 السلام علیکم my brothers and sisters i want to dedicate this live session to those who don't have children and they are trying to have children from a long long time may Allah make it easy for you may he bless you with the coolness of your eyes today i actually want to reach out to those who don't have children because what they go through very few people appreciate many people alhamdulillah they get married and a little while later the wife is expecting and mashallah they're excited bundle of joy before you know it mashallah they have children some decide to delay it slightly which is not wrong actually if you'd like to hold on and not have children until the marriage has settled there is nothing wrong with that that reasoning is fine it's fair in fact nowadays a lot of people actually recommend that you don't have children as soon as you actually get married you need to settle down a little bit because a lot of young kids are actually suffering and struggling with parents who are divorced so it's better that you settle down a little bit and then you have your children so it's not a financial reason but rather it is a reason that is something else so you are allowed to do that but we're talking about those whom when they would like to have children and unfortunately they're unable to have these children because the almighty has not chosen it for them now we need to understand we get closer to Allah سبحانہ وطعالہ we definitely do pray for the sake of Allah سبحانہ وطعالہ and to Allah سبحانہ وطعالہ we will keep trying and don't stress about it when it's right it will happen when we stress we actually make matters worse i remember speaking to a few specialists who told me that you know when people stress it actually makes things worse so let's try not to stress but the onlooker and that is you and i who perhaps may be having children when we ask people also when are you having children do you know how dangerous that question is that question is like you're just piercing a knife straight through the hearts and chests of some people at times especially when they're trying to have children for many years and you make like it is in their hands to give children and if they could they would answer you saying you know it's not in our hands or whatever they might even answer you in a little bit of a harsh tone but let's be sensitive don't pry into the people's lives and say when are you having children come on guys you know when you don't know the situation they may not be able to conceive and we ask Allah to ease the difficulty of those people and over and above that we ask Allah to bless them with offspring so every time for example they realize that we haven't conceived it's actually painful it's actually very painful sometimes it goes to the level of a slight depression but my sisters don't allow that to happen to you don't allow yourself to get to the point of depression because the almighty knows why he has delayed it and he also knows why if he chose not to give children to you why he is not going to give those children to you so sometimes he gives only boys and sometimes he gives only girls and sometimes he gives boys and girls meaning male and female children and sometimes he gives neither male nor female that is the almighty he knows what is best always ask the almighty to grant you what you wish but understand that whatever he ultimately gives you was the best for you there are people who've had children exactly as they wanted and those children were a means of their sadness at some stage either due to drugs due to crimes due to them dying very brutally in some way at a young age or in front of their parents and so on when the almighty knows you won't be able to handle all of that he doesn't give them to you in the first place so just be helpful be thankful to Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ if you want to study the options you may do so so fertility treatment is permissible on condition that it is done as a last resort and on top of that you do have the IVF and so on which has conditions within اسلام it needs to be number one last resort number two is between the husband and wife strictly no third party involved so if the sperm count is low for example if there is something wrong with the conceiving you can actually have that artificial fertilization of that particular of