or helped people do in my office when they are having a little bit of difficulty letting go of someone is I say get some post-it papers or regular papers and just write down some of the things they did or some of the habits they had that were just unacceptable that you would never let them do this to your daughter your mother or somebody that your son somebody that you loved if somebody did this to somebody you loved you would you would you'd want to you'd want to pull up and show up I'm just saying you'd want to pull up and show up and be like I don't I don't know how to throw but you better you better know how to I don't know I'm just saying you'd get very passionate about it and what I'm hearing is write that down and post it up and those feelings will be gone with a quickness they will be done they will be over it will remind your brain because our brain takes the sad icky things away to protect us so that we don't live in misery but sometimes we have to remember some of the icky things so we can protect ourselves from not reliving the icky things does that make sense yeah and I'm just gonna say this I'm gonna say something that's a little bit adult here he just wants to get his winky wet all right now I'm gonna say it won't be worth the price you pay for the ride it will not be worth the price you pay for the ride okay and we are all adults but just in case somebody else is listening I want to say that in a way that's not so blatant for sensitive ears so don't go there it's not worth it if you can just hold out in January and I see it being aft in January there's the potential for somebody brand new to come in somebody you've never met before somebody you do not know yet you are going to meet them through a friend of a friend they have a good reputation and they are the type of person that wants a relationship now here's what I'm gonna say to my men my women yes there are people that want to be with you but what do they want do they want to be in a full on relationship that is building or do they just want to get together and have some fun have some drinks and get their winky wet I am not down for number two I'm not I'm no so choose wisely because if you start playing with this boy it will you will probably not have this new person come in because this boy will still be playing with you leading you on letting you think all through February and into March and it's going to take you a hot minute to get back to we know this is not what I want and then you're going to have to go through the recovery process again okay my love yes thank you appreciate that you are welcome you are welcome and thank you so much for calling in I hope you have a merry Christmas and a happy holidays thank you you too to you your family oh my goodness thank you so much thank you thank you okay um I see that one one one called back in I'm gonna do a question on youtube and then I'm gonna go to one one one Laura I love that message it's so true yes thank you and I don't know what that was for but Laura I I do agree these messages you guys I would love to take um credit for some of the stuff that comes through but I truly am channeling and it does come through me for a lot of this hey pine lakes how are you oh my goodness you guys pine lakes I'm sorry I don't remember your first name send me a picture of his baby girl yeah wow it yeah wow beautiful beautiful um uh okay so Karen wants to know anything from spirit regarding my son's job he's 47 um Karen can you give me some context with that can you tell me give me some context what do you want to know about his job okay love that will help me a little little bit um before you I'm scrolling down I'm going to have to scroll all the way back up again um it's good do you want to know is is there going to be layoffs is it going to quit is it going to be able to keep it is he moving up what do you want to know right now I'm not getting a lot of energy on that Karen what I'm getting is it's good that's it um I do feel like this I can tell you Karen I do feel like he should be looking for something else and not necessarily because we don't only look for a job because we got fired or we think we're going to get fired or any anything about that sometimes we need to look because we're just content or even if we're happy at our job or it's good it's okay um sometimes we need to look because there's just something better right um there's a company that will pay us more give us more right around the corner that we need to go to companies will pay new people coming in more than the people who have been there five years make it make sense make it make sense right it doesn't it it doesn't okay um okay yeah they have been laying off people okay um he should be looking for another job that is the message I got before you said that and that is what I'm getting right now still he should be looking for another job and even if they don't lay him off he might find some things that's surprisingly better for him and he might really like it until does he do he's 47 he probably is not going to want to hear this does he do anything with electrical contracting because if he doesn't he should look into how he can get into electrical contracting be a an electrical contractor or electrical that's just what I'm hearing sweepy electrical electrical contractor and those jobs that career the money there is freaking freaking crazy it's crazy especially if you're going into businesses um yeah he should look just in case he can see what else is out there plus he should look at if that doesn't make sense the electrical contractor doesn't make sense for him it could make sense for somebody else listening if you're thinking about a job move or where you can go or what you that's coming in strong for somebody if it's not your son okay I'm going to go to one one one one one one one what's your name okay there's background noise can you turn that off whatever it is it's gonna stop in 10 seconds okay there you go um sorry let's get off the train my question is okay um I think maybe she's the owner um you know um what to do with this I know if you wanted to buy a little office okay um I'm so sorry but you are so breaking up could you please if I'm on speakerphone could you take me off of speakerphone and um okay thank you thank you for the volume okay so my my answer is uh and my question is that where I'm renting right now a little office week the the owner um well you know he's still going to work with me uh well my rent I should be cushed up okay watching me in my office like so okay thank you so there's two questions here I'm going to try to I want to make sure I have them correctly so I'm going to restate what you're stating number one you want to know if your landlord is going to work with you for