 This is the only type of relationship that will work for narcissists. Narcissists have no inner sense of value. They are empty shells. They have no sense of self. They have no unique identity. They don't know who they truly are or what they stand for because at some point in their childhood they experienced trauma and it made them fear the world. It made them feel like everyone is out to get them. It made them feel like they cannot trust anyone which is why they may seem very paranoid and hyper-vigilant. They're always scanning the environment for potential threats because at some point in their lives something happened to them. Someone got one over on them and they don't want that to happen to them again. They want to beat you to the punch. They want to get you before you get them. They're constantly in survival mode. It's like they're drowning in the middle of the ocean and they're doing whatever they can to stay afloat, to stay out of difficulty. They will hold on to you for dear life as if their life depends on it but then they will take everything you have for themselves because otherwise they won't survive. This is just how narcissists operate and it's never going to change. If you try to help them you will get sucked in and end up drowning because it's like a black hole. It's a dark empty space that consumes your resources continually where your money and items disappear without a trace. You end up drowning with them because none of it ever comes back to you but everything has to revolve around them. They have to be the center of attention at all times so you're constantly having to give more and more to them and all they're doing is taking until you're exhausted, until you feel like the life has been sucked out of you but there's nothing you can tell them because they're very temperamental, they're very sensitive to criticism, they're easily offended and upset so you're constantly walking on eggshells, you're being extremely cautious about your words and actions, you're being very careful not to offend or upset them because they get angry and offended very easily but it's always a double standard with the narcissist. They can say and do whatever they want but if you get upset about it then something is wrong with you. Everything is one-sided as though you are unimportant and not worthy of their consideration. They have to be the boss, they have to be in charge, they have to make all of the decisions, they can disappear whenever they like but you always have to be available for them or they will harass you with endless texts and phone calls. They have to have boundaryless access to everything you're doing but you don't have that with them, they hide everything from you because they don't want you to know who they really are, they hate it when you get more attention than them, they see it as though you're stealing their spotlight, you're taking it away from them and it will make them very angry, they will insult you and put you down, they will try to make you feel small because they're very jealous and in their minds everyone is meant to make them feel special, you're meant to give them excessive admiration and praise, you're meant to compliment them and make them feel like a priority because they have to feel like they're in charge, they have to feel like they're always right. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is not fun, it's not good for you, it's not going to build you up, it's going to break you down, it's going to make you miserable and they don't care about how you feel, your feelings do not matter to the narcissist, you do not matter, they despise your authenticity, they see you as an extension of them so it's only a matter of time until you begin to feel like a shell of who you used to be because they suck the lifer of you, they drain you of all of your time, energy, money and resources until you lose everything that made you who you are, you're no longer the person that you used to be, you no longer do the things that you used to do because you haven't got the time, energy or money to do that anymore, you're a shell of who you used to be and it is a devastating experience but it's the only type of relationship that works for narcissists because they are the only one that matters, their needs have to be the priority, it has to be all about them. Thank you for watching, I hope this video is new with you, please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description, coaching inquiries, you can email me at coaching at Narxify about the Co-UK. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.