the couples you know the eggs in the sperm but you cannot bring in a third party in islam you cannot bring in a third party no matter who that third party is so even the growth of that particular baby has to be or the embryo the fetus has to be within the womb of the mother it cannot be with a third party in islam i mean others are doing this but i'm talking of the islamic rulings so we need to be very careful how we address this matter but you may try fertility and whatever else and at a certain point you will realize that if Allah has نہ منتید to be it won't so don't become too depressed you might want to study the option of taking care of orphans you know people call it adoption but it's not absolute adoption it is partial adoption in the sense that we're bringing someone they would know that we're their foster parents so to speak foster parents which means we're looking after them and they would know that we love them equally and we're going to provide for them as best as we can seeing that they were often or perhaps from a wart on place or something of that nature and it would be also in you know good to go to an orphanage and take care of children and come back home or make regular trips or reach out to children across the globe in whatever way you want and perhaps sometimes have a moment to go out and you know spend time with children who are under privileged and so on so there is a lot that you could do sometimes the almighty has chosen you for something else for something higher than what you thought you would have so some people dedicate their lives thereafter to a certain cause some people are able to use that energy the the resources given to them by the almighty in a way that would actually you know be more beneficial to everyone so in this particular case we need to realize that not only should we be sensitive when we address people who don't have children but even those who don't have children let's not become too saddened by the you know what is going on because at the end of the day part of your iman is to believe in good and bad fate being from the almighty so قدر which is fate you know the destiny it actually comes from Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ and we as مؤمنین as believers should surrender to that and be happy with the decree of the almighty and this is this is an extremely important point regarding ایمان regarding the faith that we have so سبحان اللہ i'm sitting here in منروویہ لیبیریا and i'm addressing this issue because of so many people who have raised it with me سبحان اللہ and my brothers and sisters it's important for us to know that when Allah has not given us one thing a lot of the times he gives us other things and if Allah were to give us that perhaps we may not have had everything else that we do have so always thank Allah for what he has given you what he has bestowed upon you let's pray for those who don't have children that Allah bless them with children those who do have children and their children are actually you know engaged in something that might not be the best of things may Allah make it easy for us to take care of our children to be a guide to them it's not easy to look after children nowadays it's very very challenging you know the schools we send our children to what can happen and cannot happen only Allah knows many get into bad habits because of the company they keep many lose their you know their faith sometimes because of the environment they're living in the pressures that they have sometimes we have the issue of materialism that overtakes our own children and as materialism overtakes our own children sometimes we tend you know to turn a blind eye to their habits sometimes they begin to steal they begin to you know do things that are unacceptable they perhaps you know just in order to have the latest handbag the latest phone the latest something so always try and address your children to explain to them that it's not a rat race you know we shouldn't be running behind things the problem is the parents themselves at times run after things without realizing that their children are watching you know mom always wants the latest and the top and the best and dad also always wants the latest and the top and the best and then we tend to neglect the kids and sometimes it's not a good idea to throw things at your children even if