 Okay, welcome back We've been the last hour we've been looking at attitudes temperament and behavior so we unpacked that a little bit understood what attitudes are temperament and Behavior we looked at how negative attitudes affect us personally also how it affects us interpersonally we looked at how The scripture talks about a walking like Christ did Growing into Christ likeness and so we looked at scripture to help us see some of those Christ-like attitudes Similarly, we looked at temperaments and how we need to be controlled by the spirit so that the fruit of the spirit Is what is manifested in our lives and What is characterized by? by a temperament that is Filled with the power of the Holy Spirit and lastly we looked at behavior How we can align ourselves to what the word brings about how we can have our behavior aligned to the instructions In the word that the standard for our behavior is the word and it is the love of God that actually shows us The love of God is shown through our obedience in what is said in his word and thus we we Move and transform into that now The next next part we are just going to be focusing on this part of it the transformation How do we transform ourselves into this being Christ-like? Being Having a temperament that's controlled by the spirit and the behavior that's aligned to the word of God. So, how do we make that transition? Apologies, sorry Yeah, okay, how do we make that transition from from that which is you know Very carnal into that which is spirit controlled is what we're going to look look at okay? And that and this will be found in page 59 and in the In the book it's at page 57. Okay, so What we do see and from from what we've we've discussed this far is that God calls us to have a change or a Different attitude that that is that shows the attitude of Christ a different Temperament as well as a different behavior and that's what God has called us called us to be in so Remember that all of us are at the same place. We begin at the same place So, you know, it's not as if some are better than the other. We are all Sinful, okay, and are all of this the way that we think the way that we act the way that we perceive is all Mard by sin, it is that there is a lot of flaw in the way that we Where that these things are there? So because of the experiences that happen to us we could be hurt We could be carrying these Negative attitudes or emotions inside and then our thinking gets distorted our thinking Is is very different from what is expected of us as according to the word to the to the word Okay, and because of this negative thinking we get It becomes very cyclical We are bound to wrong patterns of behaviors, right? Or we get into behaviors that would be That could be deceptive or even we may get into behaviors that are addicted So we need to recognize and understand and have insight that What what is going on within us when it is compared to the standard that God has kept for us in scripture Okay, and we want to bring four truths through this through this which all of us can can begin to To appropriate in our life so that that transformation can take place now out of these four truths Two of it the first two is already completed. It's already done for us. God has already done this Because of the work of Jesus, okay And he calls us to live out of that work out of in in by by believing and just living out of it The other two is something that we need to do daily. It's something that is progressively that we do So let's uh, we'll take that time to understand these four and the more that we You know believe about these truths and walk in it and Do what it says we will begin to see that transformation that personal transformation From inside out from right from our attitudes from things that we hold on the way that we experience life the way that we Live out our behavior will begin to change. Okay. So, um, I hope all of y'all are with me Everyone's with me Okay, all right. Good. Thank you. All right, so let's look at uh, each of it So the first one is the power of the cross Okay, the power of the cross So remember the first two what the truths that we are going to look at is Something that's already done for us. Okay, so We know what Jesus did for us on the cross. Okay when Jesus died for us on the cross He bought about yes forgiveness of our sin Okay, forgiveness from sin But with that he also gave us freedom from the power of sin from the dominion of sin and um, he also bought about healing Not just for our souls For our spirit, but also for our soul and our body So the the um power that sin had over us Because of what jesus did on the cross for us that power of sin has been broken And so that means we no longer Are bound to sin. We are no longer slaves to sin. Okay. We'll just read two verses and um, We'll take that from there. So Isaiah 53 verses 4 to 5 it reads and i'm reading from the book But he endured the suffering that should have been ours The pain that we should have borne all the while we thought that his suffering was punishment sent by god But because of our sins he was wounded Beaten because of the evil we did We are healed by the punishment. He suffered made whole by the blows he received So because of all that jesus Took on the cross endured for us on the cross Whatever was supposed to be given to us He has taken away and this is a truth that we need to walk and we need to appropriate him The the work on the cross has been done once and for all It's