your rent in your office correct okay and the second question is you feel like somebody is watching you in your office so like they have cameras in your office and they're watching you uh then then then inside but from outside okay thank you maybe let me just let me expect a lady okay so the first one is your landlord is there is her landlord going to work with her help her um I think here's what I'm going to say to you and I'm going to give you the answer and then I'm going to tell you why okay love I feel like your landlord is not going to work with you and the reason is because maybe you need to be in a different place that is a safer place and a better place for you if you feel like somebody is watching you whether it's inside or outside of your office you may need to uh be in a completely different location to get rid of this person that might be watching you and that may be like sometimes when we're not willing to let something go or move on and it's not safe for us financially or physically the universe will step in and say well I'm I'm going to push your butt off the cliff if you won't walk off it and it's not a cliff it's just a curve but it feels like a cliff so I feel like the universe is stepping in to help you get out of a situation where things are not in alignment for you energetically and otherwise so you can get into a place that is possibly so much better for you on so many other ways so what I would say is start looking for another space now and you will be happy that you did it okay my love okay I'm I'm really really sorry I'm having just I'm really sorry so I know that you waited almost I I I did answer both of your questions and I understand that you have more that you want to say and here's what I'm going to say for you and everybody listening I typically answer one question or connect you with one loved one and sometimes I'll go and give a little bit extra and I don't mind doing that but this connection between you and I with the phone is a little sketchy and I'm having a little bit of difficulty understanding you if you would like the book a private session and where I there's maybe not as much interference in the phone I would love to hear the whole story and then give you any other information that I get but as of right now the answer is start looking for another place for your own safety I don't think I can be I don't like to be that blunt and that clear but I'm going to be just start looking for another place and part of the reason maybe that your landlord is not going to work so well with you is because you need to get out of this place again maybe for your own safety maybe for a different reason I don't know okay you guys I go live every Monday at noon and every Wednesday at um every Wednesday at uh 7 p.m. and then I do pop-up shows sometimes I have a guest sometimes I don't well I do have a I don't know the only way you know is if you uh hit the buttons that will let you know okay Laura wants to know um obviously Laura may have asked a question prior to this uh the question is I'm also wondering if you pick up anything in the romance department 100 believe my family on the other side had the message don't take him back you are correct you are 100 correct what I'm going to say to you for for you and anybody else if a guy if a partner is coming back just like make sure the work's been done what has changed if nothing's changed you're just going to repeat the whole cycle all over again you're going to go through that whole lesson and here's the thing we meet somebody we catch feelings we fall in love we do whatever we do we go through the whole thing and then we realize this isn't going well maybe there's some whatever causes there's a separation and then you know for whatever reason if they come back unless we've done work and and they've done work we can do all the work we want if they haven't done the work they're just going to drag us down again we're going to be right there again the goal is to to move to the next level and get in that area of somebody brand new that can offer you what you're actually looking for somebody who did not give you what you want in the past is not coming back to give it to you they're coming back to to to repeat the past okay um let's just go to romance is somebody new coming in for her in March now just because it's in February March don't think that oh you can fool around until that comes in no no no just keep working on yourself get stronger learn to be resilient on your own and when this person comes in be the beautiful powerhouse that you are and learn to keep your independence even in a situation now if somebody wants to take you out go have a coffee a cocktail a dinner whatever it is between now and then do it as a learning experience do it to to practice dating do it to get comfortable with saying no to men or partners whatever it is use it for that experience even if you know this person isn't coming in until that point get out there and have experiences um in uh in um in dating and talking and understanding what to look for and what red flags are it's easier to see them in somebody we're not really interested in than it is in somebody we are you know something that i have i have realized is when when we're younger and i'm super duper guilty of this when we are younger especially as women but even some men when people are disrespectful to us or criticize us or make a joke we'll laugh it off with them at this point in my life if somebody is disrespectful i just i just i'm just done i am because that's a core issue with them and if they do it jokingly well first of all it's probably not so much a joke but second if they do it jokingly they'll continue and nobody deserves that nobody in this world deserves that so um yes okay you guys i love you so much i really do uh rosella i like your name rosella rose girl um rosella i do a 60 minute show i wish you would have been on the show earlier uh paris in december and putting uh 60 seconds okay the quick answer is uh i can't answer this quickly it's kind of a long question i tried to scan through it i couldn't um rosella i'll be back monday at noon for sure or next wednesday at seven p.m please come back and ask the question again uh save that question and i will promise come in early and i i'll make sure i get it everybody thank you so much if i don't get to uh connect with you before the before whatever holiday you celebrate um happy holidays merry christmas um hopefully i'll see you before new years i'm thinking of doing a christmas eve and a christmas day show let me know what you think of that um and you guys uh remember make some miracles for yourself if you create miracles for yourself i will automatically go to other people and that's what we are supposed to do