you can afford them because who knows later on in life they may be married into a system where they might not be able to live up to that and thereafter it may result in turmoil turbulence or even divorce and we've seen it happening where because you cannot live up to what your father kept you therefore there is stress in the marriage you know so have mercy on your children by letting them earn what they have and by when you provide for them you know discipline them encourage them to look at how other people are living make sure that they earn it somehow whether it's through good deeds or good character or the fulfillment of something that is a duty and an obligation and you have the brownie points that will then result in you getting something once you've collected 10 or 20 depending on your system in your home a lot of us don't even have a system you must be thinking what's this guy talking about but i'm talking about a system that you have for your children to deserve what you are going to give them just so that it can encourage them to be to better themselves in a certain way so my brothers and sisters we're dedicating this session as i said to those who don't have children and i want to dedicate it also to those who've lost their children because when someone loses a child to be honest it is very very difficult for anyone to console them because they are the only ones who know what they fee what they are feeling there. are the only ones who know what they are going through it's not easy think about it you've lost a جنریں گا رہے ہی ہے انہوں گا جانا ہے اور یہ بہت کتی حقیط سے خواہاتہ کو لذہا ہے اور آپ اس جنرین من پر سبر کا حقیط ہے آپوں کے دلوں کو بہت س truths رکھکی ہے جو آپ کے لئے آپ نے حقیط سے بہت بہت ہی ہے اس کے لئے آپ کو حقیطے سے لسا دیا تھا اور آپ کو انہوں کو خواہاتہ اور حقیط میں دایا تھا سالنے میں ہمارے پر زانیہ بھی ملتے ہیں اور لیسا کہ آپ کو ڈاکواتا ہوں ، لیکن جسنا نہیں Zionیان کو صور دےی دینا ، جس کی بہت ہمارے ہمارے ہمائے ، ہمارے علم gekوی ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے حضروں کو سے اہتمیان ISO ڈاکوان کیا ہے ، بڑھو سکتا ہے ، اس لئظ ہمارے کی طرف نمیت کرنا ہے جو tonight ج۔ آپ کو بہتدہ نہیں کس جانتے ہیں اور وہ نے آن گیا جائی ساتھ کو بڑھ whooshingیان انہوں نے لطیق کے یا محصول معلیہﷺ کے اجار کے سامنے یہ appearance ہے لیکن یہاں جب آپ اس میں ایک حفاظ بہت ہے مجھوڈ ایک على سانوں میں بہت أکاہی مجھہ ہے لیکن if you increase your ادھگار اور رمبرندوں عنہ ہماری ایک سارے ساتھ جانہ چند آپ کے سامنے ساتھ بھی نولیت کے حفاظ کے اندوان کا اختفہ ہے کالیتی کا سلاح کے اسی طرح آپ کی اسور مساہ ہے کہ آپ پرینے ساتھ دیتے ہیں لیکن آپ کے سامنے پرینے آپ آپ اللہ سے زیادہ کرو ، آپ اللہ سے زیادہ کرو ، آپ کے ساتھ سے ہی بارے میں باقی کرتا ہے۔ آپ کو سمجھے خوانہ ، اور آپ کا خاہت منجزہ کرتا ہے یہ سب کاثرام سکتا ہے۔ اگر آپ جو سے سیرا اور سیرہ و ہم محمد محمد کے لطیر میں پیس بھی جب將ج will میں ہمینے جانتے ہیں ، یہ سب سife کیانج لطیب کریں گے لیکن آپ کو سیرہ کا پر کام ہو لے اس کے لطیبت کاف رہا ہے۔ اور کہانوں کے بارے میں فائد ہوئی۔ اس کے پر ایک بارے میں کے بارے میں کریں گا اور پر خدیجہ بنت خوالی درضی الله عنہا ہے اور اسے Excuse میں ماریا القبطیہ ایبراہیم کے بارے میں ایبراہیم کو پہلے سکتا ہے تو him ہم ایبراہیم کو دورتا ہے سوسی خود میں ایبراہیم کو دورتا ہے اور وہ مرے بارے میں جب انہوں سے پہلے کتا ہے کہ وہ اللہ کے ایبراہیم سے پر ایبراہیم تھا اس کیا کہ وہ آپ کو مظردی ہی نہیں ہے جب انہوں نے ہیں تو اپنے بنت ہوں ،یہاں اپنی۔ اسی بباwing درنہ میں بہت پر معامل کریں لیستران میں گیا تھا ، جو جہاں کبھی آگا ہے تھا ، آنکل refrigerator جانتا ہے ، ساتھ بھان ہماری بار بات لیکلا ہے۔ ساتھوں میں ہماری بارا ہے ہماری بارا ہماری بارا ہے۔ ہمیں ہی نام سے بات کروں جیسے اور ہمارے قلب کریں جائے گے۔ پاس کے ساتھ بچنا دلنے کی کوئی چیز کی مقلی ہوتے ہیں تا کہ آپ کو کب نوانیت کر سکتے ہیں۔ جب آپ تا کہ آپ کو کب سکتے ہیں تو آپ کو کب کب بچ پر نوانے کی کوئی چیزی ہے۔ بہت ہی کب کب ہی چیز کو کبه بچ ہے۔ لہذا آپ کبانیت کی، ب kahkahaی پاس ہوئے۔ you help you reach out to people who don't have much. You travel to a distant land in order to be with physically. People who are going through lots of hardship, when you come back you realize sushanalah. In fact when you're there you realize Allah has blessed me and like I said, when the Almighty takes one thing away from you, if you bear the correct sabar, he replaces that with so many other things that others don't have that you now have as a result of your saber. 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