done once and for all And we all are aware of it Now we know that there is no more power Or hold That any work of sin has in our lives. It doesn't have a hold over our lives We are no longer Doing what sin wants us to do because we have we have overcome Sin and we have overcome the power of sin Because of what jesus did for us on the cross because he defeated Um the work of the enemy defeated the power of sin for us. Okay, so let's read We we read isaiya 53 4 to 5. Let's just look at roman 6 Verses 6 and 14 verse 6 and we know that our old being Has been put to death with christ on his cross In order that the power of the sinful self might be destroyed So that we should no longer be slaves of sin So the power Of our sinful self has been destroyed so that we do not have to be slaves of sin Sin must not be a master for you do not live under law But under grace. Okay, so what do we see here is that Because of what jesus has done He has already Granted complete wholeness to each one of us this Also includes every kind of hurt or pain or abuse or wounds that we would have Carried carried Emotionally because of our experiences or Situations so right now we see ourselves healed and whole Through the cross of jesus christ because he broke the power of sin because he put to death Put to death the power of sin that the he destroyed the power of sin so What does that mean that means that there none of the sin behavior Or a sin lifestyle has a power over us or has control over us. So whenever You know we begin to to think or or or see that a certain pattern or a certain habit is coming over us We appropriate what god's done and we see ourselves as free Because of the power of cross so everything that jesus did for us provided for us Is something that we need to appropriate we claim that We claim that as his provision for us and we walk in the freedom Of it. Okay, and So what have when we're looking at the power of the cross we also see that the cross also is When we look at the cross we see forgiveness We see the way that he forgave us So the cross again for us again becomes a place where we need to extend our forgiveness Maybe to those who have wronged us in different areas of life Okay, and as a result of why we may be in the place that we are in nevertheless When we look at the cross where we have dominion over the power of sin We also look at the cross for a place where forgiveness was extended to us And so we extend that same forgiveness to those who have wronged us Because we have been forgiven by him We have been given grace And you will remember you will remember the parable of the merciful servant, right? the unmerciful servant where he where he Is forgiven for his debt by the master but goes and finds another one of his friends and demands That that he pay back and when he doesn't puts in Does not show him any mercy does not show him any grace and puts it into a place of punishment, right? And so we so from what he did receive he was not able to appropriate that same That same grace to someone else So when we look at the cross we know that we have been forgiven And we appropriate that and forgive others who may have wronged us and give the grace that they That that god has shown unto us. Okay, not because they may deserve it Not because we can give it But because we walk in the full fulfillment of what christ has done for us Okay, so that is what we see in the first one the power of the cross something that's already done So even how do we apply this? So let's say Maybe certain attitudes or certain Certain certain Behavioral patterns that we see that are that are sinful Maybe every time that we feel upset or we we feel angry We cope in a very in through an addictive measure through an addictive behavior, right? Maybe some form of addiction And we sit back to think of what of how christ is taken away All of that which is Which has uh, which has binded us Which has bound us right all that which which has bound us and we see that how christ has taken it taken it away Which means it he has lost the power of that addiction over our lives. He's broken those chains He's lost lose the power Which means it doesn't have the power to hold us anymore. Which means we walk in freedom So to appropriate this truth and live in the freedom from the power of sin Uh, uh over us. Okay, so that's the that's the first one the second comes here our identity in christ What is our identity in christ now? Once we are born again Okay, we we know that we have come into a union with the lord jesus christ and that's a spiritual Union so we are in christ and We are in him by the power of the holy spirit so when We believe in christ when we when we give our lives to him We become the old passes away And the new comes to current wins 5 17 the old is gone and the new has come so as new Whenever something is new everything has changed everything about us change. We don't Work the same old way All right, like think about um The example that I can think or think about is let's say, you know some Electrical equipment that you have that's not working properly Right, but then you're given a brand new motor Right, maybe the equipment has been given a brand new motor or Whatever a motherboard whatever it has it's been given a brand new one and it the old is no more there Even though the cover of that equipment or whatever appliance you're using may be the same The inside has been changed so the old is gone and the new has come which means our identity Or our nature who we are Is has also changed And it is the identity we take up is not the identity of sin and the identity of darkness and the identity of um You know of of of whatever That's that's held us back. But our identity is In Christ so we are empowered. We are blessed And we begin to appropriate the truth that who we are in Christ is who we we really are So once we have um come to that place of appropriating what God's done for us We need to live out of that identity. We need to live out Of that resource in Christ. So um a common example that that's you know often used When we talk about identities think of a of a Maybe a child Who who was living in the slums or living, you know in a very impoverished Society impoverished place and there is someone who comes A person who has wealth takes him adopts him and brings him to his home A big palace lots of food good clothes big rooms lots of toys lots of opportunities to learn so many things right and uh the only way that this child this adopted child can Can begin to enjoy What the rich man has is by actually making a choice to To identify himself As a person of that household Right that they begin to you know, take away the old clothes and identify by putting on something new Not going and eating scraps for ensuring that we sit on the table with the kind of spread that's there or um Not not moving back into maybe a lifestyle that he's lived but enjoying the lifestyle So that's that's something that they they take, you know, so although all of that is made available This child needs to live out of that new identity live out of the resources that are there in that home So similarly when we have been bought back bought when we have been bought with that price of the blood of Jesus of the body Um of Jesus through his crucifixion We live out of whatever he has bought back for us and when we do that what happens The way we see ourselves are the way we uh the confidence we may have the our our self esteem all will change That perspective of who we are changes. We don't look at ourselves as impoverished poor Sinful, but we looked we look at ourselves as bought by the blood of the land We look look at ourselves as healed as redeemed as victorious as triumphant as As channels of his blessing right so our perspective of us changes And through that our perspective of other people changes because we begin to see people in the way that God sees them So our perspective of us changes the way that we look at others changes the way Our own attitudes and our perspectives about life and whatever happens around us changes Our our understanding about the enemy about his forces of Darkness all of that changes and we see everything Through the light of what Christ has done through that Okay, so looking at this when we walk and if we are able to live out of these truths that that the the cross has been Powerful and it has helped to break every Every Power of sin over our lives and that we do not have to live through that sinful life And when we know about this our identity who we are in Christ We will begin to live as strong people. We will begin to live as people under Under the power of the Holy Spirit. Okay, we will soon begin Transforming all the things that we think about and that will Percolate into the way that we live into our behavior. So we will be transformed in our In our daily living as well. Okay. Now the next, okay Is are there any questions here before we move into the next two and any questions? Okay, the class has been very quiet today. I don't have heard even one voice Other than scripture reading Okay. All right. Thank you Rin All right So let's look at the third and the fourth one the third and the fourth one is like we said is ongoing It's something that we need to keep doing the third one We are going to look at is the renewing of our minds the renewing of our minds is Renewing is to to and to make new which is to Alter or change the way that we are thinking and the way that we are seeing things. Okay, so when we renew our minds With the word of God, we are Replacing those sinful negative thoughts attitudes ideas with What God says in his word? Okay, so when we renew our mind, we are replacing everything or all that we think of which is which is Negative or which is sinful and taking on The a truth of God's word Or that we our minds are renewed we will begin to see our lifestyle undergoes that change. Okay, the more that like for example the more that um Maybe someone who you're thinking of who you are probably very angry or upset about the more that You know, you begin to see them In the way that God sees them The more you will find that your behavior to them also changes Right. So I'm thinking once our minds are renewed it will definitely move into Um Transformation about the way that we live out. Okay, so so for our minds if I if we want our minds to be renewed The way it needs to be done is to to constantly Meditate on God's word Constantly meditate on God's word and keep our thinking aligned with the word of God Okay, so here what we are doing is every time let's say anger about that person comes up we are choosing to think In a way that aligns to God's word. Okay, so maybe it's initially it's just a place of forgiveness God bring bring my heart to forgive this person Right. So we're choosing to do as for what God's word God's word says, okay, or let's say there are circumstances that happen or situations that happen that are um Very contrary to what we see Uh in God's word, but we begin to perceive that From the perspective of God's word. Okay, so every time something happens We say all things work together for good to them that love the Lord Right. We speak peace into into the into that situation So this continues to be an ongoing process This is something that all of us need to do at every time possible because it's only when we have Um a change of mind a renewed mind can we have a lifestyle that is transformed that is changed So a renewing of our mind takes place by meditating on God's word by constantly learning and and Ensuring that we live accordance To his word. So we challenge ourselves. Maybe there is a deceit in our in our minds and and God's word says, you know, love There may be mistrust in our mind God says to let go and be still and know that he is gone There may be anger in our minds. God says forgive There may be sadness in our minds. God says be joyful and rejoice because he is your strength So the more that we keep our minds renewed, you know, constantly We will begin to see the transformation even in our lifestyle The fourth one is walking in the spirit. Okay now Uh, not just renewing our minds, but also We are called to walk in the spirit. Now. What does that mean? Walking in the spirit means we submit To the Holy Spirit. We yield ourselves To the Holy Spirit, which means that we are being very A keen to hear His voice to hear where he is guiding us Okay, we are also at the same time learning to understand What is it that pleases the Holy Spirit? and Excuse me And what is it that grieves the Holy Spirit? Okay, we we are coming to a place where we submit and allow him To take over everything Of us to take over The our thoughts our deeds our words and allow him to work in our lives. Okay, so When we are walking in the spirit We are yielding ourselves to the Holy Spirit so that he works through us He his his will his desire is manifested through us His guidance his leading happens through us Okay, so when we begin to walk in the spirit, what are we doing? We are also Building someone else up spiritually. Okay We are we are in that place of of Commuting with God, okay We are continuously in that place where we where we speak to God where we are communing with him and then we we begin to walk in that place of obedience and humility towards him, okay So when we when we do walk in the spirit, what are we not doing? We are not walking in the flesh Okay, when we walk in the spirit both of this cannot Reside together so when we walk in the spirit we Galatians 5 16 says when you walk in the spirit, you are not fulfilling the lust of the flesh Okay, so what is the last lust of the flesh or the desires of our body? It's that fighting or quarrelling getting angry having hatred Maybe abusing saying things that are that are not right All of that is classified under the words of the flesh. So when the Holy Spirit Uh, when we walk in the Holy Spirit, we are we put What we're doing is we're putting an end to everything that comes out as a result of the flesh So when we walk in the spirit, we are also putting an end to the work of the of the flesh the lust Of the flesh and instead Because when you're walking in the spirit the more the fruit of the spirit becomes expressed in our lives, okay, so Uh, when we look at, uh, uh, how do we have transformed? Lives it is through two things where we where we have a completed work of christ The power of the power of the cross our identity in christ and two things that continue happening is to be able to walk in the spirit And to renew our minds by the meditating of god's word Okay, so in in the time that we relate to our spouse, okay, we we Relate to them keeping in mind or maintaining These christ-like attitudes the spirit control temperament and this behavior when we are relating to them Because uh, we do see also the way that christ um The the relationship of christ to the church was in in a way that um, that that is that which we need to model Okay, that we need to relate to our spouse the way that christ has related to us in forgiveness in patience in endurance in love in um in respect All all of that that we learned the last last week about the roles of a husband, okay So, uh, it's important to come again to a recognition of Of where we are and what is it that we need to change so that um our thoughts are Are understand perceptions our behaviors the way that we Communicate are aligned to what god wants and so by doing that we are in a better place to understand Uh, what how your the spouse is thinking or how they are perceiving or how they're acting or how they are responding, okay So, um, I've come to the end of that of this section If there are any thoughts any opinion any any observations any questions It's a good time to check now. We have around 15 minutes for you to be able to do that Or anything that you feel you've learned that's been helpful for you Also, you know, you could share that Anybody it's a very silent class today Okay, so maybe I I I have a question for you, okay and um Would like to see How you know what what you feel or what what you can What you think or what how how we could respond now, um um suppose Um Suppose, you know as as a married couple You know, you you may be witnessing or you may have a spouse who's probably in a place of Complain, right that they are Uh, or you may see a negative attitude or a behavior or a response um That that is not christlike. Okay, how would you? um How would you respond to a person or to a spouse who's Uh, who's probably keeping one of these negative attitudes or there is a negative attitude or behavior that they are Uh, manifesting How would you like to Help them or how would you like to talk to them? What would you what would you do? Okay, now this is a question. Okay, so I'd like you to think about it and What how can you what could you do? Hello students Okay, now I'm I'd be forced to call out people's name Okay, so antony says you would keep praying about it. Okay That's a that's a good thing to do Uh rin says I can be tolerant and encourage and help to see the many things That we can be grateful for. Okay All right good Anything else So we can actually come up with 14 answers because there are 14 of us here on the call And we've got just two out of 14. Um, may I speak? Is it okay? Sure. Go ahead. Yes. Yes. I said we can uh, probably bring it to the attention of the spouse that so and so such a thing is there and That's strictly speaking. It should be that I mean I mean they Would also need to be but the question is if there is something right? Uh, the question is once again The question is in case you observe A negative attitude or a negative behavior in your spouse that that they may not be aware that that it is one Or you know, it's affecting them. What would you do? Yeah, so one is to yeah to very to to bring it to the notice of the spouse That this is what's been happening or it would be good if you're able to deal with it or handle with it at the same time Also keep praying. I mean it may not it's possible that it will just not change So quickly or you know, it will just not happen Just overnight like that. But then uh, we in the meanwhile can Continue, I mean the the other person who's bringing it to the attention, whichever it could be either way, right? So, um Could continue to keep praying And uh, hoping that you know, the spirit god will really work on that particular attitude and change it But then the uh, the it's it's important that the other person Continues to display all the characters. I mean, which what what we were just learning But that's about constantly renewing your mind or working the spirit so that the other person is encouraged to make those required changes Wonderful. Thank you. Thank you. I think there's there are other people who've written Uh, Anand says I sit and speak and pray for her Rin says make sure that it does not become an issue by helping him adapt Nina says Nina Santosh says bring it before the lord and if they're open for corrections talk to him with love Uh, yeah, I think uh, jacking said choosing not to react immediately but respond in kindness and humility Keeping on loving and forgiving The spouse seek god's help and wait for god to speak to him. Okay, wonderful, right? So In our in a marriage where two people are growing together Um, it's it's good to get into a practice of where you hold each other accountable You know, when you're be when you are on the journey of being christlike Um, it's it's always good to have someone Observe and and give you certain feedback. You know, it really helps Uh, in you know in any walk of life and whatever we're doing When someone is observing us is far better than when we Evaluate and assess ourselves. So it's a good thing. Especially it's ideal For a couple who are willing to grow together. So being holding each other accountable Is a good thing. Now sometimes we know that that's that probably doesn't always happen, but When we're bringing correction or when we are pinpointing something, I think a good principle is always To first and foremost share What you see is christlike in them You know always pinpoint what you've seen as christlike in them that you know, they may be selfless They may be loving. They may be kind. They may be generous whatever and there may be so many things That you can pinpoint and say, you know, this is what I see and also then to lovingly gently Not being judgmental bringing up The point of issue To them and placing it there And doing it with with that understanding that You know, like like for example, maybe, you know, the same example I had given you earlier, maybe, you know of the money And two people maybe the person who is no frugal who is more You know tight-fisted may have had a bad relationship with money because of whatever reason So saying that with an understanding that you know, I I do see your idea sense Where this may be coming from that it may be difficult For you because this is what you've seen never the least You know, I was wondering how we could work on this together or you know The way that the bible tells us to be generous or to be To to look into the needs of others whatever right to to be able to do it in a way where You're not letting the other person feel that there's a fault finding and you're doing some kind of moral policing over their lives But actually engaging with them to work together on that and And of course, yes to continue praying to continue to declare that over them And especially if you if you do find the spouse doesn't take it well It may be good to To step back and keep keep praying and bring it up Maybe not every day not every time but you know once in a while when The incident has probably blown out of proportion. So being accountable to one another really helps Finding the positives or finding the things that's actually aligned to the word of god that really helps And bringing this is a feedback where you're doing it lovingly gently without without judgment and with understanding of that background and Helping in saying that we could work this together and also continuously pray. Okay. Excellent. Wonderful. That's good all right, any any thoughts anything that Any if you'll have a question if so we could respond Uh to that question any any question any thoughts any learnings Okay, okay. I suppose not then so um Okay, it'll be good if we I ask you the question. Okay um Yeah, but do y'all have any questions in the sense of a doubt or things like that um Okay, I don't think so all right, um Yeah, I think you know, we've covered that when I when I asked you that question It would mean in all three areas the attitudes the personality and the The uh behavior, so I was just thinking um, you know, especially When you may see a behavior that's negative All right, um And I think we've seen this many times in marriage. So I'm just bringing about a question here Let's say you observe a certain behavior of your spouse that is quite negative and um, maybe Let's say they use bad language Okay in their anger Or in their frustration, they use bad language. They're a believer um Uh, but when when they're really angry or agitated some bad words fly out Okay, and as a spouse you've done the gentle talking the loving talking Uh, you've done all of that Uh, and then at some point of time you decide, okay, it's time to Get somebody else involved Okay, I'd involve somebody else to speak to my spouse And often I have seen this involving someone else would be Without the knowledge of the of the of the other spouse. It's not in the knowledge And they'll call and say, you know, this is what my husband and my wife does. Please. Can you correct? And if it is uh, if it isn't a mindful Minister, you know the next time they see they'll say, you know, your wife called and told me this That's not the way. Okay. So that's a scenario. What are your thoughts? um about that I've asked you a question now What are your thoughts? How should we go about something like this? Like you're saying you've done all of this, you know You've done the talking the gentleness All of that and you're getting frustrated then you decide I'm going to call Maybe a minister of god or a man of god or a woman of god to correct My my spouse without the permission or without the spouse knowing What do you what do you sense of that approach? Okay I'm awaiting some answers or some thoughts Rin, do you have a thought? It's not to put you on the spot, Rin But anybody anybody else What if it did not go as intended? Yeah, so it did not go as intended, which means Let's say the the spouse got very upset Okay, so I think someone said Shimkama says that attitude worsens the situation Okay We should pray more fervently for our spouse if not approach someone without the knowing of our spouse. Okay All right any other thoughts okay, so Often, you know, I I think we need wisdom when we're doing this is that Maybe the person that we are enlisting for support May not even be a person that our spouse relates well with Right if it is The if they don't relate well with then suddenly Someone comes in like like for example, you know, you see someone in church and you know And suddenly their spouse calls you and say please correct this person because this this this right remember that a lot of um correction rebuking Encouragement comes on the basis of a relationship It comes from a relationship And any if you're just if someone just admonishes someone You know that that may that may that may cause significant problems back in the marriage Right, so to do things with wisdom one is maybe First discussing with the spouse of how a certain behavior or a certain attitude Seems to be extremely negative and would like that it be worked on Making suggestions Would you like to get help or speak to somebody about it? That would probably be the next step and also And and so if then there is an agreement Allowing that person the spouse to reach out to someone on their own accord so that they can get that help Okay, so yeah, Nina. You're right. We you can't change anybody that easily without their own will So doing things on the slide behind their backs can often cause a lot more of Damage Then what you what you may intend to do? Okay, so it is with wisdom that you deal with the situation like this Okay, that's good All right Okay, if there aren't any questions, we'll close today's session Is there someone who can please close with a word of prayer? Can I ask one of the students? To pray students at the bible college all of you who gathered there any one of you Would you all please close with the word of prayer? Can someone please pray? From the bible college students Okay, anybody else If not for the students anyone else, please Yeah, go ahead. Anand go ahead or whoever is there on that call go ahead Oh, Jesus. Thank you for this day. Thank you for this time for this class We have I know we are so grateful that we get to learn so things especially those who are not married yet and that thank you Jesus that you're helping us to transform ourselves to change ourselves and to live a lifestyle as pleasing to you and thank you God Jesus that That we that we had this opportunity to learn and to grow in a word and we thank you for this Your name for amen Thank you. Thanks friend. Thank you all so much. God bless you. We'll need to get next week. Thank you. Bye. Bye